FabSwingers.com forum: Reasons women don’t reply…

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies, let’s hear once again, why don’t you reply to messages…..

For me, crude, rude, objectifying messages are not replied to.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

I don't actually understand what the hell they are going on about, so just don't answer rather than reply, ehh??

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By *olly SwallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

Sexville

Generally if they have made no attempt to approach me politely, with some thought about what might grab my attention or don’t meet my requirements x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont reply because I'm lazy

I check the profile when I get a message. If I dont like the profile, I dont respond. Most of the time I dont even read the message.

I dont bother with polite "no thanks" because it opens a dialogue that I dont want to get into

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies, let’s hear once again, why don’t you reply to messages…..

For me, crude, rude, objectifying messages are not replied to."

But I was said you have nice boobs

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

Because of the sheer volume of messages we get, I don’t reply to anyone who doesn’t fit our preferences. Aside from that, if your profile is full of dick pics, private profile, no photos at all, rubbish bio or you mention things we aren’t in to then we won’t reply. If you send a message with dick pics, a one liner, aim your message just at me (the wife) and ignore my husband, speak in a way we find disrespectful to either or both of us, if you jump the gun or make assumptions or come across rude then we will not reply.

We are super picky!

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies, let’s hear once again, why don’t you reply to messages…..

For me, crude, rude, objectifying messages are not replied to."

I got a bit fed up of these messages, so blocked men from messaging.

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere

Just here for research purposes.

Carry on as normal

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

No profile pic … poor profile … or profile pic that’s a dick pic

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By *il sub princessWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

I probably reply more than most, usually a 'Thanks' then I'll ignore anything after that if I'm not interested in conversation

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By *eachcplCouple
over a year ago

blackpool/preston/normandy france

Text speak means instant delete. One and two word messages get the same as do guys who clearly have not read any of the profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because of the sheer volume of messages we get, I don’t reply to anyone who doesn’t fit our preferences. Aside from that, if your profile is full of dick pics, private profile, no photos at all, rubbish bio or you mention things we aren’t in to then we won’t reply. If you send a message with dick pics, a one liner, aim your message just at me (the wife) and ignore my husband, speak in a way we find disrespectful to either or both of us, if you jump the gun or make assumptions or come across rude then we will not reply.

We are super picky!

C x"

That isn’t picky at all, that’s expecting respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes just can't be botherd to get into a conversation

if no photos on profile or practically blank profile

if dick pics are sent straight away

one word messages

iam sure there are other reasons but can't think this early in the morning

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

If the profile is not compatible with me I simply delete.

Too many take advantage of my polite no thank you reply to try and force a conversation so I stopped replying.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Ladies, let’s hear once again, why don’t you reply to messages…..

For me, crude, rude, objectifying messages are not replied to."

Don’t forget presumptuous .. … they assume you will meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another too lazy one... Or should I say I just don't have time to go through them all.

The profile pic or preview of the message do really have to grab my attention but I'll check out the profile before I open it and if its not what I'm looking for I just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When rude obviously not read profile, have been polite previously but can open door to more rudeness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they message with a long list of what they want to do to me. If you can't be fucked to clean your lavvie before a pic pal, I very much doubt you're going to show me the time of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's rare i reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ladies, let’s hear once again, why don’t you reply to messages…..

For me, crude, rude, objectifying messages are not replied to.

Don’t forget presumptuous .. … they assume you will meet them "

Ohh yes!

Will also add, if someone double dares me to reply, I’m definitely not going to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they message with a long list of what they want to do to me. If you can't be fucked to clean your lavvie before a pic pal, I very much doubt you're going to show me the time of my life. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they message with a long list of what they want to do to me. If you can't be fucked to clean your lavvie before a pic pal, I very much doubt you're going to show me the time of my life. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When they message with a long list of what they want to do to me. If you can't be fucked to clean your lavvie before a pic pal, I very much doubt you're going to show me the time of my life. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on ladies... this is so annoying...I've sent 100s msgs bearly any gets any reply...even msgs with a compliments bearly gets a thank you back... somethings gotta be changed as this can put us down

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Usually if the profile is blank I won't reply especially when no public pics cos they have cheated to get past my filters.

