FabSwingers.com forum: Couple - Looking for our first experience (Questions and Discussion)

By *acob90D OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi there,

A slightly more in depth post here, as we're serious about having our first experience and very much value advise from people who have been there and done it.

So we're a couple, happily married and love each other.

About 18 months ago we decided to play a game - asking about each other's sexual past, who was the best, who had the biggest cock, weirdest place you've had sex etc.... and I let her know that it really turned me on to hear her talk about guys she's fucked and how big their cocks were.

So was somewhat surprised to hear this but she admitted that she liked discussing it too.... happy days. We then talked about thing we would try (being watched have sex etc) and I said I'd actually love to watch her be fucked by another man... she was nervous and a bit hesitant (she may have thought it was a test of sorts) but once I let her know I was 100% serious, she told me she'd absolutely try it and thinks it would be very hot to try.

So that discussion lead to us watching Swinging documentaries and reality TV shows (if you know you know) and by that point we were super into the idea and wanting to try it.

She said she would feel uncomfortable about me fucking a woman initially (which I totally understand) and it was never what was initially talked about so I'm not overly concerned with that right now anyway.

We've talked about it more recently and decided we either want a single male to begin with or a single female. She wants to explore being with a woman for the first time and she also wants to have me watch her take a big cock inside her and watch another man cum all over tits.

So... we've discussed it this week and decided that we want to try it ASAP. Due to our lifestyles, we need privacy and discretion so would be looking to book a hotel in a City not too far from us and have someone come.

So here are the questions if anyone would like to answer or share their experiences in regards to this situation.

1.) Of course it's totally dependent on the couple etc - BUT do you feel a man or a woman would be best for a first time couple?

2.) What is the general set up (if that makes sense) when it comes to first time (or any time for that matter)? We've never done this before so what is the general Etiquette? Expectations? Tips? Advise?

3.) We've bought a full body fishnet for her and it looks incredible (G Cup Tits) would a guy arriving at our hotel room appreciate us both being fully dressed and chatting normally for a while first? OR opening the door to Mrs in her full body fishnet?

4.) We've talked about me joining in and I'm absolutely up for that, but I'd love to hold the cock and guide it into her etc. I genuinely don't know how my wife would react to the idea of me touching a cock (or what the guy would think of it tbh)... dependent on the individual I know, but any way or bringing it up or going about it with my wife?

5.) When it's all finished... whats' generally happens? Does the guy stay about for a bit? Leave immediately? I know this sounds so overthought and trivial but that's just the way my mind works and I'm looking for all information possible.

Thank you for any and all information and advise you guys can share!

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By *ickJMan
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

Your profile says you've both played separately. How did you handle the details of those meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the forums

If you plan to meet via Fab you will need a couple profile.

Maybe try a club.

You need to discuss your couple boundaries and understand them and stick by them. Trust is everything.

Make sure the person/ people you meet understand your boundaries.

It's all up to you and them what your mutually agreed rules are.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I would advise having a social first with anyone your planning on meeting, so you know the attraction is there and you can discuss boundaries.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Edited for daft emoji

Couples profile first and foremost, you're highly unlikely to get a woman to meet the two of you from a single man's profile. You'll need a separate email address.

Who you meet for a first time is entirely up to you two.

I agree with everything Outsider wrote

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By *stwo7478Couple
over a year ago

bristol

Before our first meet wife was unsure to see me with another woman

Roll on to our first meet she said after she was really turned on watching me and making her cum etc

She was being fucked at the time mind

It’s made us both know to that we both only want sane room and never separate

Trying our first club next month see how that goes

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By *acob90D OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Appreciate the advise.

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By *acob90D OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Sorry, yes I initially created this for us as it would be me doing the searching but you're right - will need to create a couples profile if trying to meet someone on here.

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By *acob90D OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Sounds incredibly hot, thank you for sharing your experience, much appreciated!

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By *stwo7478Couple
over a year ago

bristol

Yes couple profile and both share the password etc

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By *stwo7478Couple
over a year ago

bristol

"Sounds incredibly hot, thank you for sharing your experience, much appreciated!"

Out first meet was

After that we had a couple meets which one reason or other really put the wife off for a while

We decided to try a club next as hopefully less pressured etc abs see what happens

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By *acob90D OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Any other advice on the points I've asked?

Thank you!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

As others said, make a couple profile with pics of you both, otherwise people might just think it's a man looking for chat etc.

I'm half a couple and we always have a social first, to see if there's attraction for all of us and that we get on.

Discuss your boundaries and don't do anything that either of you don't want to.

Keep communicating and do what feels right for you both.

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By *acob90D OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"As others said, make a couple profile with pics of you both, otherwise people might just think it's a man looking for chat etc.

I'm half a couple and we always have a social first, to see if there's attraction for all of us and that we get on.

Discuss your boundaries and don't do anything that either of you don't want to.

Keep communicating and do what feels right for you both. "

Thank you, really appreciate a female perspective on it.

Is there any specific boundaries or turn ons you remember about your first time? Was it as big of a thrill as you expected?

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

In your shoes I’d go with an experienced guy first. You’ll both have nerves about meeting so adding another new dimension of girl-on-girl play would be too much imo. Not to mention there’s not going to be queues and queues of women signing up to come along and play with your wife for you to watch.

Start with a social. Talk to the guy, get comfortable with him and then go home. Talk about what you liked and didn’t like. Play while discussing what you’d each enjoy seeing and doing. Firm up your boundaries - better to be left thinking “I wish we’d done…” because you can do it next time, than “I wish we hadn’t done…” as it can’t be undone.

Once you meet people and get a feel for it then you can start adding more things in and having different kinds of meets.

My other half and I meet couples and spend a lot of time with them - drinks, play, chat, more play. We also invite guys to come round and cum on my tits and face - sometimes they’re in the house for less than five minutes (in fact one memorable guy was here for less than three!!).

Once you know what you enjoy you can adapt, but go into it easy. You don’t have to do it all in day 1

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By *acob90D OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"In your shoes I’d go with an experienced guy first. You’ll both have nerves about meeting so adding another new dimension of girl-on-girl play would be too much imo. Not to mention there’s not going to be queues and queues of women signing up to come along and play with your wife for you to watch.

Once you meet people and get a feel for it then you can start adding more things in and having different kinds of meets.

Once you know what you enjoy you can adapt, but go into it easy. You don’t have to do it all in day 1"

Sounds incredibly hot, thank you for the detailed reply, really appreciate that!

I think for us, we don't really want the whole social aspect (in terms of friendships and regular FWB) just the occasional one off filthy meet.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Social meet doesn’t mean regular. It can be as simple as a drink in the bar before meeting going forward.

I really wouldn’t go straight to the room on your first occasion - what if she doesn’t like him? What if you don’t? What if he smells of smoke? If she’s 10 years older than the pics? If he’s obviously d*unk? If she’s just not for you?

Have you agreed a code for it? Agreed what happens if one of you is enjoying it but the other isn’t? (You’ll likely say that if one isn’t then you’ll stop, but are you confident you’ll both say stop if it’s needed?).

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