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"I mean I’m no expert, but it sounds to me like they have strayed into emotional affair territory ... as opposed to it just being about sex. I would imagine that this is a risk you take in your situation. Hope you manage to sort it out with everyone " I’d tend to agree with this | |||
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"I don’t see it as being unreasonable. Its disrespectful of him to continue chatting in private, despite knowing your wishes. Keeping to peoples boundaries is important. " Disrespectful of her too i would say | |||
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"I don't see why messages to boost her confidence can't be done in the group chat. I would be annoyed by repeated private messaging. " This is my opinion also | |||
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"My knee jerk reaction is that you had NO right to cancel the meeting and that you are controlling BUT ...... Do let me re read and think. " I’ve cancelled as a 3 they are open to do as they wish but I won’t play with someone who can’t respect me | |||
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"No. Not unreasonable. You had ground rules agreed between you, they should be adhered to. I would end the dynamic between the three of you. " I’ve done this just | |||
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"Also, it's not just him that has been disrespectful. " | |||
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"My knee jerk reaction is that you had NO right to cancel the meeting and that you are controlling BUT ...... Do let me re read and think. I’ve cancelled as a 3 they are open to do as they wish but I won’t play with someone who can’t respect me" Ah .... that's different. I was going to say you can choose to not go but you have no right to cancel what others do. This is now a bit complicated but I have thought about it and will post my thoughts as you've asked. | |||
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"I don’t see it as being unreasonable. Its disrespectful of him to continue chatting in private, despite knowing your wishes. Keeping to peoples boundaries is important. Disrespectful of her too i would say " Totally! It is also very disrespectful of her. 3 times in 2 months, OP. I think that gives you a pretty clear idea…. | |||
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"My knee jerk reaction is that you had NO right to cancel the meeting and that you are controlling BUT ...... Do let me re read and think. I’ve cancelled as a 3 they are open to do as they wish but I won’t play with someone who can’t respect me" Can I ask if they are meeting as a 2 how they are going to communicate to make arrangements R | |||
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"My knee jerk reaction is that you had NO right to cancel the meeting and that you are controlling BUT ...... Do let me re read and think. " I would only disagree, if this was a prior discussed agreement. I’m which they as a couple set clear boundaries and limits on bringing others in to their dynamic, so their relationship isn’t effected by it. | |||
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"My knee jerk reaction is that you had NO right to cancel the meeting and that you are controlling BUT ...... Do let me re read and think. I’ve cancelled as a 3 they are open to do as they wish but I won’t play with someone who can’t respect me Can I ask if they are meeting as a 2 how they are going to communicate to make arrangements R" Through the group chat still so the 3rd party, her partner, knows what is going on. | |||
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"My knee jerk reaction is that you had NO right to cancel the meeting and that you are controlling BUT ...... Do let me re read and think. I’ve cancelled as a 3 they are open to do as they wish but I won’t play with someone who can’t respect me Can I ask if they are meeting as a 2 how they are going to communicate to make arrangements R Through the group chat still so the 3rd party, her partner, knows what is going on. " So he's going to be on a chat with someone who's crossed the line and broke boundaries then let his partner meet them? R | |||
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"My knee jerk reaction is that you had NO right to cancel the meeting and that you are controlling BUT ...... Do let me re read and think. I’ve cancelled as a 3 they are open to do as they wish but I won’t play with someone who can’t respect me Can I ask if they are meeting as a 2 how they are going to communicate to make arrangements R Through the group chat still so the 3rd party, her partner, knows what is going on. So he's going to be on a chat with someone who's crossed the line and broke boundaries then let his partner meet them? R" This, if your partner truly respected you she would have had your back and pulled up the 3rd party the 1st time he tried to contact her privately and informed you. Once he did it the 2nd time (if he was given a 2nd chance) she should have cut all ties with him as he clearly can't be trusted. Maybe you partner and this guy have developed feelings for each other? We only play together as a couple though so maybe a couple who are into separate meets may give better advice. Let us know how it goes OP. KJ | |||
