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Very very long profiles all about do and donts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I understand that people get bombarded on here with messages and they put some kind of a like or dislike on profile but omg why is some so long ,I feel like I wasted valuable time i my life than read all that shite , just say in header or settings then that’s it surly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand that people get bombarded on here with messages and they put some kind of a like or dislike on profile but omg why is some so long ,I feel like I wasted valuable time i my life than read all that shite , just say in header or settings then that’s it surly "

Don't call me Shirley.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

More like a Susan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair it's not like fabs helps by giving only the most basic inbox filters, a lot of these profiles would be shorter if you could also block messages by distance, race, height and body type to list a few off the top of my head.

In the advance search as well, along with "hide anybody who has blocked single guys", and "I'm age they're looking for", they should include "I'm the height they're interested in", bodytype, race etc

Long profiles have more to do with compensating for fab's lack of functionality than it is with the people who make them, even if some are just full of themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More like a Susan "

Don't call me lazy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel bad for anyone who reads my extensive profile.

And my long and insightful forum posts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is actually correct, well done bro

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"More like a Susan

Don't call me lazy."

Lazy

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

The problem with long, prescriptive profiles is this: The longer they get, the less likely the reader is to actually read them. This makes it ultimately self-defeating.

Basic rule of writing content for the internet: Users skim rather than reading. You have to make it digestible, or the reader's eyes just slide off it. There's a strong chance the reader will never see anything they have to scroll down to reach.

People are entitled to their likes and dislikes, but the more of them they present, the fewer of them are going to be read and assimilated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's entitlement. When people are more desired, they have the choice to be picky with a long lists of dos/donts. What annoys me the most is guys who change who they are and jump through 1000 hoops to satisfy them, know your worth for god sake, you bring something to the table too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep mine short and sweet.

Don’t message.

Do fuck off.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great."

I'm not sure I'd agree with this. Someone's ability to engage with written content on the internet probably isn't a solid predictor of their attentiveness to the comfort of a prospective partner.

There are plenty of users on here who are dyslexic, for instance, and would struggle with a wall of text. That doesn't mean they wouldn't be totally respectful of a partner's boundaries.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Mine has never really changed length wise but over time I've reworded it slightly.

Most would probably say it is on the long side but written in a way to encourage people to read it.

I don't have any demands but I do have instructions for those who may decide to skip to the last chapter.

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great."

Totally that!

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great.

I'm not sure I'd agree with this. Someone's ability to engage with written content on the internet probably isn't a solid predictor of their attentiveness to the comfort of a prospective partner.

There are plenty of users on here who are dyslexic, for instance, and would struggle with a wall of text. That doesn't mean they wouldn't be totally respectful of a partner's boundaries. "

Well that’s just unfortunate - should we give everyone a chance to slip through the net for slight chance that they are dyslexic?!

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By *uietlycheekyMan
over a year ago

aberdeen

I understand why people do it …. To me it usually screams…. ‘Well you’re a bit full of yourselves’ and puts me off tbh. It’s a shame really coz I’m a good guy

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great."

Totally this..

I don’t care how much time they need to take to read & reread our profile.

Invest the time, it’s who we are and if you want us to invest time in meeting you, making arrangements and building a desire then you can spend a few short minutes reading about us..

Too much sense of entitlement sometimes from people who want everything on a plate with little or no effort.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"[Removed by poster at 21/01/22 07:23:00]"

Oh...why did you delete your comment....was just about to answer your riddle ...because it's a simple answer to your question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's entitlement. When people are more desired, they have the choice to be picky with a long lists of dos/donts. What annoys me the most is guys who change who they are and jump through 1000 hoops to satisfy them, know your worth for god sake, you bring something to the table too."

Entitlement?

It’s your prerogative to state what you do or don’t want. Because ultimately isn’t that knowing your worth too, just like you’re telling the men to? And if that doesn’t fit with someone, then they move along.

And in fact, it’s quite the opposite - I’ve had my time wasted so many times, that it calls for pointing out what I do and don’t want from the site. If someone reads it and decides it’s not for them then that’s cool with me, and if they do decide they want to invest time in me, then even better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great.

