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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I always attach a face pic with message but it doesn’t matter if I make the message personal, one liner, generic or chat up line… most get ignored. What do other males find gets the best response rate and what do females prefer to see? (Is there any point in putting effort into a long personalised message about their profile if they’re going to reject your face?!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What one woman prefers won't be what another woman prefers.

I don't like photos, face pic included in the first message. It feels to me like that's the first step of determine whether I want to meet someone. Personality is more important. (Oh, and we're not meeting guys anyway).

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Good afternoon...

I, Nilly will delete messages if they aren't what we are looking for or the rude, one liners or copy and pasted...I do reply to some, especially if effort and a face picture but often this can end up with continual messages and occasionally I block...hope that helps as to why some do

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

What might work for one woman, won't work for others.

Some guys might say sending a dick pic works, some might say it won't...some might say FAF works..some won't.

Forget what everyone else does and just keep doing you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

opening message should show an understanding of the other person's profile or a witty reply to a status they have posted and that should be it, unless you receive a reply which invites a reply back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What might work for one woman, won't work for others.

Some guys might say sending a dick pic works, some might say it won't...some might say FAF works..some won't.

Forget what everyone else does and just keep doing you x"

I thought for a minute you were going to burst into song there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I check out profiles first so ensure that’s the best it can be.

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

Cheeky little msg through Forums first...

If the banter is flying in the post, and there is a bit of 2 and fro, I'll send a private msg, then if there is a reply I'll take it from there,

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

Your 1st and every message should show who you are as a person, therefore you can only be you and not try to be what you think may work or what others might say...

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"What might work for one woman, won't work for others.

Some guys might say sending a dick pic works, some might say it won't...some might say FAF works..some won't.

Forget what everyone else does and just keep doing you x

I thought for a minute you were going to burst into song there"

I nearly did

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london


"What one woman prefers won't be what another woman prefers.

I don't like photos, face pic included in the first message. It feels to me like that's the first step of determine whether I want to meet someone. Personality is more important. (Oh, and we're not meeting guys anyway). "

You’re not meeting guys

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

A face pic with first message is good x

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I don’t open one liners, boring and mundane messages. Generic messages that’s have been copy and pasted get deleted. As do the personalised ones where they only message about my photos, it says to me you haven’t read my bio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your 1st and every message should show who you are as a person, therefore you can only be you and not try to be what you think may work or what others might say... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like humour and something original. As long as it's more than 3 words, your already winning

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Its a road to nowhere if you believe that 'females' respond to anything other than someone they ... Like the look of, find attractive sexually, like talking to, feel safe with, matches their likes and needs....

A letter from God herself wouldn't cut it without the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheeky little msg through Forums first...

If the banter is flying in the post, and there is a bit of 2 and fro, I'll send a private msg, then if there is a reply I'll take it from there,

"

Honestly this is THE best strategy here for single men. I've lost track of men I've talked to via the forums. They're not cold messages - far more likely to be read.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I like the first pic to be a bank statement, followed by a pic of them kindly pointing out directions for their pilot ....

A thing of beauty

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

Women are all different but for me it's no cock profile pic, no hey, hi, you free to meet messages, reading my profile is a bonus

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

The face is what I'm going to be most attracted to, so a face pic, ask if they'd like to continue the convo if they like the look of you... Saves writing an essay. Or just say you think you'd be compatible after reading their bio.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Could be the content of your profile that lets you down, if I'm undecided, but they've written something similar to what I'm looking for I'll chat and find out more.

Same goes for if I like the look of them, but something in the bio puts me off.

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