FabSwingers.com forum: Men who let their wife play away

By *aughtySexualArousal OP Man
over a year ago

SPALDING

How many wives/girlfriends have partners who like them to go shopping, or have nights/weekends away with another man or couple? Had this thought while at work the other day. Is it a more common thing or a niche?

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By *ocky82Man
over a year ago

Watford

I’d love my wife to !

But she thinks I’m weird !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its called hotwifing and its quite popular amongst swingers.

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By *aughtySexualArousal OP Man
over a year ago

SPALDING

"Its called hotwifing and its quite popular amongst swingers."
Thanks didn't know it was a big thing, and certainly didn't know it had a specific name.

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By *aughtySexualArousal OP Man
over a year ago

SPALDING

"I’d love my wife to !

But she thinks I’m weird ! "

Is she a dead no against it?

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By *ocky82Man
over a year ago

Watford

"I’d love my wife to !

But she thinks I’m weird !

Is she a dead no against it?"

I think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife sees other men, but she doesn’t ‘play away’ so to speak. It’s all done in the open, with my knowledge and blessing. As she knows about my adventures here too. It’s a two way street for us.

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By *ocky82Man
over a year ago

Watford

"My wife sees other men, but she doesn’t ‘play away’ so to speak. It’s all done in the open, with my knowledge and blessing. As she knows about my adventures here too. It’s a two way street for us. "

Lucky you

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Clearly my husband is happy for me to meet alone. Though I am only looking to meet other women, that is my choice.

He is also welcome to meet alone, if he wants.

Swinging is about mutual agreement around adding others to your sex life, not about "allowing" your partner to have sex with others.

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By *edonist79Man
over a year ago

Trowbridge

My gf will invite a guy over if I'm not there. I'll get told all about it and usually get pictures and videos if she does so win win. She can't do overnights though as she's a single mum and the dad doesn't have the kid.

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By *hostwolfMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

Hotwifing I've heard a lot of swinging couples do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's kind of an appealing scenario if you ask me but it's whether your wife is into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clearly my husband is happy for me to meet alone. Though I am only looking to meet other women, that is my choice.

He is also welcome to meet alone, if he wants.

Swinging is about mutual agreement around adding others to your sex life, not about "allowing" your partner to have sex with others."

Thank you for highlighting the "allowing" comment in the OP.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clearly my husband is happy for me to meet alone. Though I am only looking to meet other women, that is my choice.

He is also welcome to meet alone, if he wants.

Swinging is about mutual agreement around adding others to your sex life, not about "allowing" your partner to have sex with others.

Thank you for highlighting the "allowing" comment in the OP.

NBVN x"

To be fair - some of the turn on can be around the language "shared" "allowed to play" etc. Depends what kind of dynamic people have.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Clearly my husband is happy for me to meet alone. Though I am only looking to meet other women, that is my choice.

He is also welcome to meet alone, if he wants.

Swinging is about mutual agreement around adding others to your sex life, not about "allowing" your partner to have sex with others.

Thank you for highlighting the "allowing" comment in the OP.

NBVN x

To be fair - some of the turn on can be around the language "shared" "allowed to play" etc. Depends what kind of dynamic people have. "

I suppose so, but "allowing" suggests ownership to me and as such seems less appropriate in swinging relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clearly my husband is happy for me to meet alone. Though I am only looking to meet other women, that is my choice.

He is also welcome to meet alone, if he wants.

Swinging is about mutual agreement around adding others to your sex life, not about "allowing" your partner to have sex with others."

Exactly this for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clearly my husband is happy for me to meet alone. Though I am only looking to meet other women, that is my choice.

He is also welcome to meet alone, if he wants.

Swinging is about mutual agreement around adding others to your sex life, not about "allowing" your partner to have sex with others.

Thank you for highlighting the "allowing" comment in the OP.

NBVN x

To be fair - some of the turn on can be around the language "shared" "allowed to play" etc. Depends what kind of dynamic people have.

I suppose so, but "allowing" suggests ownership to me and as such seems less appropriate in swinging relationships. "

A BDSM role-play dynamic - I should have been more clear.

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By *aughtySexualArousal OP Man
over a year ago

SPALDING

"Clearly my husband is happy for me to meet alone. Though I am only looking to meet other women, that is my choice.

He is also welcome to meet alone, if he wants.

