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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When you get rejected on here what was their reason?

Mine is that I look too young.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

There have been lots of reasons x

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I don't seek a 'post mortem' or a root cause analysis.

I just accept it and move on.

We've all (mostly) been rejected at some stage.

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By *all Guy 00Man
over a year ago

Dumfries

Been told too old, not my type and also because I'm a bigger guy

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

You don't have a face pic but your other pics are yum x

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I think I’m lucky if I get a reason. but you just have to move on. that’s how it is in here

But saying that sometimes it does knock you and isn’t easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few

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By *all Guy 00Man
over a year ago

Dumfries


"I think I’m lucky if I get a reason. but you just have to move on. that’s how it is in here

But saying that sometimes it does knock you and isn’t easy "

Oh very much so it does knock me back

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I don't know and can only really make assumptions, so I guess if we're pinning it on looks, not everyone is going to be interested in a 40+ year old with tattoos and an undercut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take you’re pick !

To old !

To fat !

You’re not what I’m looking for !

No !

No !

No !

Endless answers

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Because my cocks too fat

In all seriousness it’s for a whole host of reasons, I’m just not what they are looking for. It’s how it works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all will find a match one day. Its just a waiting game.

- me.

My profile info isnt good, ill improve it

I’m not 6ft tall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just thank them for their time and move on. If they dont want to know, it will never happen. Move on.

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By *uv2kissMan
over a year ago

fenland

Not looking at the present time.

Then a new verification a few days later, it doesn't bother me what she or they may say.

It's entirely their choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got rejected a few days into chatting because I was uncomfortable with the fact he was wanking while we were messaging he'd seemed so nice and normal up to that point...

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By *eahxocallumCouple
over a year ago

studley

We haven't been rejected, but we reject individuals if they don't display a good level of maturity and respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reason....they just don't reply

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I can only assume he didn't like my face as he stopped replying after I sent a photo.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I don't ask, it doesn't really matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably wouldn’t even ask!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We haven't been rejected, but we reject individuals if they don't display a good level of maturity and respect."

Same

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By *reddy fMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Dick too big,

My friends fallen for you,

Bald,

Pierced nipples,

Beard,

Male,

Oh and the good plan, Not for me...

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm not what they're looking for

They don't find me attractive

They find something in my profile off-putting

In one case I'd met someone they didn't like

Deleted without response

Immediate block without explanation

Their reasons are their own and aren't my concern; ultimately they don't want to meet me and that's all the info I need!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who knows? My messages just get ignored never get a reason.

Everyone has their preferences. I just don't seem to be anyone's on here from what I've seen haha.

If I was in to guys that would be a different story haha

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

I've never had a outright rejection of someone I've pursued. Plenty of 2 day fadeaways though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few "

And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally because I'm married. Which is understandable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few

And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same "

Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually it’s just a polite no thank you, can certainly imagine reasons, but I’m not one to question or try to change someone’s initial response so I just accept it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few

And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same

Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus "

Many women don’t want huge cocks, I even have a line saying that in my profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few

And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same

Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus "

I’ve got big forearms

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

It's not so much I get rejected, they just seem to fade away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea, I don’t wait around for reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow!!! I never realised reasons for rejection were given

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Women can reject on anything...one eyebrow not straight, wrong colour shirt, you don't look like "someone off the telly", not their type, etc Only joking, we still love you! x

Men don't reject.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few

And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same

Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus

Many women don’t want huge cocks, I even have a line saying that in my profile! "

Didn't really think that was considered big to be fair

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

Rejected?

What do you mean? What’s that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few

And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same

Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus

I’ve got big forearms "

That a metaphor? Went over my head haha

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Women can reject on anything...one eyebrow not straight, wrong colour shirt, you don't look like "someone off the telly", not their type, etc Only joking, we still love you! x

Men don't reject."

I can assure you some do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women can reject on anything...one eyebrow not straight, wrong colour shirt, you don't look like "someone off the telly", not their type, etc Only joking, we still love you! x

Men don't reject."

I reject guys every day haha

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Women can reject on anything...one eyebrow not straight, wrong colour shirt, you don't look like "someone off the telly", not their type, etc Only joking, we still love you! x

Men don't reject."

Of course men reject as well.

We aren’t all controlled by a desire to stick our penises in something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few

And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same

Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus

Many women don’t want huge cocks, I even have a line saying that in my profile!