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"I'd certainly knock it on the head with the fella. As for your misses, I think you might have bigger problems than you think. She has gone behind your back 3 times, breaking boundaries set in place. How would she feel if the boot was on the other foot? I suspect she has got emotionally involved with this guy. You need to have a serious and honest chat with her. Good luck OP" Thank you I’m trying to chat to her and she genuinely doesn’t see what she has done wrong | |||
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"I'd certainly knock it on the head with the fella. As for your misses, I think you might have bigger problems than you think. She has gone behind your back 3 times, breaking boundaries set in place. How would she feel if the boot was on the other foot? I suspect she has got emotionally involved with this guy. You need to have a serious and honest chat with her. Good luck OP" Yep agree with this | |||
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"I'd certainly knock it on the head with the fella. As for your misses, I think you might have bigger problems than you think. She has gone behind your back 3 times, breaking boundaries set in place. How would she feel if the boot was on the other foot? I suspect she has got emotionally involved with this guy. You need to have a serious and honest chat with her. Good luck OP Thank you I’m trying to chat to her and she genuinely doesn’t see what she has done wrong " Therein lies the problem. I feel for you but its always a risk involving a 3rd party. If my other half was doing that behind my back Im not sure Id want to be with them! | |||
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"I don't think you are unreasonable It wouldn't have gone past the first 'warning' for me Boundaries and respect are imperative My OH is free to meet on his own (as am I), but we still have boundaries - one of them being no multiple meets I am not arsed at all about his sexual adventures, but emotional bonding with someone else is a threat to our relationship - a relationship that is superb - and I wouldn't want that changing due to one of us getting too close to a 3rd party (and that works both ways) " | |||
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"For us swinging is about trust and communication. THEY have BOTH broken that trust multiple times. If this happened to me it would be enough for me to end the arrangement and have serious conversations about our future as a couple." Absolutely this | |||
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"I don't think you are unreasonable It wouldn't have gone past the first 'warning' for me Boundaries and respect are imperative My OH is free to meet on his own (as am I), but we still have boundaries - one of them being no multiple meets I am not arsed at all about his sexual adventures, but emotional bonding with someone else is a threat to our relationship - a relationship that is superb - and I wouldn't want that changing due to one of us getting too close to a 3rd party (and that works both ways) " ... and some might say, that he fuck someone repeatedly behind my back as many times as he wanted, but if I did that find that out, it would be the end of 'us' If someone gives you an inch if rope, don't turn it into a foot and hang yourself with it | |||
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"I'd certainly knock it on the head with the fella. As for your misses, I think you might have bigger problems than you think. She has gone behind your back 3 times, breaking boundaries set in place. How would she feel if the boot was on the other foot? I suspect she has got emotionally involved with this guy. You need to have a serious and honest chat with her. Good luck OP Thank you I’m trying to chat to her and she genuinely doesn’t see what she has done wrong Therein lies the problem. I feel for you but its always a risk involving a 3rd party. If my other half was doing that behind my back Im not sure Id want to be with them!" This discussion will be on the cards this evening. | |||
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"I'd certainly knock it on the head with the fella. As for your misses, I think you might have bigger problems than you think. She has gone behind your back 3 times, breaking boundaries set in place. How would she feel if the boot was on the other foot? I suspect she has got emotionally involved with this guy. You need to have a serious and honest chat with her. Good luck OP Thank you I’m trying to chat to her and she genuinely doesn’t see what she has done wrong Therein lies the problem. I feel for you but its always a risk involving a 3rd party. If my other half was doing that behind my back Im not sure Id want to be with them! This discussion will be on the cards this evening." I really hope you manage to sort it out. Not an easy conversation to have! | |||
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"Also OP, whilst I understand the views of others on the scene might be useful to you right now, having this discussion in an open forum from a couples profile doesn't sit easily with me You are here as a unit - sort it out between you both If my OH did this off a couples profile, I would be fkin ripping! Putting it here just adds another consideration to an already volatile (and personal) situation " and I do wish you both well x | |||
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"Also OP, whilst I understand the views of others on the scene might be useful to you right now, having this discussion in an open forum from a couples profile doesn't sit easily with me You are here as a unit - sort it out between you both If my OH did this off a couples profile, I would be fkin ripping! Putting it here just adds another consideration to an already volatile (and personal) situation " I never even thought of that Bussy. If I came home to my life being discussed in the forum I'd be peed off too......... | |||
