FabSwingers.com forum: Married with permission

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Being male and having permission is rare I know this but how do you actually have the evidence to prove it?

I honestly had this chat with my wife recently, and even I was shocked, I was prepared to follow it up with councilling and or divorce, but no she must of known or she had be feeling guilty, or something, but she gave her permission, with a few rules.

I don't catch feelings

The family come first

She doesn't want to know.

So how do i put that across, without being like the rest of the liars and cheats.

Is there any couples that might be able to give me an idea?

I know she would help me, but again I don't really want to rub it in her face.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You will have to accept that a lot of men are "married with permission" and there is no way to verify that unless their wife is prepared to speak to the people they intend to meet in person.

I'd suggest clubs to you, people are less inclined to be concerned about marital status

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do I prove it?

People I wish to meet, or who wish to meet me, have the option to confirm this with my other half.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How exactly are you going to ensure you don't catch feelings...

Not sure that's in anyone's control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don’t have to prove anything.

If people get to know you properly then you may give them the privilege of knowing you more.

Until till then, you don’t need to prove anything.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"You don’t have to prove anything.

If people get to know you properly then you may give them the privilege of knowing you more.

Until till then, you don’t need to prove anything.

This. They either believe you or they don’t. It’s like when people want to cam to make sure you’re real. You don’t have to prove anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You will have to accept that a lot of men are "married with permission" and there is no way to verify that unless their wife is prepared to speak to the people they intend to meet in person.

I'd suggest clubs to you, people are less inclined to be concerned about marital status

Good luck

I'd love to take my wife to a club, I even asked. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The comment about your wife feeling guilty is what jumped out at me.

May I ask why you feel she should?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get her to write you a note, like getting out of PE at school.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How exactly are you going to ensure you don't catch feelings...

Not sure that's in anyone's control"

You can't, I know this, just don't want to pop my dream I suppose

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"How exactly are you going to ensure you don't catch feelings...

Not sure that's in anyone's control

You can't, I know this, just don't want to pop my dream I suppose"

How you deal with feelings is in your control. Catching them isn’t

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"How exactly are you going to ensure you don't catch feelings...

Not sure that's in anyone's control

You can't, I know this, just don't want to pop my dream I suppose"

Its ok to feel, its not an illness, when feeling good emotions towards someone becomes dangerous is when you act on the feelings in a way that endangers your primary relationship.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

As well as catching feelings you might catch Covid or a STD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would they would have to bring the wife along for a social so we 3 can have a chat then she can go off shopping or something as we get down to it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The comment about your wife feeling guilty is what jumped out at me.

May I ask why you feel she should?"

I really don't, were open with each hence this new outcome,

Yet however much I say I want more and councilling it's not her priority.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Yes I would they would have to bring the wife along for a social so we 3 can have a chat then she can go off shopping or something as we get down to it "

The wife doesn't want to know so I doubt she would meet you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The comment about your wife feeling guilty is what jumped out at me.

May I ask why you feel she should?

I really don't, were open with each hence this new outcome,

Yet however much I say I want more and councilling it's not her priority."

more of what?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"The comment about your wife feeling guilty is what jumped out at me.

May I ask why you feel she should?"

Yes I thought this too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I would they would have to bring the wife along for a social so we 3 can have a chat then she can go off shopping or something as we get down to it

The wife doesn't want to know so I doubt she would meet you. "

Than the person wouldn’t be for me as I couldn’t trust them not to be playing behind they wife’s back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds to me like there’s much more to the situation. Probably more that we’re able to advise on as we don’t know you or your life.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"Being male and having permission is rare I know this but how do you actually have the evidence to prove it?

I don't catch feelings

The family come first

She doesn't want to know.

So how do i put that across, without being like the rest of the liars and cheats.

Is there any couples that might be able to give me an idea?

I know she would help me, but again I don't really want to rub it in her face.....

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this will end in disaster theres alot of rules there and none u can honestly say wont happen u cant proove it as she doesnt want to know,

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

op you can go to counselling alone, it sometimes helps to sort things out in your mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The comment about your wife feeling guilty is what jumped out at me.

May I ask why you feel she should?

I really don't, were open with each hence this new outcome,

Yet however much I say I want more and councilling it's not her priority.

more of what?"

More from our relationship. I.e intamacy.

cuddles and kisses is the line. If I go further, it's either I'm going on or her anxiety. Makes me sound pushy. I'm really not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never see women say they have permission/their husband is sick type of profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"op you can go to counselling alone, it sometimes helps to sort things out in your mind"

This one I've been avoiding....

