FabSwingers.com forum: How important is your title?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate it when I get called Mrs P

Call me Shelley please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think having to have a title is outdated and sexist.

Like, women have to put either Mrs, Miss or Ms. So you can tell if she's married, single or over a certain age.

Men just have Mr.

It need to go IMO.

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

When first contacted, I prefer Mr followed by surname, but when someone gets to know me, Just my first name works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think having to have a title is outdated and sexist.

Like, women have to put either Mrs, Miss or Ms. So you can tell if she's married, single or over a certain age.

Men just have Mr.

It need to go IMO. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that bothered. But I do find it amusing when people/firms try to guess the correct title and get it wrong. When I got my last degree I changed my title to Dr. cos of the novelty, really not that bothered anymore… mostly cos I am much more ambivalent about the job *shrugs*

There used to be off-the-shelf forms on websites back in the 00s that had every conceivable title to select from so, cos I was puerile, I’d pick an elaborate one…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think having to have a title is outdated and sexist.

Like, women have to put either Mrs, Miss or Ms. So you can tell if she's married, single or over a certain age.

Men just have Mr.

It need to go IMO. "

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

It's something I find uncomfortable calling others (strangers) by their first names. Likewise, I prefer to be called Mr X by strangers.

No problem with using proper titles as a mark of respect and formality.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I hate it when I get called Mrs P

I much prefer Mrs P. I was shocked when the bank teller used my first name. Not as shocked though as when my doctor used the word "fanny"

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By *lay 4 uMan
over a year ago

bolton

Really don't like it when a man addressees themselves as Mr. Really bad manners.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate it when I get called Mrs P

Call me Shelley please

Nice to meet you Shelley, you can call me anything you want

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Really don't like it when a man addressees themselves as Mr. Really bad manners. "

I'm curious why you think this. Should a male teacher annouce to the class he is called Steve ?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I don’t mind what salutation they use, however, I do correct them when they call me Mrs A.

The assumption as you have a child that you are married or indeed have their name, even when you sign off with your own name. Even if I had my married my name wouldn’t have changed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate it when I get called Mrs P

Call me Shelley please

Nice to meet you Shelley, you can call me anything you want

Hello Mr Anything you want, lovely to meet you

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

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"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?"

as long as they get my name right I'm happy..but what next to complain about?,the use of Dear? incase someone thinks it's sexual ..maybe just address your letter 'person 'lol

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m not that fussed except when everyone assumes it’s ‘Mrs’ and I’m not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not too bothered, but if you're using Ms/Miss/Mrs I appreciate it if they use the right one.

In work, when sending emails to client I'll always use Dear Mr/Mrs.....

If they sign off using their first name, I'll continue correspondence with that. If I then email them again but a while down the line I'll retort back to Mr/Mrs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind it, usually it’s miss and that’s fine.

I really really dislike MADAME when going into fancy places, it makes me feel like an old (rich) lady. Tho I know they use that for any lady while Sir, for men. Still tho, chill.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

It's actually something I have a massive issue with. I got married. Changed to Mrs X. Changed all the shiz so it said Mrs X.

Got divorced. Paid my money and changed my surname back to my maiden name (we will say A). And paid an extra £4 to change back from Mrs to Miss A. I changed everything back. And the NHS still have me down as Mrs. But Mrs A. And they won't change it no matter that I've got proof of name change. Over 10 years later and it still fucks me off when I'm in hospital or get a letter.

Luckily the docs just call me "Posh" (or my actual name) else I'd be crying every time I went there too.

Sorry. Rant over.

I think it is important to get it right, as it can be something so important to a person's identity. And you've no idea how important or otherwise it is, let alone the reasons, to another person.

Saying that, I'm not fussed about being addressed as Miss A by anyone. I've a name and if it is there in front of you, you can use it. No title needed then.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I don’t mind it, usually it’s miss and that’s fine.

I really really dislike MADAME when going into fancy places, it makes me feel like an old (rich) lady. Tho I know they use that for any lady while Sir, for men. Still tho, chill.

Ha I love being called Madame, I preen and I'm like yeah bitch, you respect my money like that.

I don't mind what title people use in a work capacity. I've a double barrelled surname so I do get clients assuming I'm married.

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

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"I'm not too bothered, but if you're using Ms/Miss/Mrs I appreciate it if they use the right one.

