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By *olymalelincs OP   Man
over a year ago

southend

How do others deal with this when plans fall through and leave you feeling meh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make new plans OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always have another set of plans organised as a back up

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I go shopping that always makes me smile

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"How do others deal with this when plans fall through and leave you feeling meh."

After a mini meltdown, I find a way to focus on me - make plans with other friends, buy myself something, curl up in front of a film I've wanted to see with chocolate/sweets, get nosy on here, have an orgasm, angry clean. Just to name a few

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just remember that I never have to use Algebra.

Always cheers me up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do others deal with this when plans fall through and leave you feeling meh.

After a mini meltdown, I find a way to focus on me - make plans with other friends, buy myself something, curl up in front of a film I've wanted to see with chocolate/sweets, get nosy on here, have an orgasm, angry clean. Just to name a few

P"

Sounds like me. Well partly. Apart from that, just get used to it lol

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By *olymalelincs OP   Man
over a year ago

southend


"Make new plans OP "

If only it was that easy to do, sadly not quite as easy for me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Disappointment is a horrible feeling but there's not a lot you can do except wait for it to pass.

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

Plans falling through is one thing

That's happens all the time on fab

however the main disappointment I encounter is when people aren't honest and dont say what they are feeling.....this can end up in you being ghosted leaving you thinking what have I done ...but you pick yourself up dust your self down and move on.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I usually do something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just always expect disappointment. Anything else is a pleasant surprise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back up of back up of the back up on the case I need a back up !

I back it up

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs


"I just always expect disappointment. Anything else is a pleasant surprise. "

Words to live by

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

Fall down seven times, Rise up eight…

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By *itofamouthfullMan
over a year ago

cotswolds/herefordshire

Pretend that they weren’t your plans and that you had anticipated that to happen and it was all a part of the bigger plan - nobody will ever know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just always expect disappointment. Anything else is a pleasant surprise.

Words to live by "

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Always have a plan b op

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Dust myself down, kick myself up the bum, hold my head high and start again.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"Make new plans OP "

Great point! I had a meeting cancelled last minute (for a genuine reason); I looked on Fab and saw someone else wanting to meet in that area, we met up had had a great time.

Traveling to that location put me in the right place at the right time. Things don't always turn out so well but they can do so it's best to be positive when plans don't go to plan.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Sulk

Eat cake

Have a nap

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By *itofamouthfullMan
over a year ago

cotswolds/herefordshire


"Sulk

Eat cake

Have a nap"

This isn’t the first thing she’s nailed I’m sure but she’s right eat cake, you always feel better after cake, unless it’s dry then your back to square 1

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By *olymalelincs OP   Man
over a year ago

southend


"Sulk

Eat cake

Have a nap

This isn’t the first thing she’s nailed I’m sure but she’s right eat cake, you always feel better after cake, unless it’s dry then your back to square 1 "

Yup dry cake just makes the disappointment so much worse

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"Sulk

Eat cake

Have a nap"

You forgot eat cake after you wake from your nap. Your be hungry, and derserve it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do others deal with this when plans fall through and leave you feeling meh."

is that not just life ?? or are you talking swinging related ?

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I think I always expect cancellations and I don’t really get disheartened anymore.

I have a little 5 minute tantrum and move on, catch up with friends or chill & Netflix

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t make plans.

I am unwritten

Can't read my mind

I'm undefined

I'm just beginning

The pen's in my hand

Ending unplanned

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By *olymalelincs OP   Man
over a year ago

southend


"How do others deal with this when plans fall through and leave you feeling meh.

is that not just life ?? or are you talking swinging related ?"

Kind of both to be honest just plans falling though when I was looking forward to them not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wasn't meant to be so. Take a different route and see where you end up. No dissapointment just another opportunity.

Or some shite like that.

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By *olymalelincs OP   Man
over a year ago

southend


"I think I always expect cancellations and I don’t really get disheartened anymore.

I have a little 5 minute tantrum and move on, catch up with friends or chill & Netflix "

Catching up with friends would be lovely sadly pretty much all of mine are about 120 miles away which sucks at the best of times as funds and responsibilities dont allow for just travelling that distance when I feel like it.

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

Wazz the kettle on and make a coffee, get annoyed about the fact I gave up smoking and never had one of those long cigarette holder things anyway so I can't do a proper sulky Greta Garbo impersonation and then do something else.

Disappointment sucks, but it's fleeting, OP. Don't let it fester.

Posh

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Over the last couple of years I’ve very much become a glass half empty kind of person. Always expect things to go wrong and people to let me down so when the opposite happens it’s a nice change but if it doesn’t, I’m prepared.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Sulk then overthimk a lot and panic they've found some one better.

