FabSwingers.com forum: Staring

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mostly for the ladies…

Do you say something when a man is staring (I don’t just mean catches your eye, I mean repeatedly staring) and it makes you feel uncomfortable?

I mean in an everyday situation.

I was in the McDonald’s drive through and the man in front didn’t take his eyes off me the whole time! He was side on initially and I was pointing towards him if you know what I mean but even when the queue moved and I was behind him, he was still staring in his wing mirror.

Would you say something? I didn’t but wanted to!

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By *lectrumMan
over a year ago

south shields

Why you so surprised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot bear being stared at. It's like a red rag to a bull.

I'd of indicated to him with a wtf???? It's rude and unnecessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be more pissed of that he’s holding the queue up

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I'm gobby, so I might say "is there something on my dress/coat/skirt [insert suitable thing]?"

Guarantee they won't have the balls to reply and will avert eyes PDQ. Then, smooth down your dress/coat/skirt etc, as if you were removing a bit of fluff, then carry on.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I stare back. I’d stare till they gave up or one of us died.

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

Depends on where I am.

If it is somewhere like the gym, and it is obvious, then yeah I would have no problem calling a guy out if it was making me uncomfortable.

A queue, less likely to.

MJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You must have been staring back to see that he was staring at you.

Maybe it’s love.

Sorry, I’m being flippant. I’m that situation, I can’t see there’s much you can do short of getting out the car and asking him not to. Is there?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I cannot bear being stared at. It's like a red rag to a bull.

I'd of indicated to him with a wtf???? It's rude and unnecessary.

I kind of looked at him as if to say “what?” but he wasn’t deterred so I looked away but he continued to stare so I ignored him but it did annoy me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely notice if I'm being stared at so I assume it don't happen often but if I do I either just stare back or scowl or smile

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Often happens at work and I'm thinking they seen me on here? Usually right had another one yesterday sent a dm saying they saw me! I dont mind though x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I stare back. I’d stare till they gave up or one of us died. "

I would have but I didn’t want him to think I fancied him!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You must have been staring back to see that he was staring at you.

Maybe it’s love.

Sorry, I’m being flippant. I’m that situation, I can’t see there’s much you can do short of getting out the car and asking him not to. Is there? "

He was right in front of me and I could see out of the corner of my eye that he was staring. Then when I was driving behind him, he was staring in his bloody wing mirror!

It’s rude and at times, intimidating. I wish men wouldn’t do this.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I stare back. I’d stare till they gave up or one of us died.

I would have but I didn’t want him to think I fancied him! "

You are very attractive though. I imagine you get it a lot x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I stare back. I’d stare till they gave up or one of us died.

I would have but I didn’t want him to think I fancied him!

You are very attractive though. I imagine you get it a lot x

Dunno where the thumb came from lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I stare back. I’d stare till they gave up or one of us died.

I would have but I didn’t want him to think I fancied him!

You are very attractive though. I imagine you get it a lot x

Not today I’m not! He could only see my head and my hair isn’t brushed and I’m not wearing makeup!

Oh god, maybe he was staring because I look like a tramp hahaha

Thanks though

I love the thumb

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Most times I would NOT say anything.

I am not shy, I am not scared but I am also not a reactionary , inflamatory twat ......

One staring twat is enough in a queue without another twat lighting their own blue touch paper.

I'd only say something if absolutely necessary and even then It'd be polite and a distraction more than a direct confrontation.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes it is uncomfortable

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Throw your chips at him...

The seagulls will sort him out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like it at all, it creeps me out. If that had been me, I'd have got out my car, gone up to him and said "take a picture, it will last longer!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me in the Wimpy the other day

awkward.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Happened to me in the Wimpy the other day

awkward."

Were you the watcher or the watched ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happened to me in the Wimpy the other day

awkward.

Were you the watcher or the watched ?"

Watcher

never seen someone flip a burger like that

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'd like to stand and stare but i'm off for a swim.

DramaFreeeeeeeee was it a woman ?

If it was I'll have her eyes out

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Happened to me in the Wimpy the other day

awkward.

Were you the watcher or the watched ?

Watcher

never seen someone flip a burger like that

Tease !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to stand and stare but i'm off for a swim.

DramaFreeeeeeeee was it a woman ?

If it was I'll have her eyes out

Yeah, think she was called Derek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I like to do it start at them, gesture them over and ask them what they are doing. Then when you explain to them how rude it is they either become all defensive and ruder or apologise.

It takes alot for me to hold my tongue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most times folk stare at me it’s with a look of “What happened to that poor guys face”

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I would have just smiled and waved.

Although I did this once and they waved back

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I stare back, if he's really hardcore with his gaze I casually pick my nose whilst looking at him and eat it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d call the eye police.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

I'm autistic (P) so this would make me extremely uncomfortable to the point of "get out of situation now" I'm working on it though

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I would have just smiled and waved.

