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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When you struggle to see your own self worth x

Do you have anything in particular to remind you that you are worth it?

I’ve been struggling a bit the past few days (SHOCKER) after some stuff happening, and I’m struggling to see my own worth and I can’t seem to put it into perspective.

Any kind suggestions are appreciated

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By *asty tatsyMan
over a year ago

london

"When you struggle to see your own self worth x

Do you have anything in particular to remind you that you are worth it?

I’ve been struggling a bit the past few days (SHOCKER) after some stuff happening, and I’m struggling to see my own worth and I can’t seem to put it into perspective.

Any kind suggestions are appreciated

I don’t have any suggestions, but I do think you’re brilliant you bring joy to people especially in forums and you do that by being yourself

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By *usman 199Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Morning Kylie get back on the forum you have lots of friends on here . You are a lovely person . Great threads keep your mind ticking over . Happy Thoughts xx

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"When you struggle to see your own self worth x

Do you have anything in particular to remind you that you are worth it?

I’ve been struggling a bit the past few days (SHOCKER) after some stuff happening, and I’m struggling to see my own worth and I can’t seem to put it into perspective.

Any kind suggestions are appreciated

I find being outdoors really helps. Walking allows lots of things to settle in my brain without me thinking about it too hard.

Hope you find things easier soon. You are enough, always

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you struggle to see your own self worth x

Do you have anything in particular to remind you that you are worth it?

I’ve been struggling a bit the past few days (SHOCKER) after some stuff happening, and I’m struggling to see my own worth and I can’t seem to put it into perspective.

Any kind suggestions are appreciated

You make me smile and I find you inspiring. Hope you find your mojo again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See that stuff that happens, it happens, regardless of how you value yourself

I value myself on what I do, what I give, who I am, as opposed to how I look or (to a degree) how others view me

I know I am a good person

I don't let the perception of others sway that

So, can I ask, how you value your worth?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When you struggle to see your own self worth x

Do you have anything in particular to remind you that you are worth it?

I’ve been struggling a bit the past few days (SHOCKER) after some stuff happening, and I’m struggling to see my own worth and I can’t seem to put it into perspective.

Any kind suggestions are appreciated

I find being outdoors really helps. Walking allows lots of things to settle in my brain without me thinking about it too hard.

Hope you find things easier soon. You are enough, always

Mrs TMN x"

Thanks so much Twist! I think walking is great, that’s a good suggestion x x and thanks lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was struggling with recognising my self-worth - or struggling mentally in general - I’d look into counselling. Not saying that’s what you should do! It’s just that if these things aren’t explored from the root, they tend to fester or come back. It’s good to have the tools to properly deal with these feelings and insecurities.

And yes, you’re ace! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you struggle to see your own self worth x

Do you have anything in particular to remind you that you are worth it?

I’ve been struggling a bit the past few days (SHOCKER) after some stuff happening, and I’m struggling to see my own worth and I can’t seem to put it into perspective.

Any kind suggestions are appreciated

Wish I could give you good advice but I can't remember the last time I looked or thought about myself and thought good things..

I guess if you can't judge yourself, judge your friends. You can tell alot about yourself by the type of friends you have.

You know I think you are incredible

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I was struggling with recognising my self-worth - or struggling mentally in general - I’d look into counselling. Not saying that’s what you should do! It’s just that if these things aren’t explored from the root, they tend to fester or come back. It’s good to have the tools to properly deal with these feelings and insecurities.

And yes, you’re ace! X"

Thanks beaut! X I have a therapist that I see every now and then x I guess tho maybe I can also try counselling too x it’s probably worth it

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"When you struggle to see your own self worth x

Do you have anything in particular to remind you that you are worth it?

I’ve been struggling a bit the past few days (SHOCKER) after some stuff happening, and I’m struggling to see my own worth and I can’t seem to put it into perspective.

