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"Just me then? " *sad trombone* Im here so youre not alone | |||
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"I’ll be truthfully honest , I don’t really know what that is , sorry .. welcome to an explanation please " No preference to biological sex I.e man woman trans etc | |||
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"I’ll be truthfully honest , I don’t really know what that is , sorry .. welcome to an explanation please No preference to biological sex I.e man woman trans etc " Thanks for the explanation | |||
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"Just me then? *sad trombone* Im here so youre not alone " Ahhh I knew you’d be there with me you little box of surprises you x | |||
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"I’ll be truthfully honest , I don’t really know what that is , sorry .. welcome to an explanation please No preference to biological sex I.e man woman trans etc Thanks for the explanation " No worries buddy | |||
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"Wouldn’t exactly know what to say I am I have some very odd dynamics when it comes to that like For woman sex and dateing are open For men only sex for now I think not meet a guy I would date sorry that’s not a knock on guys just how I am For other tv/ts mostly just friendship but there has been a couple on here that have cought my eye to push the envelope more with them So really wouldn’t know what to class my self as " You can be bi or pan romantic. Or bisexual but Aromantic or you can be bisexual but heteromantic there’s so many to choose. These days sexuality and gender are becoming very much separate and I’m ok with that. You do you hon xx | |||
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"Never really considered it. I’ve no issue meeting anybody, regardless of how that person chooses to identify. I’m not that fussed about the tick boxes. I can tell people via my profile text if somethings missing. " I would say that Might make you lean towards pan x | |||
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"Wouldn’t exactly know what to say I am I have some very odd dynamics when it comes to that like For woman sex and dateing are open For men only sex for now I think not meet a guy I would date sorry that’s not a knock on guys just how I am For other tv/ts mostly just friendship but there has been a couple on here that have cought my eye to push the envelope more with them So really wouldn’t know what to class my self as You can be bi or pan romantic. Or bisexual but Aromantic or you can be bisexual but heteromantic there’s so many to choose. These days sexuality and gender are becoming very much separate and I’m ok with that. You do you hon xx" They definitely are that and yes there is so much it can be all a bit confusing at times And awww thank you so much I will do xxx | |||
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"Hello! Fellow Pan here! I classed myself as bi for most of my life but would always have to explain that for me, attraction is about a vibe. Then last year I fell in to Pan TikTok and everything suddenly clicked! I was shocked they didn’t have Pan as an option on here, I don’t like that they have the TV/TS category either as they’re two totally different things. Cookie (the wife) " Ditto. Didn’t know about pan til this last year or so and I was like yeah that makes so much sense!! I agree with the TV thing so outdated!!! X | |||
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"Hello! Fellow Pan here! I classed myself as bi for most of my life but would always have to explain that for me, attraction is about a vibe. Then last year I fell in to Pan TikTok and everything suddenly clicked! I was shocked they didn’t have Pan as an option on here, I don’t like that they have the TV/TS category either as they’re two totally different things. Cookie (the wife) Ditto. Didn’t know about pan til this last year or so and I was like yeah that makes so much sense!! I agree with the TV thing so outdated!!! X" Incredibly outdated! I always struggled to try and explain my sexuality, it hasn’t ever really been an issue though as I’ve been with my husband for 18 years and we’re monogamous. When I heard an explanation of Pan, it all made sense! C x | |||
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"Hello! Fellow Pan here! I classed myself as bi for most of my life but would always have to explain that for me, attraction is about a vibe. Then last year I fell in to Pan TikTok and everything suddenly clicked! I was shocked they didn’t have Pan as an option on here, I don’t like that they have the TV/TS category either as they’re two totally different things. Cookie (the wife) Ditto. Didn’t know about pan til this last year or so and I was like yeah that makes so much sense!! I agree with the TV thing so outdated!!! X Incredibly outdated! I always struggled to try and explain my sexuality, it hasn’t ever really been an issue though as I’ve been with my husband for 18 years and we’re monogamous. When I heard an explanation of Pan, it all made sense! C x" Awwwh how lush. I’ve just always known I’m Bi. I’ve been with girls since before I had boyfriends lol. Defo not lesbian I knew I liked men too then I realised there was more to it and that I’m attracted to people/personality/intelligence so defo a sapiosexual too but when trans became more prevalent I was like oooh ok and then heard about pan through friends and thought fuck that’s like me. Plus fox from our trans summer is super hot! Found myself watching trans porn and voila. X | |||