Swinging is about mutual agreement around adding others to your sex life, not about "allowing" your partner to have sex with others."

Allowing was probably the wrong word to use, but didn't mean anything bad by it.

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Got to again say that allowing is a shallow and pathetic word.

My husband and I don't "allow" each other to explore elsewhere... neither of us belong to the other.. we simply coexist beautifully and enhance each other whilst being exploring types

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d love my wife to !

But she thinks I’m weird !

Is she a dead no against it?

I think so "

Mine too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clearly my husband is happy for me to meet alone. Though I am only looking to meet other women, that is my choice.

He is also welcome to meet alone, if he wants.

Swinging is about mutual agreement around adding others to your sex life, not about "allowing" your partner to have sex with others.

Thank you for highlighting the "allowing" comment in the OP.

NBVN x

To be fair - some of the turn on can be around the language "shared" "allowed to play" etc. Depends what kind of dynamic people have.

I suppose so, but "allowing" suggests ownership to me and as such seems less appropriate in swinging relationships.

A BDSM role-play dynamic - I should have been more clear. "

This is enlightening. Light bulb moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Got to again say that allowing is a shallow and pathetic word.

My husband and I don't "allow" each other to explore elsewhere... neither of us belong to the other.. we simply coexist beautifully and enhance each other whilst being exploring types"

agreed,,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the good lady has her own profile and therefore meets people who take her fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is my hubby's thing and I did when I used to meet. Something to do with the thought of what I was doing apparently.

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By *ILF 4 MILFMan
over a year ago

Darlington

I totally support and encourage it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More ?

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By *annabarberaCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

I do and I encourage it

The reclaim sex is awesome

Mr C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do and I encourage it

The reclaim sex is awesome

Mr C

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross

"Got to again say that allowing is a shallow and pathetic word.

My husband and I don't "allow" each other to explore elsewhere... neither of us belong to the other.. we simply coexist beautifully and enhance each other whilst being exploring types"

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I (Mrs) don't meet alone although the Mr has mentioned about a singles profile for me just to meet women, I prefer meeting as a couple though.

Mrs

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

I'm currently conversing with a wife who wants to come so stay and play with me on her own - while my wife's away...

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

Both my wife and I do this, it’s not about letting either. It’s just what we do.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Both my wife and I do this, it’s not about letting either. It’s just what we do."

That was my immediate response to the thread title........

It reads as if 'the wife' needs the permission of the 'the husband' ....

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Both my wife and I do this, it’s not about letting either. It’s just what we do.

That was my immediate response to the thread title........

It reads as if 'the wife' needs the permission of the 'the husband' .... "

What would you call it then? I wouldn’t be in a marriage where one goes out fucking other people with no discussion. So people should just be allowed to do that without the say so of their other half?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Both my wife and I do this, it’s not about letting either. It’s just what we do.

That was my immediate response to the thread title........

It reads as if 'the wife' needs the permission of the 'the husband' ....

Consent / Agreement

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Both my wife and I do this, it’s not about letting either. It’s just what we do.

That was my immediate response to the thread title........

It reads as if 'the wife' needs the permission of the 'the husband' ....

Consent / Agreement "

How many profiles say that though? The most common I see on these profiles is “I’m married/attached but have permission to meet others”. Never ever seen consent/agreement used when I’ve read profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both my wife and I do this, it’s not about letting either. It’s just what we do.

That was my immediate response to the thread title........

It reads as if 'the wife' needs the permission of the 'the husband' ....

Exactly . If u don’t discuss n both give consent is not an open relationship . Is just a mess .

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Got to again say that allowing is a shallow and pathetic word.

My husband and I don't "allow" each other to explore elsewhere... neither of us belong to the other.. we simply coexist beautifully and enhance each other whilst being exploring types

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to take her shopping and keep her for the weekend?..No wonder hubby is happy to let her play away..

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Both my wife and I do this, it’s not about letting either. It’s just what we do.

That was my immediate response to the thread title........

It reads as if 'the wife' needs the permission of the 'the husband' ....

Exactly . If u don’t discuss n both give consent is not an open relationship . Is just a mess . "

And permission pretty much means giving consent. Fair enough if people don’t particularly like the word but it’s the most commonly used in that scenario.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I have to take her shopping and keep her for the weekend?..No wonder hubby is happy to let her play away..