Any kind suggestions are appreciated

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stay on here for the day OP

There are plenty of people here who love the socks of ya, stick around them long enough you will feel the love,

Hopefully sooner than later,

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Ohh no beaut

i feel ya though I have been the same for the last few days. When I feel like this I try and do things that make me feel good about myself so healthy eating and exercise, even if its just a nice walk it helps to clear your head. I also usually have a little pamper session

even if its only putting on a facemask or painting your nails it can help lift your mood. And lastly I do a guided meditation for a decluttering of the mind

ohh and I forgot about cleaning I do that too

I hope you are ok beautiful you are an amazing kind and generous person never forget that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a small break from here...we compare ourselves to others,we receive abuse,we feel unwanted unattractive...as much as I love this site it can hurt you self worth, the right people will still be here for you after a little fab holiday x

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I make sure I have Me time. It can be a full day doing what I want or just 20 minutes sitting somewhere public watching the world go by.

When something is really bothering or if I feel I'm out of my depth I tell my colleague at work. He is very calm and tells me what I'm doing right rather that focusing on the negative things going through my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kylie, you should love yourself.

You are the most authentic honest person on here...you are probably one of the very few to be their true self on here, most of the rest of us are hiding stuff.

You're a beautiful person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs hopefully you feel better soon some times a little brake is need I know my self I felt the same not to long ago not due to fab but I did vent it here witch was wrong off me but a 5 or 6 day brake and a little me time and I am back to my bubble self they say the ones hurting the most put on the biggest front ever to hide the pain but sometimes that pain crawl to the top and burst out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ohh no beaut

even if its only putting on a facemask or painting your nails it can help lift your mood. And lastly I do a guided meditation for a decluttering of the mind

ohh and I forgot about cleaning I do that too

I hope you are ok beautiful you are an amazing kind and generous person never forget that

Thanks Belle, that’s so nice of you to say xxx and I think you came up with some really good suggestions x

Hope you are well urself pretty lady x

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By *risxbrisxMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Try 15-20 mins meditation each day, I find it helps to disconnect from everything in life and improves my mood alot.

Wish you all the best!

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Oh I’m sorry you are feeling this.

Funnily enough I’ve been like that this week too.

I wallow in it for a little while then I kick myself up the bum and tell myself to snap out of it. I’ll journal about it in a note book then run a bubble bath and have a glass of wine, candles and a flask mask and fluffy towels and bath robe and generally make myself feel better.

It’s a very hard head space to be in but you have to tell yourself you are worthy and work through those negative voices.

I hope you find a way the works for you darling x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs

Sorry to hear that.

We all feel like this at times. It's normal so don't feel bad about it..just know you never have to suffer alone. Fab has alot of idiots but also loads of nice ppl happy to listen and support and just be a friend

You're never alone

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By *heirry84Man
over a year ago

Midlands

"When you struggle to see your own self worth x

Do you have anything in particular to remind you that you are worth it?

I’ve been struggling a bit the past few days (SHOCKER) after some stuff happening, and I’m struggling to see my own worth and I can’t seem to put it into perspective.

Any kind suggestions are appreciated

I remind myself that I am God of my own world. I control every aspect of it and can change anything I want. No one knows what it is like to be me so it is a truly unique experience that has been ace so far.

I also like to look at nature or up at the sky and think about how special existence is. There is so much beauty and love in the world and the fact that I have an opportunity to experience it is something really special.

It is easy to focus on the negative but i love myself because I'm never going to be anyone else. It makes no sense to not as there are no benefits.

Life is short but it's also the longest thing you'll ever do.

Stay string sister

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By *heirry84Man
over a year ago

Midlands

"Try 15-20 mins meditation each day, I find it helps to disconnect from everything in life and improves my mood alot.

Wish you all the best!"

I second this! Great advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh I’m sorry you are feeling this.

Funnily enough I’ve been like that this week too.

It’s a very hard head space to be in but you have to tell yourself you are worthy and work through those negative voices.