Otherwise just the usual not reading my profile or faf messages.

I don't get a lot of messages so I do tend to reply to most okay ones even if it's to say no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The messages which treat me as an object or a sex worker. (Or both).

Three men messaged to tell me I must have got spunk in my eyes because I have conjunctivitis. I've lost count of the ones who messaged to say "fab tits" this week. They're not opening messages I will bother to reply to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Come on ladies... this is so annoying...I've sent 100s msgs bearly any gets any reply...even msgs with a compliments bearly gets a thank you back... somethings gotta be changed as this can put us down"

So if a woman gets fifty messages a day with a compliment she has to reply to each one with a lengthy message? The world doesn't owe you a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The messages which treat me as an object or a sex worker. (Or both).

Why not use your filters to stop men messaging you and do your own searching...once your eye infection clears up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The messages which treat me as an object or a sex worker. (Or both).

Why not use your filters to stop men messaging you and do your own searching...once your eye infection clears up "

Because I don't want to. I do it periodically but I prefer to keep messages open. My choice. (And not searching or meeting anyway).

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Laziness or not having the spoons to maintain a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100 messages over how long?

I had 183 messages in 18 hrs and replied to them all. Took over an hour to read then reply. More kept coming in.

So now I don't fuck men I just reply to messages. And they complain I don't fuck.

I do agree it can feel really shit to get no reply at all. I can see both sides.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

We have to change to cater to you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Laziness or not having the spoons to maintain a conversation "

Love the spoons analogy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

100 messages over how long?

I had 183 messages in 18 hrs and replied to them all. Took over an hour to read then reply. More kept coming in.

So now I don't fuck men I just reply to messages. And they complain I don't fuck.

I do agree it can feel really shit to get no reply at all. I can see both sides.

I think most of us can see both sides, but honestly, you know the absolute shit some of us receive in our inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if a woman gets fifty messages a day with a compliment she has to reply to each one with a lengthy message? The world doesn't owe you a shag. "

Yes, yes they do. And send cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100 messages over how long?

I had 183 messages in 18 hrs and replied to them all. Took over an hour to read then reply. More kept coming in.

So now I don't fuck men I just reply to messages. And they complain I don't fuck.

I do agree it can feel really shit to get no reply at all. I can see both sides.

I think most of us can see both sides, but honestly, you know the absolute shit some of us receive in our inbox

Yep

It actually pisses me off when some men say that the crappy men don't ruin it for the rest. Yes they do! Some women are saying they give up replying or even stop meeting due to the crappy men messages.

But the men keep mansplaining.....

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

100 messages over how long?

I had 183 messages in 18 hrs and replied to them all. Took over an hour to read then reply. More kept coming in.

So now I don't fuck men I just reply to messages. And they complain I don't fuck.

I do agree it can feel really shit to get no reply at all. I can see both sides.

I think most of us can see both sides, but honestly, you know the absolute shit some of us receive in our inbox

Yep

But the men keep mansplaining..... "

Yesterday I had a straight man mansplain two women having sex to me, a bisexual woman

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

On the very rare occasion I don’t reply to a message it’s because I can’t be arsed.

I’ve had a long day in work, I’ve come home and fed the dogs, fed the cat, made a cuppa for my mum, done the school pick up (x2) and then I log in to read the forums whilst I relax for 5.

Meanwhile, Big Dick Dave from Dagenham is insistently keen to show me that if I met him now I could be squirting all over the ceiling.

For the love of god Dave, I just want to drink my tea, look at cock pics and chat shit on the forums!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

100 messages over how long?

I had 183 messages in 18 hrs and replied to them all. Took over an hour to read then reply. More kept coming in.

So now I don't fuck men I just reply to messages. And they complain I don't fuck.

I do agree it can feel really shit to get no reply at all. I can see both sides.

