FabSwingers.com forum: Modern Day Dress Code

By *WStockingtops OP Couple
over a year ago

bristol

It really is crap isn't it?

My opinion of course but I have a good argument here.

Take the weekend. Went out with Mrs SW.

Beforehand deciding where to go. Being in our early 50s, clubs are out but there is nothing that isn't a quiet bar or pub for our age group.

Then you have dress code. Or rather lack not it these days.

Jokingly I said "I'm wearing a jacket, collar and tie". Mrs SW replies with " Oh you'd look stupid". And she's right.

Nobody dresses up now. Its just jeans and shirt or t shirt. Whether it's going to a pub or someone's party it's the same. The same look as if you were going to the shops.

Nobody makes the effort anymore and if you did, oh I dunno say a smart shirt with a waistcoat and jacket, you'd stand out like sore thumb.

Bring back the days when Men looked smart and the ladies looked classy.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I make an effort when ever I go out. Although right now all I seem to wear is jeans, nice ones though.

I agree with you that anything goes now.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

100% agree !! we used to love dressing up to go out back in the day but as you've put no one makes a effort we know a cpuple who arranged to meet a younger male and they said dress to impress/smart he turned up wearing a so called designer track suit ??? as Mrs4 sayus bring back the days when men dressed like men and women dressed like women and she loves both ! but a huge diffference between sexy/classy and slutty though

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Good 4 u wanting 2 look smart and stand out from the crowd. Be a sheepdog not a sheep and wear wot u like x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If I'm going for a night out, I love to dress up. Don't think I've ever gone out in jeans.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's going to the shops in jeans and a shirt? Joggers, trainers, and hoodie all the way

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We went to the theatre recently and commented on the same thing.

Many looked like they’d come straight from doing the gardening.

Had a gut turn up for a social recently too that looked like he’s just walked off a building site.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We dress up to go out. Maybe not a suit and tie but certainly smart clothes. It's possible to be smart in casual clothes too, as long as you're well groomed, good clean footwear and clothes.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The downfall of dress code is lamentable. You used to have to dress up to get into the nightclubs, so everyone in town was dressed appropriately for the night out and you could see the difference from the people who were just in the pub for a quick one or the remnants of an afternoon out where the code was much different. Now it's just one big mush of laziness (from men at any rate) where you couldn't tell anyones intentions just by looking at them anymore. Don't get me wrong, dressing up for a rave is different to dressing up for a more formal night out and maybe because all us ravers grew up the more laid back attire just followed naturally? Shame.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

People can wear what they like, wherever they like. If I go out I'll wear what I want to as long as they aren't old around the house clothes. I'll wear a suit with waistcoat and tie even of going to a pub if I feel like it. Don't care if I stand out or not. I'm there to enjoy a night out with friends not be judged or stand around judging others. I'm 66 and do go to clubs lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Where what you want where you want. No one really cares, if you want to wear a suit and tie then do it.

Society is changing.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who's going to the shops in jeans and a shirt? Joggers, trainers, and hoodie all the way

Joggers? You must be posh. Joggers are only worn in places where shorts aren’t acceptable

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

We’ve been lucky enough to go out twice this week - a social & a family meal. At both there were plenty of men in shirts & waistcoats looking damn fine

I dress how I want & loved putting on a dress & heels for the 1st time in forever. T actually underdressed which is unusual but had a lovely lightweight jumper on & still looked smart.

J x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

I pretty much live in shorts, jeans, polos, but enjoy getting dressed up for a night out.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

So for me it depends

Sometimes I will wear a tshirt with a suit jacket and jeans; sometimes a proper shirt, sometimes a collared long sleeve polo

It depends on where I am going, who I am going with, if my shirts have been in a backpack or from wardrobe

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It all depends if you are going out or out out

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"It really is crap isn't it?

My opinion of course but I have a good argument here.

Take the weekend. Went out with Mrs SW.

Beforehand deciding where to go. Being in our early 50s, clubs are out but there is nothing that isn't a quiet bar or pub for our age group.

Then you have dress code. Or rather lack not it these days.

Jokingly I said "I'm wearing a jacket, collar and tie". Mrs SW replies with " Oh you'd look stupid". And she's right.

Nobody dresses up now. Its just jeans and shirt or t shirt. Whether it's going to a pub or someone's party it's the same. The same look as if you were going to the shops.

Nobody makes the effort anymore and if you did, oh I dunno say a smart shirt with a waistcoat and jacket, you'd stand out like sore thumb.

Bring back the days when Men looked smart and the ladies looked classy."

