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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm curious (nosey) how people see themselves.

I see sexuality as a broad spectrum. At the one end, people absolutely "straight". No sexual attraction to someone of the same sex. A man/woman who has never looked at another man/woman and thought "hmmm.... I feel a funny tingle". The other, people absolutely "gay", someone who has never looked at a member of the opposite sex and thought "oooh.... I want to touch".

(Other thoughts are likely, they were just what came into my head)

And in between those two ends..... everyone else.

So my question is, where do you think you sit most of the time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I look at you Posh I tremble

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"When I look at you Posh I tremble "

I am scary as fuck......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I look at you Posh I tremble

I am scary as fuck...... "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am bi and I most definitely get a twitch when I see an attractive male

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By *oomerang73Man
over a year ago

Newton

I’ve began to wonder myself. I don’t find men attractive but admire a good looking cock. So don’t know where that places me

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

I see myself as straight but if I was with a couple and the guy started to play with me or suck me I wouldn’t mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truthful would say would say 70% - 30% split

My dynamic is real odd well I think so anyway

Like is in dateing and realships woman

When it comes to guys it’s just prue sex

Mind you that’s not to say I wouldn’t

They just don’t seem to stick around all that long to find out if dateing would be my thing with them

So far I am happy with my dynamic and that’s all that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely look at a man and think mmm hot but a nice cock on the other hand…I absolutely drool and get a twitch in my own! Ideal scenario MMF threesome with another curious male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve began to wonder myself. I don’t find men attractive but admire a good looking cock. So don’t know where that places me "

In the envy zone

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Bi-sexual not bi-curious - in that I find both sexes attractive, bi curiosity to me is someone who likes the idea of being with someone of the same sex and bi sexual is someone who has acted upon that curiosity.

That said I enjoy woman solely on a sexual basis - I wouldn’t embark on a relationship with a female but I would with a man so I’d say I’m more 70/30 in favour of the cock!

Xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Pretty close to the middle

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’ve pretty much travelled up and down the scale my whole life.

When I first joined here, I was so horrified that bi women were little more than performing seals that I was fab straight for years. I now see doesn’t have to be the case.

It turns out the closest explanation for me is Pansexual. The more I find out about it the more I think yep. That’s me. It’s a lot of fun actually.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I’ve began to wonder myself. I don’t find men attractive but admire a good looking cock. So don’t know where that places me "

I'm totally the same but I don't label myself as anything other then me

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I am bi and I most definitely get a twitch when I see an attractive male"

Do you find you're attracted to more men or women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I am 100% straight. I had interest in women as a teenager. In a certain situation I might want to experiment. I don't rule it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also you promised a joggers + thread, Posh!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I’ve began to wonder myself. I don’t find men attractive but admire a good looking cock. So don’t know where that places me "

Do you admire or are you attracted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm straight. However when I see a an attractive man, I have no shame in acknowledging that I think he is attractive... And I admit I have had a 'man crush' on Chris Hemsworth and Jason Momoa for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am bi and I most definitely get a twitch when I see an attractive male

Do you find you're attracted to more men or women?"

I'd say I'm 70/30 in the women:men ratio as, for me, there aren't too many attractive males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooo good question! I guess I yo-yo around in the middle

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I see myself as straight but if I was with a couple and the guy started to play with me or suck me I wouldn’t mind "

This is kind of what I mean about a scale..... I'd imagine you're not firmly at the one end.

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Rarely find men attractive but has been known so pansexual is the closest fit for me.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Truthful would say would say 70% - 30% split

My dynamic is real odd well I think so anyway

Like is in dateing and realships woman

When it comes to guys it’s just prue sex

Mind you that’s not to say I wouldn’t

They just don’t seem to stick around all that long to find out if dateing would be my thing with them

So far I am happy with my dynamic and that’s all that matters "

I don't think it's odd..... I think it's just how you are. And that's awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably 70/30 in favour of men. I love both, but my raw urges are more often for a man to dominate and use me. Xx

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I rarely look at a man and think mmm hot but a nice cock on the other hand…I absolutely drool and get a twitch in my own! Ideal scenario MMF threesome with another curious male "

So somewhere on the scale.....

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Completely at the straight end

I like to look at women and admire their pictures for curvatures and depths but have no inkling of an arousal towards them

Being sexuality confident enables me to body massage a woman and partake In a FmF happily without mistrust or doubt of hidden agendas of myself or her intentions x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t fancy men but I love them giving me a bj and more. Even better if they have a nice member too

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Bi-sexual not bi-curious - in that I find both sexes attractive, bi curiosity to me is someone who likes the idea of being with someone of the same sex and bi sexual is someone who has acted upon that curiosity.

That said I enjoy woman solely on a sexual basis - I wouldn’t embark on a relationship with a female but I would with a man so I’d say I’m more 70/30 in favour of the cock!

Xx"

I have a massive aversion to labels, as I think they're so subjective. That said, your definition of the two mentioned is what I'd define them as too.

I'd never have a romantic relationship with a woman. They're bloody mental!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Pretty close to the middle"

Is that purely sexuality or "romantic" as well?

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

While my preference is women I thoroughly enjoy sex with men too and am very fluid in a group of people. I don’t know which of the trendy labels should fit but for me a lot depends on the people and the circumstances

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's complicated so here's a bunch of labels that give a rough picture. I await the meltdowns about labels, woke culture, millenials, etc.

*deep breath*

Fluctuating

Aceflux

Demisexual

Homoflexible in terms of physical attraction

Biromantic but leaning more towards men - maybe 80/20

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I’ve pretty much travelled up and down the scale my whole life.

When I first joined here, I was so horrified that bi women were little more than performing seals that I was fab straight for years. I now see doesn’t have to be the case.

It turns out the closest explanation for me is Pansexual. The more I find out about it the more I think yep. That’s me. It’s a lot of fun actually.

"

I think that's a sad fact, that it takes a while for some people to realise that bi women absolutely aren't bi for the amusement of others.

I love that you're no longer in the straight closet though, it's always better to be who you are and just ignore or slap the people who try to get a performance.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I have played with men when I was younger but now I consider myself to be 100% straight; I don't get any twitches of excitement when I look at men even if I consider them to be good looking.

Over my sexual life span I think that I'd need to be classed as mildly bisexuality.

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By *oomerang73Man
over a year ago

Newton


"I’ve began to wonder myself. I don’t find men attractive but admire a good looking cock. So don’t know where that places me

Do you admire or are you attracted?"

