FabSwingers.com forum: What’s holding you back?

By *umbiya OP Man
over a year ago

Halifax

I’d like to know what other people believe is their biggest flaw which is preventing them from finding sex.

Mine is a total inability to socialise.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Mine is just my looks and personality. Otherwise I'm grand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine is just my looks and personality. Otherwise I'm grand."

Want to meet for the sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Gravity...

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I need a better search engine

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Mine is being fussy.

I *could* have sex as long as I don't care with whom and want any pleasure for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally things go smoothly until I send a face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex"

Kill him/her?

Or did you mean they are lingering in your feelings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...

im just finding my feet I suppose...

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Nothing anymore live each day like it's my last! No more inhibitions holding me back x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex

Kill him/her?

Or did you mean they are lingering in your feelings? "

it’s giving Joe Goldberg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex

Kill him/her?

Or did you mean they are lingering in your feelings?

it’s giving Joe Goldberg "

Who??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fear of rejection and what it might do to my self esteem if it happens enough times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fear of rejection and what it might do to my self esteem if it happens enough times

Love yerself dude. Easier said than done I know but do that and the fear will bugger off. You're awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex

Kill him/her?

Or did you mean they are lingering in your feelings? "

No, you were right with the first one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex

Kill him/her?

Or did you mean they are lingering in your feelings?

No, you were right with the first one!"

A few ideas then.....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bmx-GSvz47M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex

Kill him/her?

Or did you mean they are lingering in your feelings?

it’s giving Joe Goldberg

Who??"

From You!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get sex at home.

On here though? I make virtually no effort in looking for people as I have very little time to myself at the moment. So would be a waste of everyone's time. Just has to settle for shit & giggles for now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex

Kill him/her?

Or did you mean they are lingering in your feelings?

it’s giving Joe Goldberg

Who??

From You! "

Him I'd have!!

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

Nothing really holds me back nowadays- I have more flaws than I could list, but I have come to accept myself for what I am & don't really worry what people think of me! It's very liberating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex

Kill him/her?

Or did you mean they are lingering in your feelings?

it’s giving Joe Goldberg

Who??

From You!

Him I'd have!!"

Same tbf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex

Kill him/her?

Or did you mean they are lingering in your feelings?

it’s giving Joe Goldberg

Who??

From You! "

I just had to google him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fear of rejection and what it might do to my self esteem if it happens enough times

Love yerself dude. Easier said than done I know but do that and the fear will bugger off. You're awesome! "

That was so wholesome, thank you

To be fair, you always seem to unapologetically be yourself which I think is awesome

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Nothing really holds me back nowadays- I have more flaws than I could list, but I have come to accept myself for what I am & don't really worry what people think of me! It's very liberating."

Best way to b x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fear of rejection and what it might do to my self esteem if it happens enough times

Love yerself dude. Easier said than done I know but do that and the fear will bugger off. You're awesome!

That was so wholesome, thank you

To be fair, you always seem to unapologetically be yourself which I think is awesome

Took me a while dude but it's liberating and so much better

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

"Nothing really holds me back nowadays- I have more flaws than I could list, but I have come to accept myself for what I am & don't really worry what people think of me! It's very liberating.

Best way to b x"

Isn't it!!!

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

I wouldn't say I find it too difficult to get sex in general.

But, with Fab, in particular, my biggest flaw is that I don't send out the first message, and instead wait for women to message me. Which happens, but by the time I eliminate those I'm not attracted to, those I'm not compatible with, and those where the conversation never rally starts flowing, I'm never left with much to show for it.

Obviously, I could send out the first message, but (probably like a lot od guys) I'm not confident in my own ability to actually compose a first message that would actually grab someone's attention. Too full of self-doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't get the padded cell door open...

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By *hatChattyGuyMan
over a year ago

folkestone

Looks, personality, doubt, and a total lack of anyone being interested lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The fact I won't look and won't let anyone approach me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks, personality, doubt, and a total lack of anyone being interested lol"

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lack of a babysitter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fussiness but I'm not lowering my standards, not that I'm anything special, far from it, but I won't meet just anyone. Plus my confidence

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

The messaging goes really well then I send my face picture....they see a speccy looking geek and probably think ...."nah your alright mate"...

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By *he Cram-BetweensCouple
over a year ago

A Club or Your Bedroom!

I think I'd struggle to hold back if I were to get my hands on the OP

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Having more Time available, since pandemic everything went tits up now trying to juggle multiple things

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

Sticking by our standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shy, low confidence and self esteem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My genital warts

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By *haggydogMan
over a year ago

Brooklands/London

I gave up messaging people. They're all getting hundreds of messages a day. I still meet though.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I am not body confident. I would love clubs more if I could actually get naked in front of people.