I'm not sure I'd agree with this. Someone's ability to engage with written content on the internet probably isn't a solid predictor of their attentiveness to the comfort of a prospective partner.

There are plenty of users on here who are dyslexic, for instance, and would struggle with a wall of text. That doesn't mean they wouldn't be totally respectful of a partner's boundaries.

Well that’s just unfortunate - should we give everyone a chance to slip through the net for slight chance that they are dyslexic?!

"

Exactly what I was just thinking. Jeez, everyone needs an excuse as to why they might not cope with something.

A full written text is a great marker for whether someone is or isn't suitable for you. If you don't like what you read or can't understand it then clearly that person isn't for you

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Personally I don't read and just skip. Brevity is a virtue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand why people do it …. To me it usually screams…. ‘Well you’re a bit full of yourselves’ and puts me off tbh. It’s a shame really coz I’m a good guy "

Well that’s unfortunate of you to make such a judgement maybe the nice guy is smoke and mirrors lol.

It’s hilarious that on here, stating what you want makes you “entitled” or “full of yourself” but anywhere else it’d be at least acceptable.

Sorry I’ll just shut my mouth, spread my legs and everyone jump on…

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent


"I understand that people get bombarded on here with messages and they put some kind of a like or dislike on profile but omg why is some so long ,I feel like I wasted valuable time i my life than read all that shite , just say in header or settings then that’s it surly "

Surely it doesn’t matter as your profile is hidden anyway so chances of any replies would be slim to none?

N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great.

I'm not sure I'd agree with this. Someone's ability to engage with written content on the internet probably isn't a solid predictor of their attentiveness to the comfort of a prospective partner.

There are plenty of users on here who are dyslexic, for instance, and would struggle with a wall of text. That doesn't mean they wouldn't be totally respectful of a partner's boundaries.

Well that’s just unfortunate - should we give everyone a chance to slip through the net for slight chance that they are dyslexic?!

Exactly what I was just thinking. Jeez, everyone needs an excuse as to why they might not cope with something.

A full written text is a great marker for whether someone is or isn't suitable for you. If you don't like what you read or can't understand it then clearly that person isn't for you "

Thank you Because ultimately… they’re the entitled ones. ‘Oh she’s got a tit out so she should be grateful’.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"I understand why people do it …. To me it usually screams…. ‘Well you’re a bit full of yourselves’ and puts me off tbh. It’s a shame really coz I’m a good guy

Well that’s unfortunate of you to make such a judgement maybe the nice guy is smoke and mirrors lol.

It’s hilarious that on here, stating what you want makes you “entitled” or “full of yourself” but anywhere else it’d be at least acceptable.

Sorry I’ll just shut my mouth, spread my legs and everyone jump on… "

Oh stop...not all men want to jump on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's entitlement. When people are more desired, they have the choice to be picky with a long lists of dos/donts. What annoys me the most is guys who change who they are and jump through 1000 hoops to satisfy them, know your worth for god sake, you bring something to the table too.

Entitlement?

It’s your prerogative to state what you do or don’t want. Because ultimately isn’t that knowing your worth too, just like you’re telling the men to? And if that doesn’t fit with someone, then they move along.

And in fact, it’s quite the opposite - I’ve had my time wasted so many times, that it calls for pointing out what I do and don’t want from the site. If someone reads it and decides it’s not for them then that’s cool with me, and if they do decide they want to invest time in me, then even better.

"

I'm not talking about prefrences or what we want from the site. I'm talking about a long list of what a person should be/shouldn't be and profiles that are clearly demanding without stating what they bring to the table. They wouldn't be able to do that if they weren't a desired party. You can tell from the tone of the profile the difference between the two, but opinions are open to interpretation so feel whatever you need to feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand why people do it …. To me it usually screams…. ‘Well you’re a bit full of yourselves’ and puts me off tbh. It’s a shame really coz I’m a good guy

Well that’s unfortunate of you to make such a judgement maybe the nice guy is smoke and mirrors lol.