A bit of both tbh. An ex playmate wanted me to suck a cock in front of her which was very horny at the time

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I’d say I’m curious, I like looking at photos of women and sometimes wonder what it’d be like to be with a woman in the bedroom, I fantasise about it. So I guess that makes me curious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Truthful would say would say 70% - 30% split

My dynamic is real odd well I think so anyway

Like is in dateing and realships woman

When it comes to guys it’s just prue sex

Mind you that’s not to say I wouldn’t

They just don’t seem to stick around all that long to find out if dateing would be my thing with them

So far I am happy with my dynamic and that’s all that matters

I don't think it's odd..... I think it's just how you are. And that's awesome!"

Aww thank you so much nsp your awesome and so sweet xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love it all

When the dynamic is right

So don’t limit myself to just one thing

I appreciate a yummy man or woman

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I’ve began to wonder myself. I don’t find men attractive but admire a good looking cock. So don’t know where that places me

I'm totally the same but I don't label myself as anything other then me "

I'm not sure where "Moose" falls on the scales........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before fab i was just bi-curious, my first encounter with a woman awoke a side of me i knew was there all along..

I do favour men more but I always say to inked i think i may have to get myself a lady friend who i can meet up with regularly and he tells me to fill my boots

(Miss)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really really dont know

Ive started caring less and just do what makes me happy and just not think about it

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By *ave1963BarnsleyMan
over a year ago

Barnsley


"I'm curious (nosey) how people see themselves.

I see sexuality as a broad spectrum. At the one end, people absolutely "straight". No sexual attraction to someone of the same sex. A man/woman who has never looked at another man/woman and thought "hmmm.... I feel a funny tingle". The other, people absolutely "gay", someone who has never looked at a member of the opposite sex and thought "oooh.... I want to touch".

(Other thoughts are likely, they were just what came into my head)

And in between those two ends..... everyone else.

So my question is, where do you think you sit most of the time?

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I suppose I'm what you'd call bi-playful. My Mistress introduced me to MM sex a few months,ago and I quite enjoyed it, but the main turn in for me was her reaction.

I wouldn't be interested in meeting a guy on my own, but if I'm in a club or playing with swinging friends I'll gladly suck or take a cock.

So, who's coming to Spicy's Bi Night at Jaydees on Friday 4th March!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I don't think I am 100% straight. I had interest in women as a teenager. In a certain situation I might want to experiment. I don't rule it out "

I can relate to that massively.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Also you promised a joggers + thread, Posh! "

I haven't forgotten!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually I am Bi-Sexual, love and appreciate being with both men & women. In terms of dating, I only want to be in a relationship with a man so I guess I'm straight that way.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I'm straight. However when I see a an attractive man, I have no shame in acknowledging that I think he is attractive... And I admit I have had a 'man crush' on Chris Hemsworth and Jason Momoa for example."

That to me just means you're comfortable. And have a good eye

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By *illy_WxmMan
over a year ago

wrexham

Absolutely Straight, never been attracted to a bloke

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Straight ish

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Ooo good question! I guess I yo-yo around in the middle "

Just attraction or romance as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve pretty much travelled up and down the scale my whole life.

When I first joined here, I was so horrified that bi women were little more than performing seals that I was fab straight for years. I now see doesn’t have to be the case.

It turns out the closest explanation for me is Pansexual. The more I find out about it the more I think yep. That’s me. It’s a lot of fun actually.

"

I'm all about the D HOWEVER I am leaning towards wanting to play with a lady, nothing in return, I just want to touch. I fully appreciate women and the female form turns me on more than men odly for a straight person. In short I want to play with women but I only want a man to play witb me I'm all confusselled

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Rarely find men attractive but has been known so pansexual is the closest fit for me."

That's my issue with labels. On their own they don't actually fit most people.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I'm probably 70/30 in favour of men. I love both, but my raw urges are more often for a man to dominate and use me. Xx"

Would a woman dominating and using you not appeal in the same way?

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Completely at the straight end

I like to look at women and admire their pictures for curvatures and depths but have no inkling of an arousal towards them

Being sexuality confident enables me to body massage a woman and partake In a FmF happily without mistrust or doubt of hidden agendas of myself or her intentions x"

I think that's the thing. Confidence in your own sexuality. Or at the very least confidence in who you find attractive and what you're happy to partake in.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I don’t fancy men but I love them giving me a bj and more. Even better if they have a nice member too "

How does their member make a difference if they're giving you oral?

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"While my preference is women I thoroughly enjoy sex with men too and am very fluid in a group of people. I don’t know which of the trendy labels should fit but for me a lot depends on the people and the circumstances "

This is why I don't ask for labels.... I don't think a label necessarily fits a person well enough.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I’ve began to wonder myself. I don’t find men attractive but admire a good looking cock. So don’t know where that places me

I'm totally the same but I don't label myself as anything other then me

I'm not sure where "Moose" falls on the scales........ "

Neither do I and I'm quite happy about that

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"It's complicated so here's a bunch of labels that give a rough picture. I await the meltdowns about labels, woke culture, millenials, etc.

*deep breath*

Fluctuating

Aceflux

Demisexual

Homoflexible in terms of physical attraction

Biromantic but leaning more towards men - maybe 80/20"

No meltdown here..... you know I'm no fan of labels but that's for me. Anyone who wants to pop one or more on themselves should rock on.

And I love the fact that you don't pigeon hole yourself into one, you use a range. Because it stops the label being as restrictive (if that makes sense).

I do object to the word "woke". But that's because I'm old

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By *ave1963BarnsleyMan
over a year ago

Barnsley


"While my preference is women I thoroughly enjoy sex with men too and am very fluid in a group of people. I don’t know which of the trendy labels should fit but for me a lot depends on the people and the circumstances

This is why I don't ask for labels.... I don't think a label necessarily fits a person well enough."

I agree with this entirely. The options on Fab don't accurately reflect where I am sexually. Having said that, there are so many nuances and 'branches' to sexuality that it would be an impossible task to have a list covering them all.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I would say straight, I’m always open to playing with another woman in a 3 way scenario but I’m yet to find someone that appeals, I’m sure it will happen one day but my focus is on men

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I’ll never marry a man or be his ‘girlfriend’ for a long term relationship. However I do fantasise about the sexual element of that weekend away.

As a man I’m attracted to women but occasionally do find a feminine younger guy attractive. As a TV it’s mainly men I want to attract and have fun with.

