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Winking stand off…

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You’ve winked me, i wink back,

Then nothing……

Sometimes they’ll wink me again weeks/months later, so i wink back,

Then nothing.

Wtf?! Ive no qualms messaging first and have done previously but really who is supposed to make the next move?

Or do folk just like winking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just me who read it as wanking? ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who ever winks first should send the first message if the wink is returned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just me who read it as wanking? ... "

Yes you pervert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably the shock of them getting a wink back, it's unknown territory so they freeze like a rabbit in headlights

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like a good wink

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By *thLincsCpleCouple
over a year ago

Barton

We tend to respond to a wink with a message and pics if we like what we see, or thanks and a polite decline if we don’t like what we see.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I guess they are just shy?

Actually, maybe they didn’t see you’d winked back

Hmm maybe they are just stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just me who read it as wanking? ... "

Never just you. Fab distorts all our views on reality.

I was on tinder a few months back and anytime I saw a girl with an interest in photography, my mind read pornography

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this. Sometimes I message with the word wink.

But only to friends listers!

I don’t know why I do this…

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Message them.. they obviously like you or they'd ignore you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had the odd wink and I message and nothing… I thought some accidental winking might be occurring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't play wink tennis. If we both winked once, one of us has to make the first move!

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By *ysyphusMan
over a year ago

Starbase K-7

I've had one wink since signing up (3-4 weeks ago), I replied, we chatted, she shared pics, and the she vanished! I never even had the chance to repulse her with a face pic!

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I have had the odd wink and I message and nothing… I thought some accidental winking might be occurring "

That's really bad when someone winks, you take the trouble to message and they never even bother to reply if only to say sorry I winked by mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes wink back and leave it to them to message. Sometimes I don't because I see a wink as a little nod of appreciation of my profile and nothing more. Same as a fabbed pic. It's just someone likes that photo, not a request to get a message.

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull


"Who ever winks first should send the first message if the wink is returned "

Exactly this

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

I get it on the regular. Then I even message, get ignored and think well that was a waste of time

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Just me who read it as wanking? ... "

You're a pervert.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

If I receive a wink I tend to send a thank you message in hope it sparks a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks ? Wtf are they ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it does my head in when people wink first, I wink back, then no message xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully I don't have to suffer this issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or is that how it works I apologise everyone

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I think winks are good. I think a wink is very flirty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t send the first message no more after winking. I’ve seen the screenshots of DM’s that have been shared in third party off site group chats from blokes making the first contact with ladies. I don’t subscribe to that shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just me who read it as wanking? ...

You're a pervert. "

It was you who corrupted me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just me who read it as wanking? ...

You're a pervert.

It was you who corrupted me "

Now it's you corrupting us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All winks answered here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just me who read it as wanking? ... "

Lol if I wink it just means I have something in my eye

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bridgwater... (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"Thankfully I don't have to suffer this issue "

Haha snap! ...something we have in common Wonko

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Just me who read it as wanking? ...

You're a pervert.

It was you who corrupted me

Now it's you corrupting us "

Is this another standoff

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Just me who read it as wanking? ...

You're a pervert.

It was you who corrupted me "

Even more if I ever get my hands on you.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"It's probably the shock of them getting a wink back, it's unknown territory so they freeze like a rabbit in headlights "

We’ve had some super hot people with loads of meet veris ignore our return wink, so probably not that!

We just assume it was a half-hearted contact that they’ve no real interest in deepening, or a better option also winked back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! We’ve had couples who have not only winked but fabbed photos as well.

We respond with a wink back or in some cases a message and then…..sweet FA.

Even more bizarre they will then look at our profile regularly

V

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

If I’m interested in what I see in the winker’s profile I message something along the lines: Thanks for the wink and a compliment of sort .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a recovered winker

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

Oh that would annoy me unless I'd already friendzoned him

If I receive a wink and I like him I wink back and send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been called a winker many times. At least I think that's what they said...

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"You’ve winked me, i wink back,

Then nothing……

Sometimes they’ll wink me again weeks/months later, so i wink back,

Then nothing.

Wtf?! Ive no qualms messaging first and have done previously but really who is supposed to make the next move?

Or do folk just like winking? "

We've had many like this. We put on the private notes when they've winked. They don't get a second wink, we're not playing wink tennis!

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By *eezer445Man
over a year ago

South East

If I send a wink and get one back then yeah I’d always follow it up with a message, be rude not to

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I like a good wink

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"You’ve who is supposed to make the next move? "

The one who actually wants to do something involving their genitals and the other profile!

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By *elboy64Man
over a year ago

weston


"If I send a wink and get one back then yeah I’d always follow it up with a message, be rude not to "
this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The winker becomes the winkee.

Pair of winkers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly to old to wink !

Pesky filters lol

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've done this precisely once, purely because I couldn't think of a single damn thing to say to that specific person.

They didn't message me either, mind. Communication's a two-way street, after all.

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"Thankfully I don't have to suffer this issue

Haha snap! ...something we have in common Wonko "

What do you mean? You don't get winks or people don't wink back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thankfully I don't have to suffer this issue

Haha snap! ...something we have in common Wonko

What do you mean? You don't get winks or people don't wink back?"

Both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thankfully I don't have to suffer this issue

Haha snap! ...something we have in common Wonko "

Only because your age settings prevent it

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By *cottieboy123Man
over a year ago

Perth

You have a dirty mind, young lady. . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’ve winked me, i wink back,

Then nothing……

Sometimes they’ll wink me again weeks/months later, so i wink back,

Then nothing.

Wtf?! Ive no qualms messaging first and have done previously but really who is supposed to make the next move?

Or do folk just like winking? "

You realise you will probably get 150 winks now don't you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’ve winked me, i wink back,

Then nothing……

Sometimes they’ll wink me again weeks/months later, so i wink back,

Then nothing.

Wtf?! Ive no qualms messaging first and have done previously but really who is supposed to make the next move?

Or do folk just like winking? "

This is the story of my life...Notice local hotstuff has winked me, wink back...Nada! Fab pic, still Nada, Fab all his pics and wait....wait....ugh!

Too shy to message

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