FabSwingers.com forum: Message red flags

By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Ever been messaging someone and it’s all going well until they say or do something to change your mind ?

Any examples?

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

I’d love to cum on those glasses. No thanks, I don’t wanna be cleaning them to be honest.

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By *one_wolf.Man
over a year ago

Chatham

When I'm the one that's dragging the conversation along, asking questions and just getting "and you?" replies and not adding to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they mention being the best sex I'll ever have.. I lose interest

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’d love to cum on those glasses. No thanks, I don’t wanna be cleaning them to be honest. "

Classy xx

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"When they mention being the best sex I'll ever have.. I lose interest

Inevitably would disappoint xxx

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

When they tell me what to wear ….. door closed

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they can’t answer simple questions on consent and boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When they tell me what to wear ….. door closed "

Urgh, yes!

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"When they tell me what to wear ….. door closed "

What suggestions have you had ? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whenever they only show intrest in the other half and immediate freind requests pretty much.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

When there isn't sufficient engagement on their part and it feels one sided.

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

"When they mention being the best sex I'll ever have.. I lose interest

I wondered why I haven't heard from you in a while...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they say I'll be blindfolded and doing sex stuff.. at our first social when we've never met in person before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they do everything I say I don’t like callling me pet names straight into sex chat too

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Ones with web links

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"When they do everything I say I don’t like callling me pet names straight into sex chat too

Annoying when people ignore boundaries xxx

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"When they can’t answer simple questions on consent and boundaries."

ndaries."

Yes this!

We were approached by a guy at Christmas, renting a chalet near us with a hot tub. We sent him our moron filter questions. These are a collection of questions some serious, some funny, that filter out morons.

Normally 99% of people answer them in the spirit of them. He went off on a rant about not wanting to get into politics or being woke! So of course The Boy pushed back a little and he exposed himself to be a complete bell end who also wanted us to take drugs!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As already stated by others.

Not asking questions or replying with anything more than one or two word answers.

Basically people killing some time while they are horny or looking for an ego boost as they love attention

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere

In my experience I don’t think it’s anything I’ve said. People just get bored of talking to me and the conversation ends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they show lack of consideration to the fact that I am in a relationship, and then suggest that I should couple up with them... instantly loses my interest.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As already stated by others.

Not asking questions or replying with anything more than one or two word answers.

Basically people killing some time while they are horny or looking for an ego boost as they love attention

Or people being polite and not wanting to be rude to someone who seems nice....

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"When they show lack of consideration to the fact that I am in a relationship, and then suggest that I should couple up with them... instantly loses my interest.

NBVN x"

Wow....the nerve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they say "my fella be there too and will want to suck it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they show a complete lack of discretion and talk in detail about folk they've shagged on here.

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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"When they show a complete lack of discretion and talk in detail about folk they've shagged on here."

Some people are clueless xx

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

When they message you first and immediately ask to see your private pictures.

Like, aren’t my public pics good enough for first impressions!?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

When they ask to meet after just a couple of messages. You refuse and then get a message from a fab friend informing you that she had messaged them through your verifications and told her to back off and stop holding you back.

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By *one_wolf.Man
over a year ago

Chatham

"When they can’t answer simple questions on consent and boundaries.

ndaries."

Yes this!

Kind of want to take the moron questions as intrigued to what they could be haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes then Suddenly get blocked

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere

"[Removed by poster at 28/01/22 08:42:14]"

Purely for fun could you send me your moron filter questions please?

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By *erenity20Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Getting nasty messages off of someone on their verifications telling you to back off, because they haven't quite told you the truth about themselves!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"When they show a complete lack of discretion and talk in detail about folk they've shagged on here."

I've seen a few verifications recently praising people for being great story tellers.

From experience I know that most of the stories these people are telling at group socials are not their own.

They are personal stories told to them in confidence by others but they see nothing wrong in not only making them public but in telling everyone who told them.

Unfortunately so many are lapping it up and the storyteller is lauded for his fab connections.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Sending their phone number and you haven't even met them.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"[Removed by poster at 28/01/22 08:42:14]

Purely for fun could you send me your moron filter questions please?"

1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.

2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.

3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.

4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere

"[Removed by poster at 28/01/22 08:42:14]

Purely for fun could you send me your moron filter questions please?

1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.

2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.

3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.

4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all

Yes

Can’t see anything in there that would trigger someone so badly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When they mention being the best sex I'll ever have.. I lose interest

I will be the quickest not sure about the best

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

Long messages with sex scenarios.

