FabSwingers.com forum: Socials first? Or straight down to business?

By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

We have had meets where we have had a social, then gone back a week later for another social with fun.

We have also had meets where after the social it's straight to the fun.

Both are great, though we prefer the second option of the two.

What's your preference.?

Or.

Do you play it differently. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to have the social in the hotel room then the bed is there if we choose to use it. Win win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Public social.

In case they try to bundle me into the back of a van.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social in my van.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Always a social for us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social few drinks. Loosen up. If it seems well. Then game onnnnnn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social in my van."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social in my van."

Does the heater work ?

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I go straight to the fun rather than a social

But I know some people prefer to have a social first & I guess by telling them straight no fun will be had on the first meet, you've got an easy get out if your not feeling it

If you imply fun maybe had if the social goes well but you're not feeling it then you're going to have an awkward face to face conversation which personally I wouldn't want knowing how bad guys take a polite no thanks to their messages, I dread to think of their face to face reaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was younger i didnt mind getting down to it straight away or after a very short chat

Now i much prefer chatting for a bit and getting to know somone aswell beforehand over a drink or something. No issue having some fun if we get on well after the first hour or so. but also no issues if people decide not to and just be friends ect

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By *ictor SpongeMan
over a year ago

Stokesley/ often Sunderland

I've had a social in a garden centre before, it was a win win because she had a good eye for fragrant blooms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social in my van.

Does the heater work ?"

No I just wrap them in a carpet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a social in a garden centre before, it was a win win because she had a good eye for fragrant blooms

My most favourite social was in a workwear emporium. We were surrounded by steel toe cap boots and hi viz vests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always social first in public place

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Social first - can be hotel bar if thats where im staying or somewhere else as long as whoever im with is comfortable with it. No hard and fast rules - if the dynamic is there - happily play on first date if its not then decide together if you want to have another social- just never any pressure either way.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I've had a social in a garden centre before, it was a win win because she had a good eye for fragrant blooms

My most favourite social was in a workwear emporium. We were surrounded by steel toe cap boots and hi viz vests.

You shagged in B&Q didn’t you?!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social in my van.

Does the heater work ?

No I just wrap them in a carpet. "

Sounds like my van

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By *ictor SpongeMan
over a year ago

Stokesley/ often Sunderland

"I've had a social in a garden centre before, it was a win win because she had a good eye for fragrant blooms

My most favourite social was in a workwear emporium. We were surrounded by steel toe cap boots and hi viz vests.

You shagged in B&Q didn’t you?!!!!

It was more high brow than BQ I'll have you kkow

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By *eardyBikerMan
over a year ago

nr stonehaven

Have had both, have gotten down to business on 1st meet...have also had a coffee social to see how it goes ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind either dynamic, or variations in between.

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By *drian HardthrobMan
over a year ago

Worcester

Business social, need a third to take the minutes.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

We prefer the first meet to be a social so we can chat a little and get to decide then if the person(s) are somebody we can get along well enough with to actually get intimate with them later or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a social in a garden centre before, it was a win win because she had a good eye for fragrant blooms

My most favourite social was in a workwear emporium. We were surrounded by steel toe cap boots and hi viz vests.

You shagged in B&Q didn’t you?!!!!

I don't ever shag on socials.

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By *heonix_flamesWoman
over a year ago

Midlands

Social first. I need to feel comfortable with someone and I don’t if it goes straight to sex. One time I did that it wasn’t a very pleasant experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first and in a public place, like a coffee shop or restaurant. I'm not going to meet a total stranger in a hotel or even in a car. I value my safety too much x

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We’ve had a couple of blindfold meets (C being blindfolded) so have got down to play straight away.

Other times we’ve met for a social first. We’ve been for a couple of walks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social in my van.

Does the heater work ?

No I just wrap them in a carpet. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social first - can be hotel bar if thats where im staying or somewhere else as long as whoever im with is comfortable with it. No hard and fast rules - if the dynamic is there - happily play on first date if its not then decide together if you want to have another social- just never any pressure either way.

This generally sums up my take on it.

I've done both. Whichever, always meet in public. Anyone not happy to do that would be a red flag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social with a single female.

Saves awkwardnes if the vibes don't match.

I've learnt the hard way.

With coupless don't mind going down to business straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a social in a garden centre before, it was a win win because she had a good eye for fragrant blooms

My most favourite social was in a workwear emporium. We were surrounded by steel toe cap boots and hi viz vests.

You shagged in B&Q didn’t you?!!!!

It was more high brow than BQ I'll have you kkow

Screwfix?

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Always a social first as we have to make sure their is a 4 way connection and it’s not really a conversation we would feel comfortable with having in front of the other couple .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials first please. The only time I went straight down to business, I didn't really enjoy much as the flow was not just there.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Always a social first. Maybe several. We don't want to have sex with anybody we don't feel we get on well with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social meet first and hopefully that leads to fun on the next meet

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

A “no expectations” meet first time, if the chemistry is there and we both feel it’s right, I’m not waiting! I may get run over by that infamous bus that keeps threatening people before the next meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a meet virgin

….but i would love a social first without the pressure of fun!

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I always say social first, as I need to feel relaxed & make sure we click.

If we do, then I'm more than happy to act on it there & then.

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By *nn_JamesCouple
over a year ago

Berkshire / South Bucks

Initially a social (preferably in a club) then take it from there...

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Worst meets and worst sex I ever had was the "straight to it" type.

Never again.

If social is a chore to some people - it's okay. I don't want to meet them.