I think most of us can see both sides, but honestly, you know the absolute shit some of us receive in our inbox

Yep

But the men keep mansplaining..... "

100%! It’s pretty much put me off men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

100 messages over how long?

I had 183 messages in 18 hrs and replied to them all. Took over an hour to read then reply. More kept coming in.

So now I don't fuck men I just reply to messages. And they complain I don't fuck.

I do agree it can feel really shit to get no reply at all. I can see both sides.

I think most of us can see both sides, but honestly, you know the absolute shit some of us receive in our inbox

Yep

But the men keep mansplaining.....

Yesterday I had a straight man mansplain two women having sex to me, a bisexual woman

. "

What the fucking fuck?! I despair :'-(

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100 messages over how long?

I had 183 messages in 18 hrs and replied to them all. Took over an hour to read then reply. More kept coming in.

So now I don't fuck men I just reply to messages. And they complain I don't fuck.

I do agree it can feel really shit to get no reply at all. I can see both sides.

I think most of us can see both sides, but honestly, you know the absolute shit some of us receive in our inbox

Yep

But the men keep mansplaining.....

Yesterday I had a straight man mansplain two women having sex to me, a bisexual woman

. "

I hope you learned something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On the very rare occasion I don’t reply to a message it’s because I can’t be arsed.

I’ve had a long day in work, I’ve come home and fed the dogs, fed the cat, made a cuppa for my mum, done the school pick up (x2) and then I log in to read the forums whilst I relax for 5.

Meanwhile, Big Dick Dave from Dagenham is insistently keen to show me that if I met him now I could be squirting all over the ceiling.

For the love of god Dave, I just want to drink my tea, look at cock pics and chat shit on the forums!"

I shouldn’t laugh, I mean, I did, but also :'-(

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We have, what we like to think is, a detailed profile and an extensive collection of pics, none of which are graphic.

To then get a message complimenting us on our profile and pics and they’ve just attached dick pics or just have dick pics on their profile really makes us cringe

Straight in the bin with you

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Lots of reasons. Lack of headspace to engage properly so waiting for a better time, can't think of anything witty to say, they're not the person I want to be messaging... that being said, bar forum games I do tend to have some semblance of filters up. I don't really moan about the messages - I get why they would, young, big boobs. Can't blame them for listening to their little brain.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The funniest one, was the man who messaged telling me he enjoyed reading my bio.

My bio is literally ….

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Rude, crude and solitary Hi and Hello , everything else gets a “no thank you”.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

100 messages over how long?

I had 183 messages in 18 hrs and replied to them all. Took over an hour to read then reply. More kept coming in.

So now I don't fuck men I just reply to messages. And they complain I don't fuck.

I do agree it can feel really shit to get no reply at all. I can see both sides.

I think most of us can see both sides, but honestly, you know the absolute shit some of us receive in our inbox

Yep

But the men keep mansplaining.....

Yesterday I had a straight man mansplain two women having sex to me, a bisexual woman

I hope you learned something.

I'd been doing it all wrong

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"The funniest one, was the man who messaged telling me he enjoyed reading my bio.

My bio is literally …."

Oh yes this

Literally this morning

There’s also the copy and pasted stating someone else’s name like “Hi Lorna” or “Hello to you both”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad they don't reply to me

Don't think I would know what to do if they did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the very rare occasion I don’t reply to a message it’s because I can’t be arsed.

I’ve had a long day in work, I’ve come home and fed the dogs, fed the cat, made a cuppa for my mum, done the school pick up (x2) and then I log in to read the forums whilst I relax for 5.

Meanwhile, Big Dick Dave from Dagenham is insistently keen to show me that if I met him now I could be squirting all over the ceiling.

For the love of god Dave, I just want to drink my tea, look at cock pics and chat shit on the forums!"

All I can think is how much of a pain it would be cleaning the ceiling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if a woman gets fifty messages a day with a compliment she has to reply to each one with a lengthy message? The world doesn't owe you a shag.