Try and send 'breezy' to pretend I'm cool but they never work lol

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I had to cancel a weekend away in November last minute. It was horrible. I felt so bad for my friend.

Obviously the reason I gave her was sound but still disappointed. But this is the world we live in ATM....

So dealing with disappointment is totally based on what the thing was. A meet? An expense? Throwing yourself into something or focusing on someone else's.... A I can say.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

If you're talking about plans made on here

Forget about it and try again, I'd say around 40% of meets end up in no shows, it's something you've just got to get used to unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Make new plans OP

If only it was that easy to do, sadly not quite as easy for me."

It's not that easy for me either. The "meh" feeling can last for days and leaves me wondering if I should be here or not

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"How do others deal with this when plans fall through and leave you feeling meh."
I've solved this very refusing to make plans

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.

I hate it. At times it really affects me. And because of that I tend not to make plans, especially in the future. If plans I make in the morning don't happen it isn't so bad.

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By *olymalelincs OP   Man
over a year ago

southend


"If you're talking about plans made on here

Forget about it and try again, I'd say around 40% of meets end up in no shows, it's something you've just got to get used to unfortunately "

Sadly not plans made on here as that I would probably not be half as worried about because as you say it's to be expected as such, it's someone I have a very close connection with but havent been able to spend quality time with for a while due to circumstances not being brilliant we had a chance for a couple of days this week to spend time together at last but now things have changed and it looks like we wont get that time now and it just sucks as now I'm not sure when the next chance will be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always have another set of plans organised as a back up "

Then do you not have to let them down so they feel this way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the last couple of years I’ve very much become a glass half empty kind of person. Always expect things to go wrong and people to let me down so when the opposite happens it’s a nice change but if it doesn’t, I’m prepared. "

I’ve always found that kind of pessimism of great comfort.

We should meet up again.

Expect me to not turn up.

I’ll do the same.

Good times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always have another set of plans organised as a back up

Then do you not have to let them down so they feel this way? "

How do you mean? The other plans don't need to involve other people. Go shopping, cinema trip etc

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By *olymalelincs OP   Man
over a year ago

southend


"Make new plans OP

If only it was that easy to do, sadly not quite as easy for me.

It's not that easy for me either. The "meh" feeling can last for days and leaves me wondering if I should be here or not "

I hate it when the meh feeling wont bugger off that's the times when I wish I could just cuddle up with someone.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"Make new plans OP

If only it was that easy to do, sadly not quite as easy for me.

It's not that easy for me either. The "meh" feeling can last for days and leaves me wondering if I should be here or not

I hate it when the meh feeling wont bugger off that's the times when I wish I could just cuddle up with someone."

I despise that feeling and I'm learning to channel it if possible. This is where the angry cleaning comes in, I find anything that can occupy all of my attention is good to distract

P

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Just watch funny animal videos on YouTube

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

Lanson

Drink a bottle of wine & have a wank!

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By *olymalelincs OP   Man
over a year ago

southend


"Drink a bottle of wine & have a wank! "

Lol thankyou for making me chuckle sadly dont like wine

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"Over the last couple of years I’ve very much become a glass half empty kind of person. Always expect things to go wrong and people to let me down so when the opposite happens it’s a nice change but if it doesn’t, I’m prepared.

I’ve always found that kind of pessimism of great comfort.

We should meet up again.

Expect me to not turn up.

I’ll do the same.

Good times!"

Yeah I really should stay off fab when I’m in such a miserable mood

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By *olymalelincs OP   Man
over a year ago

southend


"Over the last couple of years I’ve very much become a glass half empty kind of person. Always expect things to go wrong and people to let me down so when the opposite happens it’s a nice change but if it doesn’t, I’m prepared.

I’ve always found that kind of pessimism of great comfort.

We should meet up again.

Expect me to not turn up.

I’ll do the same.

Good times!

Yeah I really should stay off fab when I’m in such a miserable mood "

Not at all sometimes the threads on here can be just the thing you need to give you a good giggle, worst case perv my pics that should give you a chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and exercise equanimity

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Have a brief moan, then do something we enjoy. No point being miserable over something that is beyond our control so we really try not to dwell on it.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Have a brief moan, then do something we enjoy. No point being miserable over something that is beyond our control so we really try not to dwell on it."

This

“My date” has just cancelled a social for this evening , 5 minutes later I have made new plans already.

Lemons and tequila comes to mind , don’t let temporary set backs get you down OP, fingers crossed for you that you’ll get to meet your friend before too long.

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