I am very happy one on one and I am fortunate enough not to have had a fee of those. So I am not held back but I could flourish if I could overcome that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not body confident. I would love clubs more if I could actually get naked in front of people.

I am very happy one on one and I am fortunate enough not to have had a fee of those. So I am not held back but I could flourish if I could overcome that. "

Your body looks great from where I’m standing!

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

I’m a bit fussy at times and also I have a busy life so sometimes just don't have a lot of time.

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By *iren4uWoman
over a year ago

jersey channel islands

"Fear of rejection and what it might do to my self esteem if it happens enough times

Whoever rejects you is a fool fool

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By *hatChattyGuyMan
over a year ago

folkestone

"The fact I won't look and won't let anyone approach me"

Well, on reading your profile, yes, exactly as you said lol.

Shame, because daaammmmnnnnnnn you fine!

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Umm maybe a reply back to my message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laziness and lack of free time.

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By *hatChattyGuyMan
over a year ago

folkestone

"I am not body confident. I would love clubs more if I could actually get naked in front of people.

I am very happy one on one and I am fortunate enough not to have had a fee of those. So I am not held back but I could flourish if I could overcome that. "

I'd have to say yeah same here, I have that patchy skin pigment thing, so other than using the Internet to post pics its difficult to just whip it out or get naked with someone new in real life

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

What's holding me back?

The indecisiveness brought on from 10 potential paramours who want to meet me. I've had to create an Excel Spreadsheet to record which one prefers Gin, Cheese, Cake, Reverse Cowgirl, Coffee etc.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"The fact I won't look and won't let anyone approach me

Well, on reading your profile, yes, exactly as you said lol.

Shame, because daaammmmnnnnnnn you fine!

Haha, thank you.

For everything there is a season, and this season won't last forever etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats holding me back?

The lack of women/couples responding to messages, oh well can't be everyone's cup of tea but surely one or two would be interested right?

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"Laziness and lack of free time. "

Come on Ruby, get your Mojo back.

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By *hatChattyGuyMan
over a year ago

folkestone

Haha, thank you.

For everything there is a season, and this season won't last forever etc. "

Don't wait too long! Times ticking away and we only live once xx

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Social ineptitude with groups of more than 4 (occasionally 6), it's one of the reasons o stay away from clubs (and pubs etc)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Haha, thank you.

For everything there is a season, and this season won't last forever etc.

Don't wait too long! Times ticking away and we only live once xx"

Sure. When I'm ready I'll be back into it. (And not before)

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Location, location and location ... unless teleportation is imminent then it's a frustrating barrier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Location and my own standards and wariness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Location and my own standards and wariness"

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By *hatChattyGuyMan
over a year ago

folkestone

Location, location and location ... unless teleportation is imminent then it's a frustrating barrier

Yup, and typically you're 100+ miles from me! The standard fab way

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Our grasp of reality and axctually being Selective !

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Your body looks great from where I’m standing!

Well, thank you. Stand closer and let's see if it improves

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By *ndyn50000Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Having the sense of humour of a 5 year old (though if anyone fancies a game of top trumps or conkers I'm in)....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your body looks great from where I’m standing!

Well, thank you. Stand closer and let's see if it improves

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Location, location and location ... unless teleportation is imminent then it's a frustrating barrier

Yup, and typically you're 100+ miles from me! The standard fab way

I hear you

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I suspect being a fat ugly misanthrope has something to do with it.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Lack of height and financial success paired with quite high standards in what I want

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"Having the sense of humour of a 5 year old (though if anyone fancies a game of top trumps or conkers I'm in)...."

Only if its Superheroes Top Trumps.

I go first.

Silver Surfer Strength 9.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

High standards

Boundaries

Not being very spontaneous

Finding people that want the same type of sex

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Location and my own standards and wariness

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Oh my word!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I’m now too old and too fat to be confident enough to meet anyone, I’m not sure what I would bring to that party anymore

… and since my virginity grew back it would be a shame to give it away again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having the sense of humour of a 5 year old (though if anyone fancies a game of top trumps or conkers I'm in)....

Only if its Superheroes Top Trumps.

I go first.

Silver Surfer Strength 9. "

I'm assuming you are using the 1977 cards, then why not go with Special Powers 10? If I remember right he was unbeatable on the choice?

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Giving you a chance.

Yes. The 1977 cards were mint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No childcare! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right now, it's the restriction on my free time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant flip the switch to be interested in new people. Which is no reflection on the fact there are great people out there. I havn't got the curiosity to know anyone else intimately yet.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

On Fab, medical things being resolved, so not actively looking.

On a day to day basis, nothing apart from tiredness getting in the way. Hubby and I have a fairly active sex life.

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By *iss KissWoman
over a year ago

near Coventry

I can't socialise either. At a club, my only hope is that they are not shyer (is that a word) than me.

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