So 60/40 women over men.

I suspect when I get older and my drive starts to diminish, those levels will change.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Always have been and will continue to be 100% straight.

Never had any interest in other men or their appendages.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I have played with men when I was younger but now I consider myself to be 100% straight; I don't get any twitches of excitement when I look at men even if I consider them to be good looking.

Over my sexual life span I think that I'd need to be classed as mildly bisexuality.

"

I think that's also interesting, how people don't often admit to their sexual tastes changing over time (in general society I mean.... on here it happens all the time!)

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I’ve began to wonder myself. I don’t find men attractive but admire a good looking cock. So don’t know where that places me

Do you admire or are you attracted?

A bit of both tbh. An ex playmate wanted me to suck a cock in front of her which was very horny at the time"

Was that the situation more than the act though do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like sex with either, guys more easier to arrange with

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By *amaraBeaverbankWoman
over a year ago

Benidorm Spain

I have never believed in purely gay or straight, mostly because I don’t believe in putting labels on people. I have always said you fall in love with the person rather than the gender, although you’re normally going to have a preference.

I think the multi labelling is odd given the LGBT+ community has always fought against labelling.

I understand people wanting to know what they are sort of, but when it all comes down to the bone, people are simply attracted to who they are attracted to

I consider myself predominantly straight, but I have played with women before to answer your original question, but I do love cock too much to be much else.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I’d say I’m curious, I like looking at photos of women and sometimes wonder what it’d be like to be with a woman in the bedroom, I fantasise about it. So I guess that makes me curious? "

I would say so. Would you think you'd act on the fantasy deliberately? By which I mean seek out a woman?

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By *edbath 5Man
over a year ago

london

Non anal bi

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Love it all

When the dynamic is right

So don’t limit myself to just one thing

I appreciate a yummy man or woman "

The dynamic is the important thing for most I think.

Situationally bi is definitely a thing for some people.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Heterosexual commonly used by those whom know who understand what they are...no confusion

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Before fab i was just bi-curious, my first encounter with a woman awoke a side of me i knew was there all along..

I do favour men more but I always say to inked i think i may have to get myself a lady friend who i can meet up with regularly and he tells me to fill my boots

(Miss)

"

I love the "awakening" that some people have to their range of life. Sounds pretty perfect really.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"It's complicated so here's a bunch of labels that give a rough picture. I await the meltdowns about labels, woke culture, millenials, etc.

*deep breath*

Fluctuating

Aceflux

Demisexual

Homoflexible in terms of physical attraction

Biromantic but leaning more towards men - maybe 80/20

No meltdown here..... you know I'm no fan of labels but that's for me. Anyone who wants to pop one or more on themselves should rock on.

And I love the fact that you don't pigeon hole yourself into one, you use a range. Because it stops the label being as restrictive (if that makes sense).

I do object to the word "woke". But that's because I'm old "

Oh Posh, I didn't mean from you! I hadn't even read the other comments or seen any of the comments about labels. It's just something I often experience whenever I use any sexuality label outside of straight, gay or bisexual. It seems to be an issue that only ever comes up regarding sexualities outside of these or genders outside of man and woman.

Personally I like labels. I spent a lot of my teens very confused and feeling abnormal. Not only has learning new labels helped me to understand myself better but it's been comforting to know there's enough people who feel the same that there's a name for us.

I think often the problem isn't the label but people's black and white views. I use the label of woman. That will lead to a lot of assumptions about me but really it doesn't actually tell you a great deal. It's always going to be a combination of labels that helps to paint a picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find men and women attractive including transgender. Would be sexual with either, or a relationship with either, if I wasn't already in one.

Not sure what the label is for that.

PW

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I really really dont know

Ive started caring less and just do what makes me happy and just not think about it "

I love that. Confident in your own skin.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I'd say I'm at a different point on the spectrum depending on the situation.

I've been in a threesome with a MF couple and definitely fancied her and not him, but still get turned on watching his hard cock sliding into her.

In that situation I'd happily suck him off, but I wouldn't want to kiss him and I wouldn't want to hold his hand under a moonlight sky.

I can see if a guy is good looking or not, but I'm not physically attracted to men, whereas I'm attracted to women, who on the whole are generally quite gorgeous!!

So in summary, cock fun yes, kissing and romance with owner of said cock, no.

Where does that place me on any scale???

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i catagorise myself as ardvark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im bi and happy to be so

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I'm curious (nosey) how people see themselves.

I see sexuality as a broad spectrum. At the one end, people absolutely "straight". No sexual attraction to someone of the same sex. A man/woman who has never looked at another man/woman and thought "hmmm.... I feel a funny tingle". The other, people absolutely "gay", someone who has never looked at a member of the opposite sex and thought "oooh.... I want to touch".

(Other thoughts are likely, they were just what came into my head)

And in between those two ends..... everyone else.

So my question is, where do you think you sit most of the time?

I suppose I'm what you'd call bi-playful. My Mistress introduced me to MM sex a few months,ago and I quite enjoyed it, but the main turn in for me was her reaction.

I wouldn't be interested in meeting a guy on my own, but if I'm in a club or playing with swinging friends I'll gladly suck or take a cock.

So, who's coming to Spicy's Bi Night at Jaydees on Friday 4th March! "

I think you've defined the spectrum pretty well really.....

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Very bi, love cock and pussy, and boobs. However, would not go as far as having a same sex relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More of a lesbian than bi I suppose, 80:20 into women:men.

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I would say 90% straight. I've only ever had or wanted relationships with men.

But since starting on fab I have played with a few women when we've met couples and I have enjoyed it. I think perhaps the more I do it and get used to it the more I can relax and just enjoy it even more. But it has to be the right situation. I can't just do it like a performing monkey.

I can appreciate a beautiful woman, but I don't get the same lust as I can with a gorgeous man. It's more a situational thing for me. If there's a naked playful woman in front of me I might want to kiss and touch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MrW&W is very straight well as far as I aware lol.

I'm 85/15 , I'd say I'm bi curious as I don't do certain things with ladies and wouldn't meet a lady on my own but have quite happily played with a lady why he has left the room. Always had a thing for busty curvy ladies and just love boobs !!!!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Bi-sexual not bi-curious - in that I find both sexes attractive, bi curiosity to me is someone who likes the idea of being with someone of the same sex and bi sexual is someone who has acted upon that curiosity.

