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What makes good/great sex?

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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I asked a male friend this question and his answer didn't surprise me...just wondered what others, male and female would say.

For me, what makes it good is the connection you have with that person. It isn't all about making someone orgasm/cum x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Compatibility, connection, chuckles and communication.

Have all four and the sex tends to be mindblowing (for me at least).

Coming isn't the be all and end all for sex, not by a long shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great sex comes in many different shapes and forms. All that matters though is that all parties get the enjoyment they seek from it, and everyone walks away satisfied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More knots

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By *unninglinguist69Man
over a year ago

Belfast

For me connection on a number of levels is key. You have that right and even talking to them gets you rilled up let alone touching.

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By *nked rascalMan
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Connection, variety, stepping outside your limits (even if it’s just a little)….and yes, the obvious - whatever turns you on!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Confidence, stamina and smiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compatibility, connection, chuckles and communication.

Have all four and the sex tends to be mindblowing (for me at least).

Coming isn't the be all and end all for sex, not by a long shot."

Perfectly worded. Exactly this for me

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By *unninglinguist69Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"Confidence, stamina and smiles."

Sounds perfect tbf.

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough


"Compatibility, connection, chuckles and communication.

Have all four and the sex tends to be mindblowing (for me at least).

Coming isn't the be all and end all for sex, not by a long shot."

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mind stimulation. Amongst the C's people have mentioned.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Sex with someone else in the room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being comfortable with someone and then I find deep kissing, gentle lip biting, eye contact

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Sharing and learning from others, gains you and them more experience, win win situation.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Kissing.

If the kissing is bad, at least in my experience, I know the sex isn’t going to be good. Applies to me as I know some people don’t kiss and that is ok too!

Of course, apart from all the connection, things in common etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whispering filthy unmentionable things into her ear when fucking her slowly.

Looking into her eyes and loudly telling her how naughty she is whist fucking her hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sucking on her toes in missionary position.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex after a prolonged tantric massage. Heightening her root chakra energies to her 2nd chakra. Brushing past her pussy with every stroke. Watching her grind her bum up and down into the massage table begging to be fucked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good kissing, playfulness, connection, laughs, losing your mind for a couple of minutes , sweetness during and especially afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cake after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cake after "

This

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By *atch0101Man
over a year ago

Here

Whoever I'm with I make sure she is enjoying it.

If she is having a great sexy time then I find that a turn on.

I dont want to fuck for just my benefit.

Sex is a two way thing

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

If sex was just about orgasming, I’d just stick with my sock!

The ability to have a laugh and not take everything seriously, especially when I get naked and do my sexy sexy dance is crucial.

A connection with mutual interests also helps ensure that what you get up to is mutually enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you both know exactly what turns each other on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you both know exactly what turns each other on. "

Definitely this

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By *aountyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Being in the moment and have no expectations (orgasm...). Just enjoying the time that we share with the other(s) and focusing on feelings both emotional and physical.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

The build-up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great sex comes with great responsibility Peter, it's not about Squirting your Web all over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Timing, tenderness and takeaways.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

When he can read my body like a book and acts accordingly to me

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"When he can read my body like a book and acts accordingly to me"

I'm more of a pamphlet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I asked a male friend this question and his answer didn't surprise me...just wondered what others, male and female would say.

For me, what makes it good is the connection you have with that person. It isn't all about making someone orgasm/cum x"

What did he say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection connection connection!!!!

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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I asked a male friend this question and his answer didn't surprise me...just wondered what others, male and female would say.

For me, what makes it good is the connection you have with that person. It isn't all about making someone orgasm/cum x

What did he say? "

He said connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When he can read my body like a book and acts accordingly to me"

Skips through all the waffle and goes straight to the ending?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Passion is a good start

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By *entleman_of_pleasureMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Many people will answer in terms of their own preferences, at their particular time in life. And that's fair enough, it's their life, their body.

But in my experience that limits you to pleasure only within those narrow parameters. And in my experience there is no one size fits all.

Different things, with different people, at different times, can lead to not just good sex, but intense, new and wonderfully rewarding sex,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the mr, it’s all about the connection you have with that person, the better the connection the better the sex as you learn each other’s bodies and how they react to the thing you’re doing, plus the more you fuck the more confident you are to say, I don’t like the way you do that but do it this way and it will be amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being at ease with yourself and the other person. No performing, just going all in and doing what feels good.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

A sense of humour which is often an ideal ice-breaker.

Kissing: the perfect invocation of tactility. Slow, sustained kisses peppered along the neckline, under and along the earlobes, the warm breath on the cheek as gentle as a sigh, the senses heightened by the merging of each other's cologne.

Sensual hands stroking around the derrière, eye contact and gazing into each other as you lose yourself in wild abandonment.

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Sorry, I'm getting carried away!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Being at ease with yourself and the other person. No performing, just going all in and doing what feels good. "

Taxi to Glasgow please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When u first meet in person and you look at them m and u have a little drink And if they simply smile right

And kiss good connection as I find if the man kissing wow always great sex play mmmmmmm

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

Sharing fun and joy

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

Connection and chemistry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I asked a male friend this question and his answer didn't surprise me...just wondered what others, male and female would say.

For me, what makes it good is the connection you have with that person. It isn't all about making someone orgasm/cum x"

Got it in one OP. Nothing else comes close if you don't have a connection

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

Doing what the other person enjoys/likes and being passionate throughout (and vice versa)

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By *urvy123babeWoman
over a year ago

cambridge

Chemistry!

