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By *onkeynut OP   Woman
over a year ago

somewhere

Have you ever exhibited obsessive or fixated type behaviour with someone?

Maybe struggling to let an ex go?

I have never, but I’m curious to hear if someone has and how you stopped? Did you realise how inappropriate you were at the time?

Or equally, if you were the victim of the behaviour, what stopped it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever exhibited obsessive or fixated type behaviour with someone?

Maybe struggling to let an ex go?

I have never, but I’m curious to hear if someone has and how you stopped? Did you realise how inappropriate you were at the time?

Or equally, if you were the victim of the behaviour, what stopped it?"

Nope, I'm OK with exes

I tend to move on pretty quickly, although I do confess to going back for a bit of nookie with two of them after we split

I even went on holiday with one six months after we split up. Turned out not to be the best idea - she got very deep once the greek plonk took a hold. Every. Night.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Losing my first fuck buddy after 2 years was hard.

I gave myself a good talking to after him and now I don't obsess over people.

It's too emotionally draining.

My long term partner told me he was obsessed with me after a couple of years.

I still have no idea why.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Never. If they don’t want me I won’t want them. It wouldn’t work for me. Needs to be a mutual want. Even if they changed their mind it would be too late x

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By *onkeynut OP   Woman
over a year ago

somewhere


"Never. If they don’t want me I won’t want them. It wouldn’t work for me. Needs to be a mutual want. Even if they changed their mind it would be too late x "

Yes I’m very much the same.

I think I’m maybe a bit cold, just trying not to be a total bitch but it’s hard not to be when someone won’t fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes my boss

Everytime he leaves early I do too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes my boss

Everytime he leaves early I do too. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes my boss

Everytime he leaves early I do too.

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But shhhhhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend of mine had a very short fling with a married man before he ended it. My friend turned complete stalker, looking into his facebook, his wifes facebook, his friends, family etc. Before long she could tell us all about his family. It was bloody scary how deep she got and how she felt the victim in it all. There was no talking to her. Thankfully she moved on to the next man and the next and the next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A friend of mine had a very short fling with a married man before he ended it. My friend turned complete stalker, looking into his facebook, his wifes facebook, his friends, family etc. Before long she could tell us all about his family. It was bloody scary how deep she got and how she felt the victim in it all. There was no talking to her. Thankfully she moved on to the next man and the next and the next."

Why I dislike Facebook that and I have no friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A friend of mine had a very short fling with a married man before he ended it. My friend turned complete stalker, looking into his facebook, his wifes facebook, his friends, family etc. Before long she could tell us all about his family. It was bloody scary how deep she got and how she felt the victim in it all. There was no talking to her. Thankfully she moved on to the next man and the next and the next.

Why I dislike Facebook that and I have no friends "

Its mad how many people dont lock their profile in Facebook so everything is visible to anyone who wants to see. Total eye opener

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A friend of mine had a very short fling with a married man before he ended it. My friend turned complete stalker, looking into his facebook, his wifes facebook, his friends, family etc. Before long she could tell us all about his family. It was bloody scary how deep she got and how she felt the victim in it all. There was no talking to her. Thankfully she moved on to the next man and the next and the next.

Why I dislike Facebook that and I have no friends

Its mad how many people dont lock their profile in Facebook so everything is visible to anyone who wants to see. Total eye opener "

Agreed x

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

I’ve had a Twitter stalker. That wasn’t great.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I did when I was a teenager and in my 20s. I stopped by growing up. Luke

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"A friend of mine had a very short fling with a married man before he ended it. My friend turned complete stalker, looking into his facebook, his wifes facebook, his friends, family etc. Before long she could tell us all about his family. It was bloody scary how deep she got and how she felt the victim in it all. There was no talking to her. Thankfully she moved on to the next man and the next and the next."

I used to be friends with someone who obsessed over her ex hubby and she took screenshots of everything he posted on social media and stalked anyone he added as a friend.

That obsession carried over into her daily life and she became totally obsessed with how she looked before she went out and literally spent 2 hours each day before she would open her front door.

She often sat up until 2 and 3am searching online for obscure articles that justified her obsessive behaviour and every single conversation was about how others were narcissists but she just couldn't see the irony in what she was saying.

When I pulled away because of her attitude she started stalking me online and making creepy comments on anything I posted on social media until I blocked her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 6 months ago I was obsessed with a girl I was seeing for about 5 months. She finished with me shortly after telling me she loved me. My brain just couldn't turn that bit off. I'm still heart broken now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was 45 she was 22. The physical connection was electric x she ghosted me then blocked me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A friend of mine had a very short fling with a married man before he ended it. My friend turned complete stalker, looking into his facebook, his wifes facebook, his friends, family etc. Before long she could tell us all about his family. It was bloody scary how deep she got and how she felt the victim in it all. There was no talking to her. Thankfully she moved on to the next man and the next and the next.

I used to be friends with someone who obsessed over her ex hubby and she took screenshots of everything he posted on social media and stalked anyone he added as a friend.

That obsession carried over into her daily life and she became totally obsessed with how she looked before she went out and literally spent 2 hours each day before she would open her front door.

She often sat up until 2 and 3am searching online for obscure articles that justified her obsessive behaviour and every single conversation was about how others were narcissists but she just couldn't see the irony in what she was saying.

When I pulled away because of her attitude she started stalking me online and making creepy comments on anything I posted on social media until I blocked her. "

She sounds an awful lot like my friend. She definitely let's things still over into her daily life and omg is she obsessed about her appearance. She also almost had a mental breakdown when her ex (that she allegedly hated) met someone else. She couldn't figure out how he met someone before she did. It's not nice to watch or experience. There was no talking to her.

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