That said I enjoy woman solely on a sexual basis - I wouldn’t embark on a relationship with a female but I would with a man so I’d say I’m more 70/30 in favour of the cock!

Xx"

Exactly this for me too. To the word!

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)


"Heterosexual commonly used by those whom know who understand what they are...no confusion"

Few people are confused as to what they are, the confusion arises from labels that don't reflect reality and don't fit the person's nuanced sexuality.

But I don't think everyone will be able to understand that point as they don't all have such a nuanced sexuality and just can't see it.

Gbat

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Sexually I am Bi-Sexual, love and appreciate being with both men & women. In terms of dating, I only want to be in a relationship with a man so I guess I'm straight that way. "

I can relate to that as well. I think sometimes society (when they acknowledge that people aren't purely heterosexual, which a lot of the time doesn't happen still) expects that someone who is attracted to both men and women expects that the person will be equally attracted to a relationship as well as sexy times. Which just isn't the case for a lot if people.

Hence spectrum....

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Absolutely Straight, never been attracted to a bloke"

Would you rule it out entirely or is there part of you that thinks "yet"?

I'm just curious either way.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Straight ish "

Very definition of "spectrum" that is

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Sexually bisexual, I enjoy sex with both sexes, however I've only ever and can only see myself in a relationship with a man.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I’ve pretty much travelled up and down the scale my whole life.

When I first joined here, I was so horrified that bi women were little more than performing seals that I was fab straight for years. I now see doesn’t have to be the case.

It turns out the closest explanation for me is Pansexual. The more I find out about it the more I think yep. That’s me. It’s a lot of fun actually.

I'm all about the D HOWEVER I am leaning towards wanting to play with a lady, nothing in return, I just want to touch. I fully appreciate women and the female form turns me on more than men odly for a straight person. In short I want to play with women but I only want a man to play witb me I'm all confusselled "

I get that. I spent a long time confoosed myself. I'm very much *shrug* these days. And go with the flow.

Why do you think you wouldn't want a woman to play with you? Or do you think that might change in a situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting point: in the UK more than 50% of under 25s don't see themselves as totally straight and cis.

The world is becoming very gay and I'm here for it

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I would say straight, I’m always open to playing with another woman in a 3 way scenario but I’m yet to find someone that appeals, I’m sure it will happen one day but my focus is on men"

Would you not say you're curious rather than straight then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight.

I do find the female form very attractive, but want only cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Straight.

I do find the female form very attractive, but want only cock."

Why not both lol

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Ah I was talking about spectrums (autism and neurodivergence, sexuality) with a friend the other day. She described it as not being quite linear, more like a circle. It's hard to explain without her rubbish drawing to go with it.

Anyway, I'm demi, panromantic and sexual. Right now I'd say I'm leaning more towards men in terms of romantic connections but that fluctuates; I was a lesbian before I became pansexual. So yes, it kind of changes. Like me I guess. I find that I agree with and recognise a lot of myself in Lacey's words above.

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By *illy_WxmMan
over a year ago

wrexham


"Absolutely Straight, never been attracted to a bloke

Would you rule it out entirely or is there part of you that thinks "yet"?

I'm just curious either way."

I’d rule it out completely to be honest. I like all different types of Ladies, Don’t have a type as such. I’m just not attracted to men or cocks at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight. I can appreciate the male form, and find a chap handsome but not in a way that I want to engage in sexual acts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Straight.

I do find the female form very attractive, but want only cock.

Why not both lol"

As tempting as your arse is, I don’t have much interest in pussy

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I’ll never marry a man or be his ‘girlfriend’ for a long term relationship. However I do fantasise about the sexual element of that weekend away.

As a man I’m attracted to women but occasionally do find a feminine younger guy attractive. As a TV it’s mainly men I want to attract and have fun with.

So 60/40 women over men.

I suspect when I get older and my drive starts to diminish, those levels will change.

"

I'm intrigued by "as a TV". Would you say that's when you're dressed (I have no clue if that's the right term here so apologies if not) only or other times as well?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Interesting point: in the UK more than 50% of under 25s don't see themselves as totally straight and cis.

The world is becoming very gay and I'm here for it "

I think the world was always very gay just more secretly so. I do enjoy the stories of military bosses demanding all the gays be kicked out only to change their mind upon realising just how many people they would lose.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Always have been and will continue to be 100% straight.

Never had any interest in other men or their appendages."

While not being attracted to men, can you happily appreciate their attractiveness on occasion?

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Like sex with either, guys more easier to arrange with"

That's handy then!

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By *ld guy69Man
over a year ago

nottingham

Not sure anyone is ever 100% anything. And that’s good. Even guys that insist are 100% straight still enjoy playing with a cock.

I’ve 4 kids…all adults now. 2 in ‘normal’ relationships, 1 bi and 1 gay. Love them all equally.

Do what feels good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting point: in the UK more than 50% of under 25s don't see themselves as totally straight and cis.

The world is becoming very gay and I'm here for it

I think the world was always very gay just more secretly so. I do enjoy the stories of military bosses demanding all the gays be kicked out only to change their mind upon realising just how many people they would lose. "

Totally!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I have never believed in purely gay or straight, mostly because I don’t believe in putting labels on people. I have always said you fall in love with the person rather than the gender, although you’re normally going to have a preference.

I think the multi labelling is odd given the LGBT+ community has always fought against labelling.

I understand people wanting to know what they are sort of, but when it all comes down to the bone, people are simply attracted to who they are attracted to

I consider myself predominantly straight, but I have played with women before to answer your original question, but I do love cock too much to be much else.

"

I completely agree. So to use my example..... you'd be somewhere not at the end of the spectrum then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm probably 70/30 in favour of men. I love both, but my raw urges are more often for a man to dominate and use me. Xx

Would a woman dominating and using you not appeal in the same way?"

No, I'm more dominant with women and sub with men.

I always check out both though xx

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Interesting point: in the UK more than 50% of under 25s don't see themselves as totally straight and cis.

The world is becoming very gay and I'm here for it

I think the world was always very gay just more secretly so. I do enjoy the stories of military bosses demanding all the gays be kicked out only to change their mind upon realising just how many people they would lose. "

I've always loved that tale

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By *he Cram-BetweensCouple
over a year ago

A Club or Your Bedroom!

Mr is bang on in the middle, sexually and romantically is into all sexes equally. Mrs sways much nearer to the straight end of the spectrum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Straight.

I do find the female form very attractive, but want only cock.

