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Feeling like I'm catfishing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have this weird feeling of being catfishing with my pictures. The pictures are recent and they are me, but obviously they are taken from nice angles and with nice lighting. During the day I see myself from so many more perspectives that are not as attractive, and although I know that is to some extend normal, it makes me feel like I will disappoint whoever I meet irl. Maybe it's just a confidence thing, or a case of the Sunday blues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have this weird feeling of being catfishing with my pictures. The pictures are recent and they are me, but obviously they are taken from nice angles and with nice lighting. During the day I see myself from so many more perspectives that are not as attractive, and although I know that is to some extend normal, it makes me feel like I will disappoint whoever I meet irl. Maybe it's just a confidence thing, or a case of the Sunday blues."

Damn those angles are good

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

You're photos look amazing from EVERY angle!

Seriously, though. We all over analyse ourselves. And all put photos up that have us looking our best - I rarely show my belly as I hate it - but as long as it's plainly us, we're doing nothing wrong. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all get that. I take photos and I'm surprised at how they turn out sometimes. I feel like my phone has some sort of filter that is 'correcting' my flaws automatically somehow.

Your photos look honest to me. You needn't worry about misleading anyone.

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

Your pics looks pretty straightforward to me so I wouldn't worry about it op. You show lots of sides of yourself and they dont look filtered or retouched.

We all tend to show our best sides here, it's natural to want to put forward your best bits to attract others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're photos look amazing from EVERY angle!

Seriously, though. We all over analyse ourselves. And all put photos up that have us looking our best - I rarely show my belly as I hate it - but as long as it's plainly us, we're doing nothing wrong. X"

Well....look at you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I know this feeling *very* well. But ultimately, I’m not going to put a photo up where I don’t think I look good. If I’ve ever been a disappointment in real life, they’ve been polite enough not to tell me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oki, thanks all for your kind words xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all pick our best pics, and our best angles for our pics. None of us will look as good as our pics at every angle in 3d and real time.

But don’t sweat it, it’s not like you’re using filters and not showing your body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went on a date this week and I’m pretty sure the person found me way more unattractive than my pictures so this post is defo relatable. But I guess if you’re not for them, they’re not for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look great OP. Most of us know what angles and lighting make better photos so we opt for that, and then being able to take a few photos and choose. I've realised I've done that. Now I take a couple of photos, if both are shocking I either delete or leave them be for a few weeks - I end up going back to them and loving them. I've got a few in friends only that definitely shows more of 'me' in real form than just the nice photos.

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Mine show me in a completely different light than how I'm seem day to day, but that's the whole point. Here is a side of me very few get to see

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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It might be a dip in confidence thing OP, if it is I hope you find that confidence soon.

Everyone of us puts photos up that are designed to flatter, show us in a good light - day to day we're not going to be in good lingerie, hair and makeup done. There's nothing wrong with that. If your photos are decades old, maybe you're catfishing? I doubt it somehow. I sometimes have doubts and worry people may view me as vastly different from my photos. I ask a good associate of mine to be blunt and he reassures me that it's definitely, easily recognisably me. Talk to some friends/a partner and see what they think. The likelihood is, you're not. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a confidence thing. We aren't the lowest common denominator of our looks.

You can include a "normal" picture so people know what to expect the first time they meet you, just to set expectations. But by "normal" I mean "how you look when you dress up to go on a meet", not "how you look when you've not tried". And you can include that in friends-only pics, or as part of messages before a meet.

Not necessary, mind.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"You're photos look amazing from EVERY angle!

Seriously, though. We all over analyse ourselves. And all put photos up that have us looking our best - I rarely show my belly as I hate it - but as long as it's plainly us, we're doing nothing wrong. X

Well....look at you. "

I know! Me & my belly xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not catfishing just because off the angle off the pic

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You're only catfishing if you're pretending to be someone else entirely

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I had the same thoughts a little while back so I took two photos - one straight on full length and one full length from the side.

They're much less flattering than others I've posted but I guess that was the point, they're more of a "warts and all" thing.

I think we all have those thoughts on occasion OP, and we all post photos where we look our best so it's natural to a point.

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By *limBobStretchedPantsMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I have this weird feeling of being catfishing with my pictures. The pictures are recent and they are me, but obviously they are taken from nice angles and with nice lighting. During the day I see myself from so many more perspectives that are not as attractive, and although I know that is to some extend normal, it makes me feel like I will disappoint whoever I meet irl. Maybe it's just a confidence thing, or a case of the Sunday blues."

You share plenty of your self in the pictures. Multiple angles and different outfits. If someone who has bothered to take the time to chat to you, know you and have you agree to meet them gets to the point where in person they feel disappointed then they have pulled off a very long con.