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"To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are. " They’re not “new” and gender and sexuality and sex are different. There’s lots of reading out there I can’t be bothered to get into it lol we’d be here for ages. My thoughts are this. There’s one species and that’s human. The rest is up to you. | |||
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"To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are. They’re not “new” and gender and sexuality and sex are different. There’s lots of reading out there I can’t be bothered to get into it lol we’d be here for ages. My thoughts are this. There’s one species and that’s human. The rest is up to you. " im from a small part of the South West of Ireland Trust me they are new to us coming on here was an eye opener for me | |||
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"To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are. They’re not “new” and gender and sexuality and sex are different. There’s lots of reading out there I can’t be bothered to get into it lol we’d be here for ages. My thoughts are this. There’s one species and that’s human. The rest is up to you. " I love that last quote... I wish more people thought like this. I hate the need for labels and tick boxes... just love who you want to love, live how you want to live Pixie | |||
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"To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are. They’re not “new” and gender and sexuality and sex are different. There’s lots of reading out there I can’t be bothered to get into it lol we’d be here for ages. My thoughts are this. There’s one species and that’s human. The rest is up to you. I love that last quote... I wish more people thought like this. I hate the need for labels and tick boxes... just love who you want to love, live how you want to live Pixie " That’s exactly how I feel too. X | |||
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"To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are. They’re not “new” and gender and sexuality and sex are different. There’s lots of reading out there I can’t be bothered to get into it lol we’d be here for ages. My thoughts are this. There’s one species and that’s human. The rest is up to you. I love that last quote... I wish more people thought like this. I hate the need for labels and tick boxes... just love who you want to love, live how you want to live Pixie " Totally agree with you 100% Nobody should be judged on their sexuality or gender preferences We in this world need to accept equality and respect all peoples sexuality Live and let live | |||
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"In a utopian world its a nice sentiment but don't underestimate how empowering labels are for a lot of people who gradually discover their identity after a lot of confusion and trepidation. A lot of people take comfort in being able to put a name to how they feel. Whether people choose to use or eschew labels the important thing and the aspiration is we develop a little more respect and celebration of individuality and diversity. " | |||
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"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual " Yep, seems a bit old school nowadays but agree bi just meant into any sex or gender etc. Seems to be too much labelling of everything these days and people to easily offended... where did all the fun go?? | |||
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"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual " Bi implies Male or Female Pan covers everything I consider myself pansexual, but generally attracted to feminine people, whatever they may have in their underwear. But my option here is (fab) straight or bi. | |||
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"Just to add, I don’t class myself as Pan because I can find trans people attractive - trans men and men and trans women are women so that would make me bisexual still. I class myself as Pan because I’m not about gender or sex or identity, I could find any human attractive. It’s hard to explain but I dislike the ‘I’m pan because I fancy trans people’ as that’s crap and equally I hate peoples telling me Pan doesn’t exist and it’s just bi. It is my sexuality and no one should tell me how I identify. C x" I like this explanation. | |||
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"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual Bi implies Male or Female Pan covers everything I consider myself pansexual, but generally attracted to feminine people, whatever they may have in their underwear. But my option here is (fab) straight or bi. " The word Bisexual is being replaced with Pansexual. I expect that word will change soon enough to a different label. I like the urban dictionary for this reason. Gotta keep up with the new lingo | |||
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"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual Bi implies Male or Female Pan covers everything I consider myself pansexual, but generally attracted to feminine people, whatever they may have in their underwear. But my option here is (fab) straight or bi. The word Bisexual is being replaced with Pansexual. I expect that word will change soon enough to a different label. I like the urban dictionary for this reason. Gotta keep up with the new lingo" But surely bisexual and pansexual are different things. Bi erasure. | |||
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"There are only two gender options male and female and nature dictates that. Have whatever kink you like but you're male or female Mark" Aww bless. | |||
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"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual Yep, seems a bit old school nowadays but agree bi just meant into any sex or gender etc. Seems to be too much labelling of everything these days and people to easily offended... where did all the fun go?? " Spot on | |||
