FabSwingers.com forum: Scammed on another site can anyone help me

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Basically I met this girl on a site and wanted to video chat with me which I did she was naked and asked me to get naked which I did.

But when I went off she somehow got my Facebook profile and told me to pay 500 or she will share our video with all my family..

Any suggestions please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear I’m sorry to hear that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report her on both platforms

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Any suggestions to what to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report her on the site, retain the messages as evidence, block her and report her to the Police. Don't reply to her messages.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I could but she still has pictures of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete this thread immediately and report the issue to police.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

The police. This is a crime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1) Pay the £500. REJECT

2) Ignore them. REJECT

3) Remind them blackm*il and posting lewd material without consent is a serious criminal offence and that you will have no hesitation in reporting them directly to the Police. APPROVED

Oh, and keep ALL communication as evidence, they will be able to trace IP addresses etc

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

Report her to the site that it was on and make sure you screen shot the messages then go to

The police .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did she give you proof that she's found your social media? Or is she just blagging? Personally I wouldn't take it as a serious threat but if you're concerned I guess the only thing you can do it contact the police online/101? Or tell her you'll contact the police? Some cases it might diffuse the situation but could also make it worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you really that bothered if your family see you naked? Yes. it'll be embarrassing for a while, but they, and you will forget. Pay her and it will never go away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple op call they bluff tell them go ahead like I care I have nothing to be ashamed about

Watch them disper and the video will not be shared they praying on fear

Ones you take that away there’s nothing they can do simple as

What’s the worst that happens they get a video ok you be the butt end off a couple off jokes for a week or two but not like we not all done it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s the problem?

Internet sex type stuff is common ground these days.

Your family will get over it.

Tell her to do her worst.

But possibly warn your nan first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check and see if your current Facebook privacy settings allow non-friends to see your friends list. If they can't see your posts or friends you have nothing to worry about. Then report to the police

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did she give you proof that she's found your social media? Or is she just blagging? Personally I wouldn't take it as a serious threat but if you're concerned I guess the only thing you can do it contact the police online/101? Or tell her you'll contact the police? Some cases it might diffuse the situation but could also make it worse

Yes she has proper evidence that it is me sent me screenshots of my Facebook profile and my family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd go with calling their bluff too. If you were just two consenting adults getting naked, they haven't got anything to shame you for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple op call they bluff tell them go ahead like I care I have nothing to be ashamed about

Watch them disper and the video will not be shared they praying on fear

Ones you take that away there’s nothing they can do simple as

What’s the worst that happens they get a video ok you be the butt end off a couple off jokes for a week or two but not like we not all done it "

Whilst this advice is given with the best intention, I would counter this by saying DON’T say go ahead, as that’s giving her consent to post the material. Whatever you do DO NOT make a record of your consent to her posting this material anywhere, you’ll literally torpedo any potential criminal case against them!

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington

"Basically I met this girl on a site and wanted to video chat with me which I did she was naked and asked me to get naked which I did.

But when I went off she somehow got my Facebook profile and told me to pay 500 or she will share our video with all my family..

Any suggestions please "
i am not on facebook for just this sort or reason but the obvious course is to contact who ever does admin on facebook explaining what has happened ( it will not be the first this has happened)(probably an on going scam)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Check and see if your current Facebook privacy settings allow non-friends to see your friends list. If they can't see your posts or friends you have nothing to worry about. Then report to the police"

Good advice, I think

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Simple op call they bluff tell them go ahead like I care I have nothing to be ashamed about

Watch them disper and the video will not be shared they praying on fear

Ones you take that away there’s nothing they can do simple as

What’s the worst that happens they get a video ok you be the butt end off a couple off jokes for a week or two but not like we not all done it

What he said

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Do you know for sure she even has your Facebook profile, I personally would not worry too much I know it must be very scary, the chances of her actually posting anything are quite low

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If I could post the screenshots I will but its very difficult when you are in this situation

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

"Basically I met this girl on a site and wanted to video chat with me which I did she was naked and asked me to get naked which I did.

But when I went off she somehow got my Facebook profile and told me to pay 500 or she will share our video with all my family..

