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Taking 'No' for an answer

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Is it just me but when I have told people I chat to, including friends, that I do not meet midweek when I am working, they still ask if they can. More than once!

Is 'no' not enough?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

They get no choice with me, they no when i will and wont meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me but when I have told people I chat to, including friends, that I do not meet midweek when I am working, they still ask if they can. More than once!

Is 'no' not enough?"

Had similar things to this myself...usually time of the month. Had a few say I could just give them a BJ...usually stops me contacting them when I can play though because these guys have a habit of calling me selfish for saying no! Why would I want to get myself all worked up when I can't play?!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

[Removed by poster at 08/10/12 22:58:23]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still have someone mailing me that I said 'no' to over 2 years ago!! He mails every few months or so.

It's not just you that gets it... at least you can block them on here. Wish there was a 'block' button in real life.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Is it just me but when I have told people I chat to, including friends, that I do not meet midweek when I am working, they still ask if they can. More than once!

Is 'no' not enough?

Had similar things to this myself...usually time of the month. Had a few say I could just give them a BJ...usually stops me contacting them when I can play though because these guys have a habit of calling me selfish for saying no! Why would I want to get myself all worked up when I can't play?!"

The only time I am not horny is during my period. The only way a cock would be going in my mouth is if it was covered in chocolate - but I'd be likely to bite it!!

I have been travelling a lot for work recently and when I tell people I'm away (as my profile warns) I get told to shut my profile down since I'm wasting peoples time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In order to get some practice, I used to message people asking them

'What was the name of the first James Bond move - Dr?'

I improved my response rate by offering a 'really cool prize' for correctly answering (it was actually just a bag of Jelly Tots).

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Some of them are people I have seen before. They are actually nice guys. Maybe I am not being assertive enough?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I started using the site two years ago when I was in a couple. My then partner told me to just ignore the messages that didn't interest me and delete them. I replied to all messages as I thought it rude to ignore. Two years of saying no, to the same people sometimes can be tiring.

Sending any sort of reply seems to encourage quite a large number to see that as an 'in'. Over the last two months I have been testing just deleting. I'm getting to be a dab hand at it now. As with most things, the more you do it the easier it gets.

Yes, I know about the filters and blocking but I leave my filters off for the word game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its not buy this sites standards get with the programme woman you must drop everything to go meet now hey work ... Throw a sicky ..family

...tell em to sod off who needs friends come on got meet a fat sweaty freak that prob never seen a pair of tits never mind touched them ...... You signed up to all this when u joined fab ........... Or do what we do tell em to go get fucked and block em for being simple lol x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

OP, let me know if you would like some phrases with which to say no. I have lots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me but when I have told people I chat to, including friends, that I do not meet midweek when I am working, they still ask if they can. More than once!

Is 'no' not enough?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive just had a guy mail me shite because im gay lol ....ffs.... no means no but some just cant cope with it lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Some of them are people I have seen before. They are actually nice guys. Maybe I am not being assertive enough?"

I hate having to do that. I only do repeat meets if we have connected in a deeper way than just a shag, and its very difficult to say 'sorry mate. You were a good shag but thats about it'. Having said that, it shouldn't be expected that just because we've had sex once, it will happen again. There are plenty of men who will gracefully accept it, but there are a few who won't. Thus comes in handy the block button.

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By *ancsflyerCouple
over a year ago

nelson

glad i am not the only one that gets asked that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah we have had a few for example politeley replying sorry not playing due to time of the month we got a message saying well i can pleasure you in other ways (how exactly).

Also quite a few that we have told we have at most 2 daytimes free a month constantly messaging asking for a daytime meet.

Also had a single man message today asking for a meet before 1pm as thats when his wife finished work, we said we dont do cheating men, he said he wasnt cheating she played but he was alone til then, so we offered to go round there house when she had finished work and swap partners and he deleted his profile lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me but when I have told people I chat to, including friends, that I do not meet midweek when I am working, they still ask if they can. More than once!

Is 'no' not enough?"

I get the same thing even though it clearly says that I don't meet during the day, and why on my profile!

Can't, won't don't want to leave my comfort zone, but still I keep getting asked!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

It's a bind I know. I really pull my hair out sometimes. It gets my flag all ruffled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some get the message about no work day evening meets, they are the keepers.

I seldom bother keeping in touch with those who don't remember.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, let me know if you would like some phrases with which to say no. I have lots."

could u tell me a few please or am I blocked !!!!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a bind I know. I really pull my hair out sometimes. It gets my flag all ruffled "

flag must be in the wash at the mo then!!

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks


"Is it just me but when I have told people I chat to, including friends, that I do not meet midweek when I am working, they still ask if they can. More than once!

Is 'no' not enough?"

the Block button is yr friend

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By *B9 Queen OP   Woman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Don't really want to be blocking constantly, especially if I know the guy and may have met a few times.

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By *hynottsCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

best one for us was a guy we said no to and he got stroppy saying did we know we on a swingers site dont think he liked my reply when i said we go to the local curry house but i have salad dont think he got it

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