Asking me if I wear this, that or the other.

Saying I should wear this, that or the other.

Being childish about female body hair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had one today, he looks after an elderly severely disabled lady, basically he’s on night duty and wanted me to go round later tonight and well you know at her house - nope not my thing!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

"Had one today, he looks after an elderly severely disabled lady, basically he’s on night duty and wanted me to go round later tonight and well you know at her house - nope not my thing! "

I hope it was family member he was looking after rather than him being employed by a care agency, otherwise he’s breaching all sorts rules and regulations!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

People who keep asking questions especially personal ones while being vague in any answer they give you.

Someone who keeps name dropping in conversations as tho that should impress me.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

"Ever been messaging someone and it’s all going well until they say or do something to change your mind ?

Any examples?"

For me it sometimes doesn't get as far as all is going well before there is a red flag, a three or four word initial message to instigate a conversation is all good but when the first two or three messages back are still the same it's a red flag I am not in for a two way chat, I like to chat but won't have a one way chat having to drag every word from someone, my wi fi usually has issues when that starts and yes it's from ladies and couples too. Also the ones that have spent late time messaging then go quiet for days ot weeks, then next time they are bored send another and expect you have another few hours to waste. We could do with a red flag list, time is precious especially for us older folk so we don't want it wasting.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"[Removed by poster at 28/01/22 08:42:14]

Purely for fun could you send me your moron filter questions please?

1. Are you in a relationship where the other partner does not know that you’re meeting others.

2. Do you accept that consent can be withdrawn at any point in the process, including up to and during sex.

3. Are you in anyway homophobic, transphobic or racist.

4. Will you bore us by talking about fishing or football at all

Yes

Can’t see anything in there that would trigger someone so badly!"

Yea, but there you go!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

When what they say doesn't match the profile or forum comments.

When they don't state they're attached yet clearly display attached vibes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who tell you how amazing you are when you've only said 'Hello'??

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

When they say they only want to meet one person... I don't want to be exclusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snapchat...I have no interest in buying what you're selling

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

When they ask to see "more of me" not going to happen unless we actually meet (no nudes)

If I've said something isn't my thing and they tell me not to be so boring.

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By *lair101TV/TS
over a year ago

Aberdeen, westhill

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By *lair101TV/TS
over a year ago

Aberdeen, westhill

"When they can’t answer simple questions on consent and boundaries."

This x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is I have had so many chats with guys on this site and others that within 5 messages from them I can tell if it's going to go anywhere. If I say that and end the chat - I often get grief. So if I'm honest it's disappointment or hassle. Yay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are obviously wanting wank fodder.

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By *unshine 57Woman
over a year ago

essex

For phone numbers do you normally exchange before a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For phone numbers do you normally exchange before a meet "

I've not given my phone number to anyone for years now. Kik or Telegram only.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

Messages from supposed couples asking if I want w**k over photos of the female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When a guy says he wants you all to himself and doesn't want you meeting or talking to anyone else. Also, when you ask for a face pic and you don't get one. Two red flags! x

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By *aulj69Man
over a year ago

dunstable

I've a converted cellar and collect 'Joel Peter Witkin' Art, you're welcome to cum visit? Lol

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By *unshine 57Woman
over a year ago

essex

"For phone numbers do you normally exchange before a meet

I've not given my phone number to anyone for years now. Kik or Telegram only. "

Okay thanks i have Kik but it doesnt work very well on my phone. I will look into Telegram. Is it an App too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For phone numbers do you normally exchange before a meet

I've not given my phone number to anyone for years now. Kik or Telegram only.

Okay thanks i have Kik but it doesnt work very well on my phone. I will look into Telegram. Is it an App too? "

Yes it's an app. If you search the forum for Telegram you can find what other people think - it's 500% better than kik. Take care to hide your phone number on the app though - so no-one sees it.

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

The “best I’ll ever have” yawn

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By *unshine 57Woman
over a year ago

essex

Fab thank you so much

"For phone numbers do you normally exchange before a meet

I've not given my phone number to anyone for years now. Kik or Telegram only.

Okay thanks i have Kik but it doesnt work very well on my phone. I will look into Telegram. Is it an App too?

Yes it's an app. If you search the forum for Telegram you can find what other people think - it's 500% better than kik. Take care to hide your phone number on the app though - so no-one sees it. "

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