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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any fellow pan folk here? Fab really need to add that as an option on the sign up stage also more gender options.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just me then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sure there are lots of people on here that are Pansexual. Some may be less open about it or just not on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just me then? "

*sad trombone*

Im here so youre not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll be truthfully honest , I don’t really know what that is , sorry .. welcome to an explanation please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never really considered it. I’ve no issue meeting anybody, regardless of how that person chooses to identify.

I’m not that fussed about the tick boxes. I can tell people via my profile text if somethings missing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll be truthfully honest , I don’t really know what that is , sorry .. welcome to an explanation please "

No preference to biological sex I.e man woman trans etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll be truthfully honest , I don’t really know what that is , sorry .. welcome to an explanation please

No preference to biological sex I.e man woman trans etc "

Thanks for the explanation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t exactly know what to say I am I have some very odd dynamics when it comes to that like

For woman sex and dateing are open

For men only sex for now I think not meet a guy I would date sorry that’s not a knock on guys just how I am

For other tv/ts mostly just friendship but there has been a couple on here that have cought my eye to push the envelope more with them

So really wouldn’t know what to class my self as

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just me then?

*sad trombone*

Im here so youre not alone "

Ahhh I knew you’d be there with me you little box of surprises you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll be truthfully honest , I don’t really know what that is , sorry .. welcome to an explanation please

No preference to biological sex I.e man woman trans etc

Thanks for the explanation "

No worries buddy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t exactly know what to say I am I have some very odd dynamics when it comes to that like

For woman sex and dateing are open

For men only sex for now I think not meet a guy I would date sorry that’s not a knock on guys just how I am

For other tv/ts mostly just friendship but there has been a couple on here that have cought my eye to push the envelope more with them

So really wouldn’t know what to class my self as

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You can be bi or pan romantic. Or bisexual but Aromantic or you can be bisexual but heteromantic there’s so many to choose. These days sexuality and gender are becoming very much separate and I’m ok with that.

You do you hon xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never really considered it. I’ve no issue meeting anybody, regardless of how that person chooses to identify.

I’m not that fussed about the tick boxes. I can tell people via my profile text if somethings missing. "

I would say that Might make you lean towards pan x

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

Hello!

Fellow Pan here! I classed myself as bi for most of my life but would always have to explain that for me, attraction is about a vibe. Then last year I fell in to Pan TikTok and everything suddenly clicked!

I was shocked they didn’t have Pan as an option on here, I don’t like that they have the TV/TS category either as they’re two totally different things.

Cookie (the wife)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t exactly know what to say I am I have some very odd dynamics when it comes to that like

For woman sex and dateing are open

For men only sex for now I think not meet a guy I would date sorry that’s not a knock on guys just how I am

For other tv/ts mostly just friendship but there has been a couple on here that have cought my eye to push the envelope more with them

So really wouldn’t know what to class my self as

You can be bi or pan romantic. Or bisexual but Aromantic or you can be bisexual but heteromantic there’s so many to choose. These days sexuality and gender are becoming very much separate and I’m ok with that.

You do you hon xx"

They definitely are that and yes there is so much it can be all a bit confusing at times

And awww thank you so much I will do xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello!

Fellow Pan here! I classed myself as bi for most of my life but would always have to explain that for me, attraction is about a vibe. Then last year I fell in to Pan TikTok and everything suddenly clicked!

I was shocked they didn’t have Pan as an option on here, I don’t like that they have the TV/TS category either as they’re two totally different things.

Cookie (the wife) "

Ditto. Didn’t know about pan til this last year or so and I was like yeah that makes so much sense!!

I agree with the TV thing so outdated!!! X

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Pansexuality is the romantic, emotional, and/or sexual attraction to people regardless of their gender. Like everyone else, pansexual people may be attracted to some people and not others, but the gender of the person does not matter. People of any gender identity can and do identify as pansexual.

