FabSwingers.com forum: That one off-putting detail

By *ickshawed OP Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

So you're getting on well with someone, all seems to be going well then they give you a personal detail that freezes your loins and destroys any feelings of lust you had.

For me, chatting to a nice guy and he tells me he has a license and owns guns. Perfectly reasonable as he lived in a rural farming area. But it just completely put me off any possible bedroom fun with him.

How about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they're a tory.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Brexiters and tories

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they mention politics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is awkward. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The use of the word 'Daddy' in a sexual context

Being asked what I'm into

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That he's married

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By *D of funCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Baby or princess

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Anything that they say that is (in my opinion) a little judgemental. We all have a right (within the realms of the law) to live how we wish, say what we wish, be who we wish. Anyone that comes across as derisory to someone else’s opinion or judgemental get a “no”.

Also anyone that puts nationality above humanity.

Also people that believe in luck. Can’t be doing with that.

Also people that look at me funny like.

I don’t understand how I am so unsuccessful round here.

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By *otcplmidsCouple
over a year ago

Warwickshire

They have a hairy back

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By *ammyjayneWoman
over a year ago

hull

"The use of the word 'Daddy' in a sexual context

Being asked what I'm into

Hate when a man refers to himself as Daddy. Instant turn off.

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

Missing or rotten teeth

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Brexiters and tories "

Pretty much this. Had a meet that could potentially have turned into something more - but he was very pro Brexit and a true blue Tory.

Couldn’t have got past that no matter how great his cock felt. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That he's going to destroy my pussy. Hahaha, no you are notttt. My kids have already done that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the suddenly become paralysed by choice in public (by which I mean in able to make a decision)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another vote for when they use 'daddy' instant mood killer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anything that they say that is (in my opinion) a little judgemental. We all have a right (within the realms of the law) to live how we wish, say what we wish, be who we wish. Anyone that comes across as derisory to someone else’s opinion or judgemental get a “no”.

Also anyone that puts nationality above humanity.

Also people that believe in luck. Can’t be doing with that.

Also people that look at me funny like.

I don’t understand how I am so unsuccessful round here.

I wish I'd paid attention on my last social when the first thing he did was criticise what the waitress was wearing. That's judgmental and I don't like it either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all they do is complain about things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That he's going to destroy my pussy. Hahaha, no you are notttt. My kids have already done that. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are religious or if they like Coldplay. Fuck that I'm off.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Do you squirt?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being asked what I’m into

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he calls me darling, babe, hun....just no.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"Do you squirt?

Yes, under intense tickling and only if the wireless is playing “Nellie the elephant”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They bring up a collection of naked guys on their phone that they have fucked …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They say they’re a Port Vale fan.

*shudders*

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

They go from normal chat to ‘only thinking with my cock’ left field chat straight away without any hesitation

Woah we were discussing the weather and now your wanting to show me how to pound C’s pussy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he calls me darling, babe, hun....just no. "

Princess?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If lady has hairy bum

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

lacking a sense of humour and adventure

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

Shows jealousy

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

If they spontaneously combust.

Yes…..that might dampen my mood a tad….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they're a tory.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he calls me darling, babe, hun....just no.

Princess?

Ewww no

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"If he calls me darling, babe, hun....just no.

Princess?

Ewww no"

Duck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he calls me darling, babe, hun....just no.

Princess?

Ewww no

Duck?

There are no words to even explain how that makes me feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That he's going to destroy my pussy. Hahaha, no you are notttt. My kids have already done that. "

I am dead

If they are closed minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They go from normal chat to ‘only thinking with my cock’ left field chat straight away without any hesitation

Woah we were discussing the weather and now your wanting to show me how to pound C’s pussy!

Any sex chat before I've actually met them in person is really creepy. Message deleted, definitely won't be meeting.

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By *he_massangerMan
over a year ago

Stornoway

Referring to themselves as hot or good looking. Go f#ck yourself then

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Anyone lacking respect for others. Anyone slagging off other people. Pushy people. Shows that they will not respect you, will talk about you also behind your back given the oppotunity. "Pushy" shows arrogance which is not for us.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

[Removed by poster at 17/01/22 19:38:26]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Referring to themselves in the third person.

Jonnys not ok with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he calls me darling, babe, hun....just no.

Princess?

Ewww no"

Agreed!

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Referring to themselves in the third person.

Jonnys not ok with that. "

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By *ountry gent 85Man
over a year ago

touring

I obviously need some tips on this

I am lucky to get a reply most of the time.

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By *ecrets4everCouple
over a year ago

Men wearing jewellery.

Long beards.

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By *atureGent58Man
over a year ago

funland

When she says her balls are itchy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When she says her balls are itchy "

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"When she says her balls are itchy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slagging off their ex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahahaha hahaha Yes!!!!! Tory voter could never

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Cheating puts me off straight away. Also if we met and they treated bar staff/waiters with no respect.

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Runs a spider rescue centre

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Being asked what I’m into

Hate I hate that one. Do you want to type a 20 page essay to answer that question?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

And the Tories yes.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

If they show what I consider to be judgemental and lack empathy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds daft, but I’d find it offputting if they weren’t a good/involved parent. Bad parenting and being absent for one’s children is unattractive, and I can’t respect a guy for that.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Calling me a "good girl" or wanting me to call them "daddy"

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Makes me shrivel worse than a prune!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meanness of spirit, tight, stingy and close minded.