Yeah..... you have to take her shopping ..... That'll make everyone think twice

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I didn't realise this was such an old thread.

I always feel duped when I post on sommat dug up from months or years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife has a loving relationship with a BF so yea she does all the normal stuff like shopping trips away and all that stuff with him, I also have the same freedom I just choose not to and stick to going to the club and have socials with people maby one day I will it all just depends on if I meet someone I want to do all that stuff with

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Both my wife and I do this, it’s not about letting either. It’s just what we do.

That was my immediate response to the thread title........

It reads as if 'the wife' needs the permission of the 'the husband' ....

Exactly . If u don’t discuss n both give consent is not an open relationship . Is just a mess . "

Interestingly .... you used the word 'consent' ....

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

taking women shopping is expensive & very boring. I am up for other activities !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both my wife and I do this, it’s not about letting either. It’s just what we do.

That was my immediate response to the thread title........

It reads as if 'the wife' needs the permission of the 'the husband' ....

Exactly . If u don’t discuss n both give consent is not an open relationship . Is just a mess .

And permission pretty much means giving consent. Fair enough if people don’t particularly like the word but it’s the most commonly used in that scenario. "
I've been trying to square off the word let too.

You let someone cross your boundaries or not. But if hot wifing is within boundaries, than you aren't letting your wife do anything. Your agreeing (consenting) it's okay by you.

So I'm going with "men who enjoy their wife sleeping with others"... Or "are okay with ...."

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

This whole thread seems needlessly pedantic.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

My Girl is mine, I just want her enjoy life and enjoy what she fancies. As long as she has enjoyed herself and been treated right I am happy. We have a couple of little ground rules but I'm fairly relaxed.

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By *alverncpleCouple
over a year ago

malvern

My wife is free to do as she pleases

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This whole thread seems needlessly pedantic.

But we so much love to get our knickers in a twist and argue over the meaning of words - the more subjective and multi-interpretational the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My wife is free to do as she pleases "

Kick you out of your own home, cut you off from all of your mutual friends and family and move another man into your house whilst taking most of your wages every month?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"This whole thread seems needlessly pedantic.

What makes you say that ?

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

"My wife is free to do as she pleases "

She's hot!

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

I've told my wife I'd be ore than happy for her play with a yone she wishes even take a boyfriend

However she unfortunately not taken me up on it

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

My husband would love me to do this..not a chance in hell. I would not be happy or comfortable to do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not the shopping but definitely the nights away

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"This whole thread seems needlessly pedantic.

What makes you say that ? "

Because you added in a needless space between the ‘t’ at the end of ‘that’ and your question mark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are the opposite, I like my husband going off with other women, he has had one night away with a past interest, didn't feel as weird as we thought it would, even went for breakfast with them afterwards!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you go on a mums group and ask on there I doubt there will be many. You're obviously going to find loads here who are into that kind of thing. I don't think it's that common tbh, but who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you go on a mums group and ask on there I doubt there will be many. You're obviously going to find loads here who are into that kind of thing. I don't think it's that common tbh, but who knows."

I just asked on mums group and you’re right. A big fat 0 x

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Looking for someone who will let me play away

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Looking for someone who will let me play away

You have my permission. Just send me pics and vids please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love to take someone’s wife out and treat them

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Both my wife and I do this, it’s not about letting either. It’s just what we do.

That was my immediate response to the thread title........

It reads as if 'the wife' needs the permission of the 'the husband' ....

This. A million percent. And well said.

Seems like virtue signalling to me; people are picking up on the semantics of the verb “to allow” when there was no undertone of control or dominance.

Each to their own and all but we don’t play separately; it’s not for us. But if I wanted to go out and wine, dine and sixty nine some other woman, she’d chop my cock off - and I wouldn’t blame her. I’d be equally unimpressed if the reverse scenario was requested.

It’s nothing to do with one of us “allowing” the other to do something.

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Just to add if you do play separately and that’s your joint kink, fair play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you go on a mums group and ask on there I doubt there will be many. You're obviously going to find loads here who are into that kind of thing. I don't think it's that common tbh, but who knows.

I just asked on mums group and you’re right. A big fat 0 x "
do you think that is because 0 are doing it ... Or because it's still tabboo?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I don’t let C play away…like it’s my choice.

C has met a couple of females overnight but it’s a joint choice whether she does it.

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