Yes that’s me

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent


"Hello!

Fellow Pan here! I classed myself as bi for most of my life but would always have to explain that for me, attraction is about a vibe. Then last year I fell in to Pan TikTok and everything suddenly clicked!

I was shocked they didn’t have Pan as an option on here, I don’t like that they have the TV/TS category either as they’re two totally different things.

Cookie (the wife)

Ditto. Didn’t know about pan til this last year or so and I was like yeah that makes so much sense!!

I agree with the TV thing so outdated!!! X"

Incredibly outdated!

I always struggled to try and explain my sexuality, it hasn’t ever really been an issue though as I’ve been with my husband for 18 years and we’re monogamous. When I heard an explanation of Pan, it all made sense!

C x

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've never been totally sure of how I identity in terms of sexuality but pansexual is probably as close as I've come to finding something that fits.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

*waves*

Queer pan sexual here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello!

Fellow Pan here! I classed myself as bi for most of my life but would always have to explain that for me, attraction is about a vibe. Then last year I fell in to Pan TikTok and everything suddenly clicked!

I was shocked they didn’t have Pan as an option on here, I don’t like that they have the TV/TS category either as they’re two totally different things.

Cookie (the wife)

Ditto. Didn’t know about pan til this last year or so and I was like yeah that makes so much sense!!

I agree with the TV thing so outdated!!! X

Incredibly outdated!

I always struggled to try and explain my sexuality, it hasn’t ever really been an issue though as I’ve been with my husband for 18 years and we’re monogamous. When I heard an explanation of Pan, it all made sense!

C x"

Awwwh how lush. I’ve just always known I’m Bi. I’ve been with girls since before I had boyfriends lol. Defo not lesbian I knew I liked men too then I realised there was more to it and that I’m attracted to people/personality/intelligence so defo a sapiosexual too but when trans became more prevalent I was like oooh ok and then heard about pan through friends and thought fuck that’s like me. Plus fox from our trans summer is super hot! Found myself watching trans porn and voila. X

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"*waves*

Queer pan sexual here "

Heyyyy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are. "

They’re not “new” and gender and sexuality and sex are different.

There’s lots of reading out there I can’t be bothered to get into it lol we’d be here for ages.

My thoughts are this. There’s one species and that’s human. The rest is up to you.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home


"To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are.

They’re not “new” and gender and sexuality and sex are different.

There’s lots of reading out there I can’t be bothered to get into it lol we’d be here for ages.

My thoughts are this. There’s one species and that’s human. The rest is up to you.

"

im from a small part of the South West of Ireland Trust me they are new to us coming on here was an eye opener for me

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Pansexual, but probably not panromantic. I do have definite preferences, but at times have been sexually attracted to most genders. Romantic attraction I've only really felt towards the genders at the female end of the spectrum, though never say never.

Sexual or romantic, it's much more to do with the individual than it is the gender of the individual.

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By *hebritukCouple
over a year ago

London

Can’t help thinking you are still not sure? Life is so complicated unless you can associate with a word!

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester


"To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are.

They’re not “new” and gender and sexuality and sex are different.

There’s lots of reading out there I can’t be bothered to get into it lol we’d be here for ages.

My thoughts are this. There’s one species and that’s human. The rest is up to you.

"

I love that last quote... I wish more people thought like this.

I hate the need for labels and tick boxes... just love who you want to love, live how you want to live

Pixie

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are.

They’re not “new” and gender and sexuality and sex are different.

There’s lots of reading out there I can’t be bothered to get into it lol we’d be here for ages.

My thoughts are this. There’s one species and that’s human. The rest is up to you.

I love that last quote... I wish more people thought like this.

I hate the need for labels and tick boxes... just love who you want to love, live how you want to live

Pixie "

That’s exactly how I feel too.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are.

They’re not “new” and gender and sexuality and sex are different.

There’s lots of reading out there I can’t be bothered to get into it lol we’d be here for ages.