Didn't really think that was considered big to be fair "

7 is my maximum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few

And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same

Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus

Many women don’t want huge cocks, I even have a line saying that in my profile!

Didn't really think that was considered big to be fair

7 is my maximum "

Yeah true. Seems like you're one of the small percentage on here then haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eyes like the devil was a favourite of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few

And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same

Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus

Many women don’t want huge cocks, I even have a line saying that in my profile!

Didn't really think that was considered big to be fair

7 is my maximum

Yeah true. Seems like you're one of the small percentage on here then haha "

I think you’ll find there’s more of us than you realise lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few

And the reasons I’ve rejected people are the same

Really? You've been told you're too big? All I seem to see on people profile are 7/8 inch plus

Many women don’t want huge cocks, I even have a line saying that in my profile!

Didn't really think that was considered big to be fair

7 is my maximum

Yeah true. Seems like you're one of the small percentage on here then haha

I think you’ll find there’s more of us than you realise lol"

I'd be out of your range anyway... I've probs just been looking in the wrong places then

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w

They’d heard from other people that I was so good I just ruined sex forever. That level of pleasure was unable to be recreated ever again

At least that’s what I think they meant by “fuck off”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rejected for age or distance

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By *oublesixesMan
over a year ago

Corby

Usually lack of attraction, if I get a rejection at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's crazy to me that people actually get return messages

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

Rarely getting a reason here. And to be honest I can’t care less about that. I am confident and sorted guy accepting myself. But even if someone tell me the reason I am not going to change anything in me or in my behaviour. Love to chat and meet confident people who don’t relay on others opinion.

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

Rarely get rejections messages just no reply

Not a match

Not our type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rarely getting a reason here. And to be honest I can’t care less about that. I am confident and sorted guy accepting myself. But even if someone tell me the reason I am not going to change anything in me or in my behaviour. Love to chat and meet confident people who don’t relay on others opinion.

"

Personally I would like a reason as it may be something that is wrong with my profile. Therefore if it could be made better then I could. I wouldn't change anything in my self as that is just silly. I have seen many people say that in clubs they have met people they wouldn't I'd they viewed their profile on here.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling


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Personally I would like a reason as it may be something that is wrong with my profile. Therefore if it could be made better then I could. I wouldn't change anything in my self as that is just silly. I have seen many people say that in clubs they have met people they wouldn't I'd they viewed their profile on here. "

It’s because generally we have much more choice in internet and kind of looking for perfection or paying attention to things we wouldn’t notice of meet offline.

I don’t have too much trust in profile here. It’s internet, you can place here whatever you wish to be. And unfortunately i met people who are not even close to what is there in the profile. Social meet or video call brings much more clarity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They’d heard from other people that I was so good I just ruined sex forever. That level of pleasure was unable to be recreated ever again

At least that’s what I think they meant by “fuck off”"

Haha

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling


"They’d heard from other people that I was so good I just ruined sex forever. That level of pleasure was unable to be recreated ever again

At least that’s what I think they meant by “fuck off”"

Yeah, that is the right definition of fuck off.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Women can reject on anything...one eyebrow not straight, wrong colour shirt, you don't look like "someone off the telly", not their type, etc Only joking, we still love you! x

Men don't reject."

They definitely do, me included

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Personally I would like a reason as it may be something that is wrong with my profile. Therefore if it could be made better then I could. I wouldn't change anything in my self as that is just silly. I have seen many people say that in clubs they have met people they wouldn't I'd they viewed their profile on here.

It’s because generally we have much more choice in internet and kind of looking for perfection or paying attention to things we wouldn’t notice of meet offline.

I don’t have too much trust in profile here. It’s internet, you can place here whatever you wish to be. And unfortunately i met people who are not even close to what is there in the profile. Social meet or video call brings much more clarity "

I agree with this. I just call this the tinder of the swingers world as that is pretty much what it is. Can't really say I've had people read my profile before messaging. And see read my profile written in a lot of profiles.

I would definitely agree that a phone/video call would be idea before a meet though.