It’s hilarious that on here, stating what you want makes you “entitled” or “full of yourself” but anywhere else it’d be at least acceptable.

Sorry I’ll just shut my mouth, spread my legs and everyone jump on…

Oh stop...not all men want to jump on "

Exactly, and those men will move on and find another female. It all works out

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I quite like reading a long profile.

It gives an insight to their personality at the very least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's entitlement. When people are more desired, they have the choice to be picky with a long lists of dos/donts. What annoys me the most is guys who change who they are and jump through 1000 hoops to satisfy them, know your worth for god sake, you bring something to the table too.

Entitlement?

It’s your prerogative to state what you do or don’t want. Because ultimately isn’t that knowing your worth too, just like you’re telling the men to? And if that doesn’t fit with someone, then they move along.

And in fact, it’s quite the opposite - I’ve had my time wasted so many times, that it calls for pointing out what I do and don’t want from the site. If someone reads it and decides it’s not for them then that’s cool with me, and if they do decide they want to invest time in me, then even better.

I'm not talking about prefrences or what we want from the site. I'm talking about a long list of what a person should be/shouldn't be and profiles that are clearly demanding without stating what they bring to the table. They wouldn't be able to do that if they weren't a desired party. You can tell from the tone of the profile the difference between the two, but opinions are open to interpretation so feel whatever you need to feel."

What do you mean a ‘desired party’? Because I’m sure everyone is desirable in someone’s eyes. And isn’t a list of what a person likes and doesn’t like basically a preference? I’m confused. However someone takes the tone of the profile is up to that person. As you say, opinion is open to interpretation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to read this thread.

I decided it was too long and too early to commit to it.

Read a profile, don’t read a profile.

Who actually cares?

Most people don’t bother and just message anyway.

Despite all the threads on “personality/looks”

You’re only going to get a reply from anybody (both male and female) if you look a certain way.

You can’t layout your entire personality in a message.

My suggestion is just be better looking.

You’re welcome and good day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel bad for anyone who reads my extensive profile.

And my long and insightful forum posts. "

Yours does drag on a bit to be fair.

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I used to have a fairly short profile but found I was asked the same questions constantly so to save everyone's time I added FAQs, broken up into bite size sections to make it easy to read.

I get less messages and sometimes get a messages saying "saw point x and I'm not for you, happy fabbing" so people do read it and it works for me.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great."

This totally

Even when I had a much shorter profile, it didn't get read

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can’t even be bothered to read a profile, are you going to be bothered to make the effort elsewhere?

Probably not.

Their profile, their decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can’t be bothered to spend time reading a profile that they’ve put time and effort into and that’s your “valuable time wasted” then, they’re not for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not keen on them either

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"If you can’t be bothered to spend time reading a profile that they’ve put time and effort into and that’s your “valuable time wasted” then, they’re not for you. "

Exactly this

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I’m not a fan personally. I just end up skim reading. But people can use their profiles however they seem fit, doesn’t annoy me or bother me. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long, short, war and peace…..it’s all good.

People’s is different innit. If they’re were all the same fab would be a fuck tonne of boring.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If anybody sees a profile that they feel is too long the best thing they can do is scroll on by. Nobody has wasted any time then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's entitlement. When people are more desired, they have the choice to be picky with a long lists of dos/donts. What annoys me the most is guys who change who they are and jump through 1000 hoops to satisfy them, know your worth for god sake, you bring something to the table too."

That's why I never say on my profile what I'm looking for. They just lie and say they are into xyz.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you can’t be bothered to spend time reading a profile that they’ve put time and effort into and that’s your “valuable time wasted” then, they’re not for you. "

I swear there was a forum post yesterday on this very topic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like fucking face book on here sometimes

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"It's like fucking face book on here sometimes "

Yes so many idiots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you can’t be bothered to spend time reading a profile that they’ve put time and effort into and that’s your “valuable time wasted” then, they’re not for you.

I swear there was a forum post yesterday on this very topic! "

But men don't read!