Why not both lol

As tempting as your arse is, I don’t have much interest in pussy "

That was the joke haha I don't really have one yet

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Non anal bi"

I don't think you've got to have anal to be gay.

The thing that prompted my musing was a conversation with a friend in which he made that point, along with the point that you can be bisexual without ever acting on a same sex attraction. Which, embarrassingly I'd never thought about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Straight.

I do find the female form very attractive, but want only cock.

Why not both lol

As tempting as your arse is, I don’t have much interest in pussy

That was the joke haha I don't really have one yet"

Aah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bisexual. Fully bisexual.

I love and appreciate both male and female bodies X

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Heterosexual commonly used by those whom know who understand what they are...no confusion"

I'm a little confused.

Are you saying that anyone not saying they're heterosexual is confused?

Or that you're heterosexual and not confused?

Or a myriad of other things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting point: in the UK more than 50% of under 25s don't see themselves as totally straight and cis.

The world is becoming very gay and I'm here for it

I think the world was always very gay just more secretly so. I do enjoy the stories of military bosses demanding all the gays be kicked out only to change their mind upon realising just how many people they would lose. "

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I would say I'm bi playful

I can see attractiveness in women but I've never looked at a woman and wanted to rip their clothes off the way I have with a man

That said i enjoy having sex with women & I think if people were naked 24/7 I'd be drawn to women more

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby


"I see myself as straight but if I was with a couple and the guy started to play with me or suck me I wouldn’t mind

This is kind of what I mean about a scale..... I'd imagine you're not firmly at the one end."

No I’m not. Absolutely love all ladies, regardless of shape or size, think everyone has a part of them that I’m attracted to, but I was with a couple once and he started to get intimate with my nether regions and it was a big turn on.

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By *amaraBeaverbankWoman
over a year ago

Benidorm Spain


"

I completely agree. So to use my example..... you'd be somewhere not at the end of the spectrum then"

Exactly. I think most people will find it to be the case really x

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I've always said I'm bi-playful. I can certainly appreciate the aesthetic beauty of the female form, but I've never looked at a woman and got fanny flutters. Although in the right circumstances I have enjoyed pleasure of a carnal nature with ladies.

So I guess that makes me almost all the way over to the straight end of the scale.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"It's complicated so here's a bunch of labels that give a rough picture. I await the meltdowns about labels, woke culture, millenials, etc.

*deep breath*

Fluctuating

Aceflux

Demisexual

Homoflexible in terms of physical attraction

Biromantic but leaning more towards men - maybe 80/20

No meltdown here..... you know I'm no fan of labels but that's for me. Anyone who wants to pop one or more on themselves should rock on.

And I love the fact that you don't pigeon hole yourself into one, you use a range. Because it stops the label being as restrictive (if that makes sense).

I do object to the word "woke". But that's because I'm old

Oh Posh, I didn't mean from you! I hadn't even read the other comments or seen any of the comments about labels. It's just something I often experience whenever I use any sexuality label outside of straight, gay or bisexual. It seems to be an issue that only ever comes up regarding sexualities outside of these or genders outside of man and woman.

Personally I like labels. I spent a lot of my teens very confused and feeling abnormal. Not only has learning new labels helped me to understand myself better but it's been comforting to know there's enough people who feel the same that there's a name for us.

I think often the problem isn't the label but people's black and white views. I use the label of woman. That will lead to a lot of assumptions about me but really it doesn't actually tell you a great deal. It's always going to be a combination of labels that helps to paint a picture. "

I wasn't taking it personally Lacey, don't worry

I completely agree a combination of labels helps, due to the black and white nature of people's thinking and in fact the black and white nature of a label.

I do understand entirely when people (yourself included) like a label. It can definitely engender a feeling of belonging and of not being "odd" and that's wonderful. That's why I'd never say labels are bad, purely that I object to them for me.

I don't have enough knowledge about labels really to be able to put enough on myself to give a rounded idea. I've got some googling to do to understand better two of the terms you've used for example.

I think the best way to understanding (ourselves and others) is conversation and curiosity. Without it the world is too black and white. And segregation isn't a good thing most of the time.

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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

Fearlessly and unashamedly polysexual. I have a very strong attraction to androgyny, whether that be a man or a woman.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Find men and women attractive including transgender. Would be sexual with either, or a relationship with either, if I wasn't already in one.

Not sure what the label is for that.

PW "

I'd say you're pretty close to the middle of the spectrum I described then. Sexually and romantically.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I'd say I'm at a different point on the spectrum depending on the situation.

I've been in a threesome with a MF couple and definitely fancied her and not him, but still get turned on watching his hard cock sliding into her.

In that situation I'd happily suck him off, but I wouldn't want to kiss him and I wouldn't want to hold his hand under a moonlight sky.

I can see if a guy is good looking or not, but I'm not physically attracted to men, whereas I'm attracted to women, who on the whole are generally quite gorgeous!!

So in summary, cock fun yes, kissing and romance with owner of said cock, no.

Where does that place me on any scale???

Gbat

"

I've no idea really..... that's why I'm curious to see where people would put themselves, or what their feelings are about their sexuality, as you've so eloquently described!

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"I would say straight, I’m always open to playing with another woman in a 3 way scenario but I’m yet to find someone that appeals, I’m sure it will happen one day but my focus is on men

Would you not say you're curious rather than straight then?"

I used to have curious on my profile but changed it as women would message me for a 1:1, which is very flattering but I’ve only thought of it in a group scenario so it didn’t appeal

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"i catagorise myself as ardvark"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's complicated so here's a bunch of labels that give a rough picture. I await the meltdowns about labels, woke culture, millenials, etc.

*deep breath*

Fluctuating

Aceflux

Demisexual

Homoflexible in terms of physical attraction

Biromantic but leaning more towards men - maybe 80/20

No meltdown here..... you know I'm no fan of labels but that's for me. Anyone who wants to pop one or more on themselves should rock on.

And I love the fact that you don't pigeon hole yourself into one, you use a range. Because it stops the label being as restrictive (if that makes sense).

I do object to the word "woke". But that's because I'm old

Oh Posh, I didn't mean from you! I hadn't even read the other comments or seen any of the comments about labels. It's just something I often experience whenever I use any sexuality label outside of straight, gay or bisexual. It seems to be an issue that only ever comes up regarding sexualities outside of these or genders outside of man and woman.

Personally I like labels. I spent a lot of my teens very confused and feeling abnormal. Not only has learning new labels helped me to understand myself better but it's been comforting to know there's enough people who feel the same that there's a name for us.