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

I've been told I'm too fat and also too ugly. I don't like sending out first messages now. It's one of the reasons I've hidden my profile and taken a fab break

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘You’re not for me/us’ thats a good enough reason for me. I’ve never asked tbh, i’ve been told that as a reply to a first message or after sending a face picture. If someone isnt interested i don’t need to know why. Can’t be everyones cuppa tea. X

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By *urious_Female89Woman
over a year ago

great yarmouth

They don't tend to tell me! It stings more if you've pursued them and they were super keen but then stop messaging.. I did rattle on for a mini essay in a recent one so can only assume they didn't like what I said or cba to reply to it!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I think people should just say you’re not what I’m looking for or bad timing happy with what I’ve got right now but stay in touch who knows. That’s what I say, what more do you need to know ? You ain’t going to magically change and become compatible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think people should just say you’re not what I’m looking for or bad timing happy with what I’ve got right now but stay in touch who knows. That’s what I say, what more do you need to know ? You ain’t going to magically change and become compatible "

I've heard that many people don't reply as they get abusive messages back from weak ego people

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

I've been told, ever thought of joining 'ugly bastard.com'..after 60+ years on the planet, I don't need to be told what I look like, I know

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

No idea as it's never happened yet.

Plenty of conversations have fizzled out but I've never had an actual rejection message so I've no idea why people stop chatting and I've never given it a second thought apart from assuming they decided we weren't compatible.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Couldn't care less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No idea as it's never happened yet.

Plenty of conversations have fizzled out but I've never had an actual rejection message so I've no idea why people stop chatting and I've never given it a second thought apart from assuming they decided we weren't compatible. "

I'd consider that a soft rejection. They were too nice to be blunt but allowed the conversation to die out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have had women just block me. No reason other than I guess I am not their type.

Perhaps there has been problems with people being abusive after being rejected and that’s why.

I do appreciate when I get a reading and feedback.

I can’t understand it as I am obviously awesome……

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told, ever thought of joining 'ugly bastard.com'..after 60+ years on the planet, I don't need to be told what I look like, I know "

This is actually so rude. Did it really happen??

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By *avie65Man
over a year ago

In the west.


"I don't know and can only really make assumptions, so I guess if we're pinning it on looks, not everyone is going to be interested in a 40+ year old with tattoos and an undercut. "

Hmmmmm, I wouldn't be so sure about that. You forgot to mention gorgeous legs.

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

My mouth piercing. Few guys just don't like it but that's fine.

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING


"I've been told, ever thought of joining 'ugly bastard.com'..after 60+ years on the planet, I don't need to be told what I look like, I know

This is actually so rude. Did it really happen??"
yes it has, fairly recently, I've just put it down to either 'covid blues',or just an ar.e ho.e, that's a really just a fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think people should just say you’re not what I’m looking for or bad timing happy with what I’ve got right now but stay in touch who knows. That’s what I say, what more do you need to know ? You ain’t going to magically change and become compatible

I've heard that many people don't reply as they get abusive messages back from weak ego people "

Abuse or else it descends into an assured argument where they refuse to accept not interested or not type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told, ever thought of joining 'ugly bastard.com'..after 60+ years on the planet, I don't need to be told what I look like, I know

This is actually so rude. Did it really happen??yes it has, fairly recently, I've just put it down to either 'covid blues',or just an ar.e ho.e, that's a really just a fake "

I find that some people think that they are god's gift to humanity on here. It is no different to the real world in reality. A lot of people also think that because a screen is between them and you they can say anything they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think people should just say you’re not what I’m looking for or bad timing happy with what I’ve got right now but stay in touch who knows. That’s what I say, what more do you need to know ? You ain’t going to magically change and become compatible

I've heard that many people don't reply as they get abusive messages back from weak ego people

Abuse or else it descends into an assured argument where they refuse to accept not interested or not type "

So why not just block and report?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Whatever reason you're given, you've no idea if it's the truth.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I very rarely get a reply but the 2 most common ones when I do is:

You don't have hair

Oh, your not my type.

Well what do you say in return about that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just started talking to someone. They asked for a face pic and just blanked the message. That my experience with rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very rarely get a reply but the 2 most common ones when I do is:

You don't have hair

Oh, your not my type.

Well what do you say in return about that? "

You don’t say anything. Better to just move on in my experience.

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Being a miserable, fat, ugly cunt seems to be popular

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham


"Eyes like the devil was a favourite of mine "

Oooh crumbs! Talk about steely blue!

