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By *utlongjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

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Did you become sexually confident/comfortable?

I had an issue with the size of my man hood for years thinking every other man out there would be bigger and better etc but ive come to realise i have enough to please and nothing to be ashamed of.

Also since hitting my 30s ive become morw confident in what i like and not afraid to express it with new partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

49

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By *inkypickleCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I would say when I turned 40 I gained a bit more of a fuck it attitude towards my sexuality and stopped being as shy and anxious and started having more fun.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Still waiting...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

82

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

In my early 30’s. Shortly after I joined here and the confidence became more natural and ingrained in me.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

48. A couple of years after my husband died and I joined Fab.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Late 20s when I realised my own worth, fucked off toxic people from my life and started exploring my sexuality more. It’s been a liberating 10yrs so far and I have no desire to change.

I’m a confident woman who loves sex and I finally see there’s nothing wrong with being that way despite years of feeling suppressed x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Was 60 for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only recently if I’m honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 30 in a few months and I wouldn't say I'm there yet. I'm a lot more confident than in my early 20s but it's a working progress.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm not sexually confident. It's weird because I'm very confident in general, just not sexually.

I did reach a turning point at 35 though, when I realised sex could be fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably in my mid 20’s. I’ve always carried a bit extra weight and was self conscious about my man boobs. I started going to the gym and didn’t lose much fat but gained muscle and feel a lot better about myself.

I’ve never really been bothered by the size of my penis but since going to clubs I’ve realised that the massive ones are actually quite rare. So I’m a lot more confident about my size.

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By *utlongjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

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Great responses so far. Ive found it very liberating since becoming comfortable with who i am and what i like.

By no means do i think im gods gift and could sleep with who i want but the ones i do im confident i can offer something which i didnt feel i could before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll let you know when it happens.

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By *utlongjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

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"I'll let you know when it happens. "

Please do, it feels so much better.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Early to mid 30s

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I was invisible for 49 years. Then I became visible.

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By *utlongjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

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"I was invisible for 49 years. Then I became visible. "

Good to hear mate, what made you visible?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still nowhere near confident in that department but i'm really trying.

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

Late thirties for me

MJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 28, to be honest is was the older women I were meeting up with at the time helped. They didn’t give a shit and that helped me not to care too, changed the way I think of women also. Great experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you become sexually confident/comfortable?

I had an issue with the size of my man hood for years thinking every other man out there would be bigger and better etc but ive come to realise i have enough to please and nothing to be ashamed of.

Also since hitting my 30s ive become morw confident in what i like and not afraid to express it with new partners."

Started to get sexually attractive I think when I was 27...

Confident only couple of years ago.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

At around 25 I just figured out how to pull. Had a few mad years of pulling every weekend, multiple times a week, which lead me to being very comfortable with myself sexually

Then towards the end of that I had a long term FWB that took the time to teach me loads. How to give good oral was big. That’s when I was confident. As I was comfortable with myself, but I could back it up with a good performance

So I’d say around 29ish

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive always been sexually confident. Not sure how or why but its always been there

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Probably around 24. I was really shy up until then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 30 I really took off

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I've always been comfortable in my skin and sexually confident. Swinging has given me the opportunity to discover how far that will take me

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probs after I get a vaginoplasty lol

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By *hunkymonkey81Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I was 22 we used communal showers in steelworks

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Between mid and late 20s; I was in great shape physically and mentally and it showed sexually.

Then I got old, fat and unfit and it went away again. D’oh!!!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"I was invisible for 49 years. Then I became visible.

Good to hear mate, what made you visible?"

Complete and total burnout from being the glue that held everyone else's lives together and then deciding I had to do me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Between mid and late 20s; I was in great shape physically and mentally and it showed sexually.

Then I got old, fat and unfit and it went away again. D’oh!!! "

Lol sorry buddy made me laugh

Still not too late to get yourself that confidence again and work on yourself where needed

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

Mid/late thirties x became more accepting of my body, more open to trying new things and a sudden realisation that life is very short so enjoy all you can While you can x ill take very few regrets to my grave x

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Between mid and late 20s; I was in great shape physically and mentally and it showed sexually.

Then I got old, fat and unfit and it went away again. D’oh!!!

Lol sorry buddy made me laugh

Still not too late to get yourself that confidence again and work on yourself where needed "

Unfortunately, ‘bakery’ comes before ‘gym’ in the dictionary and I like order.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

50 when we joined the swinging scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I am yet. I mean, I'm confident in my body. I don't like some parts of it but I know there's no point dwelling on that fact. Or the fact I'm covered in stretch marks, wobbly bits, dimples. If everyone started walking around naked tomorrow I'd have no problems doing so. But yeah, society's expectations are still ingrained and I don't think that will disappear for generations yet.

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By *weetCruellaWoman
over a year ago

somewhere sweet and sour

Id have to say early 30s i got to express myself more. By 40 .. yeah i know what i like and what i want lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The year I retire (probably).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happened for me in my mid-twenties. I had the somewhat mixed fortunes of meeting my first adventurous partner - very much my first foray into any kind of kink. He gave me a confidence that never left.

I say mixed fortunes because he went on to cheat on me but, thankfully, I saw that for what it was and continued to blossom and explore. I'm still grateful to him for the eye-opening experiences.