My thoughts are this. There’s one species and that’s human. The rest is up to you.

I love that last quote... I wish more people thought like this.

I hate the need for labels and tick boxes... just love who you want to love, live how you want to live

Pixie "

Totally agree with you 100%

Nobody should be judged on their sexuality or gender preferences

We in this world need to accept equality and respect all peoples sexuality

Live and let live

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

In a utopian world its a nice sentiment but don't underestimate how empowering labels are for a lot of people who gradually discover their identity after a lot of confusion and trepidation. A lot of people take comfort in being able to put a name to how they feel.

Whether people choose to use or eschew labels the important thing and the aspiration is we develop a little more respect and celebration of individuality and diversity.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"In a utopian world its a nice sentiment but don't underestimate how empowering labels are for a lot of people who gradually discover their identity after a lot of confusion and trepidation. A lot of people take comfort in being able to put a name to how they feel.

Whether people choose to use or eschew labels the important thing and the aspiration is we develop a little more respect and celebration of individuality and diversity. "

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Snooooooring!

I always get confused...

Am I a pansexual, if I'll have sex with anyone or just a horny slut?

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

Just to add, I don’t class myself as Pan because I can find trans people attractive - trans men and men and trans women are women so that would make me bisexual still. I class myself as Pan because I’m not about gender or sex or identity, I could find any human attractive. It’s hard to explain but I dislike the ‘I’m pan because I fancy trans people’ as that’s crap and equally I hate peoples telling me Pan doesn’t exist and it’s just bi. It is my sexuality and no one should tell me how I identify.

C x

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual "

Yep, seems a bit old school nowadays but agree bi just meant into any sex or gender etc. Seems to be too much labelling of everything these days and people to easily offended... where did all the fun go??

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By *ustyshowoffCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

There are only two gender options male and female and nature dictates that.

Have whatever kink you like but you're male or female

Mark

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Mrs is pansexual. I think it's awesome

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual "

Bi implies Male or Female

Pan covers everything

I consider myself pansexual, but generally attracted to feminine people, whatever they may have in their underwear. But my option here is (fab) straight or bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to add, I don’t class myself as Pan because I can find trans people attractive - trans men and men and trans women are women so that would make me bisexual still. I class myself as Pan because I’m not about gender or sex or identity, I could find any human attractive. It’s hard to explain but I dislike the ‘I’m pan because I fancy trans people’ as that’s crap and equally I hate peoples telling me Pan doesn’t exist and it’s just bi. It is my sexuality and no one should tell me how I identify.

C x"

I like this explanation.

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

I class myself as Pan for ease of explanation or to occasionally tick that box on forms (though the options are usually hetero/bi/gay which I then ignore!)

I find it difficult to answer the what's your sexuality question! In vanilla world I say I'm attracted to everyone, which is usually met with 'bit of a slut then?'

My son is the same, he uses fluid to describe himself. I like that. I wake up with no preconceived sexuality and just allow attraction to come in whatever form it chooses!

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours


"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual

Bi implies Male or Female

Pan covers everything

I consider myself pansexual, but generally attracted to feminine people, whatever they may have in their underwear. But my option here is (fab) straight or bi.

"

The word Bisexual is being replaced with Pansexual. I expect that word will change soon enough to a different label. I like the urban dictionary for this reason. Gotta keep up with the new lingo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual

Bi implies Male or Female

Pan covers everything

I consider myself pansexual, but generally attracted to feminine people, whatever they may have in their underwear. But my option here is (fab) straight or bi.

The word Bisexual is being replaced with Pansexual. I expect that word will change soon enough to a different label. I like the urban dictionary for this reason. Gotta keep up with the new lingo"

But surely bisexual and pansexual are different things. Bi erasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are only two gender options male and female and nature dictates that.