Yes, yes they do. And send cake

You can send ME the

, cheers

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By *sm01Man
over a year ago

wisbech

You woman only want lesbian friends you don't want has guys do you

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By *uby StarCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I receive quite a few messages from profiles that have a black silhouette, no public pictures and one line on their profile.

If they can't put any effort into their profile then why should I spend my time replying.

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By *uby StarCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"You woman only want lesbian friends you don't want has guys do you"

. I do hope your comment was sarcasm, for your own benefit.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Because my profile is hidden so that I won't get messages. So when I do get messages I think .............hmmmmm a forum lurker ... and don't reply.

I do reply if I have seen them on the forum and it's about forum business but for chats/meets....... no reply.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"I receive quite a few messages from profiles that have a black silhouette, no public pictures and one line on their profile.

If they can't put any effort into their profile then why should I spend my time replying."

Because it could turn out to be the best meet you ever had.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You woman only want lesbian friends you don't want has guys do you"

Yes, all the women on here are lesbians.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You woman only want lesbian friends you don't want has guys do you

Yes, all the women on here are lesbians. "

Fab has turned me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You woman only want lesbian friends you don't want has guys do you

Yes, all the women on here are lesbians.

Fab has turned me

Me too

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere

"You woman only want lesbian friends you don't want has guys do you

Yes, all the women on here are lesbians.

Fab has turned me

Me too

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

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By *uby StarCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"I receive quite a few messages from profiles that have a black silhouette, no public pictures and one line on their profile.

If they can't put any effort into their profile then why should I spend my time replying.

Because it could turn out to be the best meet you ever had. "

Could be, but I would rather make an effort with people who make an effort for themselves. This process has worked for me for years so I'm sticking with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You woman only want lesbian friends you don't want has guys do you

Yes, all the women on here are lesbians.

Fab has turned me

Me too

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo"

Its ok. I mean, you can probs watch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I receive quite a few messages from profiles that have a black silhouette, no public pictures and one line on their profile.

If they can't put any effort into their profile then why should I spend my time replying.

Because it could turn out to be the best meet you ever had. "

Seriously? We should consider and follow up every crappy message and profile? Lol.

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere

"You woman only want lesbian friends you don't want has guys do you

Yes, all the women on here are lesbians.

Fab has turned me

Me too

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Its ok. I mean, you can probs watch?

Ok I’m back in

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"I receive quite a few messages from profiles that have a black silhouette, no public pictures and one line on their profile.

If they can't put any effort into their profile then why should I spend my time replying.

Because it could turn out to be the best meet you ever had.

Could be, but I would rather make an effort with people who make an effort for themselves. This process has worked for me for years so I'm sticking with it."

Good. I admire resolve

which is one reason I don't have a pic and insist on sticking to my tried n tested method.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You woman only want lesbian friends you don't want has guys do you

Yes, all the women on here are lesbians.

Fab has turned me

Me too

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Its ok. I mean, you can probs watch?

Ok I’m back in

It’ll be hard, but you’ll cope

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

To all the ladies above ..

Faf Innit Bruv ?

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By *uby StarCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"To all the ladies above ..

Faf Innit Bruv ?

Ohhhh that's made me instantly wet!!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"To all the ladies above ..

Faf Innit Bruv ?

Ohhhh that's made me instantly wet!!"

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere

"You woman only want lesbian friends you don't want has guys do you

Yes, all the women on here are lesbians.

Fab has turned me

Me too

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Its ok. I mean, you can probs watch?

Ok I’m back in

It’ll be hard, but you’ll cope

I see what you did there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You woman only want lesbian friends you don't want has guys do you

Yes, all the women on here are lesbians.

Fab has turned me

Me too

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Its ok. I mean, you can probs watch?

Ok I’m back in

It’ll be hard, but you’ll cope

I see what you did there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crude first messages.

Story first messages of how it's going to go.

When they obviously haven't read my profile and are hairless or shorter than me.

I also always look at a person's profile before looking at the message . If its crap or has loads of pictures of him hanging out of loads of women bb then I won't even bother to read it.