Missus

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By *weetHotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We used to do the phone call, pic swap, intro social then arrange play meet thing but post lock down decided just to go and play at Chameleons ( or PDI ) unless with long standing playmates. Been doing that since September and haven't looked back. Regular fun without all the pre meet stuff. Works for us. Happy Days

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Always a social first for us x

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By *bostCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

In our limited experience a social first is a must.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m to meet I go in with the expectation of nothing more than a social. Saves any disappointment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

has to be 42 socials first

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Public social.

In case they try to bundle me into the back of a van. "

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...and then you wake up in a hotel room with a kidney missing...?

A Gin-infused social for me in a public place for a first meet.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Public social

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By *ommeLadyWoman
over a year ago

yeovil

I like to get to know/ have a social first

and preferably in public place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Public social.

In case they try to bundle me into the back of a van.

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...and then you wake up in a hotel room with a kidney missing...?

A Gin-infused social for me in a public place for a first meet.

I have strong kidney function so this does concern me somewhat.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Depends on the communication before hand, sometimes you just get that feeling about someone and just go for it

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Really prefer a social first but a club social might turn into play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually a social first for us but have played on first meet more that once but only after chatting for a while so we all sort of knew what was going to happen

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Social first! Have gone on to play straight after! Not in the coffee shop though!

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Social first! Have gone on to play straight after! Not in the coffee shop though!

Coward!!

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Social daytime coffee.

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By *omerset1976Man
over a year ago

Burnham

Socials are nice. Enjoy a flirty chat in pub or coffee shop.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We prefer a social 1st, to check that we all get on and there's attraction for everyone.

Miss

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

Most of the time I have the social in my living room, and then we'll move things to the bedroom if we both want it to go there.

I don't mind meeting someone in public first, if that's what makes them comfortable, but most of the women I have met were happy enough just meeting at mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either or , socials can be fun as the sexual tension builds when sitting in a pub / restaurant etc . Right down to it can be hot too . All depends on what Both are comfortable with .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Public social First

We don't want to get catfished! or they may try to bundle me into the back of a van.

But definitely Social so she or they can get a feel for you and show them your safe to be with. Honest polite clean and hold a good conversation & most of all like cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer a social first if you get on really well and it leads to more that meet fair enough. Personally I like to feel comfortable with a person before any fun not really a f&£k and go kind of person.

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

As with most, we like a social first, but if the chemistry is there and there is somewhere suitable nearby, then we are more than happy to play on the first meet.

MJ x

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

As a single woman, always just a social first. Can't be too careful and it's awkward if you don't really connect and they're expecting more!

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I once had a social on a naturist beach. Things escalated quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say social with a view to meet later.

But if it's going well, I'll do social followed by fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men : shag

Women : social

Couples : social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Public social.

In case they try to bundle me into the back of a van. "

you wish

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

First meet, always go wirh no expectation other than social, if it escalates mutually then why miss the opportunity.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

We would rather a social first

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By *ubynaughtyCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

Plan for a social but see where the night takes us!

Ruby X

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Not averse to playing on the first meet but it always starts with a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strictly social meet first, no exceptions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Public social.

In case they try to bundle me into the back of a van.

you wish

Nah, they definitely would.

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By *urio77Man
over a year ago

northampton

"Most of the time I have the social in my living room, and then we'll move things to the bedroom if we both want it to go there.

I don't mind meeting someone in public first, if that's what makes them comfortable, but most of the women I have met were happy enough just meeting at mine."

Same as this. Never had a public social. I can pick up on the vibe through the messages as to whether there’s a connection.

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By *ineMan
over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

"Social in my van.

Does the heater work ?

No I just wrap them in a carpet. "

Save the whale.... don't use plastic wrap

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By *he love cats OP Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

A slight variation but most of us are on the same page which is good news. X

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

I’ve had socials and I’ve also had a blowjob only meet where I rocked up, sucked him off and then came home.

They all had their appeal at the time.

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

I think you have to have a social first see if you all get on with each other and if there is a sexual attraction ect then take it from there really x

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Public social.

In case they try to bundle me into the back of a van.

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...and then you wake up in a hotel room with a kidney missing...?

A Gin-infused social for me in a public place for a first meet.

I have strong kidney function so this does concern me somewhat. "

Shhh don't tell people that or you will end up in the back of a van!!!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Social regardless how long we've been chatting but doesn't always happen but always other times to enjoy that as well it's an ice breaker either way

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

I like a social that leads into full sex.

Ideally i'd like a few drinks at a club, dancing, chatting & then home for a session.

I also like the straight to ripping each others clothes off & going at it approach lol

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

Social all the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social for me first. I’d hate for sex to be a fixed expectation on either side. Too much pressure that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social in my van.

Does the heater work ?

No I just wrap them in a carpet.

Save the whale.... don't use plastic wrap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always sex on first meet for me. Maybe chat for an hour or so first than get to it xx

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Always sex on first meet for me. Maybe chat for an hour or so first than get to it xx"

Same here, if I'm planning to meet you socially I've already thought about having sex with you & i must have liked the idea.

So i have to get it

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

When it happens.... A social first in public will be my preference.

If things go well there are aways options.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Straight to it if both up for it.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

That's why we like clubs. Best of both worlds and all options are open. We wouldn't get straight down to business with people we've only talked to online.

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

"A social for me first. I’d hate for sex to be a fixed expectation on either side. Too much pressure that way."

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By *ue and robCouple
over a year ago

ware

Straight to the fun if everyone agrees

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

We always have a social first, usually end up playing the same evening but not always !. One of our last meets was preceeded by TWO socials (they oddly insisted), the meet was rubbish though and certainly not worth waiting a few months for. Even in a club we like a chat first for a few minutes before getting naughty...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t have a enough free time for socials so it’s either straight down to business or clubs.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Public social to see how we get on then either play or arrange the next time to play

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