100% agree. Seems more prevalent in the younger generations as well.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it’s mostly variation. I dress smart for work (shirt/trousers/smart shoes) and when I’m off to the pub or to a party sometimes I like to look different, sometimes I like to throw on something nice but that’s actually comfortable. As for the shops, I’m in agreement with a poster above that I would probably throw on trainers, a hoodie etc - for comfort.

Interesting thread, got me thinking.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"For me it’s mostly variation. I dress smart for work (shirt/trousers/smart shoes) and when I’m off to the pub or to a party sometimes I like to look different, sometimes I like to throw on something nice but that’s actually comfortable. As for the shops, I’m in agreement with a poster above that I would probably throw on trainers, a hoodie etc - for comfort.

Interesting thread, got me thinking.

I thought it was the norm to go to the shops in pj's.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who's going to the shops in jeans and a shirt? Joggers, trainers, and hoodie all the way

Joggers? You must be posh. Joggers are only worn in places where shorts aren’t acceptable

You mean like the UK in the middle of January?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"It really is crap isn't it?

My opinion of course but I have a good argument here.

Take the weekend. Went out with Mrs SW.

Beforehand deciding where to go. Being in our early 50s, clubs are out but there is nothing that isn't a quiet bar or pub for our age group.

Then you have dress code. Or rather lack not it these days.

Jokingly I said "I'm wearing a jacket, collar and tie". Mrs SW replies with " Oh you'd look stupid". And she's right.

Nobody dresses up now. Its just jeans and shirt or t shirt. Whether it's going to a pub or someone's party it's the same. The same look as if you were going to the shops.

Nobody makes the effort anymore and if you did, oh I dunno say a smart shirt with a waistcoat and jacket, you'd stand out like sore thumb.

Bring back the days when Men looked smart and the ladies looked classy."

What's wrong with standing out? Maybe your attitude to want to blend in is the issue?

Fashions change with the passing of time.... It happens. If it didn't we'd be wearing corsets till we fainted and lead paint on our faces.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It really is crap isn't it?

My opinion of course but I have a good argument here.

Take the weekend. Went out with Mrs SW.

Beforehand deciding where to go. Being in our early 50s, clubs are out but there is nothing that isn't a quiet bar or pub for our age group.

Then you have dress code. Or rather lack not it these days.

Jokingly I said "I'm wearing a jacket, collar and tie". Mrs SW replies with " Oh you'd look stupid". And she's right.

Nobody dresses up now. Its just jeans and shirt or t shirt. Whether it's going to a pub or someone's party it's the same. The same look as if you were going to the shops.

Nobody makes the effort anymore and if you did, oh I dunno say a smart shirt with a waistcoat and jacket, you'd stand out like sore thumb.

Bring back the days when Men looked smart and the ladies looked classy.

100% agree. Seems more prevalent in the younger generations as well."

My son is 19 and dressed smartly most of the time! Tbh the scruffiest people I see are 50+.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who's going to the shops in jeans and a shirt? Joggers, trainers, and hoodie all the way

Joggers? You must be posh. Joggers are only worn in places where shorts aren’t acceptable

You mean like the UK in the middle of January?

I’m a Geordie. January is BBQ season for us

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"It really is crap isn't it?

My opinion of course but I have a good argument here.

Take the weekend. Went out with Mrs SW.

Beforehand deciding where to go. Being in our early 50s, clubs are out but there is nothing that isn't a quiet bar or pub for our age group.

Then you have dress code. Or rather lack not it these days.

Jokingly I said "I'm wearing a jacket, collar and tie". Mrs SW replies with " Oh you'd look stupid". And she's right.

Nobody dresses up now. Its just jeans and shirt or t shirt. Whether it's going to a pub or someone's party it's the same. The same look as if you were going to the shops.

Nobody makes the effort anymore and if you did, oh I dunno say a smart shirt with a waistcoat and jacket, you'd stand out like sore thumb.

Bring back the days when Men looked smart and the ladies looked classy.

100% agree. Seems more prevalent in the younger generations as well.

My son is 19 and dressed smartly most of the time! Tbh the scruffiest people I see are 50+. "

Yep... Well washed football tops from back in the good old days and scruffy jogging bottoms.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I'm often on the verge of being overdressed for an occasion and I don't care. I love dressing up and often get complimented by those that look like they've come straight from work/the sofa.

Although I do think it's sometimes easier for a woman to overdress and look sexy whereas it can be borderline for men looking a bit behind the curve. It's all contextual.

I love seeing K dressed up.