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By *agicM53XMan
over a year ago

Orpington

On the rare occasion I do send the first message, the reply comes weeks or sometimes months after...and it usually says " Sorry I get so many messages, I totally missed yours "...even though that's not a rejection, it still feels like one initially, and I don't want to feel rejected or unwanted anymore

I made a conscious decision not to send the first message...I just focus on me and my profile, and if I fit a woman’s criteria, they can message me ... it seems to be working

I wish more men on fab would take this approach...it would balance things out a bit

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I don’t reply because I’m a fake and a time waster and not even that attractive anyway.

I mostly reply. I don’t if they say they enjoyed reading my profile and think they’re a good match.

My bio isn’t a bio.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Lack lustre profiles with bios that read ‘fill this in later’ or claims to be a heavy cummer, multiple pics of them hanging out of multiple woman or zero pics at all

Assumptive messages that think you just sit at home waiting for the next dick to arrive - messages like ‘I’ll just come over now’ ‘you free now’ etc etc

Or the ones that paint some sort of elaborate story about what they wish to do to you- pound you/punish you or words to that effect - my vagina just recoils at these!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"On the rare occasion I do send the first message, the reply comes weeks or sometimes months after...and it usually says " Sorry I get so many messages, I totally missed yours "...even though that's not a rejection, it still feels like one initially, and I don't want to feel rejected or unwanted anymore

I made a conscious decision not to send the first message...I just focus on me and my profile, and if I fit a woman’s criteria, they can message me ... it seems to be working

I wish more men on fab would take this approach...it would balance things out a bit"

If they didn't have a hard on during the process they'd have great success at that ......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I made a conscious decision not to send the first message...I just focus on me and my profile, and if I fit a woman’s criteria, they can message me ... it seems to be working

I wish more men on fab would take this approach...it would balance things out a bit"

Me too, would make for a much better experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t reply because I’m a fake and a time waster and not even that attractive anyway.

I mostly reply. I don’t if they say they enjoyed reading my profile and think they’re a good match.

My bio isn’t a bio. "

Made me laugh out loud though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the messages I get that start with, hi both, I always wonder if they’re referring to my breasts or my split personalities, or they’ve just used a cut n copy message that they’ve been sending to couples.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle somewhere

"You woman only want lesbian friends you don't want has guys do you

Yes, all the women on here are lesbians.

Fab has turned me

Me too

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Its ok. I mean, you can probs watch?

Ok I’m back in

It’ll be hard, but you’ll cope

I see what you did there

Yes you !

So as not to derail the thread you should message me

but don’t start with any rude 1 liners ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here "

Because I’m looking for something, I’ve used my status recently to attract what I want and am receiving messages regarding it.

Also, I don’t mind receiving messages, I can’t reply to them all, but I don’t mind, it’s the type of message I object to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here "

But then people wouldn’t be able to moan and everyone loves a moan

I’ve hidden my profile because I don’t want messages, I don’t want anything from here so pointless dangling my carrot and having a profile which can be messaged.

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

"Ladies, let’s hear once again, why don’t you reply to messages…..

For me, crude, rude, objectifying messages are not replied to.

Don’t forget presumptuous .. … they assume you will meet them

Ohh yes!

Will also add, if someone double dares me to reply, I’m definitely not going to

I had a double dare one this week, bet its the same guy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here "

Why don't men stop being dicks with their messages? That would also solve the problem...

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

But then people wouldn’t be able to moan and everyone loves a moan

I’ve hidden my profile because I don’t want messages, I don’t want anything from here so pointless dangling my carrot and having a profile which can be messaged. "

Im sure I’ll get slaughtered for saying it but

They like the ego boost

They hand no idea of how to actually message first

The idea of rejection terrifies them

It’s very easy to sit back and get picked then moan about your messages

It takes effort to be proactive

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

If it is read and no reply then I get the message but it is tricky if a message is not read.

Does that mean she is not interested or just unaware about what sparkling banter and fabulous sex we could have?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

Why don't men stop being dicks with their messages? That would also solve the problem..."

What about men that aren’t ducks but are just a little boring or are not your type?

