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Sexually Mismatched Partner

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By *appyface OP   Man
over a year ago

East Devon

How many people have had sexually mismatched partners ( long term ) and how did it affect you and your relationship.

I was married to a lovely lady, however she was a make love once a week type person, whereby I was the type of person who wanted to be in the Fab the lifestyle.

Her sex drive (and also desire for loving closeness ) was very much lower than mine and completely less adventurous and imaginative, I suggested that she have other lovers to explore her sexuality and for her pleasure, and I would only ever have her ( no other partners ) in an effort to try and awake a more active and adventurous side to her, sadly did not help.

I felt totally dead inside, and was just existing rather than feeling alive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This, unfortunately - but have been free of that for 5 years now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why did you marry her?

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Yes, my ex wife and I were very mismatched and it only seemed to get worse over the years, there were other reasons for our eventual break up, but the sexual incompatibility really didn’t help.

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By *appyface OP   Man
over a year ago

East Devon

Why, very long complicated story, I should of added in my original post, my wife was very cunning, and ultimately controlling, I guess coercive behaviour, she would do whatever she had to do or say to get what she wanted, but once that happened the promises did not materialise etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why, very long complicated story, I should of added in my original post, my wife was very cunning, and ultimately controlling, I guess coercive behaviour, she would do whatever she had to do or say to get what she wanted, but once that happened the promises did not materialise etc etc. "

Weren't you trying to coerce her into having sex with others?

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By *appyface OP   Man
over a year ago

East Devon

Coerce no, encourage yes.

I was not allowed out of the house on my own, was not allowed money, at one stage not allowed a phone, please don’t judge me, you really don’t know the whole story.

I was happy to be controlled, but it needed to be a positive experience, not just control.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"Coerce no, encourage yes.

I was not allowed out of the house on my own, was not allowed money, at one stage not allowed a phone, please don’t judge me, you really don’t know the whole story.

I was happy to be controlled, but it needed to be a positive experience, not just control. "

You dont get to choose boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ahh sorry to hear that you had bad relationships but to answer the question yes. It is possible if your willing to make the sacrifice in a healthy, intimate relationship as this is our relationship.

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