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I used to have a fairly short profile but found I was asked the same questions constantly so to save everyone's time I added FAQs, broken up into bite size sections to make it easy to read.

I get less messages and sometimes get a messages saying "saw point x and I'm not for you, happy fabbing" so people do read it and it works for me."

Your experience demonstrates that making the effort to design accessible web content pays off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you can’t be bothered to spend time reading a profile that they’ve put time and effort into and that’s your “valuable time wasted” then, they’re not for you.

I swear there was a forum post yesterday on this very topic!

But men don't read! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair it's not like fabs helps by giving only the most basic inbox filters, a lot of these profiles would be shorter if you could also block messages by distance, race, height and body type to list a few off the top of my head.

In the advance search as well, along with "hide anybody who has blocked single guys", and "I'm age they're looking for", they should include "I'm the height they're interested in", bodytype, race etc

Long profiles have more to do with compensating for fab's lack of functionality than it is with the people who make them, even if some are just full of themselves."

100% correct

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

Everyone is free to set out what they do and don’t want.

And to reject people who clearly don’t match.

Just because you’re interested in someone doesn’t mean it’s reciprocal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i extended mine recently to include a lot of these

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By *otcplmidsCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

I am tired of being asked what I'm into and why we are on fab. I used to answer that, but now I just say it is on our profile what we are looking for. I also do understand that they may just be trying to start up a conversation. What is considered a long profile? I read veri's too, and double check their veri isnt from a fake profile. I think that eliminates time wasters

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t bother, nobody reads them and if they do they chance their arm anyway. Instead I filter to the max and just stick a pin in a cushion every-time someone asks me a question that gets on my tits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t bother, nobody reads them and if they do they chance their arm anyway. Instead I filter to the max and just stick a pin in a cushion every-time someone asks me a question that gets on my tits."

That must be the world's biggest cushion.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Someone writes a profile in which they state exactly what and who they’re looking for on the site. That’s a bad thing ?

I’m a fan of medium to long text as the majority of messages I receive are from the ‘fill in later crowd’ with their ‘hi’ opening. Tells me nothing about them and indicates they’ll not put in any effort with a meet.

I very rarely send a first message but when I do it’s always with those who’ve written something I gel with.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"If you can’t be bothered to spend time reading a profile that they’ve put time and effort into and that’s your “valuable time wasted” then, they’re not for you.

I swear there was a forum post yesterday on this very topic!

But men don't read! "

They deff don’t read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've grown a lot older trying to read some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair it's not like fabs helps by giving only the most basic inbox filters, a lot of these profiles would be shorter if you could also block messages by distance, race, height and body type to list a few off the top of my head.

In the advance search as well, along with "hide anybody who has blocked single guys", and "I'm age they're looking for", they should include "I'm the height they're interested in", bodytype, race etc

Long profiles have more to do with compensating for fab's lack of functionality than it is with the people who make them, even if some are just full of themselves."

This ^^^

When I joined, I was surprised to see that there aren't physical filters. Seems a given that it's important. I find I have to spend far too long deleting messages from people who either don't match my preferences or it's clear from their profile, I'm not really theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s it, I’m convinced. I need to add some more to mine. It’s not long enough.

Any more special offers I could add?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We’d prefer to see longer profiles as it means they’ve made some effort.

The jump through hoops profiles are a little too much but at least they know exactly what they want.

We didn’t want to put a list of no’s and dont’s as we want to keep our profile positive. Instead hoping that the effort we’ve made will be a filter enough

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great."

I wish there was a simple 'like' button for comments. Loved this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine has never really changed length wise but over time I've reworded it slightly.

Most would probably say it is on the long side but written in a way to encourage people to read it.

I don't have any demands but I do have instructions for those who may decide to skip to the last chapter."

I chuckled at your profile. And I remembered it. Nicely done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great.

I'm not sure I'd agree with this. Someone's ability to engage with written content on the internet probably isn't a solid predictor of their attentiveness to the comfort of a prospective partner.