In work, when sending emails to client I'll always use Dear Mr/Mrs.....

If they sign off using their first name, I'll continue correspondence with that. If I then email them again but a while down the line I'll retort back to Mr/Mrs."
rightly or wrongly, I would assume that the way they sign off, is the way they prefer to be addressed.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?"

Hi op. I tend to just use my Christian name. If I have to use a drop down box I generally opt for Miss as I’m more than happy to be single.

I do find it curious that there are three titles for women (Miss, Mrs and Ms) but only one for men.

It’s almost as though we need to be put in the right box and labelled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t mind it, usually it’s miss and that’s fine.

I really really dislike MADAME when going into fancy places, it makes me feel like an old (rich) lady. Tho I know they use that for any lady while Sir, for men. Still tho, chill.

Ha I love being called Madame, I preen and I'm like yeah bitch, you respect my money like that.

I don't mind what title people use in a work capacity. I've a double barrelled surname so I do get clients assuming I'm married. "

Do you? It makes me feel like an old Milanese sciura (please go Google image it

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When generally I still get ID’d for alcohol at the supermarket and all

I prefer Lady/Ladies , yes I am a lady

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I don’t like titles, it makes me feel uncomfortable that generally as a woman you’re declaring your marital status to anyone that you meet and the element of ownership. It’s very outdated.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"I don’t like titles, it makes me feel uncomfortable that generally as a woman you’re declaring your marital status to anyone that you meet and the element of ownership. It’s very outdated. "

Absolutely agree with this - and it follows on from my comment above. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate it when I get called Mrs P

Call me Shelley please

What a lovely name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cringe when people call me 'Sir' I like it when people ask how I want to be addressed. I'm no more important than anyone else, customer or otherwise

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Do you? It makes me feel like an old Milanese sciura (please go Google image it

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When generally I still get ID’d for alcohol at the supermarket and all

I prefer Lady/Ladies , yes I am a lady

I've Googled sciura; inspirational isn't it? That's my new look sorted, got to move on from slutty postgrad at some point.

Lady... but wouldn't that be like woman? Not quite honorific. What about ma'am? You could pretend you're royalty (admittedly older) then.

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

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"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?

Hi op. I tend to just use my Christian name. If I have to use a drop down box I generally opt for Miss as I’m more than happy to be single.

I do find it curious that there are three titles for women (Miss, Mrs and Ms) but only one for men.

It’s almost as though we need to be put in the right box and labelled.

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actually there's two titles for guys,mister and master..unfortunate if you're a single Male with the surname Bates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?

Hi op. I tend to just use my Christian name. If I have to use a drop down box I generally opt for Miss as I’m more than happy to be single.

I do find it curious that there are three titles for women (Miss, Mrs and Ms) but only one for men.

It’s almost as though we need to be put in the right box and labelled.

actually there's two titles for guys,mister and master..unfortunate if you're a single Male with the surname Bates

Mister Bates?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adore being a Mrs.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?

Hi op. I tend to just use my Christian name. If I have to use a drop down box I generally opt for Miss as I’m more than happy to be single.

I do find it curious that there are three titles for women (Miss, Mrs and Ms) but only one for men.

It’s almost as though we need to be put in the right box and labelled.

actually there's two titles for guys,mister and master..unfortunate if you're a single Male with the surname Bates

Only one for adults though, Mr.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you? It makes me feel like an old Milanese sciura (please go Google image it

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When generally I still get ID’d for alcohol at the supermarket and all

I prefer Lady/Ladies , yes I am a lady

I've Googled sciura; inspirational isn't it? That's my new look sorted, got to move on from slutty postgrad at some point.

Lady... but wouldn't that be like woman? Not quite honorific. What about ma'am? You could pretend you're royalty (admittedly older) then.

Haha totally inspirational, also I saw them in Milan walking about in their furs, looking like they own the place

LOVE!!

And I don’t know, I guess, it just makes me think of lady like a young lady from Downton abbey

Ma’am also is kinda old-ish in my mind

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

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"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?

Hi op. I tend to just use my Christian name. If I have to use a drop down box I generally opt for Miss as I’m more than happy to be single.

I do find it curious that there are three titles for women (Miss, Mrs and Ms) but only one for men.

