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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interested to see responses, personally see good sex and role play as a game, also see how it could leak out of a game

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

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I'm not sure I understand the question.

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

"I'm not sure I understand the question. "

Im glad I'm not the only one.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

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Yes. Some people do prefer to make the person submissive rather than the sub just naturally fall into submission.

Its the same mindset, just different ways of achieving it.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Yes , consensual kink or role play, it’s still submission just a different type to natural dynamics

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By *g1231974Man
over a year ago

wetherby

Surely it must be as submitting indicates a conscious action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think so.

I only submit to some, not all. It's a wonderful feeling.

If someone tried to make me submit, they'd come unstuck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is submission, submissive if you have agreed to it?"

I haven't, knowingly, participated in a D/s dynamic but being in the Forum, looking through what others have said, I have a better understanding of it now.

Yes, it can be. Some of those who enjoy 'submitting' are the strongest people. They're confident and speak their mind in no uncertain terms.

Conversely, those who are dominant don't always appear to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Example: I order you to dominate and you will do this that that and this and that and so fourth

Whilst lovingly guided

?? think you’ve just answered my question for me

Well done

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Trust very important

Wouldn’t do what I’m talking about with someone not comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes more my point, however this is boiling down to trust and perhaps I should stick with good things whist they here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think so.

I only submit to some, not all. It's a wonderful feeling.

If someone tried to make me submit, they'd come unstuck! "

Then to make you submit could be quite a challenge

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

With apologies I didn’t address people correctly, but thanks for thoughts, always pleased to speak openly with open people

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I think so.

I only submit to some, not all. It's a wonderful feeling.

If someone tried to make me submit, they'd come unstuck!

Then to make you submit could be quite a challenge

Not everyone wants to be dominated

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think so.

I only submit to some, not all. It's a wonderful feeling.

If someone tried to make me submit, they'd come unstuck!

Then to make you submit could be quite a challenge

Not everyone wants to be dominated "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think so.

I only submit to some, not all. It's a wonderful feeling.

If someone tried to make me submit, they'd come unstuck!

Then to make you submit could be quite a challenge

Ofcourse they don’t, I agree

My point is if I’ve been doing submissive acts with a young lady who is now really enjoying my naughtiness, I have changed her, yet cannot complain, and also feel completely in control and safe

Not everyone wants to be dominated "

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I find some men make me submissive by their aura. They just exude something that makes me go all gooey.

However, generally I have to play at being submissive because. in reality. I’m far too bossy and like my own way too much to be submissive for any length of time.

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By *ig bear 65Man
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

The whole point is it doesn't leak into your day to day life it's a fantacy life style kept in the bedroom or club.

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By *hat BlokeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

I think submissive is a personality type as well as a role to be played in the bedroom. So a person can play the submissive role, or just be a natural submissive. As long as it’s safe and consensual, it doesn’t really matter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The whole point is it doesn't leak into your day to day life it's a fantacy life style kept in the bedroom or club."

Yes with safety words

My point is if you fantasise about this and play correctly, yes it shouldn’t leak into everyday life

I think… is just so damn good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This my fear is that a game yes

Real life no for me although I am single and perhaps should commit one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Submission is a choice, even if its a person's nature. The Sub is choosing who they spend time around, ergo giving them both the space to fall into the Sub/Dom dynamic, so its always agreed, even if not verbalised, IMO

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find some men make me submissive by their aura. They just exude something that makes me go all gooey.

However, generally I have to play at being submissive because. in reality. I’m far too bossy and like my own way too much to be submissive for any length of time.

Is energy and loving and good connection ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find some men make me submissive by their aura. They just exude something that makes me go all gooey.

However, generally I have to play at being submissive because. in reality. I’m far too bossy and like my own way too much to be submissive for any length of time.

Furthermore: I agree more, need my space and being submissive for a couple of hours is so good for my health… but def needs to be in the correct timing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Submission is a choice, even if its a person's nature. The Sub is choosing who they spend time around, ergo giving them both the space to fall into the Sub/Dom dynamic, so its always agreed, even if not verbalised, IMO

Yes I agree.. learning much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Is submission, submissive if you have agreed to it?

Interested to see responses, personally see good sex and role play as a game, also see how it could leak out of a game"

It all depends on wether your looking for a kind of relationship with one person or a hookup….

I am naturally submissive in alot that I do, and when searching for a Dom, there has to be agreed limits before any kind of D/s dynamics can be explored, we have to be kind of on the same page, and submission is a gift.

