FabSwingers.com forum: What advice would you give to the person who is dating your ex

By *usman 199 OP Man
over a year ago

Stockport

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Fucking run.

Hit that red button and eject as fast as you can.

It's all lies and mind games.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat him well

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

None, I'd never find him anywhere near me as I made sure she has no idea where I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fucking run.

Hit that red button and eject as fast as you can.

It's all lies and mind games."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run

Don't look back

Every word is a lie

If you choose to stay you must excel in narcissism, mind games,gas lighting and his all time favourite emotional abuse oh and always remember one rule for him entirely different for you.

Good luck

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I told her he'll drive you fucking mental once the honeymoon period is over.

And he is.

I did warn her

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I must say that my ex is trying harder with her (or just likes her better than me

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The true person is coming through though, and I feel sorry for her as it's making her ill.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Keep him out of the light, don't get him wet and for the love of everything, don't feed him after midnight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy a vibrator

Find people to go for nights out with.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I wouldn’t give them any advice, they won’t be me so the dynamics would be different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Run

Don't look back

Every word is a lie

If you choose to stay you must excel in narcissism, mind games,gas lighting and his all time favourite emotional abuse oh and always remember one rule for him entirely different for you.

Good luck"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d ask him what’s she’s said about me, and if it’s was as false and what she told me about her ex. Then leave him to make his own mind up, I don’t give a shit, she’s history, not my problem

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Beats me, I always leave them the keys to the flat and the deposit and fuck off for good.

I split, it's everything. No history holding me back.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

She's a snob and likes things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would say run whilst you can, she will eat you alive and use your bones for a table decoration

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Keep him out of the light, don't get him wet and for the love of everything, don't feed him after midnight. "

Gremlin

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Do not believe one word that leaves his mouth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can find the treatment at most chemists (sorry for the mess btw)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run.

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By *mizhereMan
over a year ago

Castleknock Hotel tonight

Check her knickers and get a STi test

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Well she is doing the same with him as with me. Using all his resources up till they are dry. He will have to handle her bipolor nature as she is totally off her head also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pathological liar, addiction issues and a life chameleon.

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By *lectrumMan
over a year ago

south shields

Buy some earplugs her snoring is on another level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a weekly test and use condoms

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

1. He's a sweetie, look after him

2. Run, like hell

3. He will cheat again

4. It's such a shame... you'll realise

5. He's grown, he's happier, you're good for him (actually said this last weekend)

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Don’t let him drink alcohol! Or if he does, steer clear for a few days! Always keep a blanket and pillow in your car.

Bad times are coming!

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By *loudF7Man
over a year ago

South East

Take care of her, she deserves everything I couldn't give her.

(Believe it or not it was an amicable break up judging by some of the comments on here)

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

My two ex husbands were nightmares in different ways. One was a arrogant, bigheaded and self absorbed narcissist. I found out when we split he had played with a few of my so called friends behind my back also. The other was a total control freak who would not let me go anywhere alone. He also tried to cut me off from my friends. Funny how they both started off tidy but then their dark sides came to show later on. Now in john i have the most loving, chilled and layed back guy i wish i had met before the other two freaks. Joanne

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Don’t trust him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be kind, she's had a lot of shit in her life as it is. This has made her who she is and absolutely nothing you do is going to change that. Accept her for who she is or move on but don't hurt her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run Forrest run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She’s a mental cow, throws things and even tried to stab me in a temper,

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Buy more vases for all the flowers ... and it will help if you like football not rugby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be prepared to come back 2nd and give the mother in law wine it keeps her happy and her nose out

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

Put a sock in it or gag her .....for peace and quiet

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Get out while you can.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Hope u can last longer and do wot me her ex husband 4 engaments ..include me in that ..and about 15 boyfriends couldn't. But how do u keep a narcissist happy who always plays the victim x

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

"Run

Don't look back

Every word is a lie

If you choose to stay you must excel in narcissism, mind games,gas lighting and his all time favourite emotional abuse oh and always remember one rule for him entirely different for you.