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"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual Bi implies Male or Female Pan covers everything I consider myself pansexual, but generally attracted to feminine people, whatever they may have in their underwear. But my option here is (fab) straight or bi. The word Bisexual is being replaced with Pansexual. I expect that word will change soon enough to a different label. I like the urban dictionary for this reason. Gotta keep up with the new lingo But surely bisexual and pansexual are different things. Bi erasure. " No not at all. its just another word for the same thing, next year it may change back to Bisexual or something else. I like the fluidity of words and that you can have 5 different ones for the same meaning | |||
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"Oxford dictionary definition of pansexual is "Not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity." In other words, what used to be called bisexual Bi implies Male or Female Pan covers everything I consider myself pansexual, but generally attracted to feminine people, whatever they may have in their underwear. But my option here is (fab) straight or bi. The word Bisexual is being replaced with Pansexual. I expect that word will change soon enough to a different label. I like the urban dictionary for this reason. Gotta keep up with the new lingo But surely bisexual and pansexual are different things. Bi erasure. No not at all. its just another word for the same thing, next year it may change back to Bisexual or something else. I like the fluidity of words and that you can have 5 different ones for the same meaning " Fair point. Always learning new sexuality labels. | |||
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"There are only two gender options male and female and nature dictates that. Have whatever kink you like but you're male or female Mark" Christ I won’t even get into this What about intersex ? Non binary? Etc. Your point is valid but somewhat misinformed and outdated. | |||
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"I’m genuinely shocked at the close minded comments here. Thought this was a site for forward thinking open minded people. To those awesome people who are being their-self I see you. . No matter how you identify or what you’re attracted to youre awesome and you’re valid and you matter. A wise person once said. Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. Xx" Exactly this . Which is why I’m just me, no labels. | |||
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"To be honest I don't have a clue what all these new genders are. They’re not “new” and gender and sexuality and sex are different. There’s lots of reading out there I can’t be bothered to get into it lol we’d be here for ages. My thoughts are this. There’s one species and that’s human. The rest is up to you. I love that last quote... I wish more people thought like this. I hate the need for labels and tick boxes... just love who you want to love, live how you want to live Pixie " I agree with the last statement too. Just feels right really. I still don't know what pansexual truly means though. I could Google it but I don't want to lose the art of conversation. | |||
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"'Pansexuality is sexual, romantic, or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity. Pansexual people may refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are not determining factors in their romantic or sexual attraction to others.' . 'Demisexual people only feel sexually attracted to someone when they have an emotional bond with the person. They can be gay, straight, bisexual, or pansexual, and may have any gender identity. Demisexual people do not feel primary attraction — the attraction you feel to someone when you first meet them.'" Thank you for that, clears it up! I don't know what I'd label myself as now. I'm quite happy with that though I reckon. | |||
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"For me it's person specific" Thats the best way to be and I think you've just said it how it needs to be said really. In an ideal world like, maybe we're not there yet. | |||
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"I’m genuinely shocked at the close minded comments here. Thought this was a site for forward thinking open minded people. To those awesome people who are being their-self I see you. . No matter how you identify or what you’re attracted to youre awesome and you’re valid and you matter. A wise person once said. Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. Xx" I'm genuinely shocked that people are considered close minded because they hold a different opinion to others. I like the independent thought on this site. | |||
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"Any fellow pan folk here? Fab really need to add that as an option on the sign up stage also more gender options. " We both are which is quite lucky | |||
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"Hello! Fellow Pan here! I classed myself as bi for most of my life but would always have to explain that for me, attraction is about a vibe. Then last year I fell in to Pan TikTok and everything suddenly clicked! I love your pictures! I was shocked they didn’t have Pan as an option on here, I don’t like that they have the TV/TS category either as they’re two totally different things. Cookie (the wife) " | |||