Last time I went even the councilor couldn't keep up,

Been with the wife before too, but she didn't like the outcome

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The comment about your wife feeling guilty is what jumped out at me.

May I ask why you feel she should?

I really don't, were open with each hence this new outcome,

Yet however much I say I want more and councilling it's not her priority.

more of what?

More from our relationship. I.e intamacy.

cuddles and kisses is the line. If I go further, it's either I'm going on or her anxiety. Makes me sound pushy. I'm really not "

oh ok. Its a difficult situation you find yourself in for sure. Good luck

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"The comment about your wife feeling guilty is what jumped out at me.

May I ask why you feel she should?

I really don't, were open with each hence this new outcome,

Yet however much I say I want more and councilling it's not her priority."

Do you and your wife have sex? and have enough sex? and that's why she feels guilty? and why would you need counselling?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some great advice and things for me to ponder on

Honestly thank you all

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"op you can go to counselling alone, it sometimes helps to sort things out in your mind

This one I've been avoiding....

Last time I went even the councilor couldn't keep up,

Been with the wife before too, but she didn't like the outcome"

sometimes you need to see a few counsellors before you find the right one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The comment about your wife feeling guilty is what jumped out at me.

May I ask why you feel she should?

Yes I thought this too."

Again I don't, we are open with each other that is her feelings not mine.

I should add, I do tell her she does.t have to be, or feel that way, I understand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds to me like there’s much more to the situation. Probably more that we’re able to advise on as we don’t know you or your life. "

100% most my circle area years behind me and my wife, not in age. But in realtionship (whatever the word is)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Being male and having permission is rare I know this but how do you actually have the evidence to prove it?

I don't catch feelings

The family come first

She doesn't want to know.

So how do i put that across, without being like the rest of the liars and cheats.

Is there any couples that might be able to give me an idea?

I know she would help me, but again I don't really want to rub it in her face.....

this will end in disaster theres alot of rules there and none u can honestly say wont happen u cant proove it as she doesnt want to know, "

It's heading that way already....

I do love a good forum, I think because how sticky the situation is, advice is the root I should take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi, if any one wants to read my profile, you will see i am the same,

i can play with sue,s blessing and she will happily have a phone chat with a lady or a couple to confirm with them that she is ok wit it. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being male and having permission is rare I know this but how do you actually have the evidence to prove it?

I don't catch feelings

The family come first

She doesn't want to know.

So how do i put that across, without being like the rest of the liars and cheats.

Is there any couples that might be able to give me an idea?

I know she would help me, but again I don't really want to rub it in her face.....

What do you mean she "recently" gave you permission to meet other people?

Last week or 8 months ago?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i guese that i am lucky, i even had a lady stay the night , me and the said lady slept in the spare bedroom, while my wife was in our room,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being male and having permission is rare I know this but how do you actually have the evidence to prove it?

I don't catch feelings

The family come first

She doesn't want to know.

So how do i put that across, without being like the rest of the liars and cheats.

Is there any couples that might be able to give me an idea?

I know she would help me, but again I don't really want to rub it in her face.....

What do you mean she "recently" gave you permission to meet other people?

Last week or 8 months ago? "

Thanks for the info OP.

Just write it on your profile. Some will meet married men and some won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With wifey granting permission and not wanting to know details, you can effectively operate as a single anyway.

Even with a slightly more convincing narrative, most couples are likely to think you are trying it on.

The question is of the two approaches which is the one you have to hold to operate successfully. You won't be able to play both for long.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I never see women say they have permission/their husband is sick type of profiles."

*waves* I'm here with my husbands permission. He's asexual, I'm poly...

He's also met people I've swung with or had Socials with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I never see women say they have permission/their husband is sick type of profiles.

*waves* I'm here with my husbands permission. He's asexual, I'm poly...

He's also met people I've swung with or had Socials with."

Asexual..... Interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never see women say they have permission/their husband is sick type of profiles.

*waves* I'm here with my husbands permission. He's asexual, I'm poly...

He's also met people I've swung with or had Socials with."

I’m here with permission too, in fact he has his own profile. We had a couples one but I kept leaving the site so he made his own in the end

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

Occasionally women have asked (my husband) for some verification from me. But mostly they seem to take what he says at face value.

He tends to say he's poly though, seems to be more likely accepted than "open marriage", but as others say, you can only be yourself, and leave others insecurities with them

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I never see women say they have permission/their husband is sick type of profiles.

*waves* I'm here with my husbands permission. He's asexual, I'm poly...

He's also met people I've swung with or had Socials with.

Asexual..... Interesting"

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