Have whatever kink you like but you're male or female

Mark"

Aww bless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual

Yep, seems a bit old school nowadays but agree bi just meant into any sex or gender etc. Seems to be too much labelling of everything these days and people to easily offended... where did all the fun go?? "

Spot on

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours


"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual

Bi implies Male or Female

Pan covers everything

I consider myself pansexual, but generally attracted to feminine people, whatever they may have in their underwear. But my option here is (fab) straight or bi.

The word Bisexual is being replaced with Pansexual. I expect that word will change soon enough to a different label. I like the urban dictionary for this reason. Gotta keep up with the new lingo

But surely bisexual and pansexual are different things. Bi erasure. "

No not at all. its just another word for the same thing, next year it may change back to Bisexual or something else. I like the fluidity of words and that you can have 5 different ones for the same meaning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual

Bi implies Male or Female

Pan covers everything

I consider myself pansexual, but generally attracted to feminine people, whatever they may have in their underwear. But my option here is (fab) straight or bi.

The word Bisexual is being replaced with Pansexual. I expect that word will change soon enough to a different label. I like the urban dictionary for this reason. Gotta keep up with the new lingo

But surely bisexual and pansexual are different things. Bi erasure.

No not at all. its just another word for the same thing, next year it may change back to Bisexual or something else. I like the fluidity of words and that you can have 5 different ones for the same meaning "

Fair point.

Always learning new sexuality labels.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are only two gender options male and female and nature dictates that.

Have whatever kink you like but you're male or female

Mark"

Christ

I won’t even get into this

What about intersex ?

Non binary?

Etc.

Your point is valid but somewhat misinformed and outdated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m genuinely shocked at the close minded comments here.

Thought this was a site for forward thinking open minded people.

To those awesome people who are being their-self I see you. . No matter how you identify or what you’re attracted to youre awesome and you’re valid and you matter.

A wise person once said. Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. Xx

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I’m genuinely shocked at the close minded comments here.

Thought this was a site for forward thinking open minded people.

To those awesome people who are being their-self I see you. . No matter how you identify or what you’re attracted to youre awesome and you’re valid and you matter.

A wise person once said. Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. Xx"

Exactly this . Which is why I’m just me, no labels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are.

They’re not “new” and gender and sexuality and sex are different.

There’s lots of reading out there I can’t be bothered to get into it lol we’d be here for ages.

My thoughts are this. There’s one species and that’s human. The rest is up to you.

I love that last quote... I wish more people thought like this.

I hate the need for labels and tick boxes... just love who you want to love, live how you want to live

Pixie "

I agree with the last statement too. Just feels right really. I still don't know what pansexual truly means though. I could Google it but I don't want to lose the art of conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Pansexuality is sexual, romantic, or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity. Pansexual people may refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are not determining factors in their romantic or sexual attraction to others.'

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'Demisexual people only feel sexually attracted to someone when they have an emotional bond with the person. They can be gay, straight, bisexual, or pansexual, and may have any gender identity. Demisexual people do not feel primary attraction — the attraction you feel to someone when you first meet them.'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Pansexuality is sexual, romantic, or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity. Pansexual people may refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are not determining factors in their romantic or sexual attraction to others.'

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'Demisexual people only feel sexually attracted to someone when they have an emotional bond with the person. They can be gay, straight, bisexual, or pansexual, and may have any gender identity. Demisexual people do not feel primary attraction — the attraction you feel to someone when you first meet them.'"

Thank you for that, clears it up!

I don't know what I'd label myself as now. I'm quite happy with that though I reckon.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

For me it's person specific

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's person specific"

Thats the best way to be and I think you've just said it how it needs to be said really. In an ideal world like, maybe we're not there yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m genuinely shocked at the close minded comments here.

Thought this was a site for forward thinking open minded people.

To those awesome people who are being their-self I see you. . No matter how you identify or what you’re attracted to youre awesome and you’re valid and you matter.