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"There are only two gender options male and female and nature dictates that. Have whatever kink you like but you're male or female Mark" I think you’ll find that nature dictates biological sex and even then, there’s more than two. Gender is a social construct and there are a lot of variations. Also, sexuality and gender are separate things and nothing to do with kinks. C x | |||
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"There are only two gender options male and female and nature dictates that. Have whatever kink you like but you're male or female Mark I think you’ll find that nature dictates biological sex and even then, there’s more than two. Gender is a social construct and there are a lot of variations. Also, sexuality and gender are separate things and nothing to do with kinks. C x" | |||
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"Just to add, I don’t class myself as Pan because I can find trans people attractive - trans men and men and trans women are women so that would make me bisexual still. I class myself as Pan because I’m not about gender or sex or identity, I could find any human attractive. It’s hard to explain but I dislike the ‘I’m pan because I fancy trans people’ as that’s crap and equally I hate peoples telling me Pan doesn’t exist and it’s just bi. It is my sexuality and no one should tell me how I identify. C x" I really like this. I've tended to think of pansexual as being explicitly more accepting of trans people, but that may actually be becoming something of an old-fashioned distinction. Talking of old-fashioned, it's why TV/TS is still such a thing on here - a lot of it is still running on an old model, when I think it was actually somewhat progressive. It's only recently I've begun to realise I'm more bi/pan-curious than I thought for a long time. I'm finding this conversation really interesting. | |||
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"There are only two gender options male and female and nature dictates that. Have whatever kink you like but you're male or female Mark I think you’ll find that nature dictates biological sex and even then, there’s more than two. Gender is a social construct and there are a lot of variations. Also, sexuality and gender are separate things and nothing to do with kinks. C x" True , even tho gender yes is a social construct, there have been plenty of studies from very notorious universities around the world with well known professors that studied gender dysphoria and trans people, and there is such a thing as a trans brain (brain doesn’t fully masculinise or feminise at the end of the process, in the womb), which aligns a lot more with the gender someone feels they belong. (So a trans woman has a brain more aligned/similar to a cis woman) Which explains why someone might feel and perceive things a certain way. | |||
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"I’ll be truthfully honest , I don’t really know what that is , sorry .. welcome to an explanation please No preference to biological sex I.e man woman trans etc " So you mean bisexual | |||
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"Wouldn’t exactly know what to say I am I have some very odd dynamics when it comes to that like For woman sex and dateing are open For men only sex for now I think not meet a guy I would date sorry that’s not a knock on guys just how I am For other tv/ts mostly just friendship but there has been a couple on here that have cought my eye to push the envelope more with them So really wouldn’t know what to class my self as You can be bi or pan romantic. Or bisexual but Aromantic or you can be bisexual but heteromantic there’s so many to choose. These days sexuality and gender are becoming very much separate and I’m ok with that. You do you hon xx" BOLLOX | |||
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"Wouldn’t exactly know what to say I am I have some very odd dynamics when it comes to that like For woman sex and dateing are open For men only sex for now I think not meet a guy I would date sorry that’s not a knock on guys just how I am For other tv/ts mostly just friendship but there has been a couple on here that have cought my eye to push the envelope more with them So really wouldn’t know what to class my self as You can be bi or pan romantic. Or bisexual but Aromantic or you can be bisexual but heteromantic there’s so many to choose. These days sexuality and gender are becoming very much separate and I’m ok with that. You do you hon xx BOLLOX" What are you? | |||
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"'Pansexuality is sexual, romantic, or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity. Pansexual people may refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are not determining factors in their romantic or sexual attraction to others.' . 'Demisexual people only feel sexually attracted to someone when they have an emotional bond with the person. They can be gay, straight, bisexual, or pansexual, and may have any gender identity. Demisexual people do not feel primary attraction — the attraction you feel to someone when you first meet them.'" . | |||
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"Pansexuality is the romantic, emotional, and/or sexual attraction to people regardless of their gender. Like everyone else, pansexual people may be attracted to some people and not others, but the gender of the person does not matter. People of any gender identity can and do identify as pansexual. Yes that’s me " Me to. Ms | |||
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"I’ll be truthfully honest , I don’t really know what that is , sorry .. welcome to an explanation please No preference to biological sex I.e man woman trans etc " Radiator | |||
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