I think often the problem isn't the label but people's black and white views. I use the label of woman. That will lead to a lot of assumptions about me but really it doesn't actually tell you a great deal. It's always going to be a combination of labels that helps to paint a picture.

I wasn't taking it personally Lacey, don't worry

I completely agree a combination of labels helps, due to the black and white nature of people's thinking and in fact the black and white nature of a label.

I do understand entirely when people (yourself included) like a label. It can definitely engender a feeling of belonging and of not being "odd" and that's wonderful. That's why I'd never say labels are bad, purely that I object to them for me.

I don't have enough knowledge about labels really to be able to put enough on myself to give a rounded idea. I've got some googling to do to understand better two of the terms you've used for example.

I think the best way to understanding (ourselves and others) is conversation and curiosity. Without it the world is too black and white. And segregation isn't a good thing most of the time."

I find that the other good thing to them is that they serve to reclaim space. That is, what has been considered "normal" so far (straight, cis) is assumed to color the overwhelming majority of the people. Adopting another label for yourself is an active act of coloring yourself differently, and it feels like reclaiming your space in the world. At least to me

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Im bi and happy to be so"

That's the best way. Happy with yourself!

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Very bi, love cock and pussy, and boobs. However, would not go as far as having a same sex relationship. "

I find the terminology of "go so far" interesting. Would that be your own limit, or would you say it is coloured by society?

Or was it just the way you phrased it and I'm overthinking it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go through fazes of only seeing females to only seeing guys to only seeing couples....so i gather that i am a bit of a liqourice allsorts...and thats how i love it...

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"More of a lesbian than bi I suppose, 80:20 into women:men."

Would that be sexually and romantically?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100 percent straight .

I just don't find males in the least bit attractive . Far too many beautiful women out there to worry about men lol

Also I couldnt stand being rejected by men as well as women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's complicated so here's a bunch of labels that give a rough picture. I await the meltdowns about labels, woke culture, millenials, etc.

*deep breath*

Fluctuating

Aceflux

Demisexual

Homoflexible in terms of physical attraction

Biromantic but leaning more towards men - maybe 80/20"

No judgement here. You are who you are and it is what is it is. As long as you are happy and content that's all that matters. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More of a lesbian than bi I suppose, 80:20 into women:men.

Would that be sexually and romantically?"

I think both, I like women more often both sexually and romantically. Although one thing I like in men romantically is the sense of security I get. Daddy issues I suppose?

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I would say 90% straight. I've only ever had or wanted relationships with men.

But since starting on fab I have played with a few women when we've met couples and I have enjoyed it. I think perhaps the more I do it and get used to it the more I can relax and just enjoy it even more. But it has to be the right situation. I can't just do it like a performing monkey.

I can appreciate a beautiful woman, but I don't get the same lust as I can with a gorgeous man. It's more a situational thing for me. If there's a naked playful woman in front of me I might want to kiss and touch "

I think that's quite usual for a lot of us to be honest.

I always wonder if women are encouraged to be able to appreciate each other's form and beauty more than men are these days as much as when I was younger, or if it's more socially acceptable for guys to do so now.

Also.... interesting

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Not really sure. I’m definitely a female. I am romantically attracted to men and prefer to have sexual play with men but I am open to sexual play with females.

No labels needed, if you are comfortable with how you identify (m/f/trans/whatever makes you happy) and we have some chemistry I am more than happy to get coffee and maybe play if I was looking for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say 90% straight. I've only ever had or wanted relationships with men.

But since starting on fab I have played with a few women when we've met couples and I have enjoyed it. I think perhaps the more I do it and get used to it the more I can relax and just enjoy it even more. But it has to be the right situation. I can't just do it like a performing monkey.

I can appreciate a beautiful woman, but I don't get the same lust as I can with a gorgeous man. It's more a situational thing for me. If there's a naked playful woman in front of me I might want to kiss and touch

I think that's quite usual for a lot of us to be honest.

I always wonder if women are encouraged to be able to appreciate each other's form and beauty more than men are these days as much as when I was younger, or if it's more socially acceptable for guys to do so now.

Also.... interesting "

I think the internalised homophobia that is part of toxic masculinity still has a massive effect on men.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)


"100 percent straight .

I just don't find males in the least bit attractive . Far too many beautiful women out there to worry about men lol

Also I couldnt stand being rejected by men as well as women "

Serious question though. If you watch porn, do you only watch porn with women in it or do you watch porn with men in it too? (Couples, groups, gangbangs). I'm not questioning whether you fancy the guy (You've clearly said you don't) but I wonder if you get turned on by watching a guy fuck a woman?

Not judging, just curious.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"100 percent straight .

I just don't find males in the least bit attractive . Far too many beautiful women out there to worry about men lol

Also I couldnt stand being rejected by men as well as women

Serious question though. If you watch porn, do you only watch porn with women in it or do you watch porn with men in it too? (Couples, groups, gangbangs). I'm not questioning whether you fancy the guy (You've clearly said you don't) but I wonder if you get turned on by watching a guy fuck a woman?

Not judging, just curious.

Gbat "

I class myself as 100% straight but lesbian porn doesn’t really do it for me. Women kissing and touching each other does but anything more and I lose interest.

I don’t think I watch straight porn to look at the man but it’s more to imagine myself in that situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Straight.

I do find the female form very attractive, but want only cock."

Girl same!

I’d say 99.9% straight and am only turned on and aroused by men

But I appreciate and admire women a lot but there’s no sexual arousal at all

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

I think it was Lacey who said something about labels being useful to understand your own feelings and situation which I think is 100% correct. Find whatever terms work for you to give you confidence to be yourself.

I personally just don’t see a need for labels to be used outside of your own relationship with yourself because sometimes the pressure of people trying to pigeonhole you into a certain box can be detrimental to your own thoughts.

I’d rather someone be comfortable and confident in themselves and be happy than be anguished about what they should identify as to the outside world.

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By *exymarvelMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Definitely bi but completely straight acting and happy to play with straight couples within their boundaries

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By *as4121Man
over a year ago

dartford

Rarely (if ever) has a guy caught my eye in the street etc yet women often do, however sexually I do enjoy being with guys and if I'm honest often feel more comfortable (sexually) with them rather than women - love womens company and just never feel as confident.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I'm not sure exactly.

I find men attractive, no problems appreciating their looks and bodies. Can't say I want to do much more than that though.