They do look a bit like the devil’s mind! But so what?you are an extremely good looking guy and so long as you are a nice guy, then you should be beating them off with a stick!

Hmm beating people off with a stick is maybe not an acceptable turn of phrase these days. Please forgive me

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Rejection is a two way street... after complimenting me on my pics, a gent decided I was too big for him after asking my dress size...

I waant his cuppa, no big deal...

I reject gents who can't/ignore my profile...

Why question it?

It happens to us all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think people should just say you’re not what I’m looking for or bad timing happy with what I’ve got right now but stay in touch who knows. That’s what I say, what more do you need to know ? You ain’t going to magically change and become compatible

I've heard that many people don't reply as they get abusive messages back from weak ego people

Abuse or else it descends into an assured argument where they refuse to accept not interested or not type

So why not just block and report? "

I try to distinguish between someone just having a bad experience v someone with a genuine attitude problem.

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

My calorific content was to high due to my sugary meatyness.

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING


"I've been told, ever thought of joining 'ugly bastard.com'..after 60+ years on the planet, I don't need to be told what I look like, I know

This is actually so rude. Did it really happen??yes it has, fairly recently, I've just put it down to either 'covid blues',or just an ar.e ho.e, that's a really just a fake

I find that some people think that they are god's gift to humanity on here. It is no different to the real world in reality. A lot of people also think that because a screen is between them and you they can say anything they want. "
there's definitely some people here that think that because they're either a female, or hung like a donkey, they're 'gods gift '..the more 'life experience 'folks, are a bit more savvy than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think people should just say you’re not what I’m looking for or bad timing happy with what I’ve got right now but stay in touch who knows. That’s what I say, what more do you need to know ? You ain’t going to magically change and become compatible

I've heard that many people don't reply as they get abusive messages back from weak ego people

Abuse or else it descends into an assured argument where they refuse to accept not interested or not type

So why not just block and report?

I try to distinguish between someone just having a bad experience v someone with a genuine attitude problem. "

Bad day or not. We are all adults but I guess some don't understand what that word means haha

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been told, ever thought of joining 'ugly bastard.com'..after 60+ years on the planet, I don't need to be told what I look like, I know

This is actually so rude. Did it really happen??yes it has, fairly recently, I've just put it down to either 'covid blues',or just an ar.e ho.e, that's a really just a fake

I find that some people think that they are god's gift to humanity on here. It is no different to the real world in reality. A lot of people also think that because a screen is between them and you they can say anything they want. there's definitely some people here that think that because they're either a female, or hung like a donkey, they're 'gods gift '..the more 'life experience 'folks, are a bit more savvy than that. "

Can't really say I've talked to many 'life experienced folks' as I am only considered a baby on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K"

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away "

Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?

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By *anJXMan
over a year ago

Warrington

I just never get a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think the reason matters, if they are not interested that’s enough

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I was told I was to small in height I found it amusing because all my ex's have been tall even though my past meets but hey ho hasn't knocked my confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think the reason matters, if they are not interested that’s enough "

Well you are definitely a person of interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away

Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances? "

No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away

Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?

No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you "

Yeah fair, but I guess I just don't understand what about the post you replied to was entitled and rude? If someone rejects you in public you expect them to give you a reason?

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

Usually they say I'm not their type which is after I send a face pic

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away

Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?

No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you "

Which part of my response would be considered rude?

We are never rude…we might delete without responding (if they are rude or vulgar or just have dick pics), we might be short with someone (if they’ve been suggestive or just tried talking to one of us) but we are never rude.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away

Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?

No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you

Yeah fair, but I guess I just don't understand what about the post you replied to was entitled and rude? If someone rejects you in public you expect them to give you a reason? "

No... Just not be rude about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually they say I'm not their type which is after I send a face pic"

Damn. You get a reply? I just get ignored haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wrong flavour monster munch like, seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away

Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?

No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you

Yeah fair, but I guess I just don't understand what about the post you replied to was entitled and rude? If someone rejects you in public you expect them to give you a reason?

No... Just not be rude about it "

But what about this was rude I genuinely don't get it? If someone comes up to me at a bar can I not just say "I'm sorry, I'm not interested?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away

Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?

No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you

Which part of my response would be considered rude?

We are never rude…we might delete without responding (if they are rude or vulgar or just have dick pics), we might be short with someone (if they’ve been suggestive or just tried talking to one of us) but we are never rude.

