FabSwingers.com forum: Is it ever appropriate to date....

By *ssexhampton OP Man
over a year ago

Rayleigh

Friends or Family ex's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I prefer to stay clear from friends exs .

It’d annoy me if it was the other way around. Like there’s plenty of freaking fish in the sea, do you really have to go there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I prefer to stay clear from friends exs .

It’d annoy me if it was the other way around. Like there’s plenty of freaking fish in the sea, do you really have to go there?"

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Any holes a goal right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I prefer to stay clear from friends exs .

It’d annoy me if it was the other way around. Like there’s plenty of freaking fish in the sea, do you really have to go there?

Nope keep your friends and get away from your ex's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I prefer to stay clear from friends exs .

It’d annoy me if it was the other way around. Like there’s plenty of freaking fish in the sea, do you really have to go there?"

Never in my opinion. I've witnessed it in the past and it caused lots of upset !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I prefer to stay clear from friends exs .

It’d annoy me if it was the other way around. Like there’s plenty of freaking fish in the sea, do you really have to go there?

Nope keep your friends and get away from your ex's

Exactly. I just think it’s awkward and not appropriate. Of course, it can happen.. but for me, it can ruin friendships etc

So it’s a no from me

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

From now on - I never want to be friends with any females who are on fab

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

If it meant two people found happiness, I would be happy for a friend to date my ex.

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By *orruptionandliesMan
over a year ago

leeds

My missus of a good friend's ex fiancé

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Yes of course it can be appropriate. It is not always a wrong thing to do.

There are many factors to consider but at the end of the day it's just two single people deciding they would like to 'date'

Anyone who wishes them ill is self centred.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"My missus of a good friend's ex fiancé "

Hang on......... I'm just making a spread sheet on this

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes I think it is. People don't own each other and once a relationship is over they're free agents. Of course there are often reasons why a person might feel it disrespectful to date a friend's ex eg if they were very upset about the break up

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"Yes I think it is. People don't own each other and once a relationship is over they're free agents. Of course there are often reasons why a person might feel it disrespectful to date a friend's ex eg if they were very upset about the break up"

Agreed but even still if enough time or water had passed then it's fine.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Agreed but even still if enough time or water had passed then it's fine. "

Yes, just don't jump in the bed while it's still warm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From now on - I never want to be friends with any females who are on fab "

OK, heading to the remove friend button

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister? "

Because they might find it weird? I don't see it as a chivalry/ woman owning thing. More friends that want to stay friends and not have it be weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not.

To much drama.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

Its not something I'd do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Humans aren't property. We don't own each other. People can do as they please

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister?

Because they might find it weird? I don't see it as a chivalry/ woman owning thing. More friends that want to stay friends and not have it be weird. "

I can understand that a man might say to his friend "by the way I'm taking your sister out" but asking permission?

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By *ssexhampton OP Man
over a year ago

Rayleigh

Is it any different from sharing you partner with someone else?

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By *ssexhampton OP Man
over a year ago

Rayleigh

"Is it any different from sharing you partner with someone else?"

*your.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister?

Because they might find it weird? I don't see it as a chivalry/ woman owning thing. More friends that want to stay friends and not have it be weird. "

I agree. It’s not about owning but I think, friends want to keep their friends, and going there isn’t the smartest move in my opinion.

As I said, it’d probably bring me to drift

A) becuase I don’t wanna see my ex . Period

B) don’t wanna see my ex with my friend

C) it’s just awkward all around

I find this extremely awkward with my BFF who split up with her ex, and her ex is part of a group of my friends x so sometimes, I see him with his new gf in the group

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Is it any different from sharing you partner with someone else?"

Yes. It's entirely different to my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My missus of a good friend's ex fiancé

Hang on......... I'm just making a spread sheet on this "

You'll need Marvin for that one.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I personally wouldnt x

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Of course it is. It's far from black and white. The reason and context behind the ex situation is the biggest deciding factor

Some exs are just good friends, all romantic feelings gone. If one of my friends would be happy with one of my (still friendly with) exs I'd say go for it. Be happy together. Why limit yourself (or make others feel limited) in what may actually be a great form of happiness?

