FabSwingers.com forum: Too good to be true

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I have historically chosen the latter every time.

But..... I've got some of my closest and dearest friends from that as well, and there have even been people who are willing to put in the effort to make me see they want me (I'm such damn hard work) and it's been pretty amazing.

Still is in some ways

However..... you're right. We will always have coffee. And coffee is awesome. With a friend is even better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

I haven’t on here particularly (although I am talking to someone now) but I get what you’re saying!!

I took a risk and it ended up being a total disaster but I’ll tell you what the ride was thoroughly enjoyable while it lasted!!

I suppose it all depends on what you want from life at the moment!!

For me….I’d say jump right in and see where it goes (but I am a stranger on a swinging site lol)!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have historically chosen the latter every time.

Still is in some ways

However..... you're right. We will always have coffee. And coffee is awesome. With a friend is even better

I think I'm inclined to choose the coffee. It never lets me down!

Latte?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I have historically chosen the latter every time.

Still is in some ways

However..... you're right. We will always have coffee. And coffee is awesome. With a friend is even better

I think I'm inclined to choose the coffee. It never lets me down!

Latte?

Why yes please

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'd go with taking the risk - life is for living, carpe diem, yolo and other such sayings. There have been a couple of times when it hasn't worked out in the long term, we're not as compatible as we once were but I wouldn't change those. The good memories make it worthwhile.

And sometimes you meet someone who is the perfect key to your lock and it works effortlessly. Makes it all worthwhile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met someone on here before who I wish I'd met on a normal dating site, not sure if that's what you mean? And yeah it sucks when you meet on here if you can see it being more with that person, but the circumstances mean it probably won't be anything more than just a meet. Got to decide whether to carry on meeting them if you think you might get hurt in the long run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say find out what they looking for first and foremost

Then ones you do make up your mind if that’s for you

If it’s not walk away

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

Do you mean if you think they're too good to be true they'll inevitably let you down or you'll do something wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

I haven’t on here particularly (although I am talking to someone now) but I get what you’re saying!!

I took a risk and it ended up being a total disaster but I’ll tell you what the ride was thoroughly enjoyable while it lasted!!

I suppose it all depends on what you want from life at the moment!!

For me….I’d say jump right in and see where it goes (but I am a stranger on a swinging site lol)!!"

Ah if I knew what I wanted that would make things so much simpler!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd go with taking the risk - life is for living, carpe diem, yolo and other such sayings. There have been a couple of times when it hasn't worked out in the long term, we're not as compatible as we once were but I wouldn't change those. The good memories make it worthwhile.

And sometimes you meet someone who is the perfect key to your lock and it works effortlessly. Makes it all worthwhile.

That's sounds pretty perfect, the key to my lock! Unfortunately it's a pretty tight lock and I'm almost a 100% sure the key is well and truly lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

I haven’t on here particularly (although I am talking to someone now) but I get what you’re saying!!

I took a risk and it ended up being a total disaster but I’ll tell you what the ride was thoroughly enjoyable while it lasted!!

I suppose it all depends on what you want from life at the moment!!

For me….I’d say jump right in and see where it goes (but I am a stranger on a swinging site lol)!!

Ah if I knew what I wanted that would make things so much simpler!! "

Aahhh the human mind….it’s an absolute vortex that not even AI will ever be able to understand!!

I’m sure you’ll get there OP….and when you do I just hope that the ONE you’re after is either still there or appears right before your eyes x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

Do you mean if you think they're too good to be true they'll inevitably let you down or you'll do something wrong?

Yeah I guess, people say stuff just to get sex.

I am very aware of that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I have fucked up royally on a few occasions. Usually insecurity.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

I'd happily be your coffee

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I have fucked up royally on a few occasions. Usually insecurity.

I'm pretty sure I have fucked this up!

I'll stick to coffee and self pleasure I think!

Not together....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have and yes I put the fear of rejection aside and asked if she would like to meet. It turned out beautifully.