K"

Never aimed that at you by the way. The fact you say that you aren't for them does suggest you aren't rude. I can understand ignoring if you have a code word in your profile and they don't read it.

What is the need to be short with someone in that scenario? Why couldn't you just say that you would prefer it if both of you were addressed? Or if you have that in your profile a simple 'read my profile' would suffice. No?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away

Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?

No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you

Yeah fair, but I guess I just don't understand what about the post you replied to was entitled and rude? If someone rejects you in public you expect them to give you a reason?

No... Just not be rude about it

But what about this was rude I genuinely don't get it? If someone comes up to me at a bar can I not just say "I'm sorry, I'm not interested?" "

Yes of course. That would be a good rejection as you acknowledged them and rejected them. I'm talking about the people that just pretend they don't hear them or point blank avoid them

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

If you spend your time over the reason why not you'll either send your self crazy or depressed.

Make them think it their loss and not yours, by not mopping around and meet other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away

Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?

No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you

Yeah fair, but I guess I just don't understand what about the post you replied to was entitled and rude? If someone rejects you in public you expect them to give you a reason?

No... Just not be rude about it

But what about this was rude I genuinely don't get it? If someone comes up to me at a bar can I not just say "I'm sorry, I'm not interested?"

Yes of course. That would be a good rejection as you acknowledged them and rejected them. I'm talking about the people that just pretend they don't hear them or point blank avoid them "

Oh right makes sense now. I thought you meant as in rejection itself was rude, that's why I was confused.

I think it depends on the situation and the setting. Remember it can be scary turning someone down as you don't know how they'll react, especially if you don't have your friends around you for backup.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too old,too thin,cock too small,too far away, despite being happy to travel, look like Mr Bean (which I don't,at least in my opinion) the fact that I'm married & playing solo, several people wouldn't believe that I'm here with my wife's blessing.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"Not a fan of beards"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away

Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?

No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you

Yeah fair, but I guess I just don't understand what about the post you replied to was entitled and rude? If someone rejects you in public you expect them to give you a reason?

No... Just not be rude about it

But what about this was rude I genuinely don't get it? If someone comes up to me at a bar can I not just say "I'm sorry, I'm not interested?"

Yes of course. That would be a good rejection as you acknowledged them and rejected them. I'm talking about the people that just pretend they don't hear them or point blank avoid them

Oh right makes sense now. I thought you meant as in rejection itself was rude, that's why I was confused.

I think it depends on the situation and the setting. Remember it can be scary turning someone down as you don't know how they'll react, especially if you don't have your friends around you for backup. "

That's definitely true. I have had to step in a time or 2 when I have been at a bar or club and have seen a guy pushing a lass about

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away

Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?

No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you

Which part of my response would be considered rude?

We are never rude…we might delete without responding (if they are rude or vulgar or just have dick pics), we might be short with someone (if they’ve been suggestive or just tried talking to one of us) but we are never rude.

K

Never aimed that at you by the way. The fact you say that you aren't for them does suggest you aren't rude. I can understand ignoring if you have a code word in your profile and they don't read it.

What is the need to be short with someone in that scenario? Why couldn't you just say that you would prefer it if both of you were addressed? Or if you have that in your profile a simple 'read my profile' would suffice. No?"

It says it on our profile…we don’t need to go back and reiterate it. It’s just a reason for rejection. If they can’t be respectful to us a couple in their first message then they have no chance of getting any further.

I think you are looking at it from a single guys perspective…not a guys point of view in a couple.

K

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I am not for everyone and not everyone is for me. That's just the way it is. Worrying over why someone says "no" is counter productive.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

That I’m an ugly boring twit!

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By *ineMan
over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

I'm way too pretty....

Well thats what the mirror on the wall told me

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"When you get rejected on here what was their reason?

Mine is that I look too young."

Mine is generally because they don't have blue underwear

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By *enn68Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't his type

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I wasn't his type "

Wtf????

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds


"I am not for everyone and not everyone is for me. That's just the way it is. Worrying over why someone says "no" is counter productive. "

You can potentially learn from being told though. It can help you improve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Have facial hair

2. Wrong colour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend not to give a reason unless it’s because they are out of range or filters…

We also tend not to receive a reason other than we aren’t for them.