I think there’s no right or wrong D/s relationship it’s more 2 people who’s kinks and needs are aligned….

Then if your talking good kinky fuckery role play it would still really need to be agreed to know one another’s limits, … talking is the key and respecting one another xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the question, do you if a none submissive person agrees to be submissive?

If so I would say yes, if they enjoyed it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are submissive naturally, IE fall into it without discussion and negotiation.

Some people are submissive with discussion and negotiation.

Some people are only submissive with certain partners.

Some people are brats, submissives with a make me kink.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your posts and time

I am very pleased to be on a site where certain information is secure and also for open discussion

Thank you and I will end this thread

( I have some things to attend to

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every D/s play has some sort of agreement on the limits and safe word. If it goes out of it, it becomes non-consensual.

Of course some people just decide to take it as it goes and see what works. But even that kind of play has safe words incorporated. If not, it is dangerous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"By the question, do you if a none submissive person agrees to be submissive?

If so I would say yes, if they enjoyed it. "

Stroke them lovingly and kiss them seductively as you allow the the power they can fantasise about only yourself and no longer require to think of anything other than true alignment with complete respect and consent

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people are submissive naturally, IE fall into it without discussion and negotiation.

Some people are submissive with discussion and negotiation.

Some people are only submissive with certain partners.

Some people are brats, submissives with a make me kink. "

Some people are very naughty… yet success comes with harmony and training comes with loving rewards

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Is submission, submissive if you have agreed to it?

Interested to see responses, personally see good sex and role play as a game, also see how it could leak out of a game

It all depends on wether your looking for a kind of relationship with one person or a hookup….

I think there’s no right or wrong D/s relationship it’s more 2 people who’s kinks and needs are aligned….

Then if your talking good kinky fuckery role play it would still really need to be agreed to know one another’s limits, … talking is the key and respecting one another xx"

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I find some men make me submissive by their aura. They just exude something that makes me go all gooey.

However, generally I have to play at being submissive because. in reality. I’m far too bossy and like my own way too much to be submissive for any length of time.

Bratty can be very hot

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is submission, submissive if you have agreed to it?

Interested to see responses, personally see good sex and role play as a game, also see how it could leak out of a game

It all depends on wether your looking for a kind of relationship with one person or a hookup….

I think there’s no right or wrong D/s relationship it’s more 2 people who’s kinks and needs are aligned….

Then if your talking good kinky fuckery role play it would still really need to be agreed to know one another’s limits, … talking is the key and respecting one another xx[/quote

Indeed, yet a Dom is merely a sphere of subjection:

If I gave you a whip and ordered you to make me submit, code word, I doubt you could do it… and there’s a point system…

Is about training each other in what you want and fantasise about ?

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Every D/s play has some sort of agreement on the limits and safe word. If it goes out of it, it becomes non-consensual.

Of course some people just decide to take it as it goes and see what works. But even that kind of play has safe words incorporated. If not, it is dangerous."

Never really understood the use of safe words unless playing role play CNC.

I mean , if you’re able to say Banana Yoghurt, surely you’re able to say No or Stop, and surely they are easier, less syllables.

If you’re not able to say No or Stop , because your in subspace , gagged or other way unable to use verbal communication, how can you possibly say Banana Yoghurt ?

In these cases you rekey on non verbal communication, trust and that your Dom knows you and your limits very well.

So can one of the experts please explain. ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every D/s play has some sort of agreement on the limits and safe word. If it goes out of it, it becomes non-consensual.

Of course some people just decide to take it as it goes and see what works. But even that kind of play has safe words incorporated. If not, it is dangerous.

Never really understood the use of safe words unless playing role play CNC.

I mean , if you’re able to say Banana Yoghurt, surely you’re able to say No or Stop, and surely they are easier, less syllables.

If you’re not able to say No or Stop , because your in subspace , gagged or other way unable to use verbal communication, how can you possibly say Banana Yoghurt ?

In these cases you rekey on non verbal communication, trust and that your Dom knows you and your limits very well.

So can one of the experts please explain. ? "

My Dom knows me better than I know myself at times, and certainly better than anyone else does, so he can easily read my cues, but if I say no or stop, it’s generally because I don’t want him to stop.

If I say red or yellow, play stops immediately, because something is wrong.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Every D/s play has some sort of agreement on the limits and safe word. If it goes out of it, it becomes non-consensual.