I still think she is way out of my league and I feel so lucky to be with her.

Life is all about risk and we should all take those chances 100%

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I think I've reached that time in my life where I don't want or need emotional turmoil and would rather ask a lady FAC (Fancy A Coffee) than FAF.

So, if any of you ladies FAC, drop me a line!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

Do you mean if you think they're too good to be true they'll inevitably let you down or you'll do something wrong?

Yeah I guess, people say stuff just to get sex.

I am very aware of that! "

yeah it's rife on here too. Sometimes they're genuine though , courage mon brave !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not from Fab messages, never. I meet in person ASAP. People lie to get sex or the chance of sex.

People tell me I'm amazing from seeing some heavily cropped pic of cleavage or some bullshit profile text.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Whats the worst that can happen. Go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've already got the coffee brewing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I have fucked up royally on a few occasions. Usually insecurity.

I'm pretty sure I have fucked this up!

I'll stick to coffee and self pleasure I think!

Not together....

Have you met them in person or "fucked" up via messages?

Text can be misconstrued. If you or they give up because of words on a screen it's no time wasted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have and yes I put the fear of rejection aside and asked if she would like to meet. It turned out beautifully.

I still think she is way out of my league and I feel so lucky to be with her.

Life is all about risk and we should all take those chances 100%"

But you two are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I have fucked up royally on a few occasions. Usually insecurity.

I'm pretty sure I have fucked this up!

I'll stick to coffee and self pleasure I think!

Not together....

Have you met them in person or "fucked" up via messages?

Text can be misconstrued. If you or they give up because of words on a screen it's no time wasted.

I do it by just been my usual self

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I've reached that time in my life where I don't want or need emotional turmoil and would rather ask a lady FAC (Fancy A Coffee) than FAF.

So, if any of you ladies FAC, drop me a line!

I'm using FAC from now on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've already got the coffee brewing

Yay, be right there

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

All I can say is if it feels good go for it and see what happens. After all variety is the spice of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I have fucked up royally on a few occasions. Usually insecurity.

I'm pretty sure I have fucked this up!

I'll stick to coffee and self pleasure I think!

Not together....

I don't drink coffee although I do have a coffee date this week. I'd be lying if I didn't hope for more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I have fucked up royally on a few occasions. Usually insecurity.

I'm pretty sure I have fucked this up!

I'll stick to coffee and self pleasure I think!

Not together....

Have you met them in person or "fucked" up via messages?

Text can be misconstrued. If you or they give up because of words on a screen it's no time wasted.

I like to spend ages chatting and then fuck it up for maximum time wastage plus no actual sex.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

ALL.THE.TIME.

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

I have in past times on fab.

But this time when came back it feels different and no one seems want to work at knowing people just quick meet sex go.

Maybe am still find right people yet but nice if click so can chat easily about music games and films ect

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By *ittlechick77Couple
over a year ago

Staines

Why would you not want to explore the situation he could be the one

You won't know unless you explore

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

My expectations when it comes to people on fab ( but also people in general) are so low that no one would be considered too good or not good enough. Meet me for a social, get to know me a bit, and if there's chemistry and compatibility we move from there.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I've always been very surprised thinking I've gone way above my belt but we do connect very good I don't see myself as anything special.never have so others see something that I don't but I am comfortable within myself and confident.doubt I would've lasted here as long as I have if wast and I love coffee could be the secret ingredients

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

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thank ffk for coffee,

I got that bad I grind my own now,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My expectations when it comes to people on fab ( but also people in general) are so low that no one would be considered too good or not good enough. Meet me for a social, get to know me a bit, and if there's chemistry and compatibility we move from there. "

But you have to like someone to even get to a social?

Plus, geographically, socials aren't always easy to arrange.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

In real life away from fab I've met someone who was everything I didn't even know i was looking for but we just click, everything is right, even the sex is amazing.

But he's got some issues he needs to work though and I'm done with him ghosting me when things get tough for him.