Good luck"

This, pretty much word for word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be prepared to lose all your self esteem and confidence whilst having to boost his egotistical narcissistic tendencies otherwise your life will be made a living hell. That and buy a dildo as he is a shit fuck ! Blunt but true !

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Run Forrest run

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

Don’t approach her is she is hungry, through some food before approaching

And good luck, otherwise she is a nice person

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Nearby

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Run!

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

Do not lend him money!!!!!!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Nearby

Get the restraining order in place x

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

Run like you’ve never ran before

Miss pc

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By *orbino67Man
over a year ago

Rochester

Don't do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run a fucking mile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather you than me

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Make sure you have an alibi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

none as none of my business not only that i dont think about my ex or exs if i was then that would mean im still connected and that im very much not ive moved on theyve moved on best of luck to all i say

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To late. She’s just had a babber with him at the age of 46

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Love her dearly. She's a good'un.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

No advice…they’ll work their own way out.

I was at my ex wife’s new restaurant at the weekend and her partner was there and we had a good chat. They are much more suited.

I wish them well.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Don’t be a dick like I was and treat her lovely but learn to be patient with her driving as she has a penchant for confusing left from right.

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By *ysyphusMan
over a year ago

Starbase K-7

Necrophilia is illegal.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

None, but for the sake of this thread: treat him well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucking love her more than anything she is one in a million and she is my best friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don’t have children, a past or any evidence you were ever in a relationship… with anybody… ever!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To whomever is with my ex 'K', in the words of Pink Floyd "Run Like Hell"

And then listen to 'Bed of Roses number 9' by Ian Dury and the Blockheads, sums up that relationship succinctly.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago

London/ South East

Leave her! No seriously leave her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The following advice:

Does not wash from one week to the next

Will not wash hands after using the toilet

If something doesn't go his way he gets all pissy

If you want something fixed/decorated, do it yourself, you will be waiting until your time comes to pass over to the next life otherwise

Put the bins out yourself (even though it happened weekly he always forgot)

Never emptied the water container to the tumble dryer

Will do not any housework unless absolutely necessary even though he is a stay at home dad (or was)

Is a hypocontract, will require as many sick days from work (when he has a job) as he can manage without being fired

I am sure there is more advice but turns out his girlfriend is just as bloody filthy (and not in a good way) as him!

Danish x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t be alarmed by the massive throbbing blue vein on his cock. Also, be nice to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None. I think they deserve each other

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

"The following advice:

Does not wash from one week to the next

Will not wash hands after using the toilet

If something doesn't go his way he gets all pissy

If you want something fixed/decorated, do it yourself, you will be waiting until your time comes to pass over to the next life otherwise

Put the bins out yourself (even though it happened weekly he always forgot)

Never emptied the water container to the tumble dryer

Will do not any housework unless absolutely necessary even though he is a stay at home dad (or was)

Is a hypocontract, will require as many sick days from work (when he has a job) as he can manage without being fired

I am sure there is more advice but turns out his girlfriend is just as bloody filthy (and not in a good way) as him!

Danish x"

How did you manage to spend more than a week with someone who did not wash himself for a week !??

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’d let them find out for themselves the same way I did

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

Which ex, the answer would vary greatly!

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

"I’d let them find out for themselves the same way I did "

That probably the best answer. I learned through my life never to give advise unless specifically asked for help. And I doubt my ex’s bf would ask for help

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Tarka trail

Take up yoga mate.You are gonna have to learn to suck your own dick. Because she ain't.

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

Stay where you are and have a life of freedom.

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By *ob08Man
over a year ago

Macclesfield

Accept no food or drink prepared by this woman, better safe than sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Run

Don't look back

Every word is a lie

If you choose to stay you must excel in narcissism, mind games,gas lighting and his all time favourite emotional abuse oh and always remember one rule for him entirely different for you.