Of course some people just decide to take it as it goes and see what works. But even that kind of play has safe words incorporated. If not, it is dangerous.

Never really understood the use of safe words unless playing role play CNC.

I mean , if you’re able to say Banana Yoghurt, surely you’re able to say No or Stop, and surely they are easier, less syllables.

If you’re not able to say No or Stop , because your in subspace , gagged or other way unable to use verbal communication, how can you possibly say Banana Yoghurt ?

In these cases you rekey on non verbal communication, trust and that your Dom knows you and your limits very well.

So can one of the experts please explain. ?

If I say red or yellow, play stops immediately, because something is wrong. "

So in a way it’s role play CNC. Saying stop when you don’t really want him to etc. I get that

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago

Usually Dundee and around

In a D/s dynamic the ultimate power always rests with the sub, who chooses and offers their submission to their Dom(s).

Their submission is theirs to give and also to take away.

Coercion is not going to make a willing sub. As Machiavelli writes in "The Prince", "Is it better to be feared than to be loved?"

Because if you rule with fear, someone can always come along who instills greater fear!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find some men make me submissive by their aura. They just exude something that makes me go all gooey.

However, generally I have to play at being submissive because. in reality. I’m far too bossy and like my own way too much to be submissive for any length of time.

Bratty can be very hot

Regardless of anything

If you hold the clay, it is your responsibility as an artist to mould it

And in this world everything is possible even beyond the invisible

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In a D/s dynamic the ultimate power always rests with the sub, who chooses and offers their submission to their Dom(s).

Their submission is theirs to give and also to take away.

Coercion is not going to make a willing sub. As Machiavelli writes in "The Prince", "Is it better to be feared than to be loved?"

Because if you rule with fear, someone can always come along who instills greater fear!"

Balance only

The size of the scales is a matter of your enigma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In a D/s dynamic the ultimate power always rests with the sub, who chooses and offers their submission to their Dom(s).

Their submission is theirs to give and also to take away.

Coercion is not going to make a willing sub. As Machiavelli writes in "The Prince", "Is it better to be feared than to be loved?"

Because if you rule with fear, someone can always come along who instills greater fear!"

I think the power is equal, it’s a power exchange, because whilst you’re correct, that the sub offers their submission, there cannot be a Dom without a sub, and vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And also, I don’t believe fear should have a place in a D/s dynamic.

I trust my Dom, I love him, but I don’t fear him, I submit to him because I trust him, he keeps me safe, and I can allow myself to be completely vulnerable with him.

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

If you think submission can be forced then you're mistaken. Submission can only be offered, if it is forced upon then it's bullying. Brattyness is different, but as said previously the power rests with the sub, not the Dom.

Safe words don't only have to be for safety, with a previous sub we had a system that allowed her to express that she wasn't getting enough, and so could ask for more. By using a scale you can be sure you're keeping your sub in the right headspace.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In a D/s dynamic the ultimate power always rests with the sub, who chooses and offers their submission to their Dom(s).

Their submission is theirs to give and also to take away.

Coercion is not going to make a willing sub. As Machiavelli writes in "The Prince", "Is it better to be feared than to be loved?"

Because if you rule with fear, someone can always come along who instills greater fear!"

Machiavelli was a diplomat referring to political control

A relationship with a lover in 2022 will not work

As much as I love history

Dominating a female puts a male into a dire situation

(Refer to nikola Tesla, age of female bee)

Inspiring fear creates animosity (refer to maharabhata, or Star Wars)

Inspiring love and sexual intimacy, and being honest and truthful of human lust.. I believe creates harmony..

Don’t rule with fear, but do use it as a tool in a greater goal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you think submission can be forced then you're mistaken. Submission can only be offered, if it is forced upon then it's bullying. Brattyness is different, but as said previously the power rests with the sub, not the Dom.

In which case you’ve turned my question upside and also answered intrinsically

I am the Dom and order my submissive to become dominant over me

It takes many nights, yet now our relationship is amazing and I’m personally infatuated with her.. and she lusts for me… in a female way… (is another completely different book, please don’t start me)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And also, I don’t believe fear should have a place in a D/s dynamic.

I trust my Dom, I love him, but I don’t fear him, I submit to him because I trust him, he keeps me safe, and I can allow myself to be completely vulnerable with him."

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"And also, I don’t believe fear should have a place in a D/s dynamic.

I trust my Dom, I love him, but I don’t fear him, I submit to him because I trust him, he keeps me safe, and I can allow myself to be completely vulnerable with him."

