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What is Higher standards

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not being g funny but when someone says higher standards they usually are talking about looks and nothink more , when actually higher standards to me is someone who looks for who you are as a person and is not shallow and is honest , so gym fit and a bit of a twat is lowering standards to me , give me meat on a womans bones and a good conversation any day , I dont let standards run my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me having higher standards isn't about looks. It's about knowing your worth and not letting people treat you differently. I treat people with respect, honesty and kindness.. I expect the same in return. If that makes me have high standards, then I'm okay with that.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Not being g funny but when someone says higher standards they usually are talking about looks and nothink more , when actually higher standards to me is someone who looks for who you are as a person and is not shallow and is honest , so gym fit and a bit of a twat is lowering standards to me , give me meat on a womans bones and a good conversation any day , I dont let standards run my life "

Nobody knows but the individual in question. Everyone has their own "standards" and different things that are important to them. There is no right answer to any questions about people's preferences.

Cal

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport


"For me having higher standards isn't about looks. It's about knowing your worth and not letting people treat you differently. I treat people with respect, honesty and kindness.. I expect the same in return. If that makes me have high standards, then I'm okay with that."

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Not being g funny but when someone says higher standards they usually are talking about looks and nothink more , when actually higher standards to me is someone who looks for who you are as a person and is not shallow and is honest , so gym fit and a bit of a twat is lowering standards to me , give me meat on a womans bones and a good conversation any day , I dont let standards run my life "

Erm you're saying standards aren't about looks then using looks to illustrate your point. Nobody ever equates an unfit body or a slim woman with a good personality in these examples.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I guess it can be either or both depending on what the individual is looking for.

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

For us there as to be some sort of attraction with whom you are meeting up with always treat people with respect and be honest with them we are not for everyone and same for us I think you have to have some standards other wise you would loose your self respect mrs m

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me having higher standards isn't about looks. It's about knowing your worth and not letting people treat you differently. I treat people with respect, honesty and kindness.. I expect the same in return. If that makes me have high standards, then I'm okay with that."

Saved me typing. Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Higher standards for me is more about behaviour and habits never about looks other than taking care of your appearance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very personal surely? For me higher standards mean I want to be treated with respect here not as a free sex worker. Nothing to do with what men look like.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Standards start with how you look. I don't mean body shape or type, I mean presentation. I hold myself to the same standards I expect from other people. Present yourself well personally and physically, be the person you expect other people to be. That means to me anyway, don't judge a person on their physicality, whatever it might be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meat on the bones

Good conversation

Two standards perhaps?

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

For me higher standards is how you carry yourself, morals, demanding respect, the effort someone is willing to put. More the whole package than just looks

R

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

For me it is how I conduct myself, I see so many people being totally disrespectful to others not just people they know.

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By *rincessPuddleDuck22Woman
over a year ago

.•°°

My "standards" keep me away from the ass hats, looks have nothing to do with it. You could make me drool but if you lie im not interested if you think im just a fuck im not interested, those kind of things.

Im not sure what higher standards mean everyone has different preferences.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

People often mock the old cliché of quality before quantity but I stick by the principle as for me it had nothing to do with the quality of quantity of sex and everything to do with the quality of person.

In fab terms I don't need sex and therefore will never lower my standards just for a shag.

It's not even in my top 5 list of priorities and will choose friendship with a person of good character over a fuck n go every time.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Think you should stop worrying about people who do not want to meet you and focus on people who want to meet you.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'm not being funny but any thread starting with i'm not being funny .........

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"For me having higher standards isn't about looks. It's about knowing your worth and not letting people treat you differently. I treat people with respect, honesty and kindness.. I expect the same in return. If that makes me have high standards, then I'm okay with that."

. This.

Nothing to do with looks. I’m either attracted to someone’s looks or I’m not. Not sure what that has to do with standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all relative to your own standards (preferences or limits). To lower your standards would be to do something outside of that. Using the term 'higher standards' can sound derogatory as it implies your standards are better than someone else's as it's relative to theirs. Better to say 'different standards'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a big fan of the word standards when it is used to describe who people would meet. We all have preferences and there's nothing wrong with that but standards implies an assessment of another person's worth.

I do appreciate that not allowing yourself to be treated as a piece of meat requires you to have standards for yourself but so often when you see it in profile's the implication isn't that the person sets themselves standards but rather they expect others to meet their value assessment. I have no interest in meeting people like that.

Mr

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I wouldn't say looks, as in someone's face or body, as that comes under attraction. But I would put their personal presentation under the standards category, if they're well groomed and dressed appropriately for wherever we're meeting...for instance if we were meeting at a smart pub I'd be irked if they turned up in tracksuit bottoms and a hoody. But in a way that falls under respect, as in they didn't have enough respect for me to make an effort with their presentation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My "standards" keep me away from the ass hats, looks have nothing to do with it. You could make me drool but if you lie im not interested if you think im just a fuck im not interested, those kind of things.

Im not sure what higher standards mean everyone has different preferences. "

Well said!

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