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Pub or restaurant for a first meet ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi

I was just wondering what is the norm now for a first meet ? Always like a pub myself. But is a restaurant for dinner or maybe a coffee house a better choice?

Or no public meet at all ???

What’s your preferences

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Of those options, a coffee shop is the better as far as I'm concerned.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Coffee shop, cafe or pub for me.

Restaurant for dinner is too long if it’s awkward or they’re creepy.

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By *ysyphusMan
over a year ago

Starbase K-7

Blacked out panel van with a mattress in the back has always worked for me...

(Coffee shop, really. The van is for 2nd dates.)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of those options, a coffee shop is the better as far as I'm concerned."

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Coffee shop, cafe or pub for me.

Restaurant for dinner is too long if it’s awkward or they’re creepy. "

Yeah very true .just thought you lady’s liked to be wined and dined ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Blacked out panel van with a mattress in the back has always worked for me...

(Coffee shop, really. The van is for 2nd dates.) "

????????

Who says romance is dead

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We usually meet for coffee

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By *ysyphusMan
over a year ago

Starbase K-7


"Blacked out panel van with a mattress in the back has always worked for me...

(Coffee shop, really. The van is for 2nd dates.)

????????

Who says romance is dead "

Hey... I bought them coffee. And probably cake!

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Coffee shop, cafe or pub for me.

Restaurant for dinner is too long if it’s awkward or they’re creepy.

Yeah very true .just thought you lady’s liked to be wined and dined ??"

Not all ladies are the same.

And that’s fair enough on like an actual first date with someone you’ve met imo. A first meet is different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Coffee shop, cafe or pub for me.

Restaurant for dinner is too long if it’s awkward or they’re creepy.

Yeah very true .just thought you lady’s liked to be wined and dined ??

Not all ladies are the same.

And that’s fair enough on like an actual first date with someone you’ve met imo. A first meet is different. "

I am very glad you lady’s are different and your point is well taken

Thanks

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Went to a Italian restaurant as part of a first meet Saturday

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

pub for me, either party can make excuses and leave anytime, with a meal thats not so easy

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I like going out to dinner with people I actually get on with, so a degree of conversation first is needed

Everyone else is normally a cuppa social

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Our first physical meet was in a Tea Rooms. Mrs Misfits suggestion as we discussed we both like a good cuppa and a cake. Unfortunately the tea was terrible there and the meet was on the rocks before it got started (I was not impressed). Things worked out a lot better once I took her out for a little drive in my car. That drive saved the day. And here we are 4 years on.

Mr

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Pub/bar for us but done a coffee meet before !

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

A coffee/tea/hot chocolate somewhere. I prefer to keep initial social meets short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coffee/drink.

Need to be able to get out quickly if the attraction isn't there, or of it is there, get to the hotel quickly.

Food gets in the way of both.

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

Depends on the time of the social for me, coffee if early day time or pub later on.

Less about the drink and more just about a venue that is open at X time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Restaurant for me….real foodie me

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I have done all three and all three have worked well. I get to know the person through texts pretty well so a meal is not scary. But you are there for at least an hour.

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We normally have a quick social in the pub just down the road.It's the only time we go in there!

M and M

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"A coffee/tea/hot chocolate somewhere. I prefer to keep initial social meets short."

In fact I’d be happy if they did drive thru social meets.

Less chat, more action!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coffee or pub drink no pressure to assess if suitable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have done all three and all three have worked well. I get to know the person through texts pretty well so a meal is not scary. But you are there for at least an hour."

This for me too

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Coffee shop, cafe or pub for me.

Restaurant for dinner is too long if it’s awkward or they’re creepy.

Yeah very true .just thought you lady’s liked to be wined and dined ??"

I would hate that, and it sometimes leaves some men feeling that you owe them something sexual for the meal. Coffee and cake is better and I pay for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything you all mutually agree on. I booked a restaurant for a social with a couple. We went out for a couple of drinks before and after - loved it

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Coffee, pub that serves food in case you want to be longer....

I wouldn't drink more than 1 unless it was my home town but that would be very unlikely.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

In the past we have invited people to ours for a first meet but can be awkward if you wantvt9 get rid of them without being rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coffee is best

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Tea shop (coffee at a push) or pub. Restaurants are way too formal

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I like to take them on a guided tour of all the local back alleys and railway bridges.

I hope they realise that, if they get out of that alive, they will be fine in a coffee shop.

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By *wislandMan
over a year ago

Newquay

Coffee shop & a walk, foodie pub for meet no 2 - assuming there is one!

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

Walks are quite nice no pressure no chance of being overheard so you can talk about anything really

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I'd never buy dinner for someone I did not know. Pub it is if there is no other choice. Preference is coffee shop.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Pub for me. Coffee shops no as they are usually closed in the evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on the time of the social for me, coffee if early day time or pub later on.

Less about the drink and more just about a venue that is open at X time"

This.....as need the opportunity for either party to back out if its not gonna work.

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By *unover40Couple
over a year ago

yeovil


"Hi

I was just wondering what is the norm now for a first meet ? Always like a pub myself. But is a restaurant for dinner or maybe a coffee house a better choice?

Or no public meet at all ???

What’s your preferences "

we always have met at a pub first

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

Art gallery or museums usually have coffee shops cant stand the stuff myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry what the "norm" is and do what suits you. I would do either but I only meet those I really like from messaging and I don't normally social meet. That's how comfortable I have to be with someone. I do tend to shy away from anything that seems too date like and I think that is more to do with the vibe I get from the other person.

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By *andK78Couple
over a year ago

Thame

We love a hotel bar, especially when the bar staff notice people are swapping partners..

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

A coffee is fine with me. The thought of having dinner with someone I might not like in rl fills me with dread. It's a bit datey!

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