Its a shitty situation which I need to be done with as its not fair to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why would you not want to explore the situation he could be the one

You won't know unless you explore"

Im past thinking the one even exists. Just maybe the one for right now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

thank ffk for coffee,

I got that bad I grind my own now,

Extra strong please.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In real life away from fab I've met someone who was everything I didn't even know i was looking for but we just click, everything is right, even the sex is amazing.

But he's got some issues he needs to work though and I'm done with him ghosting me when things get tough for him.

Its a shitty situation which I need to be done with as its not fair to me

That could be my ex!! I hope it isn't....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found, the best approach for me, is to not expect or hope for anything more than a one time thing, one time of gloriousness..then if it was good maybe do it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found, the best approach for me, is to not expect or hope for anything more than a one time thing, one time of gloriousness..then if it was good maybe do it again

Ha…I like your style!!

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

"In real life away from fab I've met someone who was everything I didn't even know i was looking for but we just click, everything is right, even the sex is amazing.

But he's got some issues he needs to work though and I'm done with him ghosting me when things get tough for him.

Its a shitty situation which I need to be done with as its not fair to me

That could be my ex!! I hope it isn't....

hopefully not

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

thank ffk for coffee,

I got that bad I grind my own now,

Extra strong please."
yep 3 to 1, 3 being an Italian espresso base bean, the 1 being new world arty farty ones for flavour

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Nine times out of ten I get the too good to be true feeling but if you don't go along for the ride you would never know if it was going to lead anywhere. I have had more positive experiences than time wasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've already got the coffee brewing

Yay, be right there

Pop round I'll make sone scones

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've already got the coffee brewing

Yay, be right there

Pop round I'll make sone scones

Who needs men!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

There was a time I would have risked taking a chance.

These days I just can’t be arsed. What’s meant for me will come to me. Naturally. I have other things to focus on in the meantime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

I took the risk recently and got stood up and now ghosted…….

Mines a gingerbread latte please

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I take it as it comes. Expect nothing and everything/anything else is a bonus x

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

Have you met them, or is this just in phone calls or voice chats?

Its easier to believe that someone that seems perfect to us is never really going to be interested because we tend to be self deprecating.

The reality is you will miss every shot you never make, so take a chance and see where it ends up, you might surprise yourself.

Just make sure you understand what you may stand to lose if it does go pear shaped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmm coffee

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

I took the risk recently and got stood up and now ghosted…….

Mines a gingerbread latte please

Gingerbread latte, my fav!!!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

I don't think I'm cognisant enough to pick up on the "perfect" when I am messaging someone because messaging is devoid of any body language, tone and inflection. If I reach a certain level of 'piqued interest' and 'almost too good to be true' then I will take the plunge and suggest a coffee. Coffee is a great litmus test to see if everything (nearly everything?) aligns with that person.

Sometimes it's great to take a leap of faith and just go for it!

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By *ryingitout19Man
over a year ago

Wales

I’ve had the odd occasions where I’ve thought ‘if you were closer’ for sure…..but I don’t know if that’s more lust at that point rather than anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not here but in a similar environment.

Personally, I think it's worth going for it and seeing where it takes you. Just have your eyes open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably past the point of going gaga over someone before I spend a considerable amount of time with them in the real world

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm perfect...that's why ladies are intimidated

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Believe it, always take the risk and it will last for how long its supposed to last, some have lasted 2 weeks some 3 years, but I feel rich to have known and shared their lives for however long we merged

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you, I guess I rarely fall for anyone so it's a bit woah!!

Well I never do actually.

Now I'll just pray he never sees this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you, I guess I rarely fall for anyone so it's a bit woah!!

Well I never do actually.

Now I'll just pray he never sees this

Have you met him in person yet?

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

"Thank you, I guess I rarely fall for anyone so it's a bit woah!!

Well I never do actually.