A wise person once said. Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. Xx"

I'm genuinely shocked that people are considered close minded because they hold a different opinion to others. I like the independent thought on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was having a conversation about pansexual a few days ago. I still wasn't 100% sure what it meant, the explanations on here have helped with that do thank you. I still have no idea what I am, I've always said Bi because it's easier than explaining. I like people, nice people anyway. I'm attracted to their minds, the language they use, the conversations we have and the connection we build. If those people have boobs, great, I like boobs, I also like cock if they happen to have one (not be one) they could have all of those parts, some of different bits on different days, that doesn't particularly phase me as it's not what causes the initial attraction. I fancy people based on how we connect. Although I can be a sucker for a nice bum but that just makes me a perve I've given up finding a label, I'm just a crazy weirdo who most of the time is too anti social to look for and build those connections anyway.

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By *ason962004Man
over a year ago

SHEFFIELD

And me

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By *ason962004Man
over a year ago

SHEFFIELD

And me

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By *byeguysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Paisley

I’m pansexual. If I like the person, the body they’re in doesn’t matter to me. A good personality makes anyone sexy - G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any fellow pan folk here? Fab really need to add that as an option on the sign up stage also more gender options.

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We both are which is quite lucky

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By *iromancergirl1Woman
over a year ago

bolton

I consider myself pansexual as i find the person attractive be that male female or trans and iv played with all of them.

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By *uke DuchessCouple
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Pansexual is just another way of saying Bi-sexual, willing to have sex with a man or woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello!

Fellow Pan here! I classed myself as bi for most of my life but would always have to explain that for me, attraction is about a vibe. Then last year I fell in to Pan TikTok and everything suddenly clicked!

I love your pictures!

I was shocked they didn’t have Pan as an option on here, I don’t like that they have the TV/TS category either as they’re two totally different things.

Cookie (the wife) "

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent


"There are only two gender options male and female and nature dictates that.

Have whatever kink you like but you're male or female

Mark"

I think you’ll find that nature dictates biological sex and even then, there’s more than two. Gender is a social construct and there are a lot of variations. Also, sexuality and gender are separate things and nothing to do with kinks.

C x

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"There are only two gender options male and female and nature dictates that.

Have whatever kink you like but you're male or female

Mark

I think you’ll find that nature dictates biological sex and even then, there’s more than two. Gender is a social construct and there are a lot of variations. Also, sexuality and gender are separate things and nothing to do with kinks.

C x"

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By *ondonChrisMan
over a year ago

London


"Just to add, I don’t class myself as Pan because I can find trans people attractive - trans men and men and trans women are women so that would make me bisexual still. I class myself as Pan because I’m not about gender or sex or identity, I could find any human attractive. It’s hard to explain but I dislike the ‘I’m pan because I fancy trans people’ as that’s crap and equally I hate peoples telling me Pan doesn’t exist and it’s just bi. It is my sexuality and no one should tell me how I identify.

C x"

I really like this. I've tended to think of pansexual as being explicitly more accepting of trans people, but that may actually be becoming something of an old-fashioned distinction.

Talking of old-fashioned, it's why TV/TS is still such a thing on here - a lot of it is still running on an old model, when I think it was actually somewhat progressive.

It's only recently I've begun to realise I'm more bi/pan-curious than I thought for a long time. I'm finding this conversation really interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just me then? "

Explain OP you sound hella crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are only two gender options male and female and nature dictates that.

Have whatever kink you like but you're male or female

Mark

I think you’ll find that nature dictates biological sex and even then, there’s more than two. Gender is a social construct and there are a lot of variations. Also, sexuality and gender are separate things and nothing to do with kinks.

C x"

True , even tho gender yes is a social construct, there have been plenty of studies from very notorious universities around the world with well known professors that studied gender dysphoria and trans people, and there is such a thing as a trans brain (brain doesn’t fully masculinise or feminise at the end of the process, in the womb), which aligns a lot more with the gender someone feels they belong. (So a trans woman has a brain more aligned/similar to a cis woman)

Which explains why someone might feel and perceive things a certain way.