At a push I'd say bi curious.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)


"

I don’t think I watch straight porn to look at the man but it’s more to imagine myself in that situation."

Interesting, thanks for commenting.

But this is the point I am trying to get deeper into.

If the man wasn't in the scene, you could still imagine yourself there, in the situation. But because the man is in the scene, it seems better for you and that's why you watch that genre.

Again, I'm not suggesting you fancy the guy or want to have sex with them, but their presence there in the film adds to your sexual enjoyment of it. Couldn't that be considered just a part of 1%??

Gbat

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"It's complicated so here's a bunch of labels that give a rough picture. I await the meltdowns about labels, woke culture, millenials, etc.

*deep breath*

Fluctuating

Aceflux

Demisexual

Homoflexible in terms of physical attraction

Biromantic but leaning more towards men - maybe 80/20

No meltdown here..... you know I'm no fan of labels but that's for me. Anyone who wants to pop one or more on themselves should rock on.

And I love the fact that you don't pigeon hole yourself into one, you use a range. Because it stops the label being as restrictive (if that makes sense).

I do object to the word "woke". But that's because I'm old

Oh Posh, I didn't mean from you! I hadn't even read the other comments or seen any of the comments about labels. It's just something I often experience whenever I use any sexuality label outside of straight, gay or bisexual. It seems to be an issue that only ever comes up regarding sexualities outside of these or genders outside of man and woman.

Personally I like labels. I spent a lot of my teens very confused and feeling abnormal. Not only has learning new labels helped me to understand myself better but it's been comforting to know there's enough people who feel the same that there's a name for us.

I think often the problem isn't the label but people's black and white views. I use the label of woman. That will lead to a lot of assumptions about me but really it doesn't actually tell you a great deal. It's always going to be a combination of labels that helps to paint a picture.

I wasn't taking it personally Lacey, don't worry

I completely agree a combination of labels helps, due to the black and white nature of people's thinking and in fact the black and white nature of a label.

I do understand entirely when people (yourself included) like a label. It can definitely engender a feeling of belonging and of not being "odd" and that's wonderful. That's why I'd never say labels are bad, purely that I object to them for me.

I don't have enough knowledge about labels really to be able to put enough on myself to give a rounded idea. I've got some googling to do to understand better two of the terms you've used for example.

I think the best way to understanding (ourselves and others) is conversation and curiosity. Without it the world is too black and white. And segregation isn't a good thing most of the time."

Phew!

I totally agree with that. When it comes to yourself you get the final say. It's the people who dismiss less commonly known sexualities and genders completely under the guise of "why do we need to label everything" while happily labelling themselves with commonly known sexualities and genders that upset me mostly. Though it is also upsetting when those who reject labels for themselves feel the need to impose that onto others too.

It's not something I think is necessary but there are often times in my life it is useful to be able to express my sexuality at least roughly in words. There's also the fact that people at least mostly understand how strictly heterosexual and strictly homosexual people work. People often don't understand how I do. Even I didn't for a long time. People I'm involved with or date can get upset because my attraction doesn't work in typical or even predictable ways. Having an identity helps me to find resources that help me both to understand myself and to help others understand too. Finding the terms I related to helped me to find communities of others like me which meant there were people I could ask for advice about certain feelings or related issues. No not every who uses a particular label is the same but we have enough commonality and there will be people in a group of us who feel similar. I guess it's like with swinging. Not all swingers are the same but if you thought you might be a swinger or had questions about singing related issues, you would probably get a better answer by finding this place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I don’t think I watch straight porn to look at the man but it’s more to imagine myself in that situation.

Interesting, thanks for commenting.

But this is the point I am trying to get deeper into.

If the man wasn't in the scene, you could still imagine yourself there, in the situation. But because the man is in the scene, it seems better for you and that's why you watch that genre.

Again, I'm not suggesting you fancy the guy or want to have sex with them, but their presence there in the film adds to your sexual enjoyment of it. Couldn't that be considered just a part of 1%??

Gbat

"

That seems a tenuous link

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"MrW&W is very straight well as far as I aware lol.

I'm 85/15 , I'd say I'm bi curious as I don't do certain things with ladies and wouldn't meet a lady on my own but have quite happily played with a lady why he has left the room. Always had a thing for busty curvy ladies and just love boobs !!!! "

Boobs are awesome, that's why!

If Mr were to "admit" (clumsy word but it is what I've got) to less than 100% what do you think your reaction might be. I'm guessing surprise would be one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight - ish.

I'd only ever want a relationship with a guy.

But in a threesome situation, I'd go bi for a few hours.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"It's not something I think is necessary but there are often times in my life it is useful to be able to express my sexuality at least roughly in words. There's also the fact that people at least mostly understand how strictly heterosexual and strictly homosexual people work. People often don't understand how I do. Even I didn't for a long time. People I'm involved with or date can get upset because my attraction doesn't work in typical or even predictable ways. Having an identity helps me to find resources that help me both to understand myself and to help others understand too. Finding the terms I related to helped me to find communities of others like me which meant there were people I could ask for advice about certain feelings or related issues. No not every who uses a particular label is the same but we have enough commonality and there will be people in a group of us who feel similar. I guess it's like with swinging. Not all swingers are the same but if you thought you might be a swinger or had questions about singing related issues, you would probably get a better answer by finding this place. "

Labels are just that, a quick reference guide. Very few people will fit in to a single label exactly at its most extreme form.

They overlap and at times appear to contradict.

I tend to be closer to demisexual, I don't require a hard defined romantic connection like quick Google searches will return saying. But I do need a connection that is more than just physical, and more than "we get on well".

Sometimes that connection will form quickly, or sometimes it will take a while. But it is required for me, physical attraction is just as important too.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)


"That seems a tenuous link "

That's why it had the question mark at the end of it.

What's your answer to the original question?

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am hetero flexible. I can and do enjoy oral with men but I am emotionally and romantically attracted to women. I also find women far far sexy beautiful whereas with men it’s just about the cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel I sit amongst a fair amount of guys tbh….

I consider myself as straight but I prefer having sex with men. Although there’s no emotional or physical attraction there realistically, it’s the sex I prefer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am hetero flexible. I can and do enjoy oral with men but I am emotionally and romantically attracted to women. I also find women far far sexy beautiful whereas with men it’s just about the cock. "

It is the best fit label for me but we all have issues with labels as I have read in the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m Pansexual. Always have been, even before I transitioned. I’m attracted to a person , it’s not relevant what they have between their legs. It’s all about attraction

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"100 percent straight .