Now I'll just pray he never sees this

Good luck it’s nice you found someone click with that’s my fab dream so it’s not just great sex but also chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s interesting you should ask this. I have noticed that Fab has made me incredibly complacent. I was more proactive when on the mainstream dating sites.

I was chatting until very recently with a lovely Fabber, who pretty much encompassed all I like in a bloke.

Even still, I let the chat fizzle out

I can’t figure out why. But for me, Fab and indifference seem to go hand-in-hand.

I definitely take it less seriously than other platforms. I’m not saying this is the right way to go about things. It’s just the effect it has on me. I do enjoy the forum though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. But I personally think there is no such thing as the perfect match so I don't believe one when it is presented as such.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't really find as a single male that I get many chats on here.

I guess either my profile isn't the best, or ladies get so many messages xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s interesting you should ask this. I have noticed that Fab has made me incredibly complacent. I was more proactive when on the mainstream dating sites.

I was chatting until very recently with a lovely Fabber, who pretty much encompassed all I like in a bloke.

Even still, I let the chat fizzle out

I can’t figure out why. But for me, Fab and indifference seem to go hand-in-hand.

I definitely take it less seriously than other platforms. I’m not saying this is the right way to go about things. It’s just the effect it has on me. I do enjoy the forum though."

This is what I generally do! I get talking and lose interest or just deliberately phase it out.

I generally never take this place too seriously

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think I'm cognisant enough to pick up on the "perfect" when I am messaging someone because messaging is devoid of any body language, tone and inflection. If I reach a certain level of 'piqued interest' and 'almost too good to be true' then I will take the plunge and suggest a coffee. Coffee is a great litmus test to see if everything (nearly everything?) aligns with that person.

Sometimes it's great to take a leap of faith and just go for it!"

Agree, just geographically a quick coffee isn't an option at the moment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s interesting you should ask this. I have noticed that Fab has made me incredibly complacent. I was more proactive when on the mainstream dating sites.

I was chatting until very recently with a lovely Fabber, who pretty much encompassed all I like in a bloke.

Even still, I let the chat fizzle out

I can’t figure out why. But for me, Fab and indifference seem to go hand-in-hand.

I definitely take it less seriously than other platforms. I’m not saying this is the right way to go about things. It’s just the effect it has on me. I do enjoy the forum though."

I wonder if it's the element of being 'on a plate' so has lost 'it's value'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm lucky OP. I have everything I need right now and I'm going to hold into it for as long as I can

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm lucky OP. I have everything I need right now and I'm going to hold into it for as long as I can

This restores my faith in happiness.

Plus, wow, lucky lady!!!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

When I got chatting to someone who I instantly liked, I seized the opportunity with both hands and asked him to meet as soon as possible. It was only ever really meant to be a one-off due to the distance between us....but we clicked even more in person, and here we are two and a half years and numerous flights later. I'm glad we both took that chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?"

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I got chatting to someone who I instantly liked, I seized the opportunity with both hands and asked him to meet as soon as possible. It was only ever really meant to be a one-off due to the distance between us....but we clicked even more in person, and here we are two and a half years and numerous flights later. I'm glad we both took that chance

and what a wonderful couple you are together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have and I went there but it just didn't work sex was great but everything else not and I wish I didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

Never happened to me.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I messaged someone as I loved their pics and thought they were similar to the way I had mine. In fact we had a similar profile - even our tagline was similarly worded about stimulating the mind.

It turns out that week, she’d lost a FB (they wanted more and she didn’t) and was looking for another. Any other week, it would have been a no.

We chatted and chatted and a couple of months later we met up. We both weren’t looking for anything other than FB’s but the more we seen of each other the more we realised we couldn’t let it go and it started what has now developed into the most amazing relationship.

Seize the moment is what I’d always say…you never know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's the line between it been utterly amazing or utterly heartbreaking.

50/50 chance of either I guess.

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over a year ago

"I messaged someone as I loved their pics and thought they were similar to the way I had mine. In fact we had a similar profile - even our tagline was similarly worded about stimulating the mind.

