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Do you overthink or underthink

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By *usman 199 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Morning everybody. I overthink simple things .

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By *enm83Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Join the club

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Overthink. But I'm not sure it's actually overthinking, more I give my thoughts due consideration, explore various avenues with them and allow myself proper time to process and feel how I feel about things. Sometimes it can admittedly lead to me getting things wrong because my self-directed negative bias comes out but I'm working on that.

Tl;dr A clear example of an overthinker at work.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

A definite overthinker.

I’ll leave it there I could go on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how I'm feeling. I tend to overthink when I'm not in a good place. Otherwise, I've learnt to not stress over the things I can't control, that has helped a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I overthink about overthinking

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By *opilotMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

I've never really thought about it

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

Overthink pretty much everything

MJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could probably benefit from thinking occasionally, be it over or under.

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London


"Depends how I'm feeling. I tend to overthink when I'm not in a good place. Otherwise, I've learnt to not stress over the things I can't control, that has helped a lot."

Yes, im the same, depends on where im at mentally, but can super overthink things, in a negative way when im not doing good. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m an overthinker

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

I under think when I speak and then over think after I’ve said it

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By *oonshadowWoman
over a year ago

COVENTRY

Both, I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I think I don't even think at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completly and utterly over think about everything.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

I think I think about things hardly worth thinking about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overthink, it’s a massive head fuck at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overthink, and it can be a nightmare

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

Over-thinker here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over think 100%

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think I’m ok,,I consult well on big decisions then just decide fast, small decisions I use something called satisficing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over ... constantly ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm superficial and shallow; I don't think.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Depends upon the subject of the thoughts.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I think when I need to, logically, make a decision and stick with it.

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By *ornyindian33Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Definitely an overthinker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overthink yet under prepare

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I’m actually a under thinker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OVER OVER OVER thinker

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Always the overthink here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ermmmmmmmm, yeah, maybe. I dunno really. I think sometimes I do but then other times maybe not so much. But then do I? I can't decide. What if I say yes I do but then I make some rash decisions today? Would that make me a liar? Then would that mean my life is totally fake? How can I lie about this but then expect people to trust me about other things? I would feel horrible. I'm worried about commiting to an answer then not being able to follow through.

I'm doubting myself and whether I'm a good person or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely over think everything look on the black side of everything also, if things turn out good then it's bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an overthinker. It takes the joy out of things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely over think everything look on the black side of everything also, if things turn out good then it's bonus "

Pessimists are never disappointed

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I underthink sometimes, normal think most of the time and if I'm feeling a bit low overthink.

I am absolutely terrible about thinking "have I locked the front door?" though and always check that the gas hob is off and the front door is locked as I leave the house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mind is in a co start state of overthinking lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh and the back door is locked. don't forget that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I massively overthink but taking steps to get it under control

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

ilkley

Anyone that has read one of my essay length posts to the forums will know that I definitely overthink matters.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Meditation and other practices bring my overthinking under control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overthink I still got thinks rattling around in my head 11 years later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have given proper thought about changing our profile name to Kinky & Overthinky

I bet you can guess why I didn’t change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely overthink things. Sometimes it's a good outcome and other times it causes anxiety

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport


"Morning everybody. I overthink simple things . "

Why is he telling us that? He needs to talk, he needs help. Or is this ruse to gauge others personality types? I'd best not answer...

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By *lice MaliceWoman
over a year ago

The Facility

My demons ensure that I constantly overthink things that I have entirely no control over and consequently don't matter but underthink those that do, the rotters

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Critical thinking.

Not the kind that thinks they are because they believe conspiracy theories, or follows what a Facebook post says.

Actually thinking, analysing and observing things from a distance regardless of view. Looking at things from within, and from outside,in the box and out of the box. Sometimes to the point of over thinking yes.

Then I settle of where I feel my opinion fits (or the facts prove true).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overthinker here...unfortunately

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I overthink far to many things and I'm always saying sorry to people thinking I've offended them when I probably haven't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to overthink a lot bit I don't bother so much now. I've trained my mind over time not to worry about things that are outwith my control x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overthink usually. Trying hard not to give a fuck anymore...

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Definitely overthink. I get myself in an anxious mess quite often. I have certain ‘control’ behaviours that sometimes get out of hand but I am at least aware of them and I am pushing my own boundaries and setting myself small challenges to help me get over that and not over think things to the nth degree. Work in progress and I’ll always overthink as opposed to underthink but a little bit is ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s standard human behaviour to overthink most situations, if it’s in the forefront of your mind then you’re going to overthink it.

The mr

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By *ussexualMan
over a year ago

Brighton

"Do I over think or under think"?

Yes to both unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turbocharged overthinker.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I overthink pretty much everything.

K

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

Massive over thinker, sometimes it can be detrimental and sometimes be quite advantageous.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I overthink things to a ridiculous extent! I spend far too much time worrying over stuff that never happens and planning for eventualities that don't occur.

It's not a good place to be.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

The world is so complex to me. So many factors to take into consideration, angles to view things from. And I stand by this in general, the world and humanity is complex. The problem is when you see the world like this and have the capacity to see many moves ahead it can be a real burden. Especially when you start over thinking the simpilist of things or situations. It can cause so much anxiety, effort and mental fog that doesn't need to be there. I don't want to change who I am but I do want to work on being able to be more care free and in the moment rather than being distracted over thinking sometimes. Unfortunately doing this will not be easy and I think I have a lot of self work to do.

Mr

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

Definitely an over thinker mrs m

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I think. Therefore I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to process stuff or I can't move forward..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I overthink everything

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