It’s almost as though we need to be put in the right box and labelled.

actually there's two titles for guys,mister and master..unfortunate if you're a single Male with the surname Bates

Only one for adults though, Mr. "
oh I don't know, I've been given a few titles in my adult life, especially here in fab

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

All depends who I'm talking to . But hate being called his Mrs when his friends are talking near me .call me miss makes me feel young and when p calls me woman it makes me smile n a little bit sext... but got to say use my name or call me chez I do like that

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't like the trend of being addressed by my first name by people I don't know.

Do we use first names for Doctors ? Police officers ? Teachers ? Politicians ?

No ...and there is a reason for it.

The trend of children calling adults by their first names annoys me but it's been a long term trend so I guess it's a change for ever.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Do you call your bank manager Dave ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t like titles, it makes me feel uncomfortable that generally as a woman you’re declaring your marital status to anyone that you meet and the element of ownership. It’s very outdated. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not too bothered, but if you're using Ms/Miss/Mrs I appreciate it if they use the right one.

In work, when sending emails to client I'll always use Dear Mr/Mrs.....

If they sign off using their first name, I'll continue correspondence with that. If I then email them again but a while down the line I'll retort back to Mr/Mrs.rightly or wrongly, I would assume that the way they sign off, is the way they prefer to be addressed. "

That's what I meant. If they sign off with say John I'll use John when replying. I can go months without corresponding with them again so in that case I'd go back to Mr in my first email.

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

When I finished my PhD I got everything changed to Dr, because I worked darn hard for it, and also then I dont have the Miss/Mrs issue as its noones business as to my marital status, why should that define me? If I dont have the option of Dr i prefer Ms for that same reason. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you call your bank manager Dave ?"

I call everyone who messages me Dave. When they ask why I say well they didn't bother reading my profile so why should I read theirs.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Usually South, Currently North

I was never particularly bothered by it, but I was really pissed off after I was widowed when quite a few people (who had previously addressed things to Mrs…) switched to Ms without any prompting from me.

It felt very disrespectful. Way more than the people who automatically assumed I’d changed my name when I got married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After the effort of changing my name and title twice, it's annoying when it's printed wrong on things like bank cards, accounts etc otherwise I'd much rather people used my first name.

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?"

I think it is all a bit archaic. If a letter or email arrived and simply has my first name and surname on it, that’s fine, it’s what follows that usually matters to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t give a damn I am not that pompous

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

You can call me Al

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you call your bank manager Dave ?"

No, her name is Clarice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t like titles, it makes me feel uncomfortable that generally as a woman you’re declaring your marital status to anyone that you meet and the element of ownership. It’s very outdated. "
The total opposite to what I feel! I adore bring a Mrs and us sharing the same last name.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't like the trend of being addressed by my first name by people I don't know.

Do we use first names for Doctors ? Police officers ? Teachers ? Politicians ?

No ...and there is a reason for it.

The trend of children calling adults by their first names annoys me but it's been a long term trend so I guess it's a change for ever. "

When we contact our MP he signs his emails with his first name and my GP tells me to call her by her Christian name. It makes me feel faintly uncomfortable, I want my doctor to be formal. When I was having our son a very traditional, older midwife attended me who called me "Mrs Nicecouple dear"throughout, I felt comforted and somehow perceived her to be more competent. I know it's not rational but humans aren't.

Also my brother's children call him by his first name, it grates on me

And while I'm here I just came back from the dentist and she called me but my first name

It's the end of civilisation as we know it I tell you!

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?"

People can be a bit pompous about their titles.

I know a few people who have been knighted, most of them don’t care whether someone uses their title or how it is used, and one of them pulled me up after I introduced him to a friend as Sir.

And then there’s one who is an arse about it. He doesn’t mind if you use his title or not, but if you refer to him as Sir, then you have to use the unabbreviated form of his Christian name. Let’s pretend his name is Steven, for example ... Steve is fine, sir Steven is fine, sir Steve isn’t, and he goes all mr toad about it. I got a right bollocking from him once.