It fixed that too so, why not?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

But then people wouldn’t be able to moan and everyone loves a moan

I’ve hidden my profile because I don’t want messages, I don’t want anything from here so pointless dangling my carrot and having a profile which can be messaged. "

This post isn’t about having a moan, it’s a public service broadcast

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ladies, let’s hear once again, why don’t you reply to messages…..

For me, crude, rude, objectifying messages are not replied to.

Don’t forget presumptuous .. … they assume you will meet them

Ohh yes!

Will also add, if someone double dares me to reply, I’m definitely not going to

I had a double dare one this week, bet its the same guy!

Probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

But then people wouldn’t be able to moan and everyone loves a moan

I’ve hidden my profile because I don’t want messages, I don’t want anything from here so pointless dangling my carrot and having a profile which can be messaged.

Im sure I’ll get slaughtered for saying it but

They like the ego boost

They hand no idea of how to actually message first

The idea of rejection terrifies them

It’s very easy to sit back and get picked then moan about your messages

It takes effort to be proactive "

Women are great at multi tasking - we can do BOTH. Receive and send messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

But then people wouldn’t be able to moan and everyone loves a moan

I’ve hidden my profile because I don’t want messages, I don’t want anything from here so pointless dangling my carrot and having a profile which can be messaged.

Im sure I’ll get slaughtered for saying it but

They like the ego boost

They hand no idea of how to actually message first

The idea of rejection terrifies them

It’s very easy to sit back and get picked then moan about your messages

It takes effort to be proactive "

I’ve said this to you before, why do you think it’s an ego boost? It really isn’t

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

Because I don't have the headspace or energy to converse one on one with anyone at that moment.

Or because I don't want to get into a discussion where the base implication is that "you're on fab, therefore you must want sex with anyone who offers it", and there is always a risk of that.

Or because I don't have the time right then to have a conversation that lasts more than one or two messages.

Or because the sky is the wrong shade of blue, or I need to fart, or I'm excited about the postman arriving, or ooh look there is something shiny and I forgot everything else.

Could be one or more of a bazillion reasons.

Posh

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

But then people wouldn’t be able to moan and everyone loves a moan

I’ve hidden my profile because I don’t want messages, I don’t want anything from here so pointless dangling my carrot and having a profile which can be messaged.

Im sure I’ll get slaughtered for saying it but

They like the ego boost

They hand no idea of how to actually message first

The idea of rejection terrifies them

It’s very easy to sit back and get picked then moan about your messages

It takes effort to be proactive

Women are great at multi tasking - we can do BOTH. Receive and send messages. "

Hmm… maybe as a guy my mind is wired differently. I’d prefer to just message who I like the look of vs sorting through 100s of messages a day, 99% of which aren’t of any use to me

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

But then people wouldn’t be able to moan and everyone loves a moan

I’ve hidden my profile because I don’t want messages, I don’t want anything from here so pointless dangling my carrot and having a profile which can be messaged.

Im sure I’ll get slaughtered for saying it but

They like the ego boost

They hand no idea of how to actually message first

The idea of rejection terrifies them

It’s very easy to sit back and get picked then moan about your messages

It takes effort to be proactive

I’ve said this to you before, why do you think it’s an ego boost? It really isn’t "

What about my original question? Why don’t you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it is read and no reply then I get the message but it is tricky if a message is not read.

Does that mean she is not interested or just unaware about what sparkling banter and fabulous sex we could have?"

Take it as a compliment. Maybe she thinks you are too hot and out of her league and you wouldn't actually meet her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

But then people wouldn’t be able to moan and everyone loves a moan

I’ve hidden my profile because I don’t want messages, I don’t want anything from here so pointless dangling my carrot and having a profile which can be messaged.

Im sure I’ll get slaughtered for saying it but

They like the ego boost

They hand no idea of how to actually message first

The idea of rejection terrifies them

It’s very easy to sit back and get picked then moan about your messages

It takes effort to be proactive "

Agreed....You can't control what others do or the content men sens out but you can control your reactions to it....I just don't understand what complaining achieves, help yourself, protect yourself.