I hope you find a way the works for you darling x"

Thanks lovely! I think writing it all down in a journal is actually such a great thing . Sometimes it’s good to put it down and see it, it makes maybe more sense than having stuff going round and round in the head ? Xx

Hope you are feeling better lovely x

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By *m NormalMan
over a year ago

Telford

"When you struggle to see your own self worth x

Do you have anything in particular to remind you that you are worth it?

I’ve been struggling a bit the past few days (SHOCKER) after some stuff happening, and I’m struggling to see my own worth and I can’t seem to put it into perspective.

Any kind suggestions are appreciated

It's difficult to advise you, be easier if I knew you better.

My self worth is based on others around me, family, friends, my community involvement colleagues, my political beliefs, people I chat with at the gym, my cat is my greatest fan

Hope you have other interests than Fab. If you like you can chat with me off the forum and get to the bottom of your problem. I'm not a professional behaviour consultant, I have had enough experience dealing with others and a long life to understand others.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"Oh I’m sorry you are feeling this.

Funnily enough I’ve been like that this week too.

It’s a very hard head space to be in but you have to tell yourself you are worthy and work through those negative voices.

I hope you find a way the works for you darling x

Hope you are feeling better lovely x"

Yes indeed! Sometimes what I write is just strings of nonsense thoughts that make no sense if you read it again but I tend not to read it once I’ve written it down.

You are so sweet for asking & I feel lots better today. Your message and a couple of other people messaging has helped.

You have a great self care Sunday xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading affirmations. I have a couple of flip books around the house. The kids change them and although they can't read it's nice to see what they've changed it to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh I’m sorry you are feeling this.

Funnily enough I’ve been like that this week too.

It’s a very hard head space to be in but you have to tell yourself you are worthy and work through those negative voices.

I hope you find a way the works for you darling x

Hope you are feeling better lovely x

Yes indeed! Sometimes what I write is just strings of nonsense thoughts that make no sense if you read it again but I tend not to read it once I’ve written it down.

You are so sweet for asking & I feel lots better today. Your message and a couple of other people messaging has helped.

You have a great self care Sunday xx"

You too my lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I change my avatar on other media to 'you are enough'.. Which gives me a little jolt each time. I also allow myself a little time to wallow, but i also try to walk, appreciate nature and sit and feel the sun on my face

One of the coaches i follow posts fab little quotes that really connect: "if criticising yourself for years hasn't worked, why not try approving yourself and see what happens"

Its just like when we bolster a friend who is having a rough week.. Use that same tactic on yourself

I hope you feel better soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I concur with fresh air, being around nature, doing things for yourself just because you like doing them. Put yourself and your needs first for a bit

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By *iggyStarjumpsMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time, OP. I've started to make notes in my diary of when I did something good or someone did something nice for me. When I'm feeling low or disconnected, I can look back and remind myself.

In the moment, I head outside for some literal space - especially when the weather is wild like today!

Take care, the comments on this thread show you're a lovely person and loved too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MrsGrealish I hope you are already feeling even slightly better by seeing how much support you have on here, the only advice I can give is say talk about and it like you have today, maybe write how you feel down even if only you will see it and you’ll rip it straight, just getting things off you chest will help and I do hope your ok x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, firstly, we all have periods of self doubt so please don't think you're alone in this regard.

Some truly great suggestions from others. I would add a couple of suggestions:

1 adopt a distance from your doubts..and view your self as though you were talking to a friend going through something similar. You will find it easier to look at what is going on with your emotions.

2 have you ever tried journalling? It's been proven to help improve mood and foster optimism. It's a great way of writing about your day, preferably from a 3rd person or calling yourself by your name.. again as a form of distancing. It's very cathartic and only takes 15 minutes a day. Helps make sense of how you're feeling.

3 write down your achievements, make a list of uour strengths..you'll soon see you've got a lot of individual strengths, dome you might not even consciously realise!

Have a few book suggestions too which will help.. but won't bore all but have to pass on for those interested.

Hope uou geel better soon. Love and hugs

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