Doesn’t really matter on the reason…it’s peoples choices whether to accept or reject your advance. No problem whatever the answer.

K

It's a little rude though in my opinion. That's like walking up to someone in public, trying your luck and them just laughing and walking away

Is it though? Do you expect everyone you walk up to in life to accept your advances?

No... I just expect a simple rejection and not someone being entitled and rude. It gives the impression that they consider you benief (however you spell it haha) you

Which part of my response would be considered rude?

We are never rude…we might delete without responding (if they are rude or vulgar or just have dick pics), we might be short with someone (if they’ve been suggestive or just tried talking to one of us) but we are never rude.

K

Never aimed that at you by the way. The fact you say that you aren't for them does suggest you aren't rude. I can understand ignoring if you have a code word in your profile and they don't read it.

What is the need to be short with someone in that scenario? Why couldn't you just say that you would prefer it if both of you were addressed? Or if you have that in your profile a simple 'read my profile' would suffice. No?

It says it on our profile…we don’t need to go back and reiterate it. It’s just a reason for rejection. If they can’t be respectful to us a couple in their first message then they have no chance of getting any further.

I think you are looking at it from a single guys perspective…not a guys point of view in a couple.

K"

I delete without responding to a lot of my messages but my profile also states that I’ll delete if not interested or if they don’t meet the criteria I make clear on my profile!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I am not for everyone and not everyone is for me. That's just the way it is. Worrying over why someone says "no" is counter productive.

You can potentially learn from being told though. It can help you improve. "

In what way? The only messages I ever reply to over the last ten years are those who have read my profile and sent a lovely one.

The reasons for turning them down are nothing they have control over, I just didn't find them attractive.

The ones who could learn a thing or six are not worth my time, they treat women as free, disposable sex workers, nothing more than a wet hole to dump their load in and nothing I say will ever change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't his type "

Stop messaging gay men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't his type

Stop messaging gay men"

He wasn't gay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't his type

Stop messaging gay men

He wasn't gay "

He was mentally insane???

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's never important to me, I just focus on the others who could be a good match. No means no, so I move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being too subby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

90% of the time it's just "not my type" but only when seeing my face. That is from those who reply. Lol

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"I don't seek a 'post mortem' or a root cause analysis.

I just accept it and move on.

We've all (mostly) been rejected at some stage."

So much this.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Distance is invariably the reason why I have to decline the invitations of some lovely people, but I've always been very hospitable to anyone who finds themselves in my neck of the woods, whether on holiday, or a short break, and some very good friendships have come out of that.

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By *D of funCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

My tits are too small

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"My tits are too small "

by comparison to what? People are idiots

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By *olly SwallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

Sexville

My penis tends to be a bit of a deal breaker for some

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By *ategoodbyeMan
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few "

Heh. Ever get ‘it’s not you. It’s me.’

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By *xiled BikerMan
over a year ago

Beverley

Well in no particular order mine are:

too old

too grey

too beardy

too Scottish (whatever that means!)

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

Not their type, which is completely OK.

So long as they are not rude I have no issue with someone telling us why, or they can just say no thanks (or not reply) and we accept that.

MJ x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Too fat,

Too short,

Too old,

Too ugly,

Oh and too fat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t have a face pic. All good, since it’s better we do not meet if both parties cannot mutually agree and/or accept to respect each others prerequisites...

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

C_inese Takeaway near you

I was 'too handsome' haha its a curse & a blessing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think the reason matters, if they are not interested that’s enough "

another reason I get is because I can’t accommodate which at times is hilarious because they, themselves cannot accommodate either and yet expect me to...

Also, I never bother to ask for reason as some simply feel the need to explain thinking that I may bend to their requests...

I just wish they’d bother to read my profile, since this’d help avoid the unnecessary drama.

...plenty other meets with likeminded peeps we can all be having an abundance of fun with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are not there type, cause i am bi and like cd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dicks too big

too manly

too romantic

too perfect

I’ve had a few

Heh. Ever get ‘it’s not you. It’s me.’"

Now you mention it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too old,too thin,cock too small,too far away, despite being happy to travel, look like Mr Bean (which I don't,at least in my opinion) the fact that I'm married & playing solo, several people wouldn't believe that I'm here with my wife's blessing."

Also they don't meet bi or bi curious men & only want fully bi men.

I can't win !

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