And not performing and putting on a porn worthy act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it has to be a real connection mentally as well as physically!! Also good communication..

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By *parkle1974 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Which brings me to my other question.....

Can you still have that "connection" with a one night stand and if not.....

Does that mean the sex isn't good??

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By *orders CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Kelso


"More knots "

Whipings and lashings too?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

That feeling of being absolutely 100% done , heart pounding, unable to get enough air, legs like jelly and you both lie there laughing unable to move and all you can say is “fuck” a few times, and then , “again” ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which brings me to my other question.....

Can you still have that "connection" with a one night stand and if not.....

Does that mean the sex isn't good??"

Is it been in the moment and both of you want each other that bad classed as good sex? You know the one when your hands can't keep off each other and sparks fly with kissing and... better stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what is a 'connection'? Because I think I have a good connection with lots of people but I don't want sex with them.

Sounds a bit wishy washy, like an 'x-factor' or other such terms that don't really mean much.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I do!

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By *x Rock Chick xxWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what is a 'connection'? Because I think I have a good connection with lots of people but I don't want sex with them.

Sounds a bit wishy washy, like an 'x-factor' or other such terms that don't really mean much."

Electric chemistry, passion, sparks, undressing one another with your eyes, flutters between your legs, ripping one another’s clothes off before you get in through the front door, not being able to keep your hands off each other and explosive orgasms over and over again.

Horny AF now. Thanks guys!!

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By *ilentnoiseMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Being on the same wavelength both non-sexually and sexually, feeling comfortable and safe with each other, the sexual connection that is communicated through eye contact, being able to listen to each other's bodies and respond accordingly, when you feel like you could orgasm before any clothes come off. Kissing intimately is the best.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"So what is a 'connection'? Because I think I have a good connection with lots of people but I don't want sex with them.

Sounds a bit wishy washy, like an 'x-factor' or other such terms that don't really mean much."

Is it when thier sister in laws next door neighbour knows your ex wives brother from ‘back home’ ?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t think i really have an answer. It just is.

Or it’s not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it when thier sister in laws next door neighbour knows your ex wives brother from ‘back home’ ?"

In Devon that's a wedding

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

The right partner.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

A sparing partner on the same wavelength …..

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By *D of funCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

The right kiss

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Good kissing, soft touches and kisses in the right places. A good connection and bit of build up rather than just rushing into it

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Good kissing, soft touches and kisses in the right places. A good connection and bit of build up rather than just rushing into it"

And some handcuffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection, chemistry and the perfect kiss and eye contact!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A shared sense of humour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That 'feeling, that 'look' and of course the type of kiss that you get totally lost in.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden


"A sparing partner on the same wavelength ….. "

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Would that be FM or AM?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they're dead and can't run away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they're dead and can't run away "

I think that's frowned upon

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Chemistry - that magnetic force that sends every hair on your body into a frenzy from the slightest of touches to a vigorous fuck fest, that feeling of everything else being drowned out and just being lost in each other x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chemistry - that magnetic force that sends every hair on your body into a frenzy from the slightest of touches to a vigorous fuck fest, that feeling of everything else being drowned out and just being lost in each other x"

Sounds lush!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection, intimacy, communication

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"I asked a male friend this question and his answer didn't surprise me...just wondered what others, male and female would say.

For me, what makes it good is the connection you have with that person. It isn't all about making someone orgasm/cum x"

Connection, chemistry, laughs and banter.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"A sparing partner on the same wavelength …..

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Would that be FM or AM?"

Ha ha let’s discuss in London

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A firm grip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Natural chemistry, someone who can make you howl with laughter and cum like a trooper. Being fully comfortable to push boundaries, test limits and know how to make each other tick.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

has to be in the spark between the people concerned... sense of humour, maybe, feeling relaxed enough... open and honest communication... being sure it's right... and maybe just a little boundary pushing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A firm grip "

And some good lube

All this connection and chemistry talk is

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Warm hands help.

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By *ishemandonMan
over a year ago

keighley/ morecambe


"Sucking on her toes in missionary position. "
my lady friend loves this too and it makes me very hard , I don’t know what it is but it works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Warm hands help.

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Those are good too

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

A connection with relaxed fun company but when you get down to it, it all just flows naturally. No thinking about it, no awkwardness, no caring what positions you are ending up in, as you both just don’t care as lost in that moment and before you know it hours have past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex with someone else in the room. "

I usually find that it’s any that involves me, haha. A good connection helps too, so if I’m on my own, a mirror is great, as I can tell by the look I give me if I’ve clicked!

Otherwise him being there guarantees great sex, and some very lovely ladies too

Viv xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it’s the sexual tension

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Good kissing, soft touches and kisses in the right places. A good connection and bit of build up rather than just rushing into it

And some handcuffs "

Never gets old Nora

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

A connection and chemistry, and being relaxed. Also not taking it too seriously.

Passion, amazing kissing and everything else usually follows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication, connection and mutual satisfaction

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Blue underwear.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

The connection, kiss and sensual touch all need to be there for me.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Indoor fireworks, cheerleaders and bound hands waggling sparklers along to Steel Panther music

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally if I'm involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if both sides genuinely and equally fancy eachother, good and passionate sex will follow

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