Any suggestions please "

Thus has happened to a friend of mine...if you do pay, do you think they will just dissappear? They will get as much money out of you as possible...my friend paid them thousands until he eventually went to the police. Go to the police!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Just go to the police, its illegal. They've seen it all.

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

First of all, lock your social media down including friends lists.

Secondly, screen grab any conversations, but don’t respond.

Thirdly, report to police.

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"First of all, lock your social media down including friends lists.

Secondly, screen grab any conversations, but don’t respond.

Thirdly, report to police. "

And don’t be embarrassed about reporting it. They don’t care and aren’t there to judge. They have seen things that you couldn’t imagine, this won’t phase them at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely horrendous, I’ve actually heard of this before it was in the news if you Google it, they use the screen shot to scan for images online to find your profile so definitely check your privacy settings, don’t pay and report to the police mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report to police!

Sextortion is a crime. Paying her off won't stop her from asking money again. At some point, you will have to go to police.

Instead, do it now. You can call the police. If you find that uncomfortable, there are police websites which specifically let you report online scams and sextortion issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've said they provided proof, since that's the case I would just tell them they don't have permission to share pictures of you and that them doing so will result in you following through with the police to the full extent of the law as black-mail is a serious offense, as is sharing nude pictures of people without consent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm in a bad situation.. the only way I can get out of this world be having a hacker delete my pictures and give her a taste of her own medicine

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By *issLipsandhipsWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

"Basically I met this girl on a site and wanted to video chat with me which I did she was naked and asked me to get naked which I did.

But when I went off she somehow got my Facebook profile and told me to pay 500 or she will share our video with all my family..

Any suggestions please "

This is a scam by a gang, it happens all over the world unfortunately. Don't pay as they will continue to extort money from you. There is absolutely no shame in this... it happens THOUSANDS of men! You were born naked and its nothing new. Don't be disheartened! It will pass eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a similar experience with a guy who black mailed me. Said that he would report me to my work and show them some pictures. I was very worried but then called their bluff. I was also collecting evidence to go to the police but he vanished. Messaged me again a few months later pretending nothing had happened. I obviously blocked and reported him. Again.

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By *oulja_01000Man
over a year ago

North East

This happened to a close friend of mine.

He pulled down his FB account for a few weeks. Never heard anything again.

My suggestion! At least for the immediate fix to save face of your parts being made public on your FB!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If anyone hear is a hacker or knows a hacker please pm me

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Delete your Facebook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone hear is a hacker or knows a hacker please pm me "

That's not the way to go about things.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Delete your Facebook "

Was going to say this too. How much of your Facebook is viewable to non friends? They maybe bluffing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What part is bothering you the most?

You have your face and cock visible on a public site for thousands to see anyway.

If that's what your scared someone may see and your family may be shown. That could happen off the back of this profile anyway if someone else sees it regardless.

As it says above don't reply and report them, and maybe hide your public pictures to private for a while.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"If anyone hear is a hacker or knows a hacker please pm me

That's not the way to go about things. "

Nor will it achieve anything.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm in a bad situation.. the only way I can get out of this world be having a hacker delete my pictures and give her a taste of her own medicine "

Not the only way..the above replies have taken time to give good advice that I'd listen to if I were in your shoes.

I'd imagine she is a serial scammer and this is likely not the first time she's done it. I'd take the screenshots as evidence, ignore her as she's likely after a reaction (as well as money of course) and report to the police.

It's illegal what she's doing but if you start getting a hacker involved then I imagine you'd get in trouble for that too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone hear is a hacker or knows a hacker please pm me

That's not the way to go about things. "

^ she’s not just a pretty pair of tits, she’s a very wise woman! Revenge, and illegal revenge more to the point, is not the way forward, reporting to the Police absolutely is (rather than being reported to the Police yourself!)