Now of course if break up was bad, and there is still bad vibes between exs, then it is tricky. Still not simple, again it would depend greatly upon what the situation involved. I'd generally have a dislike to that friends ex anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on how the relationship was, how it ended and the consequences of being involved.

I wouldn't care about any of my ex's bar one. I can't even stand to see her because of how it ended. So if a friend went out with her I'd lose that friendship instantly. My heart wouldn't take it.

So its a very individual and specific thing to each of us. I don't think one answer fits all in this case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My missus of a good friend's ex fiancé

Hang on......... I'm just making a spread sheet on this "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very loyal to anyone I care about so if the friend was alright with it then it wouldn’t be a problem.

A family members ex would be totally off limits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit six degrees of separation for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister?

Because they might find it weird? I don't see it as a chivalry/ woman owning thing. More friends that want to stay friends and not have it be weird.

I agree. It’s not about owning but I think, friends want to keep their friends, and going there isn’t the smartest move in my opinion.

As I said, it’d probably bring me to drift

A) becuase I don’t wanna see my ex . Period

B) don’t wanna see my ex with my friend

C) it’s just awkward all around

I find this extremely awkward with my BFF who split up with her ex, and her ex is part of a group of my friends x so sometimes, I see him with his new gf in the group"

You explain it better than I did.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"From now on - I never want to be friends with any females who are on fab

OK, heading to the remove friend button "

Except lovely ones i'm already friends with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister?

Because they might find it weird? I don't see it as a chivalry/ woman owning thing. More friends that want to stay friends and not have it be weird.

I can understand that a man might say to his friend "by the way I'm taking your sister out" but asking permission? "

I still think it's permission for his friend's blessing and not necessarily an ownership thing.

I do understand what you mean though and absolutely it can oftentimes infer ownership.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Also what is this thing where some men think they need to ask their friends if it's ok to date their sister?

Because they might find it weird? I don't see it as a chivalry/ woman owning thing. More friends that want to stay friends and not have it be weird.

I agree. It’s not about owning but I think, friends want to keep their friends, and going there isn’t the smartest move in my opinion.

As I said, it’d probably bring me to drift

A) becuase I don’t wanna see my ex . Period

B) don’t wanna see my ex with my friend

C) it’s just awkward all around

I find this extremely awkward with my BFF who split up with her ex, and her ex is part of a group of my friends x so sometimes, I see him with his new gf in the group"

I agree it's probably not the smartest move but what if your friend/family members ex is the love of your life?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Me and my best friend have dated some of the same people. Years apart mind and the first to was never serious. We wouldn't with each other's ex if the relationship was serious. Family's exs would be a bit odd for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From now on - I never want to be friends with any females who are on fab "

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"From now on - I never want to be friends with any females who are on fab

Brb, just asking for my comment to be deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From now on - I never want to be friends with any females who are on fab

Brb, just asking for my comment to be deleted

Dafty

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I've only stayed friends with one ex.

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By *exymarvelMan
over a year ago

cardiff

I hope no exes of friends are here

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

"Friends or Family ex's."

Yep, just because my relationship with them didn’t work out doesn’t mean someone else can’t have a go.

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By *ategoodbyeMan
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"If it meant two people found happiness, I would be happy for a friend to date my ex."

Right on!

Or, it ensures that only two people are miserable instead of four.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been an issue with my exes

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Personally I wouldn't but you can't help you are attracted too.

If any of my friends were to date an ex of mine, I'd wish them well and hope it worked out.

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Friendships can be ruined by crossing the line. Never been there but did date a stunning girl from work once, yes a mistake too but damn good while it lasted lol

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We'd say avoid it if you can.

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By *ssexhampton OP Man
over a year ago

Rayleigh

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By *ssexhampton OP Man
over a year ago

Rayleigh

As I said earlier, why is it people feel comfortable sharing a partner but less tolerant when an ex is with someone they know?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"As I said earlier, why is it people feel comfortable sharing a partner but less tolerant when an ex is with someone they know?"

Because they no longer have control or ownership of the situation. In a swinging relationship your partner goes home with you, your ex goes home with someone else

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

It depends how important friendship is too you.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I would avoid it, I have avoided it when an opportunity arose

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By *ysyphusMan
over a year ago

Starbase K-7

It's never OK to date your brother in laws' ex wife.

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