There are plenty of users on here who are dyslexic, for instance, and would struggle with a wall of text. That doesn't mean they wouldn't be totally respectful of a partner's boundaries. "

I read the comment as meaning "If you think it's a waste of your time to read it..." rather than any difficulty in reading it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is long(ish) but my wants from this site are so limited it is needed

A read (or even half read) is enough to deter most from messaging, which is kinda the idea

I used to get so many coarse and direct emails from other blokes - and now they have largely stopped

So it works for me

As for the reader, don't like, just click off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a very specific profile but like to think it's written in a way to not waste people's time when reading through it.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great."

Exactly this.

Effort in = results out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chuckle when you see the warnings on the end of a profile about rights and Sydney university.....as if they have any meaning or anyone takes any notice.....it says keep off the grass in our park but people still walk on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t bother, nobody reads them and if they do they chance their arm anyway. Instead I filter to the max and just stick a pin in a cushion every-time someone asks me a question that gets on my tits."

how come i snuck through?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That’s it, I’m convinced. I need to add some more to mine. It’s not long enough.

Any more special offers I could add? "

Sydney University t-shirts, mouse mats, pens.

Free Sony Walkman to every 6th customer.

Repeat at least one of the sections so people get confused thinking they read it before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they to long then i dont bother reading and wont contact them either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That’s it, I’m convinced. I need to add some more to mine. It’s not long enough.

Any more special offers I could add?

Sydney University t-shirts, mouse mats, pens.

Free Sony Walkman to every 6th customer.

Repeat at least one of the sections so people get confused thinking they read it before. "

Ooo, I like the Sony Walkman idea.

Maybe I could add a loyalty card scheme?

You’re a genius, thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I see is

ITS ALL ABOUT ME

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)


"All I see is

ITS ALL ABOUT ME"

...which is a trigger for most that it could be a 'high maintenance' situation and can move along to the next

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

For full terms and conditions, please read the small print........

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great.

I'm not sure I'd agree with this. Someone's ability to engage with written content on the internet probably isn't a solid predictor of their attentiveness to the comfort of a prospective partner.

There are plenty of users on here who are dyslexic, for instance, and would struggle with a wall of text. That doesn't mean they wouldn't be totally respectful of a partner's boundaries.

I read the comment as meaning "If you think it's a waste of your time to read it..." rather than any difficulty in reading it. "

I have a tldr; at the top of my profile, partly for that reason...

But I'm dyslexic, if I can spend the time writing it, someone can spend time reading it?

I have filters and special fonts installed to make it as easy as possible for me to read profiles.

I'd much rather a long profile that details what someone is looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that it works all the time

Despite my current edit - the first 3 lines of the profile, I've still had 3 'looking to meet?' messages this week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great.

I'm not sure I'd agree with this. Someone's ability to engage with written content on the internet probably isn't a solid predictor of their attentiveness to the comfort of a prospective partner.

There are plenty of users on here who are dyslexic, for instance, and would struggle with a wall of text. That doesn't mean they wouldn't be totally respectful of a partner's boundaries.

I read the comment as meaning "If you think it's a waste of your time to read it..." rather than any difficulty in reading it. "

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That’s it, I’m convinced. I need to add some more to mine. It’s not long enough.

Any more special offers I could add?

Sydney University t-shirts, mouse mats, pens.

Free Sony Walkman to every 6th customer.

Repeat at least one of the sections so people get confused thinking they read it before.

Ooo, I like the Sony Walkman idea.

Maybe I could add a loyalty card scheme?

You’re a genius, thank you. "

KS branded ruler, surely??!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great.

I wish there was a simple 'like' button for comments. Loved this "

Thank you

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great."

This

If you cannot afford time to read my profile then I cannot afford my time with messages and meeting. I’m not in an Argos catalogue, I’m a human with thoughts and feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Argos catalogue doesn't have a

description a foot long about a toaster...

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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

Long profiles can be a list of likes and dislikes. But they can also be informative and engaging discourses that open a door on the people's personalities. Ultimately it is down to approach, language and presentation.