I should clarify that the bloke’s name isn’t Steve ... the one knight I know who is called Steve is actually known as Sir Steve (rather than Steven). Surname Redgrave. As he put it himself, he had always been known as Steve, so why should he change that.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"When I finished my PhD I got everything changed to Dr, because I worked darn hard for it, and also then I dont have the Miss/Mrs issue as its noones business as to my marital status, why should that define me? If I dont have the option of Dr i prefer Ms for that same reason. X"

If I had a PhD I'd insist on Dr. It's something to be very proud of. Someone I know who's a gp doesn't use Dr because they got fed up of being approached for medical advice on their down time

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Not 2 shits could I give the Mr part,

But my name (spelling of) or miss spelling gets my Goat every time,

Being a celtic name (older than Irish and English) I watch people use the English spelling on documents all the time, and it makes my blood boil,

In reference see Lee Macks irish names sketch and you will get the idea.

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

In a formal setting or with people who dont know me I'd prefer Mrs D or even Miss D, using my surname and not just assumed familiarity of Dee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I insist on Rear Admiral at all times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?

People can be a bit pompous about their titles.

I know a few people who have been knighted, most of them don’t care whether someone uses their title or how it is used, and one of them pulled me up after I introduced him to a friend as Sir.

I would not give someone like Steve the time of day personally

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I don't like the trend of being addressed by my first name by people I don't know.

Do we use first names for Doctors ? Police officers ? Teachers ? Politicians ?

No ...and there is a reason for it.

The trend of children calling adults by their first names annoys me but it's been a long term trend so I guess it's a change for ever.

Also my brother's children call him by his first name, it grates on me

And while I'm here I just came back from the dentist and she called me but my first name

It's the end of civilisation as we know it I tell you!

Don't worry they are fixing it by doing away with bank branches and their managers and GPs, to be replaced by a 20 minute self serve questionnaire with an automated response...

"we are doing this to improve our customer service"

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

"I don't like the trend of being addressed by my first name by people I don't know.

Do we use first names for Doctors ? Police officers ? Teachers ? Politicians ?

No ...and there is a reason for it.

The trend of children calling adults by their first names annoys me but it's been a long term trend so I guess it's a change for ever.

Also my brother's children call him by his first name, it grates on me

And while I'm here I just came back from the dentist and she called me but my first name

It's the end of civilisation as we know it I tell you!

We always addressed our parents by their first names.

I think the I only people who call me Mr these days are hotel / restaurant staff and police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not 2 shits could I give the Mr part,

But my name (spelling of) or miss spelling gets my Goat every time,

Being a celtic name (older than Irish and English) I watch people use the English spelling on documents all the time, and it makes my blood boil,

In reference see Lee Macks irish names sketch and you will get the idea. "

So your name is Goat and not Goate?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"It's actually something I have a massive issue with. I got married. Changed to Mrs X. Changed all the shiz so it said Mrs X.

Luckily the docs just call me "Posh" (or my actual name) else I'd be crying every time I went there too.

Sorry. Rant over.

I think it is important to get it right, as it can be something so important to a person's identity. And you've no idea how important or otherwise it is, let alone the reasons, to another person.

Saying that, I'm not fussed about being addressed as Miss A by anyone. I've a name and if it is there in front of you, you can use it. No title needed then. "

Morning Posh! That will be because they won’t want to risk losing your medical records in the system if they change your name. If that did happen you could sue NHS trusts so they would rather not go down that road!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m dealing with petty officials then I insist on Captain otherwise I don’t mind.

Mrs D prefers “sexy little fucker”.

I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had a PhD I'd insist on Dr. It's something to be very proud of. Someone I know who's a gp doesn't use Dr because they got fed up of being approached for medical advice on their down time"

This is one I agree on, well deserved title, as long as they are not like Steve with it in the example higher up

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"I insist on Rear Admiral at all times

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"Not 2 shits could I give the Mr part,

But my name (spelling of) or miss spelling gets my Goat every time,

Being a celtic name (older than Irish and English) I watch people use the English spelling on documents all the time, and it makes my blood boil,

In reference see Lee Macks irish names sketch and you will get the idea.