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By *aptiveAudienceMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"If anyone hear is a hacker or knows a hacker please pm me "

What?! A hacker?! Are you serious? Just report to the police and let them deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple op call they bluff tell them go ahead like I care I have nothing to be ashamed about

Watch them disper and the video will not be shared they praying on fear

Ones you take that away there’s nothing they can do simple as

What’s the worst that happens they get a video ok you be the butt end off a couple off jokes for a week or two but not like we not all done it

Maybe not the best choice off words

But you probably find a criminal case being hard to bring

With these types off scams you will find the person dose not live it the uk and used a vpn to trick websites and stuff in to thinking they in the uk by setting they vpn to the uk so a criminal case is pretty pointless yes concat the cops but I don’t think much will be done

At least you can always say you contact them to try and scare them off

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"I'm in a bad situation.. the only way I can get out of this world be having a hacker delete my pictures and give her a taste of her own medicine "

That's not the answer. Report to the platforms, then delete and block.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I'm in a bad situation.. the only way I can get out of this world be having a hacker delete my pictures and give her a taste of her own medicine "

You've literally been given other options.... How is this the only way out?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Id love to show you all the conversation but if I report or delete she will share .. and also I am not sure from a message she sent but I think she is going to send it to kids and blame me like

U must see the messages

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

1. Set your fb privacy settings higher.

2. Block and report the person doing it.

3. Pop the kettle on, and have a cuppa.

They're after your money, not your dignity. They won't do anything if you don't pay, it's an empty threat.

Don't panic, don't play ball, and don't think anymore about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're not going to listen to the advice you're asking for why waste our time?

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I could but she still has pictures of me"
report to the police, they will make her delete them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone hear is a hacker or knows a hacker please pm me "

I work in computers and have some knowledge about security/hacking. But I would like to point out that you can't just target someone and hack them whenever you want. That's not how it works. Unfortunately, movies have made it look like hacking someone is like eating cake. Unless that person fundamentally stupid or you are the government, there is no way you can hack into some random person's account.

Just go to the police!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you're not going to listen to the advice you're asking for why waste our time?"

I am listening to the advice to report it but what happens if they were to share

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're not going to listen to the advice you're asking for why waste our time?

I am listening to the advice to report it but what happens if they were to share"

They land themselves in more shit.

Not your problem then

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By *nergeticlemurMan
over a year ago

wiltshire

Sadly all you can do is block, report and send warnings to people she'll send it to. As much as it's a crime it's to easy to get around these things, likely a scammer with a burner account abroad using a VPN so impossible to track down.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Id love to show you all the conversation but if I report or delete she will share .. and also I am not sure from a message she sent but I think she is going to send it to kids and blame me like

U must see the messages "

But if you have evidence of her intention to do that where is the issue? The sooner you report it and show them everything the sooner you can clear your name should they act upon it which is highly unlikely.

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

"If you're not going to listen to the advice you're asking for why waste our time?

I am listening to the advice to report it but what happens if they were to share"

What do you think will happen if you pay them? Do you think they'll leave you alone, or demand more?

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"Id love to show you all the conversation but if I report or delete she will share .. and also I am not sure from a message she sent but I think she is going to send it to kids and blame me like

U must see the messages "

You think she's going to take the time to do all that just for you? Most likely she's/they have already moved on to their next target if it doesn't look like you'll pay...assuming you don't actually want folk's advice here.

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By *aretobareCouple
over a year ago

Central Portugal

How old was she?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On AFFer she is 26

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"If you're not going to listen to the advice you're asking for why waste our time?

I am listening to the advice to report it but what happens if they were to share"

You have face pics on here....what's stopping someone seeing you on here and sharing your profile/cock pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id love to show you all the conversation but if I report or delete she will share .. and also I am not sure from a message she sent but I think she is going to send it to kids and blame me like

U must see the messages "

The advice you have is to keep the messages. They will be time stamped, and IP logged (even if they’re using a VPN). So it will be easy to prove it wasn’t you sending to anyone inappropriate. And if they DO do that, (send to minors) they’re opening themselves up to a whole new world of shit that they don’t want to get involved with! The type of shit that will probably get themselves maimed in prison!

Close the Fakebook account, and report to Police if you’re genuinely worried.

And don’t wait to close Fakebook. Do it NOW.

If you’re not genuinely worried and just want some drama on the Fab Forum, just carry on as you are …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move to katmandu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're not going to listen to the advice you're asking for why waste our time?

I am listening to the advice to report it but what happens if they were to share

What do you think will happen if you pay them? Do you think they'll leave you alone, or demand more?"

Exactly the first one is a kind off low one always to establish if the fear is there

If established they be back for 10x that amount

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

report to the site it was done on and the police

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