100%. Some big red flags on this thread for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In a D/s dynamic the ultimate power always rests with the sub, who chooses and offers their submission to their Dom(s).

Their submission is theirs to give and also to take away.

Coercion is not going to make a willing sub. As Machiavelli writes in "The Prince", "Is it better to be feared than to be loved?"

Because if you rule with fear, someone can always come along who instills greater fear!

I think the power is equal, it’s a power exchange, because whilst you’re correct, that the sub offers their submission, there cannot be a Dom without a sub, and vice versa.

Harmony

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And also, I don’t believe fear should have a place in a D/s dynamic.

I trust my Dom, I love him, but I don’t fear him, I submit to him because I trust him, he keeps me safe, and I can allow myself to be completely vulnerable with him.

100%. Some big red flags on this thread for me. "

Please raise ur flags (I’m supposed to be at work but please do continue)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Is submission, submissive if you have agreed to it?

Interested to see responses, personally see good sex and role play as a game, also see how it could leak out of a game

It all depends on wether your looking for a kind of relationship with one person or a hookup….

I think there’s no right or wrong D/s relationship it’s more 2 people who’s kinks and needs are aligned….

Then if your talking good kinky fuckery role play it would still really need to be agreed to know one another’s limits, … talking is the key and respecting one another xx[/quote

Indeed, yet a Dom is merely a sphere of subjection:

If I gave you a whip and ordered you to make me submit, code word, I doubt you could do it… and there’s a point system…

Is about training each other in what you want and fantasise about ?"

You don’t submit to actions lol that’s abuse … I’d say talking is key being open and honest about what your wanting from a meet/relationship ……

I’d never whip someone it’s not in my nature xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every D/s play has some sort of agreement on the limits and safe word. If it goes out of it, it becomes non-consensual.

Of course some people just decide to take it as it goes and see what works. But even that kind of play has safe words incorporated. If not, it is dangerous.

Never really understood the use of safe words unless playing role play CNC.

I mean , if you’re able to say Banana Yoghurt, surely you’re able to say No or Stop, and surely they are easier, less syllables.

If you’re not able to say No or Stop , because your in subspace , gagged or other way unable to use verbal communication, how can you possibly say Banana Yoghurt ?

In these cases you rekey on non verbal communication, trust and that your Dom knows you and your limits very well.

So can one of the experts please explain. ? "

Good question. Usually when someone say CNC play, it usually means something being forced right from the beginning. Even normal BDSM play can have minor CNC elements. People push the limits all the time. For example, when a sub has been spanked 10 times, the conversation go like this:

Sub: Please no. It hurts

Master/Mistress: I know you can take one more.

These small dynamics happen all the time. Safe words are there to resolve the ambiguity between someone playfully saying no vs someone who genuinely wants to stop it right there.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"And also, I don’t believe fear should have a place in a D/s dynamic.

I trust my Dom, I love him, but I don’t fear him, I submit to him because I trust him, he keeps me safe, and I can allow myself to be completely vulnerable with him.

100%. Some big red flags on this thread for me.

Please raise ur flags (I’m supposed to be at work but please do continue)"

To be honest I can't make head nor tail of most of your posts. They're rather cryptic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but this thread is very difficult and boring to follow - OP please read up on who to reply to messages or no one knows who you are replying to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And also, I don’t believe fear should have a place in a D/s dynamic.

I trust my Dom, I love him, but I don’t fear him, I submit to him because I trust him, he keeps me safe, and I can allow myself to be completely vulnerable with him.

100%. Some big red flags on this thread for me.

Please raise ur flags (I’m supposed to be at work but please do continue)

To be honest I can't make head nor tail of most of your posts. They're rather cryptic. "

It’s a bit tricky.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And also, I don’t believe fear should have a place in a D/s dynamic.

I trust my Dom, I love him, but I don’t fear him, I submit to him because I trust him, he keeps me safe, and I can allow myself to be completely vulnerable with him.

100%. Some big red flags on this thread for me.

Please raise ur flags (I’m supposed to be at work but please do continue)

To be honest I can't make head nor tail of most of your posts. They're rather cryptic. "

I’m sorry for my terrible dungeon mastery, I am more than cryptic darling

Please do have a good day

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And also, I don’t believe fear should have a place in a D/s dynamic.

I trust my Dom, I love him, but I don’t fear him, I submit to him because I trust him, he keeps me safe, and I can allow myself to be completely vulnerable with him.