It turns out that week, she’d lost a FB (they wanted more and she didn’t) and was looking for another. Any other week, it would have been a no.

Seize the moment is what I’d always say…you never know

This should be a movie

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"It's the line between it been utterly amazing or utterly heartbreaking.

50/50 chance of either I guess.

I just told him and myself that every day was a new day, a reset, living for the moment, until I was ready and willing to commit emotionally. It doesn't have to be all or nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This explains the lack of messages in my inbox!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"I messaged someone as I loved their pics and thought they were similar to the way I had mine. In fact we had a similar profile - even our tagline was similarly worded about stimulating the mind.

It turns out that week, she’d lost a FB (they wanted more and she didn’t) and was looking for another. Any other week, it would have been a no.

Seize the moment is what I’d always say…you never know

This should be a movie "

Haha it has been an amazing journey

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

It happens to the best of us.

100% this is why I only meet at clubs now.

I appreciate I’m not for everyone but why your text and then don’t.

I’ve been lucky enough to meet my RB who respects me and my feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

going through somethings I did thread called my story with dating life not going well among other things just about fun and focusing on getting me well again

focusing on older women bit more due women my own age are way easier get more attachment too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s interesting you should ask this. I have noticed that Fab has made me incredibly complacent. I was more proactive when on the mainstream dating sites.

I was chatting until very recently with a lovely Fabber, who pretty much encompassed all I like in a bloke.

Even still, I let the chat fizzle out

I can’t figure out why. But for me, Fab and indifference seem to go hand-in-hand.

I definitely take it less seriously than other platforms. I’m not saying this is the right way to go about things. It’s just the effect it has on me. I do enjoy the forum though.

I wonder if it's the element of being 'on a plate' so has lost 'it's value'? "

Quite possibly Midnight. It makes me wonder if I really deserve to meet someone

Mind you, I don’t think the time is right.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I just go with it.

I’m not actively looking for anything more than friends that I can have great sex with so I’ve no horse in the race.

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over a year ago

"I'm lucky OP. I have everything I need right now and I'm going to hold into it for as long as I can

This restores my faith in happiness.

Plus, wow, lucky lady!!!"

Thank you OP. But in truth, I'm the lucky one

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Reading the ladies' comments above to each other on here shows clearly why us silly men will never, ever, understand them.

Girl 1 "I have found the perfect guy, handsome, well off, kind, intelligent, generous, well balanced, loves children, thinks I am beautiful even 1st thing in the morning, wants to meet me whenever I am free, has his own house and is absolutely great at sex. I could love him in an instant."

Girl 2 "Oh no! Don't go there sister!"

Girl 1 "Yup, already called it off. Going for that arrogant, gym bunny that made me walk home in the rain."

Girl 2 "Good choice. Safety first sister"

No wonder it was a man that wrote "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."

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By *erenity20Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I've always thought you can't fight a strong attraction, if the "spark" is there explore it!

"We only regret the chances we didn't take"

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

One or two I've clicked with. I'd need to travel and stay overnight somewhere which I said I'd do in the summer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Reading the ladies' comments above to each other on here shows clearly why us silly men will never, ever, understand them.

Girl 2 "Oh no! Don't go there sister!"

Girl 1 "Yup, already called it off. Going for that arrogant, gym bunny that made me walk home in the rain."

Girl 2 "Good choice. Safety first sister"

No wonder it was a man that wrote "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." "

Erm ok....

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over a year ago

"I've always thought you can't fight a strong attraction, if the "spark" is there explore it!

"We only regret the chances we didn't take"

This is very true!

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over a year ago

"I messaged someone as I loved their pics and thought they were similar to the way I had mine. In fact we had a similar profile - even our tagline was similarly worded about stimulating the mind.

It turns out that week, she’d lost a FB (they wanted more and she didn’t) and was looking for another. Any other week, it would have been a no.