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"Also OP, whilst I understand the views of others on the scene might be useful to you right now, having this discussion in an open forum from a couples profile doesn't sit easily with me You are here as a unit - sort it out between you both If my OH did this off a couples profile, I would be fkin ripping! Putting it here just adds another consideration to an already volatile (and personal) situation " I have told Mrs p this is posted here and I wanted opinions as she very good at making me think I’m making a mountain out of a mole hill so to speak. | |||
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"Does your partner find this thread unreasonable? Nope " She's incredibly tolerant then. | |||
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"Does your partner find this thread unreasonable? Nope She's incredibly tolerant then. " If she did its tough isnt it! The OP finds her actions unreasonable but it hasnt stopped her | |||
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"Does your partner find this thread unreasonable? Nope She's incredibly tolerant then. If she did its tough isnt it! The OP finds her actions unreasonable but it hasnt stopped her " Thank you! X | |||
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"Does your partner find this thread unreasonable?" He's asking for advice. He's not the one in the wrong here. | |||
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"So I’m looking for other peoples opinion on a situation. We are on here as a couple and got involved with a guy as a three. For months all has gone well with Mrs p going seeing this person at a club for 1-2-1 meets and us having a few 3 ways etc. Chat between us has always been on WhatsApp and I have always insisted as it being as a 3 and no private messages between anyone as I’m not comfortable with it and believe it should be kept in our group chat. I found out a few months ago Mrs P and said person had been privately messaging out of the group. I mentioned I wasn’t comfortable with it and asked to keep it to the group which was agreed by all. Just before Xmas the same issue occurred and we all agreed that it was to be kept in the group chat, today I have also seen it’s been going on. So that’s 3 times in the space of 2 months it’s happened and now Mrs p is saying I’m being unreasonable as I have cancelled our meeting tonight with the said person due to not trusting them. Mrs p stance is it’s just messages to boost her confidence and doesn’t see the issue as I’m happy for him to sleep with her normally. Am I being un-reasonable or would you cancel a meeting with someone who three times has done something you found disrespectful? " It sounds like the problem isn’t just with the other guy but the missus as well! And no you’re not being unreasonable. You should only do what you’re comfortable with! | |||
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"Absolutely disrespectful. She is not putting you and your wishes and your relationship first. Major red flag. Swinging may not be the best life for you to pursue until you resolve whatever is going on in the background. I wish you all the best with however you choose to deal with it but I would be absolutely fuming. " Thank you sadly it’s not the only thing that’s happened recently so think it’s time to end things x | |||
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"Does your partner find this thread unreasonable? He's asking for advice. He's not the one in the wrong here." 2 wrongs don't make a right | |||
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"Depends who instigated the private chat, if it’s him it wouldn’t be going further, if it was her ask her the real reason why But for me he wouldn’t be getting another look in either way S" It was him apparently he got over excited | |||
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" It was him apparently he got over excited " Did she reply privately ? I would have replied on the group chat | |||
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" It was him apparently he got over excited Did she reply privately ? I would have replied on the group chat" Yes the whole conversation then went private. Also to add insult to injury he’s now pestering asking us to still go or if not send Mrs p alone you couldn’t make it up if you tried. Seems both are completely oblivious to any wrong doing | |||
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" It was him apparently he got over excited Did she reply privately ? I would have replied on the group chat Yes the whole conversation then went private. Also to add insult to injury he’s now pestering asking us to still go or if not send Mrs p alone you couldn’t make it up if you tried. Seems both are completely oblivious to any wrong doing " Why don’t you block him until you and your partner have talked? | |||
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" It was him apparently he got over excited Did she reply privately ? I would have replied on the group chat Yes the whole conversation then went private. Also to add insult to injury he’s now pestering asking us to still go or if not send Mrs p alone you couldn’t make it up if you tried. Seems both are completely oblivious to any wrong doing " Being honest it sounds to me like you and the Mrs need to take a break from sleeping with other people and work on the communication and trust in your relationship. Swinging doesn't work without a solid base to your relationship. MJ | |||