So your name is Goat and not Goate? "
something like that, but you are forgetting (The) before Goate, there my man, the (The) is very important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congratulations a major achievement and the title well deserved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have heard a lot of colleagues express the same feeling. I can totally see why. Patriarchy remains depressingly powerful.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I haven’t got a PhD so Dr is out of the equation

I prefer being called by my first name in any situation, I don’t like it being shortened thought and my pet peeve is me introducing myself as let’s say “ Hi I’m Elizabeth “ and people going straight to Hi Liz …

My second peeve is that as a French citizen you never lose your maiden name, it comes first on my passport, my married name second and any official stuff comes under that surname and not just the French stuff , things like visas when going abroad etc …

If I wanted to be addressed by my maiden name I’d have divorced already . It’s just such a pain having to repeat it 3 times than resorting to spelling it

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By *haggydogMan
over a year ago

Brooklands/London

If I had a PhD I'd insist on Dr. It's something to be very proud of. Someone I know who's a gp doesn't use Dr because they got fed up of being approached for medical advice on their down time"

It's annoying if you're not a Doctor of medicine. People just assume you can give the medical help. Rather than give them musical direction.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I used to work in a uniformed service. If anyone junior called me by my first name, we had better be out in the pub after work!

I worked really hard to get those titles, like some have said about their Doctor title.

Gbat

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I only answer to Lady Nora

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only answer to Lady Nora "

M’Lady *bows very low*

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Annoys me when I get called Mrs, when I'm single. The school used to assume that all the time!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

My Google Home calls me Supreme Leader.

Just need the rest of the world to follow its example.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If I had a PhD I'd insist on Dr. It's something to be very proud of. Someone I know who's a gp doesn't use Dr because they got fed up of being approached for medical advice on their down time

It's annoying if you're not a Doctor of medicine. People just assume you can give the medical help. Rather than give them musical direction.

"Could you advise me on this nasty rash please!?"

"Well I could play it a tune."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not 2 shits could I give the Mr part,

But my name (spelling of) or miss spelling gets my Goat every time,

Being a celtic name (older than Irish and English) I watch people use the English spelling on documents all the time, and it makes my blood boil,

In reference see Lee Macks irish names sketch and you will get the idea.

So your name is Goat and not Goate? something like that, but you are forgetting (The) before Goate, there my man, the (The) is very important.

Before you throw me off some cliffs Mr Goate, I would respectively like to inform you I have more blood in me from the Celtic nations than English, therefore please kindly spare my meagre life in this instance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?"

I’ve been called a lot worse than any of the above so getting my title wrong would never offend me. I’d much rather be called by my first name anyway.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

Happen to hate my real name coz my birth father over-rid my mothers wishes when he went to register my birth, and he's a out and out waster...

so I reverted to what Mother wanted me to be called instead...

then I married and became a Mrs S.....

Then I was widowed and remained Mrs.

Then I re-married, now I am going to have to change everything again to the new Surname.

I guess my generation felt pride in being Mrs (whoever) for the status so it's hard for me to understand why todays wives would feel differently but I guess each generation has it's own ways.

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By *haggydogMan
over a year ago

Brooklands/London

If I had a PhD I'd insist on Dr. It's something to be very proud of. Someone I know who's a gp doesn't use Dr because they got fed up of being approached for medical advice on their down time

It's annoying if you're not a Doctor of medicine. People just assume you can give the medical help. Rather than give them musical direction.

"Could you advise me on this nasty rash please!?"

"Well I could play it a tune."

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I insist on Rear Admiral at all times

You've certainly got a lovely Rear, Admira(b)l(e).??

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Happen to hate my real name coz my birth father over-rid my mothers wishes when he went to register my birth, and he's a out and out waster...

so I reverted to what Mother wanted me to be called instead...

then I married and became a Mrs S.....

Then I was widowed and remained Mrs.

Then I re-married, now I am going to have to change everything again to the new Surname.

I guess my generation felt pride in being Mrs (whoever) for the status so it's hard for me to understand why todays wives would feel differently but I guess each generation has it's own ways. "

I don't know that they all feel differently, our daughter has taken her husband's surname. Most women have a man's name as their surname anyway, their father's or grandfather's.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm not personally bothered but it was annoying when they used Ms when I lived with my mum because we both have the same first initial and same surname so often the only way to distinguish who's post was who's was by it saying Mrs or Miss. We often opened each others post by accident as a result.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

^^in our society I should have said.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

If I had a PhD I'd insist on Dr. It's something to be very proud of. Someone I know who's a gp doesn't use Dr because they got fed up of being approached for medical advice on their down time"

I don't use Dr outside of work, because I wanted the same surname as my kids. And it would have been ridiculous to double barrel mine and my ex's surnames.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Do you call your bank manager Dave ?"