Seize the moment is what I’d always say…you never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with it. When I met my husband my head said a definite no, as I wasn't that long out of a previous relationship, but my heart said yes. I saw him for a few weeks and got scared of my feelings for him so asked him if we could just be FWB. That didn't last long as the feelings and chemistry between us was so overwhelming we just had to be together.

That was over 18 years ago. We are still very much in love and very happy.

Go for it, what's the worst that can happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found someone like that. I thought I'll fuck it up in some way but haven't yet

Hope the happy days will last.

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over a year ago

"Reading the ladies' comments above to each other on here shows clearly why us silly men will never, ever, understand them.

Girl 2 "Oh no! Don't go there sister!"

Girl 1 "Yup, already called it off. Going for that arrogant, gym bunny that made me walk home in the rain."

Girl 2 "Good choice. Safety first sister"

No wonder it was a man that wrote "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." "

What're you on about?

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over a year ago

"It’s interesting you should ask this. I have noticed that Fab has made me incredibly complacent. I was more proactive when on the mainstream dating sites.

I was chatting until very recently with a lovely Fabber, who pretty much encompassed all I like in a bloke.

Even still, I let the chat fizzle out

I can’t figure out why. But for me, Fab and indifference seem to go hand-in-hand.

I definitely take it less seriously than other platforms. I’m not saying this is the right way to go about things. It’s just the effect it has on me. I do enjoy the forum though.

I wonder if it's the element of being 'on a plate' so has lost 'it's value'?

Quite possibly Midnight. It makes me wonder if I really deserve to meet someone

Mind you, I don’t think the time is right."

Of course you deserve to meet someone!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it op.

Good luck

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I'd say take the risk.

What have you got to loose really?

Plus, I'm not that bad

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

Nothing in life is worthwhile unless you take risks. There is no passion to be found in playing small and settling for a life less than the one your capable of living.

You can either go for it, or always wonder if you missed "The one"...

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Ya but the only problem for me anyway they are normally on the wrong side of the Irish Sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you both on the same page ?

If not, save your heart now xx

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"Are you both on the same page ?

If not, save your heart now xx"

This. Been there done that.

Thought we were on the same page but he fed me bullshit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes things that appear too impossible to be true are true though, the only thing to stand between it is ruining it yourself or not pursuing it through fear

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Not so much too good to be true, but certainly too good to last.

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By *oonshadowWoman
over a year ago

COVENTRY

"There was a time I would have risked taking a chance.

These days I just can’t be arsed. What’s meant for me will come to me. Naturally. I have other things to focus on in the meantime."

I get your point totally. However, nothing usually come on a plate. You have to put a little effort in x

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By *urious_Female89Woman
over a year ago

great yarmouth

"It’s interesting you should ask this. I have noticed that Fab has made me incredibly complacent. I was more proactive when on the mainstream dating sites.

I was chatting until very recently with a lovely Fabber, who pretty much encompassed all I like in a bloke.

Even still, I let the chat fizzle out

I can’t figure out why. But for me, Fab and indifference seem to go hand-in-hand.

I definitely take it less seriously than other platforms. I’m not saying this is the right way to go about things. It’s just the effect it has on me. I do enjoy the forum though."

I'm exactly the same! I don't know why either.. I often let chats with lovely people fizzle. Its strange because I haven't had sex in such a long time and my high sex drive is through the roof! But yet I am not proactive at all

might be a confidence thing for me, or just being used to not having sex.