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" It was him apparently he got over excited Did she reply privately ? I would have replied on the group chat Yes the whole conversation then went private. Also to add insult to injury he’s now pestering asking us to still go or if not send Mrs p alone you couldn’t make it up if you tried. Seems both are completely oblivious to any wrong doing Being honest it sounds to me like you and the Mrs need to take a break from sleeping with other people and work on the communication and trust in your relationship. Swinging doesn't work without a solid base to your relationship. MJ" Wholeheartedly agreed but think it’s to late for that! X | |||
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"So I’m looking for other peoples opinion on a situation. We are on here as a couple and got involved with a guy as a three. For months all has gone well with Mrs p going seeing this person at a club for 1-2-1 meets and us having a few 3 ways etc. Chat between us has always been on WhatsApp and I have always insisted as it being as a 3 and no private messages between anyone as I’m not comfortable with it and believe it should be kept in our group chat. I found out a few months ago Mrs P and said person had been privately messaging out of the group. I mentioned I wasn’t comfortable with it and asked to keep it to the group which was agreed by all. Just before Xmas the same issue occurred and we all agreed that it was to be kept in the group chat, today I have also seen it’s been going on. So that’s 3 times in the space of 2 months it’s happened and now Mrs p is saying I’m being unreasonable as I have cancelled our meeting tonight with the said person due to not trusting them. Mrs p stance is it’s just messages to boost her confidence and doesn’t see the issue as I’m happy for him to sleep with her normally. Am I being un-reasonable or would you cancel a meeting with someone who three times has done something you found disrespectful? " No your NOT been unreasonable at all...boundaries where set and your wife and this guy have broken them and gone behind your back...her loyalties should have been with you 100% on this and even though this guy did message her out of the arranged 3 way chat then she should have refused to message back and told you straight away. Then your wife does it again after you explaining how you wasn't happy with them chatting that way...So 3 times she has disrespected your feelings on the situation, it doesn't matter that you agree with her having sex with him...Its all about the trust and she as well as him have broken that trust 3 times, this would make me think what else has she lied about? | |||
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"WTF people going on about you controlling.... No, you guys had a 3way agreement it's been broken I would never meet the 3rd party again and give her a choice him or you something are black and white. " I kinda see their thinking, though don't agree. Personally I see it this way ...... He's said, yeah sure you both can have casual sex, but don't hide it away from me. That in the form of keeping messages open. | |||
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"Serious breach of trust. 3 strikes and your out I'm afraid. That would be the case for the Mr and the Mrs. There's no way on this earth I would be with a woman I couldn't trust. " Looks like it will go that way! | |||
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"Serious breach of trust. 3 strikes and your out I'm afraid. That would be the case for the Mr and the Mrs. There's no way on this earth I would be with a woman I couldn't trust. Looks like it will go that way! " Don't make any rushed decisions. And make it your decision nobody else's. But I feel for you I'd be very unhappy with it. Wishing you the best outcome in what you decide | |||
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" Also to add insult to injury he’s now pestering asking us to still go or if not send Mrs p alone you couldn’t make it up if you tried. Seems both are completely oblivious to any wrong doing " Is she going to meet him again ? | |||
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"No. Not unreasonable. You had ground rules agreed between you, they should be adhered to. I would end the dynamic between the three of you. " This totally Its really disrespectful to you op | |||
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"It sounds like both of them have overstepped agreed rule several times. It also sounds like there was just a "no" from you to messaging outside the group chat instead of having a conversation about why do they do it. I have a FWB. Original agreement with husband was to keep meets related and sexual messages on a group chat, but I was messaging with FWB outside group as well since he was a friend before the benefits. It was hard to keep separate chats for sexual and non sexual things as conversations would dip in and out of sexual theme, so we started messaging privately only. Husband didn't want to know the details of our "likes", "dislikes", kinks that he knows I'm into, but he has no interest in whatsoever. I had a conversation with him about messaging and he understood that there are no hidden agendas or anything he should be worried about going on between FWB and me and he's happy for us to carry on messaging privately. He also has an option to read through our messages if he wanted to. All I'm trying to say here is that instead of presuming maybe it's best to have a conversation about things to try to understand why they're happening." Thank you | |||