I say, do as you like. As long as everyone is having fun, roll with it - embrace your inner self!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The dude abides

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I adore fashion. I think if you have your own style you radiate anyway doesn’t matter if that’s skinny jeans with docs and a hoodie or a lbd and heels, I love putting outfits together mixing vintage pieces with modern and putting my own twist on things- someone who is confident in what they wear will always stand out xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I don't get to look smart very often so I like to make an effort if I get the opportunity.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need fill an entire wardrobe in the spring/summer, and I’m fucked if I know what to put in it. My clothes were previously, all purchased from the ‘big man’ specialists.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There's so many things to consider when dressing too. I think we'll always be criticised whatever we wear. "Age appropriate" applied to men and women is a phrase I sometimes hear I think it's replaced "mutton dressed as lamb"

. I've also heard people criticised for dressing older than their years.

Personally I think the clothes you wear reflect how you feel about yourself and the image you want to present to other people also in some measure your attitude towards the people you come in contact with.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I adore fashion. I think if you have your own style you radiate anyway doesn’t matter if that’s skinny jeans with docs and a hoodie or a lbd and heels, I love putting outfits together mixing vintage pieces with modern and putting my own twist on things- someone who is confident in what they wear will always stand out xx"

Agreed

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I have got to the stage where I don't care what people think...except for the person I am with.

I don't like to be looked at, but if a nice shirt, jacket and dress jeans worn with clean and good quality shoes/boots is going to stand out...then stand out I shall.

My size ensures that anyway.

A nice scarf and a hat add to the "not wandered out in a pair of joggers and my slippers" look.

Being put together need not include a tie but it shows pride.

If I am mixing with a younger crowd then my Guiseppes and a casual jacket worn over a t shirt is the order of the day.

I think a man can be dapper and say screw conventions and public opinion.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *WStockingtops OP Couple
over a year ago

bristol

What's wrong with standing out? Maybe your attitude to want to blend in is the issue?

Fashions change with the passing of time.... It happens. If it didn't we'd be wearing corsets till we fainted and lead paint on our faces. "

Nothing wrong with my attitude whatsoever. And it's not wanting to blend in. I used to wear eye liner to gigs and have my hair dyed regularly.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We once heard of a thing called the “scumbag radius”

You can tell how much of a scumbag you are bully how far you’re willing to go from your front door in your PJs.

If you’re willing to go to the gate to take in the post then you’re positively middle class but if you’re willing to get on a bus and go to sign on then…well.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer wearing comfortable clothes.

I'm thankful to whoever invented the stretchy fabric they use for jeans these days.

If it's a posh do I sometimes iron a t-shirt.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We once heard of a thing called the “scumbag radius”

You can tell how much of a scumbag you are bully how far you’re willing to go from your front door in your PJs.

If you’re willing to go to the gate to take in the post then you’re positively middle class but if you’re willing to get on a bus and go to sign on then…well. "

Wow. I don’t go anywhere in my PJs but to call anyone who does a scumbag… well.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We once heard of a thing called the “scumbag radius”

You can tell how much of a scumbag you are bully how far you’re willing to go from your front door in your PJs.

If you’re willing to go to the gate to take in the post then you’re positively middle class but if you’re willing to get on a bus and go to sign on then…well. "

I won't even answer the door in my pyjamas (not that I wear them) I must be the queen's cousin or something

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

There was a guy at my uni...not my course...who wore pj's to lectures. He skated in with a box of cornflakes under his arm and sat down.

He was a nob though.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I notice this at work too, a lot of peoples' interpretation of a smart casual dress code is very different to mine.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"We once heard of a thing called the “scumbag radius”

You can tell how much of a scumbag you are bully how far you’re willing to go from your front door in your PJs.

If you’re willing to go to the gate to take in the post then you’re positively middle class but if you’re willing to get on a bus and go to sign on then…well.

I won't even answer the door in my pyjamas (not that I wear them) I must be the queen's cousin or something

Always regarded you as the Duchess on here...now I know why.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It all depends if you are going out or out out

Or if you have just popped out

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

In many respects, we've progressed along a permissive trajectory. A reduction in stricter social mores, alongside the elevation of the individual and loosening of taboos. It's been fairly fast, within a generation or two. Pros and Cons, of course. Dress codes have been a part of this.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread, got me thinking.

I thought it was the norm to go to the shops in pj's."

I think it is. When I worked in a local shop lots of customers did. I don’t really have PJs anymore so I don’t though.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"Who's going to the shops in jeans and a shirt? Joggers, trainers, and hoodie all the way

Joggers? You must be posh. Joggers are only worn in places where shorts aren’t acceptable

You mean like the UK in the middle of January?