We know that we get messaged by many men who haven't read our profile and quite a few that do.

Personally I (Lenten) don't just assess a profile not just on lenght but also on accessibility, layout and flow. A sigle large block pargraph is deeply off putting.

Thoughts needs to be ordered and take the reader from an opening to an invitation or summary. A well structured profile is a pleasure to read.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great.

I wish there was a simple 'like' button for comments. Loved this "
double like, the response is a great one, just like the original post.

We like a good read, it really helps to message them if we're interested as we hope to find some common themes that we can engage with the profilers.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I feel bad for anyone who reads my extensive profile.

And my long and insightful forum posts. "

I read them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel bad for anyone who reads my extensive profile.

And my long and insightful forum posts.

Yours does drag on a bit to be fair."

I know. I'm a boring woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel bad for anyone who reads my extensive profile.

And my long and insightful forum posts.

I read them "

keeps you occupied for 10 seconds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't read boring profiles. That solves that problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't read boring profiles. That solves that problem"

Please don't bring your logic here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't read boring profiles. That solves that problem"

How would you know they’re boring without reading them?

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I feel bad for anyone who reads my extensive profile.

And my long and insightful forum posts.

I read them

keeps you occupied for 10 seconds "

When I wank it’s a lot longer than 10 seconds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't read boring profiles. That solves that problem

How would you know they’re boring without reading them?

"

If I get 5 words in and I haven't smiled they're boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel bad for anyone who reads my extensive profile.

And my long and insightful forum posts.

I read them

keeps you occupied for 10 seconds

When I wank it’s a lot longer than 10 seconds "

Looking at pictures isn't reading

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I call it a Boris mind you some are well written but gotta to be a limit

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"I feel bad for anyone who reads my extensive profile.

And my long and insightful forum posts.

I read them

keeps you occupied for 10 seconds

When I wank it’s a lot longer than 10 seconds

Looking at pictures isn't reading "

A picture says a thousand words, hence why some profiles are longer than War and Peace

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

If you can't read it, we're not compatible. And I don't mean my current profile, I mean the kind I usually have

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands


"The Argos catalogue doesn't have a

description a foot long about a toaster..."

Spot on

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great."

Good reply. Most who are that impatient most probably will not take in the boundries you have set.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great.

Good reply. Most who are that impatient most probably will not take in the boundries you have set. "

Its clear often in the message you get that it hasn't been read, so as a filter it really does the job. The surprising thing is how many bleat about not getting replies, when really they should be learning from the non reply into why that is. Generally speaking, the readers who get it, also recognise that this kind of relationship is a two way street into a good meet and more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The Argos catalogue doesn't have a

description a foot long about a toaster..."

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"The Argos catalogue doesn't have a

description a foot long about a toaster...

"

But you aren't expecting to see a shollong disappear into a toasters slot....( yikes)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The Argos catalogue doesn't have a

description a foot long about a toaster...

But you aren't expecting to see a shollong disappear into a toasters slot....( yikes)"

I remember reading an article a couple of months ago, something like, the NHS spends £x hundreds of thousands of pounds on rescuing penises from toasters, and don't do this etc

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

[Removed by poster at 22/01/22 16:26:37]

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"The Argos catalogue doesn't have a

description a foot long about a toaster...

But you aren't expecting to see a shollong disappear into a toasters slot....( yikes)

I remember reading an article a couple of months ago, something like, the NHS spends £x hundreds of thousands of pounds on rescuing penises from toasters, and don't do this etc"
if pnly argos invested more column inches into their gumph to warn people of this. Nobody so minded wouldn't have read it anyway...

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We don't. Some people will only read them and tailor their messages to suggest they're on the same sheet about things when they're not. It's harder to lie about things when you don't know the things you need to lie about.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

I've read some very long ones, mainly full of don't want this or that. So many I've forgotten what they do want. It's a good way of blocking. Don't mind long profiles but some of what you do want might help and what your going to contribute too may be a more positive profile

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The Argos catalogue doesn't have a

description a foot long about a toaster...