Although I did this once and they waved back

Yes to me that be the best move. Then just get out the situation if you're not interested in talking to them. I get this when I walk into a unknown local pub. Everyone turns around to see who coming into their pub thinking "you're not from around these parts" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would have just smiled and waved.

Although I did this once and they waved back

Is like that where I moved to, keep looking out for the werewolf on the way home especially when the fog rolls in!

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Depends what mood I was in...I'd have either stared back, blown him a kiss and then scowled at him, or phone a particular friend on hands free, make sure it was full volume and tell her about a creepy guy staring at me in the queue, because I know she'd have a rant about creepy men that he'd be able to hear

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Should have picked your nose then pretended to eat it. Some guys have no appreciation of social etiquette - just don’t flash your lights to get him to move… he’ll think you’re dogging and next thing his knob will be in the window. It’s creepy unnecessary and threatening behaviour as it made you feel uncomfortable - he probably thought his smouldering gaze would turn you on. Maybe he recognised you from here ? Either way its out of order xx

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I stare back. I’d stare till they gave up or one of us died. "

This made me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you were both in cars, I don't think there would have been much you could've done but appreciate how uneasy you could've felt. You're very attractive so it's easy to say you must be used to it but it's insane that some men lack the social awareness to know what they're doing.

I would say to use the classic "take a picture, it'll last longer" but that's how you end up as a shrine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don’t like public confrontation, but will speak up when required. I did feel really uncomfortable though and I think because he wasn’t smiling with it, it was creepy.

Shouldn’t let it have bothered me I suppose but I should be able to sit in my car without feeling uncomfortable.

What’s wrong with some people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is one of those difficult ones, sometimes i find myself staring at other women and dont realise it. But do get used to people staring, as said in another thread, OH has a striking resemblance to Bruce Willis, wishes could do the voice, unfortunately thats a give-away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What did you order?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What did you order?

Egg muffin with an extra egg, two hash browns and a

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What did you order?

Egg muffin with an extra egg, two hash browns and a

What did he order?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What did you order?

Egg muffin with an extra egg, two hash browns and a

I didn't know they offered a thumbing service. Will ask next time I go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Allowed one look to appreciate beauty, then lower your gaze

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did see something in McDonald's in skeg in summer, girl wearing little, starts shouting at this old guy calling him a disgusting perv for staring at her boobs, guy was shocked, got up and then his guide dog come out from under the table, girl was forced to apologise

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What did you order?

Egg muffin with an extra egg, two hash browns and a

I didn't know they offered a thumbing service. Will ask next time I go

Haha that was meant to be a , I don’t like being thumbed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did see something in McDonald's in skeg in summer, girl wearing little, starts shouting at this old guy calling him a disgusting perv for staring at her boobs, guy was shocked, got up and then his guide dog come out from under the table, girl was forced to apologise"

Mill assume as he was driving that he was not blind, open to being corrected on that though.

Also, I was wearing quite a large coat, all he could see was my face.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What did you order?

Egg muffin with an extra egg, two hash browns and a

What did he order?"

A large stare with a side of creepiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha maybe his dog was

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Haha maybe his dog was"

I wouldn’t have minded if he had a cute dog!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What did you order?

Egg muffin with an extra egg, two hash browns and a

What did he order?

A large stare with a side of creepiness "

think they stop serving them at 11

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What did you order?

Egg muffin with an extra egg, two hash browns and a

What did he order?

A large stare with a side of creepiness

think they stop serving them at 11"

Fairly sure they serve that 24hrs at my McDonald’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've ever been stared at

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Pick your nose and eat it.

That'll put him off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pick your nose and eat it.

That'll put him off."

Would eye crust do? I’m all out of bogeys for the day

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Had you spilt your milkshake on your top?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I've ever been stared at

I have once, thought I was a my a silent disco

It was a library

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mostly for the ladies…

Do you say something when a man is staring (I don’t just mean catches your eye, I mean repeatedly staring) and it makes you feel uncomfortable?

I mean in an everyday situation.

Would you say something? I didn’t but wanted to! "

I got a similar look when collecting my order from McDonald's

2 triple burgers and 3 large fries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I've ever been stared at

I have once, thought I was a my a silent disco

It was a library "

At a!!! Fucking iPhones piss me off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stare back. I’d stare till they gave up or one of us died. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An extremely slow rising middle finger from behind the steering wheel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An extremely slow rising middle finger from behind the steering wheel

Stay classy

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

If they asked if you wanted a stirrer with your coffee say - no that fanny in front is staring enough for all of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An extremely slow rising middle finger from behind the steering wheel

Stay classy

Always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stare back. I’d stare till they gave up or one of us died. "

Death stare! This should be a thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I've ever been stared at

I have once, thought I was a my a silent disco

It was a library

At a!!! Fucking iPhones piss me off! "

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I’d argue that anyone staring at anyone is unnerving

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