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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When first being approached here, what do you want to see in that first message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

#donetodeath

Wit, makes reference to the person’s profile, good spelling and grammar, no creepiness or sex chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry if this subject has been done to death - I haven’t really looked at the forum before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry if this subject has been done to death - I haven’t really looked at the forum before"

You’re fine x

And good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Approached? What's that? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pics I don’t open first messages that contine pics 90% off them have a dick pic I should be able to click the profile and see what’s if I like if I want to see more I am not shy in asking

No pet names honey babe things like that name like that are reaseved for people I am in a relationship with

No rude names 4 and 5 letter bad words

Yes I like being called them during the moment and after the moment but ones they away then that’s it also definitely not in a message

I may at some point refer to my self as them but I am aloud to

Also are you free now I have 10 minutes to spare

Sorry but I don’t sit around dolled up all day like a free escort just waiting to be fucked

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

A face pic.

The message can be everything I want to read, but if I don't fancy him it's going nowhere

Welcome to the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry if this subject has been done to death - I haven’t really looked at the forum before

You’re fine x

And good luck "
thanks, I reckon I’ll need it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A face pic.

The message can be everything I want to read, but if I don't fancy him it's going nowhere

Welcome to the forums "

Yep, a good point! Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When first being approached here, what do you want to see in that first message?"

Reading and trying to pick something from their profile to mention in your first message, unless you want to don't feel you need to add a face pic either, but it's down to luck really. Some will still delete regardless of effort

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I like a message that explains why the person is contacting me....showing that they've read my profile and think they are compatible. This could be age, location, interested in similar things etc

No rude suggestions.

No enclosed dick pics.

Once I've read the message, before replying, I look at the profile, so then the quality of photos or text would be a deciding factor.

You can search for topics in the forum, so I'm sure you can read people's thoughts on both of these things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like a message that explains why the person is contacting me....showing that they've read my profile and think they are compatible. This could be age, location, interested in similar things etc

No rude suggestions.

No enclosed dick pics.

Once I've read the message, before replying, I look at the profile, so then the quality of photos or text would be a deciding factor.

You can search for topics in the forum, so I'm sure you can read people's thoughts on both of these things. "

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When first being approached here, what do you want to see in that first message?"

Something that doesn't make me

or

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Humour

Make me laugh and smile, I’m yours (well maybe not after the first message but, offer cake in the 2nd message and I would be)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When first being approached here, what do you want to see in that first message?

Something that doesn't make me

or "

Pretty much this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Humour

Make me laugh and smile, I’m yours (well maybe not after the first message but, offer cake in the 2nd message and I would be)"

Cake and humour.

Be mine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything polite and not stating straight away what they want to do to me!!!

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"Humour

Make me laugh and smile, I’m yours (well maybe not after the first message but, offer cake in the 2nd message and I would be)

Cake and humour.

Be mine? "

Deal!

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

A normal greeting and nothing too intense or forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If approached just a normal greeting as if you was talking to me in public. Maybe some kind of non sexual question so I have reason to answer so the conversation doesn't feel so awkward or forced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Punctuation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok ladies lets put this to bed so help me out.

Ladies write a message to yourself on here trying to woo yourself over, I think that's what everyone whats to see. Then this can be #donetodeath

Don't all jump in at once

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Punctuation "

Punctuation, spelling.. there / their / they’re etc. !!!

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I always respond to:

This is my arse

These are my tits

If you like what you see

Let’s rub naughty bits.

I say “always”…. Truth is, I’ve never had a message like that but I would if I did, honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sincerity....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Punctuation

Punctuation, spelling.. there / their / they’re etc. !!!"

I didn't add spelling and grammar because I know that they're tough for some people because of dyslexia. But I get many messages with no punctuation which quite frankly makes them unreadable. A paragraph of text with no full stops is just not my kink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty with them having articulated their wants and some acknowledgement to know that they’ve read and understood my profile (& the two desires marry), which’ll lead to nsa fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Punctuation

Punctuation, spelling.. there / their / they’re etc. !!!

I didn't add spelling and grammar because I know that they're tough for some people because of dyslexia. But I get many messages with no punctuation which quite frankly makes them unreadable. A paragraph of text with no full stops is just not my kink. "

Yep, I’m with you there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok ladies lets put this to bed so help me out.

Ladies write a message to yourself on here trying to woo yourself over, I think that's what everyone whats to see. Then this can be #donetodeath

Don't all jump in at once "

Ok I'll have a go.

"Hello there. I really like your photos and your comments on the forum. I tend to lurk . I think I am relatively close to you and we are looking for the same things. Is Violetta your real name?"

Nothing sexual. Compliment isn't OTT. Has clearly read the profile. Meets my criteria. Asks a question to start off a conversation.

I'd reply to myself.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"Punctuation

Punctuation, spelling.. there / their / they’re etc. !!!

I didn't add spelling and grammar because I know that they're tough for some people because of dyslexia. But I get many messages with no punctuation which quite frankly makes them unreadable. A paragraph of text with no full stops is just not my kink. "

That is the bain of my life at work. Six hundred words, 70-80 commas and no capital letters or a full-stop at the end.

I get exhausted just trying to read them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok ladies lets put this to bed so help me out.

Ladies write a message to yourself on here trying to woo yourself over, I think that's what everyone whats to see. Then this can be #donetodeath

Don't all jump in at once

Ok I'll have a go.

"Hello there. I really like your photos and your comments on the forum. I tend to lurk . I think I am relatively close to you and we are looking for the same things. Is Violetta your real name?"

Nothing sexual. Compliment isn't OTT. Has clearly read the profile. Meets my criteria. Asks a question to start off a conversation.

I'd reply to myself. "

See everyone case closed thank me later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"#donetodeath

Wit, makes reference to the person’s profile, good spelling and grammar, no creepiness or sex chat."

Thats it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Punctuation

Punctuation, spelling.. there / their / they’re etc. !!!

I didn't add spelling and grammar because I know that they're tough for some people because of dyslexia. But I get many messages with no punctuation which quite frankly makes them unreadable. A paragraph of text with no full stops is just not my kink.

That is the bain of my life at work. Six hundred words, 70-80 commas and no capital letters or a full-stop at the end.

I get exhausted just trying to read them. "

Hopefully you get paid for that! But I'm not reading that kind of rubbish here in my spare time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok ladies lets put this to bed so help me out.

Ladies write a message to yourself on here trying to woo yourself over, I think that's what everyone whats to see. Then this can be #donetodeath

Don't all jump in at once

Ok I'll have a go.

"Hello there. I really like your photos and your comments on the forum. I tend to lurk . I think I am relatively close to you and we are looking for the same things. Is Violetta your real name?"

Nothing sexual. Compliment isn't OTT. Has clearly read the profile. Meets my criteria. Asks a question to start off a conversation.

I'd reply to myself.

See everyone case closed thank me later "

If anyone send me my own message you will be told off!!

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Just that people have read our profile, as all the information is in there, as soon as they start with suggesting something that we don't want its clear and annoying they just haven't bothered to read it. X

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