100%. Some big red flags on this thread for me.

Please raise ur flags (I’m supposed to be at work but please do continue)

To be honest I can't make head nor tail of most of your posts. They're rather cryptic.

It’s a bit tricky."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And also, I don’t believe fear should have a place in a D/s dynamic.

I trust my Dom, I love him, but I don’t fear him, I submit to him because I trust him, he keeps me safe, and I can allow myself to be completely vulnerable with him.

100%. Some big red flags on this thread for me.

Please raise ur flags (I’m supposed to be at work but please do continue)

To be honest I can't make head nor tail of most of your posts. They're rather cryptic.

It’s a bit tricky."

Don’t put yourself out, if you know is a trick, u already know the answer x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but this thread is very difficult and boring to follow - OP please read up on who to reply to messages or no one knows who you are replying to

Yes sorry

Not been on here a while

But getting the hang of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Every D/s play has some sort of agreement on the limits and safe word. If it goes out of it, it becomes non-consensual.

Of course some people just decide to take it as it goes and see what works. But even that kind of play has safe words incorporated. If not, it is dangerous.

Never really understood the use of safe words unless playing role play CNC.

I mean , if you’re able to say Banana Yoghurt, surely you’re able to say No or Stop, and surely they are easier, less syllables.

If you’re not able to say No or Stop , because your in subspace , gagged or other way unable to use verbal communication, how can you possibly say Banana Yoghurt ?

In these cases you rekey on non verbal communication, trust and that your Dom knows you and your limits very well.

So can one of the experts please explain. ?

Sub: Please no. It hurts

Master/Mistress: I know you can take one more.

These small dynamics happen all the time. Safe words are there to resolve the ambiguity between someone playfully saying no vs someone who genuinely wants to stop it right there.

Yes very good, your learning

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Is submission, submissive if you have agreed to it?

Interested to see responses, personally see good sex and role play as a game, also see how it could leak out of a game

It all depends on wether your looking for a kind of relationship with one person or a hookup….

I think there’s no right or wrong D/s relationship it’s more 2 people who’s kinks and needs are aligned….

Then if your talking good kinky fuckery role play it would still really need to be agreed to know one another’s limits, … talking is the key and respecting one another xx[/quote

Indeed, yet a Dom is merely a sphere of subjection:

If I gave you a whip and ordered you to make me submit, code word, I doubt you could do it… and there’s a point system…

Is about training each other in what you want and fantasise about ?

You don’t submit to actions lol that’s abuse … I’d say talking is key being open and honest about what your wanting from a meet/relationship ……

I’d never whip someone it’s not in my nature xx"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Is submission, submissive if you have agreed to it?

Interested to see responses, personally see good sex and role play as a game, also see how it could leak out of a game

It all depends on wether your looking for a kind of relationship with one person or a hookup….

I think there’s no right or wrong D/s relationship it’s more 2 people who’s kinks and needs are aligned….

Then if your talking good kinky fuckery role play it would still really need to be agreed to know one another’s limits, … talking is the key and respecting one another xx[/quote

Indeed, yet a Dom is merely a sphere of subjection:

If I gave you a whip and ordered you to make me submit, code word, I doubt you could do it… and there’s a point system…

Is about training each other in what you want and fantasise about ?

You don’t submit to actions lol that’s abuse … I’d say talking is key being open and honest about what your wanting from a meet/relationship ……

I’d never whip someone it’s not in my nature xx"

Very honest, which is why I know I’d never be able to break me.. yet you would crave to do it thereafter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And also, I don’t believe fear should have a place in a D/s dynamic.

I trust my Dom, I love him, but I don’t fear him, I submit to him because I trust him, he keeps me safe, and I can allow myself to be completely vulnerable with him.

100%. Some big red flags on this thread for me.

Please raise ur flags (I’m supposed to be at work but please do continue)

To be honest I can't make head nor tail of most of your posts. They're rather cryptic.

It’s a bit tricky.

Don’t put yourself out, if you know is a trick, u already know the answer x"

No, I don’t. Your responses are somewhat confusing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry for offending you all I really enjoyed it

See you next week.. same bat time.. same bat channel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry for offending you all I really enjoyed it

See you next week.. same bat time.. same bat channel

Not offended, confused, but not offended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience there are many different types of sub, there's no dummies guide, what may turn one on may not do it for another.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Sorry for offending you all I really enjoyed it

See you next week.. same bat time.. same bat channel

Not offended, confused, but not offended

Same!

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