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"It sounds like both of them have overstepped agreed rule several times. It also sounds like there was just a "no" from you to messaging outside the group chat instead of having a conversation about why do they do it. I have a FWB. Original agreement with husband was to keep meets related and sexual messages on a group chat, but I was messaging with FWB outside group as well since he was a friend before the benefits. It was hard to keep separate chats for sexual and non sexual things as conversations would dip in and out of sexual theme, so we started messaging privately only. Husband didn't want to know the details of our "likes", "dislikes", kinks that he knows I'm into, but he has no interest in whatsoever. I had a conversation with him about messaging and he understood that there are no hidden agendas or anything he should be worried about going on between FWB and me and he's happy for us to carry on messaging privately. He also has an option to read through our messages if he wanted to. All I'm trying to say here is that instead of presuming maybe it's best to have a conversation about things to try to understand why they're happening." While it was difficult, you did the right thing and has the conversation out in the open. I have a feeling that if the OP's wife would have done this and opened up the communication then this thread wouldn't be happening. The hardest thing is the feeling that you can't trust someone. If everything is in the open and you don't feel comfortable, then thats a different thing altogether. | |||
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"Feel for the OP, if one partner is breaking boundaries and you try and enforce them. It will only make things worse. Boundries are a choice. Stick to them or break them and any consequences. I have been in this situation, ultimately the outlook is not good. We have boundries because that is what we mutually want. Neither of us would break those boundaries because we have trust. Without that we have nothing. Maybe i have misunderstood the post, if Mrs P is actively breaking boundries then she has made her choice. Any kind of enforcement will simply exacerbate the situation. I hope you fine a solution wish you well" Thank you x | |||
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"Feel for the OP, if one partner is breaking boundaries and you try and enforce them. It will only make things worse. Boundries are a choice. Stick to them or break them and any consequences. I have been in this situation, ultimately the outlook is not good. We have boundries because that is what we mutually want. Neither of us would break those boundaries because we have trust. Without that we have nothing. Maybe i have misunderstood the post, if Mrs P is actively breaking boundries then she has made her choice. Any kind of enforcement will simply exacerbate the situation. I hope you fine a solution wish you well Thank you x" Is she prepared to stop seeing and communicaing with this guy anymore OP? Thats the minimum id expect if the relationship was to be salvaged. KJ | |||
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"They are both being disrespectful. She is cheating on you. " Once she disrespected him the 2nd and then 3rd time then yes its deceit and akin to cheating on the OP. OP that guy is a snake and needs removing from the your lives ASAP. KJ | |||
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"As someone who is sometimes the third person in these situations I would always respect the boundaries and rules of both of the couple and if it was causing any kind of issue I would gracefully withdraw from the arrangement." Agree with this | |||
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"O.P. Here goes........ Firstly no agreement should ever have been entered into. It was a pointless agreement BUT an agreement shouldn't be broken. I think 'the no private messages' was asked for from either 'fear' or 'jealousy' or 'control' ..... hear me out first... You are happy for Mrs. P to meet this man alone at a club. Surely you realise that they'd have private conversations there ? Unless fucking in abject silence is their kink. So what difference does a private message make ? Do you listen to all Mrs. P's conversations or is it just this man that you object to ? Think about it - there are thoughts going on in your head about this. Either they can meet and fuck or they can't. Your objection , to me, sounds as if you are not truly happy with her meeting him at all. If I was that bloke .... and I wanted to say something like ... ' I am going to lick and suck your fat juicy tits until you beg me to go down on you then fuck you anally' I would not want another bloke to share the message. If they are 'getting it on' then flirty or sexy texting before hand might be part of it. Insisting they don't have a conversation unless you are privvy to it is highly controlling ( in my book ) or maybe as I said earlier you are not really happy with Mrs. P swinging alone. Bottom line is ..... No agreement should have been broken without someone saying 'this agreement isn't on and i'm breaking it because.... Frankly if my other half did that to me ....... well ..... it's over to you two now." I think I broadly agree with you, an unnecessary agreement. Unless the sharing of messages is for kink. Not sure that’s the case thought. | |||
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