In regards to the question - there was a woman I was wildly attracted to, thought was too good to be true but I ruined it.. think I sabotaged it out of insecurity and fear of developing stronger feelings after being intimate with her (plus distance was a barrier). I regret it now

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Having done the long distance romance with a lady from West Sussex for twenty one month's who I met on another swingers site, and enjoyed spectacular times together in more than just swinging scenarios, I am acutely aware of the fact that despite compatibility on the highest level, unless one or other is prepared to relocate, distance will kill it in the end. Although I do keep in touch with one or two on here who I may one day get to meet, I don't actively pursue distance meets or dating despite what seems to be the ultimate WOW factor because, unfortunately it can be a case of chasing rainbows.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Having done the long distance romance with a lady from West Sussex for twenty one month's who I met on another swingers site, and enjoyed spectacular times together in more than just swinging scenarios, I am acutely aware of the fact that despite compatibility on the highest level, unless one or other is prepared to relocate, distance will kill it in the end. Although I do keep in touch with one or two on here who I may one day get to meet, I don't actively pursue distance meets or dating despite what seems to be the ultimate WOW factor because, unfortunately it can be a case of chasing rainbows. "

It’s not my experience, there’s someone I’ve seen here for over 7 years who lives the other end of the country. Distance has never bothered me, it can actually help keep the relationship from getting overly serious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone.

I'm great at giving out advice to other people but when it comes to myself, I'm just great at fucking things up. But I'll see where it all leads...

If all fails then lots of girls nights on the wine and rum!!! (Well,we'll do that anyway!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally get what you mean, girl

Especially if you, like me, tend to be very skeptical and suspicious about everything and everyone.

Id say go for it, thread carefully, if you sense fuck boy vibes. RUN the hell away. Just my 2 cents

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Totally get what you mean, girl

Especially if you, like me, tend to be very skeptical and suspicious about everything and everyone.

Id say go for it, thread carefully, if you sense fuck boy vibes. RUN the hell away. Just my 2 cents

I am extremely skeptical when it comes to men.

Haha I'm ace at running away!

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over a year ago

"Totally get what you mean, girl

Especially if you, like me, tend to be very skeptical and suspicious about everything and everyone.

Id say go for it, thread carefully, if you sense fuck boy vibes. RUN the hell away. Just my 2 cents

I am extremely skeptical when it comes to men.

Haha I'm ace at running away!

Good, I mean… if that happens (I hope it doesn’t) we could co-write a book about “how to get away from fuck boys”

Haha

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over a year ago

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

What's that saying? It's better to regret something you did rather than something you did not do

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"Have you ever got talking to someone on here who is just perfect for you?

Personality, looks, everything just clicks.

Do you believe it? Take a risk and see what happens? Or just think it's all just too good to be true and in my favourite personal style just fuck it up?

I'm inclined to choose the latter.

I'm not so sure great sex is worth the emotional turmoil!!

At least I'll always have coffee....

Do you mean if you think they're too good to be true they'll inevitably let you down or you'll do something wrong?

Yeah I guess, people say stuff just to get sex.

I am very aware of that!

yeah it's rife on here too. Sometimes they're genuine though , courage mon brave !

O yes its true .

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"Why would you not want to explore the situation he could be the one

You won't know unless you explore

Im past thinking the one even exists. Just maybe the one for right now. "

On a swingers site that is probably the right thought to have .

Out in the real world , well if you think that way you will always look for ways and reasons to find something else, a reason to muck it up. Be open and honest about your thoughts and feelings.

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over a year ago

"Totally get what you mean, girl

Especially if you, like me, tend to be very skeptical and suspicious about everything and everyone.

Id say go for it, thread carefully, if you sense fuck boy vibes. RUN the hell away. Just my 2 cents

I am extremely skeptical when it comes to men.

Haha I'm ace at running away!

If you've had your trust shattered by one or more people (and I think we share that) then it's always going to be harder to take another chance. Because your scepticism is based on experience.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I continue regardless, unless something is wrong

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By *erenity20Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"Totally get what you mean, girl

Especially if you, like me, tend to be very skeptical and suspicious about everything and everyone.

Id say go for it, thread carefully, if you sense fuck boy vibes. RUN the hell away. Just my 2 cents

I am extremely skeptical when it comes to men.

Haha I'm ace at running away!

If you've had your trust shattered by one or more people (and I think we share that) then it's always going to be harder to take another chance. Because your scepticism is based on experience. "

Totally agree

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