No, cos his name's Colin

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By *orkshire_roses999Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

If I had a PhD I'd insist on Dr. It's something to be very proud of. Someone I know who's a gp doesn't use Dr because they got fed up of being approached for medical advice on their down time"

100% agree with this and understand why!

I constantly get called dr and I immediately correct them as I want my patients to feel comfortable…I’ve long since given up correcting people now, and when I use my first name they then call me Dr *insert first name here* which does make me smile

You can call me what you like as long as it is professional and/or polite. I’m happy with

Dr/Mr/sir etc and am also happy with being called my first name

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By *orkshire_roses999Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

Oh and my bank manager is called mick jagger

always makes me smile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really don't like it when a man addressees themselves as Mr. Really bad manners.

I'm curious why you think this. Should a male teacher annouce to the class he is called Steve ? "

Not if his name is Fred.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I teach in adult education. I have been given a new title and forename especially from male students that don't want to be there. It goes along the lines of, "That F..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I teach in adult education. I have been given a new title and forename especially from male students that don't want to be there. It goes along the lines of, "That F...""

Fab Swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as its not babe I'm grand...

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By *weetCruellaWoman
over a year ago

somewhere sweet and sour

"Do you call your bank manager Dave ?

No, cos his name's Colin

thats made me chuckle lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?

Hi op. I tend to just use my Christian name. If I have to use a drop down box I generally opt for Miss as I’m more than happy to be single.

I do find it curious that there are three titles for women (Miss, Mrs and Ms) but only one for men.

It’s almost as though we need to be put in the right box and labelled.

Men used to have a wider selection but most have been dropped over time. Hopefully the same will happen to womens titles.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Very important to me, but it's a bit of a mouthful, and time consuming to type, so I generally keep it private but very close to my heart.

King of the Andals and the Rhoynar, and the First Men", Lord of the Seven Kingdoms, and Protector of the Realm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just me or doctors always insist on being called doctors?

Every time they insist when I've asked for people details in my job. Not mr or mrs dr.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Just me or doctors always insist on being called doctors?

Every time they insist when I've asked for people details in my job. Not mr or mrs dr. "

Because they earned it and that is their title.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?"

As long as it's not babe, hun, darling, sweetheart etc.

I have a name, it was given for a reason, please use it.

Using a title on a swingers site, don't think so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly done care, My close friends call me by my nickname to the point that my friends parents and partners dont know my real name. Outside of them, Im easy.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I prefer Sir, and if possible a tug of forelock without making direct eye contact please.

Honestly, these days, people should know their station and behave accordingly.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Usually South, Currently North

It can be funny though. An ex FB of mine picked “Lord” as a joke at a hotel we stayed in quite regularly.

It may be coincidence, but our room was upgraded and there was a free bottle of wine and some chocolates in there

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Do you call your bank manager Dave ?"

I wouldn't know my bank manager if I fell over them. Anyway Granny, why are we assuming the bank manager is male?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I’ve had a title used on me since I was Master

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?

Hi op. I tend to just use my Christian name. If I have to use a drop down box I generally opt for Miss as I’m more than happy to be single.

I do find it curious that there are three titles for women (Miss, Mrs and Ms) but only one for men.

It’s almost as though we need to be put in the right box and labelled.

Men used to have a wider selection but most have been dropped over time. Hopefully the same will happen to womens titles. "

What other men's titles used to exist but dropped? I'm not sure any of them specifically denote if a man was married or not? More likely to denote rank or social class, perhaps? But these have been dropped yet we still like to label women by their marital status.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

On forms I just roll my eyes. I'm Miss, Mrs and Ms depending on who you ask and no one will update it.

I prefer Ms because Miss sounds childish and Mrs is no longer appropriate. But it's far too much of a ballache to fix.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Dear sir/madam/ lord/ doctor/ professor/ Mrs/ Miss etc etc

There’s loads even Mx, but how important to you is it when you are being addressed?

I couldn’t care less if a letter used my name or a person in a business address me using my name as long as there was common courtesy between each other.

What are your thoughts on it?

Hi op. I tend to just use my Christian name. If I have to use a drop down box I generally opt for Miss as I’m more than happy to be single.

I do find it curious that there are three titles for women (Miss, Mrs and Ms) but only one for men.

It’s almost as though we need to be put in the right box and labelled.