But you aren't expecting to see a shollong disappear into a toasters slot....( yikes)

I remember reading an article a couple of months ago, something like, the NHS spends £x hundreds of thousands of pounds on rescuing penises from toasters, and don't do this etcif pnly argos invested more column inches into their gumph to warn people of this. Nobody so minded wouldn't have read it anyway... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weirdly this thread (along with another similar one) lead to me trying to make my own profile less demanding and more ‘warm’

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I would rather read a long profile that sets out what they're looking for, than four lines plus message me if you want to know more.

People run their profile how they want to, it doesn't bother me but the content, or lack of, will influence how I view the owner of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't. Some people will only read them and tailor their messages to suggest they're on the same sheet about things when they're not. It's harder to lie about things when you don't know the things you need to lie about."

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The Argos catalogue doesn't have a

description a foot long about a toaster...

But you aren't expecting to see a shollong disappear into a toasters slot....( yikes)

I remember reading an article a couple of months ago, something like, the NHS spends £x hundreds of thousands of pounds on rescuing penises from toasters, and don't do this etcif pnly argos invested more column inches into their gumph to warn people of this. Nobody so minded wouldn't have read it anyway... "

They'd just see the pics and think oooo a warm hole

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So still to much long profiles to read

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"I understand that people get bombarded on here with messages and they put some kind of a like or dislike on profile but omg why is some so long ,I feel like I wasted valuable time i my life than read all that shite , just say in header or settings then that’s it surly "

Our title says "No just watchers". You would not beleive the amont of offers we get, asking for people to just watch us fuck. They can't even get past the title, let alone a long winded profile.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Just live on the the next person if you don't want to read it, that's what I do

Chances are even if you read it all & enter whatever cryptic word they choose on the subject line they still won't reply so why waste your time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes the list is just too long and I honestly get bored. I get the need for it, but it’s often just a turn off

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

I don’t have many and try to make mine as entertaining and accurate as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile is very obvious from very early on in my profile what I'm looking for yet I still get messages asking me.

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

Ours started as one paragraph and grew the more we got the “so what are you looking for?”

But no one reads it anyway, personally we like a profile that states what they want. Makes it easier.

Ask yourself this… If folks can’t make the effort to read a profile how much effort do you really think they’ll put into you…?

Typing words to make this message longer, just filling in the empty spaces. Words, words and more words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasting valuable time reading profiles? But writing a thread about reading profiles on a swinging site is a great use of time? Huh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wasting valuable time reading profiles? But writing a thread about reading profiles on a swinging site is a great use of time? Huh. "

It’s productive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasting valuable time reading profiles? But writing a thread about reading profiles on a swinging site is a great use of time? Huh.

It’s productive "

What did you learn?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wasting valuable time reading profiles? But writing a thread about reading profiles on a swinging site is a great use of time? Huh.

It’s productive

What did you learn? "

Not to read long profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasting valuable time reading profiles? But writing a thread about reading profiles on a swinging site is a great use of time? Huh.

It’s productive

What did you learn?

Not to read long profiles "

Which you knew four weeks ago...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wasting valuable time reading profiles? But writing a thread about reading profiles on a swinging site is a great use of time? Huh.

It’s productive

What did you learn?

Not to read long profiles

Which you knew four weeks ago..."

Yep still don’t

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By *ndyn50000Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I quite like the longer profiles, they are usually quite amusing as you get through them.

Mine reads like an epic version of War and Peace. If you get to the end of it, you find that the butler did it with the lead piping and hid the body in the conservatory......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Perfect

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By *ndreisabelCouple
over a year ago

wigan


"If your 2 minutes are wasted reading what's clearly important to them then you wouldn't be listening and taking notice of boundaries, likes and dislikes during the live discussion either. Another filter that works great."

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Funny

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Then you get to the part Sydney Australia and at the bottom says not meeting

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

My profile has been added to over time to try and out those I don’t want to meet.

If they can’t respect what I’ve written on my profile, will they respect me when I say ‘no’? Block button does come in handy for anyone who doesn’t show me respect.

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