Good luck"

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

I hope he doesn’t have a pet rabbit

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

…

Be patient and more open with your emotions than me. My ex moved on very fast but I know we both had issues and I am happy he's happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to tell her when she's being selfish as she doesn't know. But you will, as your enjoyment of life drains away. But not as quickly as your friends and finances.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

She has two guns, one in a handbag at the bottom of the wardrobe, in the “handbag pile” (Glock 26, she keeps a spare 10 round magazine (9mm) in the same bag) and the other is in the greenhouse (AAC Honey Badger PDW (suppressed) she has three additional magazines in the same green house (30 x .300 AAC Blackout for added suppression).

Of course it’s been over 10 years, she may have upgraded

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Everyone has terrible ex’s?

I’d tell them to treat her right because she’s one of the kindest souls out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely love her, she'll love you and treat you well. A lovely person, we just ended up wanting different things and are still good friends. I like her new partner and they're happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell him to find a fuck buddy as she's colder than the Arctic and dryer than the Sahara. Cook all the meals yourself if you want them to have any taste and don't let her put her jammas on at 6 - it absolutely ruins your day especially in the summer! She's actually alright in most ways.

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By *jekimMan
over a year ago

Wigan

Pull out haha

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Poor woman married my first ex and still with him! Shes such a lovely lady one of the best! She really dont deserve his shit! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck to you both

Everybody deserves to be happy in life

She wasnt for me but she might be for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

RUN! Just like I should have when my ex’s ex warned me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat her like the precious beautiful Musgravite she is.

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By *uminmyhole69Man
over a year ago

Ealing

Bring a pick axe and shovel, as she is under the new patio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invest in a good vibrator

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

None. My experience with him wouldn’t be someone else’s. They’re adults, they can find their own way.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advise her to bolt and never look back! (applies to ex hubby).

As for the ex long term partner - steer clear he's done time in BarL and on a register...

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By *loudF7Man
over a year ago

South East

"Invest in a good vibrator

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"RUN! Just like I should have when my ex’s ex warned me. "

Joanne got warned by his 4th wife to dump him as he was a total control freak

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By *atalie54TV/TS
over a year ago

Bexhill-on-Sea

Hope you have lots of money because she will spend it and more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God help you thats all I could say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Invest in a good vibrator

This just cracked me up

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

Run and never look back..

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By *ho am IWoman
over a year ago

Mids

Be warned he'll turn into a stalker when you leave him.

Why is it men think its ok to stalk and intimidate just because you ended things? Get a life and move on ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't trust their words. Believe more their actions.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

Communication is everything.

I hope they’re psychic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No advice what so ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look after her

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By *unky_DuvWoman
over a year ago

SouthCoast

He's a great but be warned, yearly sex session and only in the missionary position.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's a great but be warned, yearly sex session and only in the missionary position.

Don't tell everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I really disliked the guy and thought he was an ass I'd tell him this. "she's a keeper mate. Don't let her go".

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Tell him to get friendly with an international lorry driver who can keep him well supplied with cheap booze, as that should help to keep his monthly outgoings down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The following advice:

Does not wash from one week to the next

Will not wash hands after using the toilet

If something doesn't go his way he gets all pissy

If you want something fixed/decorated, do it yourself, you will be waiting until your time comes to pass over to the next life otherwise

Put the bins out yourself (even though it happened weekly he always forgot)

Never emptied the water container to the tumble dryer

Will do not any housework unless absolutely necessary even though he is a stay at home dad (or was)

Is a hypocontract, will require as many sick days from work (when he has a job) as he can manage without being fired

I am sure there is more advice but turns out his girlfriend is just as bloody filthy (and not in a good way) as him!

Danish x

How did you manage to spend more than a week with someone who did not wash himself for a week !??

Sadly I wasnt the same person I am today when I was married to him, I put up with a lot.

Danish x

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