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By *heonix_flamesWoman
over a year ago

Midlands

It’s not happened yet

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By *utlongjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

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Some are and some arent, was there anything in particular that made you change or is still holding you back?

Pms welcome if you prefer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Early twenties, I joined Fab and some other sites and apps, then realised that I am wanted by at least some. After having casual sex with a lot of people I'm now very comfortable with myself sexually. But I've lost some confidence again after gaining weight xx

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I’d say only in the past 2-3 years but I still have a way to go. I’m 35

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually comfortable, I’d say maybe 3-4 years x

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Sexually comfortable, I’d say maybe 3-4 years x "

A little young don’t you think?

No kink shaming, but if someone’s sexually comfortable at 3-4 I’d have questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexually comfortable, I’d say maybe 3-4 years x

A little young don’t you think?

No kink shaming, but if someone’s sexually comfortable at 3-4 I’d have questions "

As in identity maybe?

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By *utlongjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

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"Sexually comfortable, I’d say maybe 3-4 years x

A little young don’t you think?

No kink shaming, but if someone’s sexually comfortable at 3-4 I’d have questions

As in identity maybe? "

Or 3-4 years ago?

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

About 22 years and 20 days,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tomorrow

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By *nn_JamesCouple
over a year ago

the

Late 20's

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Early 40s when I met a much younger man who treated me like a person, not a sex object.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine has been like a rollercoaster and it’s very much linked to my body confidence.

I was really sexually confident in my 20s then it took a huge dip as a result of some toxic relationships.

It crept back about 3 years ago. Fab and the people I met here played a big part in that.

But recently after having a baby I’m finding it’s dwindled again. It will come back though

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

I was quick out the blocks so confidence came in my late teens to early 20's but its been a learning curve of self discovery ever since...

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By *utlongjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

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"Mine has been like a rollercoaster and it’s very much linked to my body confidence.

I was really sexually confident in my 20s then it took a huge dip as a result of some toxic relationships.

It crept back about 3 years ago. Fab and the people I met here played a big part in that.

But recently after having a baby I’m finding it’s dwindled again. It will come back though "

You look lovely and sexy mums are the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably quite early, but now I'm sexually resigned..it either happens or it doesn't..

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

when I turned 28

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mid to late 40's after my divorce and finding fab and like minded people, before that i kind of thought it was wrong think about sex so much lol

More stable now though

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

To be honest I probably had the most confidence when I first started exploring. The guys were generally nervous but excited and happy to let me take the lead and show them what I wanted or we learnt and explored together. As I and they got older, they got more demanding, more judgemental, more arrogant and often more selfish. I feel like I'm coming out of the other side now and many experience now and things seem to be getting better as I and the men I sleep with get older but I guess even with the nicest person, there's always going to be a bit more pressure than when you were both inexperienced so there were no expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really there yet

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By *iggyStarjumpsMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I was in my late 20s when the woman I was seeing helped me realise that she wanted and enjoyed sex as much as I did. That was a big turning point for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexually comfortable, I’d say maybe 3-4 years x

A little young don’t you think?

No kink shaming, but if someone’s sexually comfortable at 3-4 I’d have questions "

3-4 years ago I thought I wrote ago

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

I'm still counting

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Think I (Nilly) might be odd...I ve always enjoyed sex therefore been confident...or rather...comfortable with intimacy...but maybe that's because we've been together 25 years...who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Became more sexually confident in my 30's. Just came a point where I realised you've got to just enjoy it and yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexually comfortable, I’d say maybe 3-4 years x

A little young don’t you think?

No kink shaming, but if someone’s sexually comfortable at 3-4 I’d have questions

3-4 years ago I thought I wrote ago

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Phew you kept them in suspense a long time

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Sounds daft, but I don't think I (Mrs) have ever not been sexually confident. Before we started to dabble in swinging, I'd been in a monogamous relationship with Mr KC since we were 17 and 18 and very confident with him from the start. I'd had two previous boyfriends with whom there was some level of sexual involvement and again, didn't lack confidence.

I was in my early 20s when I started exploring the non vanilla world with Mr KC more but that was more due to natural evolution of our relationship than anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably about 6 years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine's now and I've loved every minute of it, it's been a roller coaster year and I've done things I'd never dreamed of doing. I'm hoping for many more experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that I've never really been confident in my body or sexually but I've learnt to accept compliments over the last few years. Size is generally an issue to most guys and its certainly held me back over the years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say that I've never really been confident in my body or sexually but I've learnt to accept compliments over the last few years. Size is generally an issue to most guys and its certainly held me back over the years "

Hope you aren't considering chopping any off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say that I've never really been confident in my body or sexually but I've learnt to accept compliments over the last few years. Size is generally an issue to most guys and its certainly held me back over the years

Hope you aren't considering chopping any off "

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By *oc1998Man
over a year ago

Dundalk

Like 19 or 20. Up until I was nearly 18, I thought I was average in length. Then when I hit 19 or 20, more and more women were telling me they were truely enjoying themselves. Thanks to that, I am confident in both my body and skills

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

I’m getting there. Ask me again when I hit 50.

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

Around 36-37 so about 8 years ago when I started swinging but I wouldn’t say I wasn’t confident I was just inexperienced as I’d been with my husband for 25 years up until then and only slept with 5 guys before him as soon as we started swinging I took of like a rocket

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