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Not really sure of the difference between bi sexual and pan sexual, so many labels now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll be truthfully honest , I don’t really know what that is , sorry .. welcome to an explanation please

No preference to biological sex I.e man woman trans etc "

So you mean bisexual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t exactly know what to say I am I have some very odd dynamics when it comes to that like

For woman sex and dateing are open

For men only sex for now I think not meet a guy I would date sorry that’s not a knock on guys just how I am

For other tv/ts mostly just friendship but there has been a couple on here that have cought my eye to push the envelope more with them

So really wouldn’t know what to class my self as

You can be bi or pan romantic. Or bisexual but Aromantic or you can be bisexual but heteromantic there’s so many to choose. These days sexuality and gender are becoming very much separate and I’m ok with that.

You do you hon xx"

BOLLOX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t exactly know what to say I am I have some very odd dynamics when it comes to that like

For woman sex and dateing are open

For men only sex for now I think not meet a guy I would date sorry that’s not a knock on guys just how I am

For other tv/ts mostly just friendship but there has been a couple on here that have cought my eye to push the envelope more with them

So really wouldn’t know what to class my self as

You can be bi or pan romantic. Or bisexual but Aromantic or you can be bisexual but heteromantic there’s so many to choose. These days sexuality and gender are becoming very much separate and I’m ok with that.

You do you hon xx

BOLLOX"

What are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Pansexuality is sexual, romantic, or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity. Pansexual people may refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are not determining factors in their romantic or sexual attraction to others.'

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'Demisexual people only feel sexually attracted to someone when they have an emotional bond with the person. They can be gay, straight, bisexual, or pansexual, and may have any gender identity. Demisexual people do not feel primary attraction — the attraction you feel to someone when you first meet them.'"

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I think many people see them having aspects of pansexuality or at least seeing gender as not a driving force but still having a leaning. Sexuality boxes are useful for people to filter their searches. But they are also a problem because its hard to fix Sexuality into boxes for many. Some people may be in a situation where they generally fall into a box but find with the right people/moment falling into another box but most of time would feel labeling them self into that other box disingenuous. As much as it would be nice to get rid of boxes they do help people search. It's a shame there not a way to reflect people's Sexuality on a spectrum rather than a box.

I dont think for example there is a box for me. I simply fancy who I fancy and that attraction is mainly based on the person rather than how they look. Gender isn't a driving issue for me. However sexual organs are important to me. I have absolutely no attraction to male genitalia what so ever, its a real turn off. So that puts me in a difficult position were for me anyone with male parts would be a no go for me. So straight seems the most accurate category but I could for example easily fall for a non-binary person with female genitalia. And likewise I couldn't be with a woman who still had male genitalia. So if I can fancy people of all genders but only with female genitalia do I really qualify as straight? However I have no intrest in dicks so I wouldn't say bi describes me either. And to be fair I'm not bothered by label's, I do my thing and the only person I have to answer to is me.

Sexuality is so diverse and beautiful but also a minefield. But one thing I know from my time on the scene is rarely people fit into little boxes.

Mr

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Pansexuality is the romantic, emotional, and/or sexual attraction to people regardless of their gender. Like everyone else, pansexual people may be attracted to some people and not others, but the gender of the person does not matter. People of any gender identity can and do identify as pansexual.

Yes that’s me "

Me to. Ms

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By *aked_magicMan
over a year ago

the gutter looking at the stars (UAE)

I think the site does need to move with the times and should definitely offer more options for those who don't fit in the limited choices currently.

Im not one for getting hung up on labels but would love the option to have pansexual on my profile as it's definitely a lot more accurate than saying im bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll be truthfully honest , I don’t really know what that is , sorry .. welcome to an explanation please

No preference to biological sex I.e man woman trans etc "

Radiator

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