We often encounter images of ourself in the outside world that we don’t like. This is part of being Human. You are the only one of you so if you leave the house on a morning feeling fine then that’s all that matters. You certainly don’t have to worry about being a catfish x

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

Like everyone else has said, we all pick our best pics with the best angles and the best lighting. If I was to show another angle of myself that I didn’t like, I probably wouldn’t look the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have this weird feeling of being catfishing with my pictures. The pictures are recent and they are me, but obviously they are taken from nice angles and with nice lighting. During the day I see myself from so many more perspectives that are not as attractive, and although I know that is to some extend normal, it makes me feel like I will disappoint whoever I meet irl. Maybe it's just a confidence thing, or a case of the Sunday blues."

I feel the same ..i have a mum tum n my bum doesnt look like does in pics in reality lol..I do say obvs these r the good pics haha. You look sexy as, be confident + only be hard on your body the good way haha

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"I have this weird feeling of being catfishing with my pictures. The pictures are recent and they are me, but obviously they are taken from nice angles and with nice lighting. During the day I see myself from so many more perspectives that are not as attractive, and although I know that is to some extend normal, it makes me feel like I will disappoint whoever I meet irl. Maybe it's just a confidence thing, or a case of the Sunday blues."

Your photos do look great, though I feel the same as you and probably it's a common feeling amongst some of us on fab.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your pictures are lovely you have nothing to worry about. I'm a large lady and I'm very honest about that in my profile. However none of my pictures show my stomach and thunder thighs. I always point this out to people I talk to and social meet first. To make sure we are both happy.

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By *ysyphusMan
over a year ago

Starbase K-7

There isn't a single flawless human on the planet, externally, or internally. We all do our best to hide the least perfect parts, to some degree or another, whether it's clever angles, filters, flattering underwear, or some other trick.

Anitidae, your profile makes it clear who you are, and your pictures are beautiful, and compliment your own description.

Take this from someone who has real cause to look in the mirror and say "Why do I bother?".

You are young, beautiful, open and honest. Don't doubt yourself.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think most people look better in the flesh than they do in pics x

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By *ifewantsmore777Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I have this weird feeling of being catfishing with my pictures. The pictures are recent and they are me, but obviously they are taken from nice angles and with nice lighting. During the day I see myself from so many more perspectives that are not as attractive, and although I know that is to some extend normal, it makes me feel like I will disappoint whoever I meet irl. Maybe it's just a confidence thing, or a case of the Sunday blues."

Very much the same thought processes run through our heads too.

Your pics are great, quite similar to how I try and capture L.

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By *ifewantsmore777Couple
over a year ago

North West


"We all get that. I take photos and I'm surprised at how they turn out sometimes. I feel like my phone has some sort of filter that is 'correcting' my flaws automatically somehow.

Your photos look honest to me. You needn't worry about misleading anyone."

Can’t agree more with this.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

Sounds more like fishing for confidence here tbh op,but I'm sure you'll get plenty of validation

Hope it makes you feel better

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By *teve_it_aloneMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I have this weird feeling of being catfishing with my pictures. The pictures are recent and they are me, but obviously they are taken from nice angles and with nice lighting. During the day I see myself from so many more perspectives that are not as attractive, and although I know that is to some extend normal, it makes me feel like I will disappoint whoever I meet irl. Maybe it's just a confidence thing, or a case of the Sunday blues."

As others have said, I think it’s a common feeling. I try to take mine from the most flattering angles and I’m a big fan of the forgiving nature of black and white… and even then they still turn out looking ropey!

I had to shave my beard off for work a while back, and went through a stage of wanting to smash every mirror or reflective surface in the house because I was so uncomfortable with what was looking back at me and how different it was from how I usually saw myself. Several people I know didn’t even realise it was gone until I mentioned it to them.

It still meant I ended up not following up on a couple of messages here because they were heading down the route of possibly meeting and I didn’t feel I was ready to put myself out there and “be seen that way” by people (to be fair, there’s probably a bit of ADHD and crappy life admin at play there too!).

Your photos are beautiful. Angles and lighting can enhance, but they can’t change. You’re you, and you’re lovely.

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By *ryingitout19Man
over a year ago

Wales

We all put up the best pics of ourselves to show ourselves in the best light. No different to doing your hair, dressing nicely, doing your makeup etc.

As long as someone can look at your pics then look at you and say they’re an accurate reflection of what you look like then don’t worry!

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

We all know about angles and lighting and how they can make people look better, so we get a good idea of what the person would look like in reality, especially if they post a lot of photos.

You've put up loads of varied photos, and in every single one you look amazing, so I really don't think anyone will be disappointed or feel catfished.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics are fantastic babe, it just sounds like your been hyper self critical I’m sure you’d disappoint no one xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are pictures of you right? Not altered in any way. No one puts a picture up of themselves on the toilet having a shit either but we all do it.

Don't doubt yourself, you look fantastic and you're definitely not cat fishing.

Oh and what you doin Saturday night?

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By *teve_it_aloneMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"No one puts a picture up of themselves on the toilet having a shit either but we all do it.

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I wouldn’t be so sure in some of the murkier corners of this site! I’ve seen some horrifying sights slip past the photo mods!

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