Men used to have a wider selection but most have been dropped over time. Hopefully the same will happen to womens titles.

My brother was Master Surname on bank statements until he was about 10, then it was switched due to age to Mister. On the bank statements I got from that bank, I was only ever Miss Surname, and I used that bank into my 30s

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"I teach in adult education. I have been given a new title and forename especially from male students that don't want to be there. It goes along the lines of, "That F..."

Eeeeeek. I have seen a few of the older students from the college in here. Blocked straight away.

Fab Swinger? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t mind what salutation they use, however, I do correct them when they call me Mrs A.

The assumption as you have a child that you are married or indeed have their name, even when you sign off with your own name. Even if I had my married my name wouldn’t have changed. "

Funnily enough, I can remember a time when some unmarried mothers would call themselves Mrs rather than Miss and say they husband worked abroad/on the rigs etc to avoid being judged, mostly by other women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate being called Ms or Mrs

I have never been married nor do I intend to get married. People assume I must either be a Mrs at my age or a Ms (perhaps divorced) but no I am and always will be a Miss

Actually what I really hate is people assuming I’m a Mrs because of my age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its easy not to be bothered when its generic like Mr, rather than a label of your identity, like Miss/Mrs/etc. And then the cost and hassle of changing it and the frustration of people still getting it wrong. Its definitely outdated sexism that needs to go. Ms. Is what I prefer & use at work.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"Just me or men always insist on being called men? "

I thought I'd paraphrase your first sentence for you.

Men insist on being called men if they are, well, men!

Same for Doctors. They can insist on being called Doctors if they are indeed doctors. I'm not sure why you'd be phased by this?

In parts of Asia for instance, people might also insist on the title "Engineer" as it's status is as highly regarded as Doctor.

They've earned it. More so than a Royal title, where you just get it as an accident of birth or though marriage.

Gbat

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By *omino51Man
over a year ago

loughborough

I usually answer to Oi Twat, I wouldn't mind but my names not Oi.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I don’t mind what salutation they use, however, I do correct them when they call me Mrs A.

The assumption as you have a child that you are married or indeed have their name, even when you sign off with your own name. Even if I had my married my name wouldn’t have changed.

Aye but we are way past those days

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"I hate being called Ms or Mrs

I have never been married nor do I intend to get married. People assume I must either be a Mrs at my age or a Ms (perhaps divorced) but no I am and always will be a Miss

Actually what I really hate is people assuming I’m a Mrs because of my age"

Me too!!

I never sign myself as Miss (but will tick this box if I have to tick a box).

It triggers me being called Ms though. I detest that title.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I know it's perfectly acceptable etiquette wise, but I really don't like being called Ms. If people call me Mrs or Ms I'll just correct them politely and say it's Miss.

I prefer people using my name, especially in a professional setting...my work is enhanced by good relationships, and it often makes it more personable if I'm on first name terms with my clients.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your Highness has always suited me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your Highness has always suited me

xx"

Love it!

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Your Highness has always suited me

xx"

This.

Or Boss but mainly Mum.

I do like being called by my married name though as it reminds me of how blessed I am.

Jo.Xx

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I think people use the Ms title in writing if needed as they don't know what else to put not to cause offence and of course don't know what the person prefers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course, male surgeons generally get upset when addressed as Dr, as they have worked their way up to being addressed as Mr!

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By *he_massangerMan
over a year ago

Stornoway

As long as it get my attention, I really don't care.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"Do you call your bank manager Dave ?

I wouldn't know my bank manager if I fell over them. Anyway Granny, why are we assuming the bank manager is male?!

I call my bank manager Dave all the time.

For some reason she's slightly miffed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't care less, in my experience the only people who care are those with self importance.

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By *lay 4 uMan
over a year ago

bolton

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

My official title is Laird, but I really use it.

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By *lay 4 uMan
over a year ago

bolton

"Really don't like it when a man addressees themselves as Mr. Really bad manners.

I'm curious why you think this. Should a male teacher annouce to the class he is called Steve ? "
The correct way to introduce yourself is by giving your surname.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"My official title is Laird, but I really use it.

Rarely not really.

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By *orkshire_roses999Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

I don’t mind what people call us, as long as it’s polite….

Work- many people call me Mr or Dr

MrsY - many people call her Lady, but again she isn’t that worried

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