I see guys wearing shorts all year round up here in the frozen north.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My gripe is why is it acceptable for a girl to wear skirts and a strappy top in an office/pub but if I (male) wear vests or shorts it’s not?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We once heard of a thing called the “scumbag radius”

You can tell how much of a scumbag you are bully how far you’re willing to go from your front door in your PJs.

If you’re willing to go to the gate to take in the post then you’re positively middle class but if you’re willing to get on a bus and go to sign on then…well.

I won't even answer the door in my pyjamas (not that I wear them) I must be the queen's cousin or something

Always regarded you as the Duchess on here...now I know why. "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I went in to work recently and saw a few young males with stone island shirts on…now don’t get em wrong I may have adidas T-shirts but I would t wear cp or stoney to office at all

That is for the terraces only and not for me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's really disappointing, even when I used to go out clubbing 25 years ago, jeans and trainers were never allowed, guys had to have a collar, girls nearly always wore lovely dresses or club gear.

I put a nice dress on now when if I'm just going for lunch or coffee or I never get the chance to wear them!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ungle VIP 1Man
over a year ago

colchester

Always dress up smart and even when at home still like to dress sharp. Off out this weekend and will have blazer waistcoat and tie. Like a lady dressed up so i to should make the same effort

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

"I went in to work recently and saw a few young males with stone island shirts on…now don’t get em wrong I may have adidas T-shirts but I would t wear cp or stoney to office at all

That is for the terraces only and not for me "

I agree, there is a time and place for casual clothes. When I'm at work FT I always dress accordingly, but right now it's a mixture as I wake up and think I'm working from home then when I'm dressed I remember I should be in at work. Even when I'm working from home I make sure I'm fully dressed and have shoes on.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I like to look well, as it helps with my confidence. I work with the public, so i dress to impress. Does anybody keep a mirror in the hall to check your appearance before leaving the house? . I have a few waistcoats, my favourite is a soft black leather one.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I like to look well, as it helps with my confidence. I work with the public, so i dress to impress. Does anybody keep a mirror in the hall to check your appearance before leaving the house? . I have a few waistcoats, my favourite is a soft black leather one. "

Yes we have a mirror on the hall. I think it's faulty though, sometimes when I look in it a 65 year old woman looks back at me imitating everything I do

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

Yes we have a mirror on the hall. I think it's faulty though, sometimes when I look in it a 65 year old woman looks back at me imitating everything I do

I wouldn't be without a mirror in the hall, that's where I dry my hair.

Shop windows are also good for checking your appearance, well so I'm told.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

I've gone from a power-dressing job to one that's much more casual, so I really enjoy making an effort when I go out.

It happens rarely enough; why not make an event of it?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames

I’m going out for dinner at a favourite restaurant this weekend, and will be dressing properly for that. Digging out the clothes, ironing them, polishing the shoes, digging out the cuff links, having a haircut on Friday ... all of this is part of me looking forward to the meal. And I enjoy making the effort. Staff appreciate it too, shows that you think that the meal they are serving is a special thing for you, instead of looking like you’ve just rolled out of bed.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Like to dress up to go out sometimes like to dress down 2 x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'm not interested in what others think or care and have never felt stupid. The last time I was in a pub was 80 miles into a 110 mile run, I hadn't slept for about 36 hours, was covered mud stains, my waterproof trousers had a large hole in the knee and I was desperate for somewhere warm and dry to sit while I downed a pint of and a plate of chips. I was with another competitor, we were given a table, slung our packs (complete with race numbers and flashing red lights) on the floor, propped our poles behind the bench and made the most of a roaring fire and a comfy seat. Not once did it cross my mind to care what others thought about our attire. Beyond a couple of questions from an old guy about where we'd run from (I think he thought we were lying) no one glanced at us twice

I wouldn't bat an eyelid at a guy dressed in a shirt and tie and I don't think anyone else would either. I really don't think it's worth worrying about what others think, if you and your wife want to dress up smart and enjoy an evening out then just do it. Leave the worrying about what people think of your clothes to the teenagers

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we have a mirror on the hall. I think it's faulty though, sometimes when I look in it a hot 65 year old woman looks back at me imitating everything I do

Fixed that for you.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uksungCouple
over a year ago

wednesbury

Totally agree. In my opinion men in trainers,baseball caps and tshirts when they are in a nice resteraunt is ridiculous. Women on the other hand sometime look like frumpy in dresses and converse. Bring back the dress code.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes we have a mirror on the hall. I think it's faulty though, sometimes when I look in it a hot 65 year old woman looks back at me imitating everything I do

Fixed that for you.

Mr"

you're too kind.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread