FabSwingers.com forum: Would fab be better

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If men were blocked from making first contact

This had to be done by the women or couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If men were blocked from making first contact

This had to be done by the women or couples "

This happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I chat with some lovely men who messaged me first.

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

"If men were blocked from making first contact

This had to be done by the women or couples "

Issue a Presidential Decree then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But would they copy n paste too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many men would still get no messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh, Bumble is like this, isn’t it?

I don’t think it would work on here though. So many men would get no messages, and end up leaving in their droves!

I’m not great at making the first move, and have been approached by some lovely men who would have otherwise passed me by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stupid question what is bumble?

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

"If men were blocked from making first contact

This had to be done by the women or couples "

Where would I fit into that?

And no mattter where I did fit into that, no it would not be better, men have the same rights as women to make the first contact on here. That they sometimes make an arse of their opening message is not a format error but an individual one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stupid question what is bumble?"

Not stupid at all! It’s a dating app where women make the first move (ie initiate contact first).

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"If men were blocked from making first contact

This had to be done by the women or couples "

On it... we can do it for ourselves with filters and save the Fab admin

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No. I have strict message filter options that help filter out many of those, I like chatting to people from the forums and quite often play a sunday status riddle game with many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would make absolutely no difference to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for us.

We cannot be arsed trawling through profiles and so almost every meeting we’ve had has been with someone that messaged or winked at us first.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

Maybe they (we) should only be allowed to contact ladies and couples if they have their spelling and grammar checked before the message is sent.

That being said they would just select a couple's profile. I've had a few messages lately from couples, hmmmm

, with shocking grammar and don't get me started in their sentence construction.

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Messages I get are mostly from the forum. Don't think I've bothered sending a message to someone not on the forum in months. Seems a bit pointless.

I like my forum friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they (we) should only be allowed to contact ladies and couples if they have their spelling and grammar checked before the message is sent.

That being said they would just select a couple's profile. I've had a few messages lately from couples, hmmmm

, with shocking grammar and don't get me started in their sentence construction. "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Not from my point of view - no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought thats how it was anyway....sit here everyday waiting for a message and nothing....

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By *erms and conditionsCouple
over a year ago

Alton

Not sure it would. We aren't looking for single guys and get a lot of messages which are the usual "hot woman look at wang" but occasionally there are some real nice gems that come through which are thoughtful and nice.

Wouldn't get those pick me ups if it was

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Women have filters to make it that way if that's how they want it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be able to do that though we would have to come up with the most boring cut n past message to send to everyone, three times a day in the hope we may get somewhere.

That takes effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be able to do that though we would have to come up with the most boring cut n past message to send to everyone, three times a day in the hope we may get somewhere.

That takes effort

Wuu2

Wuu2 bbe

I'm knackered already

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Any women and couples who want fab to work that way can easily apply mail filters to make it happen. The fact that so few do yet complain so much baffles me...

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Or would it be better if men learned a better aproach when sending a first message. Just to play devils advocate

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"To be able to do that though we would have to come up with the most boring cut n past message to send to everyone, three times a day in the hope we may get somewhere.

That takes effort

I know tell me about it! And the number that don't even reply with thanks, but no thanks ... just rude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'll just shut up

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By *olymalelincsMan
over a year ago

southend

Nope I think this would be such a bad plan, if like me you are a single guy that doesnt have a stunning body and is crap at taking a decent picture we often have to rely on sending the first message to catch someones interest using our charm and wit lol, not that works all the time either but taking away the ability to send the first message would I think ruin it here

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Ooh, Bumble is like this, isn’t it?

I don’t think it would work on here though. So many men would get no messages, and end up leaving in their droves!

I’m not great at making the first move, and have been approached by some lovely men who would have otherwise passed me by."

I'm exactly the same, I'm so shy about starting conversations but I'm fine once it's begun

- J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll just shut up "

Why? It's a good idea and many women and couples do it already by blocking men.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

We have the option to put this in place ourselves.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Better is obviously up for debate, as the result would be highly subjective.

Some people just refuse to send a first message, so the place would not be for them. In this case the already low number of women would likely reduce even more because those that just won't make first contact would get no interest towards themselves.

By limiting first contact to just one group reduces the number of potential successful matches made. I can imagine there are a fair few women that will have been pleasantly surprised from being contacted by a man they may otherwise never have considered. His message winning her over.

Bumble (dating app) does this, the ladies initiate the conversation after a mutual match is made. It has its pros and cons for the format.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be able to do that though we would have to come up with the most boring cut n past message to send to everyone, three times a day in the hope we may get somewhere.

That takes effort

Wuu2

Wuu2 bbe

I'm knackered already

Maybe am just old but what is wuu2? Some knock off tribute act??

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I personally have no issue with making first contact but I still think it's less than ideal. There's so many men on here and with search results being limited to 10 pages, men have to be online constantly to even appear in the search results.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But would they copy n paste too?"

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

Not for me personally. I prefer an assertive guy so like them to make the 1st move, plus im far too shy to send the 1st message

. I just use my message filters when im not looking to chat with anyone new. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be able to do that though we would have to come up with the most boring cut n past message to send to everyone, three times a day in the hope we may get somewhere.

That takes effort

Wuu2

Wuu2 bbe

I'm knackered already

Maybe am just old but what is wuu2? Some knock off tribute act??"

A young person informed me it's

What you up to

And

What you up to babe

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Women & couples are able to block single guys if they wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We mostly only look for single men but Mrs doesn’t like using fab so it would just be me scrolling through endless single male profiles. I’d get bored after 5 minutes so it wouldn’t work for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If men were blocked from making first contact

This had to be done by the women or couples "

After seeing all the complaints made due to single men actions on fab, I would agree to having couples and single women making the first move.

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