Oh yeah, being a Spurs Fan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Calling me a "good girl" or wanting me to call them "daddy"

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Makes me shrivel worse than a prune!"

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Racism. General 'isms.

And if they spend their time constantly bitching about other people. It's really not a good way to be. Maybe for them but it doesn't have me dripping with lust for them.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"This sounds daft, but I’d find it offputting if they weren’t a good/involved parent. Bad parenting and being absent for one’s children is unattractive, and I can’t respect a guy for that."

Not daft at all...I don't think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve thought about another.

Men who moan about their ex/exes/women in general. Like the problem lies with everyone else and never them.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Racism. General 'isms.

And if they spend their time constantly bitching about other people. It's really not a good way to be. Maybe for them but it doesn't have me dripping with lust for them."

.yep...this would don't for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This sounds daft, but I’d find it offputting if they weren’t a good/involved parent. Bad parenting and being absent for one’s children is unattractive, and I can’t respect a guy for that."

What if they had never had kids?

For any reason; infertlity (either them or their partner), career choice, lifestyle choice, just didn't happen...

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By *mithyukMan
over a year ago

Penrhyn Bay

"Brexiters and tories

Pretty much this. Had a meet that could potentially have turned into something more - but he was very pro Brexit and a true blue Tory.

Couldn’t have got past that no matter how great his cock felt. X"

Think I'd change my ideology to make things work with you Peachy.. Hehe

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By *oloris obsequiumWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

When they ask me to call them Daddy. Just no

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

I was out in a bar just before Christmas talking to a friend of mine, who is black.

We had a few drinks together and were chatting. He was heading home and after he left a guy who had been hanging around at the bar came over and insisted on buying me a drink… eventually I said ok and asked for the cheapest drink in the place… the bottled beer they always have on offer, the brand changes week on week.

The guy came back with the beer and sat down at the table with me and said “ I saw you talking to the Black guy, but that’s ok, I am ok with that”

I think he saw my jaw hit the floor and quickly moved the chat on.

To no avail, I was out of there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This sounds daft, but I’d find it offputting if they weren’t a good/involved parent. Bad parenting and being absent for one’s children is unattractive, and I can’t respect a guy for that.

What if they had never had kids?

For any reason; infertlity (either them or their partner), career choice, lifestyle choice, just didn't happen...

Well, that’s different. I was talking about men who don’t parent the children they do have.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Simply people who just cannot take a joke And do not have a sense of humour. Live a little please

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

"When she says her balls are itchy "

That’s me scape red then

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

"When she says her balls are itchy

That’s me scape red then

“scoopered”

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

When they start telling me about all their sexual conquests.

If we're just chatting and he asks what I'm wearing. Yawn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When they start telling me about all their sexual conquests.

If we're just chatting and he asks what I'm wearing. Yawn!"

Oh God yeah, or when he asks if you’re into wearing heels. Yawnathon!

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By *cottieboy123Man
over a year ago

Perth

Aaah, oops!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aaah, oops!"

Wasn’t thinking of you

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"When they start telling me about all their sexual conquests.

If we're just chatting and he asks what I'm wearing. Yawn!

Oh God yeah, or when he asks if you’re into wearing heels. Yawnathon! "

Its all so predictable. Bore the fuck off.

Or another one whe you're chatting and they start talking sex I'm like hang on a minute I might not actually fancy you in the flesh. Instant turn off. It's no wonder my virginity has grown back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who asks how i vote

Thats between me and the ballot box thanks

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Hun!

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

Newquay

"I was out in a bar just before Christmas talking to a friend of mine, who is black.

The guy came back with the beer and sat down at the table with me and said “ I saw you talking to the Black guy, but that’s ok, I am ok with that”

I think he saw my jaw hit the floor and quickly moved the chat on.

To no avail, I was out of there!

OMG - what was he thinking! (Or was he even thinking!)

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If they're really obnoxious and /ortry to tell me what to think or do/wear etc. Im v much my own person and don't need telling.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dirty talk when there’s been no indication that the conversation is heading that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dirty talk when there’s been no indication that the conversation is heading that way."

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

Peppering their conversation with the word hate. It's a strong, negative word and for me an instant red flag to back off! I feel my positive sparkle start to drain with every mention of the word!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

If they are a Trump supporter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they let slip that they have Robbie Williams albums

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

If they are pushy, or at any time use the word panties.

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By *exy Ruby 100 300Couple
over a year ago

unknown

For me it's men wearing lingerie, long nails .bad breath, rudeness, R x

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By *he love catsCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

If there's any mess in the backgrounds on their photos. X

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Brexiters and tories "

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Referring to themselves as hot / being egotistical about their looks (different to confident with their looks). Looks are subjective, everyone has different taste so you are not hot to everyone.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

One!!!

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

When they’re total kiss arses just to get into bed..

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

They drink to excess and seem to be proud of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The use of the word 'Daddy' in a sexual context"

I agree that's put me off mid motion, I was like "Did... You just say... Daddy?"

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I can't possibly narrow it down to just one thing...a multitude of things from being too serious to wearing bad shoes will put me off.

I once turned someone down because he was too rich.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They seem to be happy and optimistic.

Instant red light for me.

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