I just don't find males in the least bit attractive . Far too many beautiful women out there to worry about men lol

Also I couldnt stand being rejected by men as well as women

Serious question though. If you watch porn, do you only watch porn with women in it or do you watch porn with men in it too? (Couples, groups, gangbangs). I'm not questioning whether you fancy the guy (You've clearly said you don't) but I wonder if you get turned on by watching a guy fuck a woman?

Not judging, just curious.

Gbat "

This is an interesting question.

Carnal desires are just as fluid as sexuality, I'd happily watch a man fucking a woman and be aroused. But imagining me fucking that woman as him doesn't arouse me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That seems a tenuous link

That's why it had the question mark at the end of it.

What's your answer to the original question?

Gbat

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I'm straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like being with men. Feels naughty and sexy. Love the company of females.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Definitely bisexual. My female cousin taught me how to kiss when I was mid teens, I didn't think it was wrong at the time. Not sure how I'd feel if that happened to my daughter. I didn't know any different at the time, I'm not sure if that is what set the spark for me.

I had a fanny flutter over a woman I saw walking past me on the beach on my honeymoon! She was mixed race, very tall and slender, walked with such sass and confidence I remember not being able to take my eyes off her.

I did go through a phase of thinking I was a lesbian after a few disappointments with men.

Still love cock though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am gay but have bicurious phases and cycles for women, currently not in one. I have no problem with my sexuality I am nit deluded, life is too short, I accept it

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"I'm curious (nosey) how people see themselves.

I see sexuality as a broad spectrum. At the one end, people absolutely "straight". No sexual attraction to someone of the same sex. A man/woman who has never looked at another man/woman and thought "hmmm.... I feel a funny tingle". The other, people absolutely "gay", someone who has never looked at a member of the opposite sex and thought "oooh.... I want to touch".

(Other thoughts are likely, they were just what came into my head)

And in between those two ends..... everyone else.

So my question is, where do you think you sit most of the time?

"

I don’t really make any attempt to pigeonhole myself. I fancy some people, I don’t fancy others.

I don’t fancy all women, but I fancy a lot of them.

I don’t get aroused at the sight of men, but I have had some great sexual experiences with me, due to good technique.

And I find some t-girls very attractive and have had some mindblowing experiences with t-girls.

Not sure what that makes me, nor do I care what label anyone wants to put on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I don’t think I watch straight porn to look at the man but it’s more to imagine myself in that situation.

Interesting, thanks for commenting.

But this is the point I am trying to get deeper into.

If the man wasn't in the scene, you could still imagine yourself there, in the situation. But because the man is in the scene, it seems better for you and that's why you watch that genre.

Again, I'm not suggesting you fancy the guy or want to have sex with them, but their presence there in the film adds to your sexual enjoyment of it. Couldn't that be considered just a part of 1%??

Gbat

"

I’m imagining I’m replacing the man in the scene so without him there it would just be solo porn which I would enjoy but for different reasons.

I’m comfortable around naked men. I kind of have to be for our dynamic to work. I’ve never once thought about touching the other man sexually other than the unavoidable. If that’s 1% then so be it.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Heterosexual commonly used by those whom know who understand what they are...no confusion

Few people are confused as to what they are, the confusion arises from labels that don't reflect reality and don't fit the person's nuanced sexuality.

But I don't think everyone will be able to understand that point as they don't all have such a nuanced sexuality and just can't see it.

Gbat"

I understand and when people say labels it's only those whom are unable to accept reality use the term labels we all have these if wanted to be branded as one but it's about acceptance and respecting each others values then it's not a label

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Bi-sexual not bi-curious - in that I find both sexes attractive, bi curiosity to me is someone who likes the idea of being with someone of the same sex and bi sexual is someone who has acted upon that curiosity.

That said I enjoy woman solely on a sexual basis - I wouldn’t embark on a relationship with a female but I would with a man so I’d say I’m more 70/30 in favour of the cock!

Xx

Exactly this for me too. To the word! "

I love it when someone takes the words out of my brain....

Where's Lily I wonder.... she's likely got my own answer

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Sexually bisexual, I enjoy sex with both sexes, however I've only ever and can only see myself in a relationship with a man."

Why do you think that is? You know me.... endlessly curious

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Straight.

I do find the female form very attractive, but want only cock."

The cock is rather delicious, isn't it.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

labels, schmables!

We are who and what we are, no need to give it a name!!!

It's about more than what body part goes where, on who, for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d define myself as straight, have no attraction to the same sex. No intentions to engage with males.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Straight.

I do find the female form very attractive, but want only cock.

The cock is rather delicious, isn't it."

I like cocks but I also lust after male bodies. I can admire the form of a female body but so far I haven't really thought - I must have them! But hope I'm open enough that if that happened, I'd go with it. I'm mainly put off MFF etc because of ridiculous insecurity.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Ah I was talking about spectrums (autism and neurodivergence, sexuality) with a friend the other day. She described it as not being quite linear, more like a circle. It's hard to explain without her rubbish drawing to go with it.

Anyway, I'm demi, panromantic and sexual. Right now I'd say I'm leaning more towards men in terms of romantic connections but that fluctuates; I was a lesbian before I became pansexual. So yes, it kind of changes. Like me I guess. I find that I agree with and recognise a lot of myself in Lacey's words above. "

That's something that I think many people find. As we grow, learn and experience new things, so we change. Makes sense that our desires might as well.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

.

Bisexual.

Love men, love dick, love women, love boobs (amongst other things)

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Goodness knows, think it's pretty fluid with me, I'm neither 100 in either direction. But probably can float around from end of the scale to the other.

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over a year ago


"Bisexual.

Love men, love dick, love women, love boobs (amongst other things) "

I would love to be fully and truly bisexual like that, double the choice, you are lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pansexual.

I like em all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am bi and I most definitely get a twitch when I see an attractive male"

Bi too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me - straight, no interest in the same sex at all.

Lexi - bisexual, keen on men, women.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Just straight

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Me- Straighter than a Roman Road, but not homophobic either, and quite comfortable naked in front of other guys at gang bangs or group scenarios, whatever their inclinations are.

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By *otSoPosh OP   Woman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Thank you everyone for joining in with my musing..... it has been interesting for me to see how others see themselves, how people define their own sexuality and the way in which that sometimes changes with time and experiences.

Definitely, for me anyway, food for thought here. And googling in my near future.

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