I know women can be just as guilty of bad message content but it just stands out more with men because of the higher ratio of men to women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve always wondered why women never reply to me sending an autographed picture of myself

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here "

I do. In fact I block every category and do my messaging myself.

It doesn't solve every problem though because when I am looking for single men, even once I put in my search criteria, I still get 10 pages of just the men who've been online in the past 10 minutes

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

But then people wouldn’t be able to moan and everyone loves a moan

I’ve hidden my profile because I don’t want messages, I don’t want anything from here so pointless dangling my carrot and having a profile which can be messaged.

Im sure I’ll get slaughtered for saying it but

They like the ego boost

They hand no idea of how to actually message first

The idea of rejection terrifies them

It’s very easy to sit back and get picked then moan about your messages

It takes effort to be proactive

Agreed....You can't control what others do or the content men sens out but you can control your reactions to it....I just don't understand what complaining achieves, help yourself, protect yourself.

I know women can be just as guilty of bad message content but it just stands out more with men because of the higher ratio of men to women.

As a bi guy I fully agree, men send much much much worse messages than women. Like 100x worse

Just seems like an easy fix to me.

It would be like asking for post from every restaurant in the country then struggling to look through it all

Why not just ask for the restaurant you like?

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By *all Guy 00Man
over a year ago

Dumfries

I think women don't reply to me much as feel I'm not good enough

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If people think I’m having a moan, then that’s their perception.

Thanks for coming to my Ted talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

But then people wouldn’t be able to moan and everyone loves a moan

I’ve hidden my profile because I don’t want messages, I don’t want anything from here so pointless dangling my carrot and having a profile which can be messaged.

Im sure I’ll get slaughtered for saying it but

They like the ego boost

They hand no idea of how to actually message first

The idea of rejection terrifies them

It’s very easy to sit back and get picked then moan about your messages

It takes effort to be proactive

Women are great at multi tasking - we can do BOTH. Receive and send messages.

Hmm… maybe as a guy my mind is wired differently. I’d prefer to just message who I like the look of vs sorting through 100s of messages a day, 99% of which aren’t of any use to me "

Well yes - I think men and women think differently. I like having my messages open because I get interesting ones from people via the forums. I don't want to close that door. If I got twice as many messages I might change my mind. But for now, I enjoy the conversations. And if there's someone I like I will wink or message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not get messages to reply to, and it is a waste of time writing to anyone from what I read here.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

But then people wouldn’t be able to moan and everyone loves a moan

I’ve hidden my profile because I don’t want messages, I don’t want anything from here so pointless dangling my carrot and having a profile which can be messaged.

Im sure I’ll get slaughtered for saying it but

They like the ego boost

They hand no idea of how to actually message first

The idea of rejection terrifies them

It’s very easy to sit back and get picked then moan about your messages

It takes effort to be proactive

Women are great at multi tasking - we can do BOTH. Receive and send messages.

Hmm… maybe as a guy my mind is wired differently. I’d prefer to just message who I like the look of vs sorting through 100s of messages a day, 99% of which aren’t of any use to me

That’s a fair answer, random messages from the forums are nice.

I wasn’t active in the forums when in a couple and as I said, it took us 3 days to figure out “fuck this” and just block single guys, then find ones we liked.

Granted though, maybe there’s a blank profile that wouldn’t catch your eye, but their 1st message with pics would blow your socks off?

Just a curiosity. I see most women get 200-500 messages a day. They probably only open like 5% of them. Seems like a perfect fix, but obviously not that perfect

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

"If people think I’m having a moan, then that’s their perception.

Thanks for coming to my Ted talk

You weren’t having a moan, you were having an opinion and asking what others thoughts were - that’s what the forum is here for, open discussions.

I for one won’t prevent single guys from messaging me as a single female I’d like to find some for fun and frolics, granted in that process it does leave my inbox open to receive messages which I may not like the content of but in some cases it’s lead me to meet some very interesting people or make friends here - swings and roundabouts!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The lack of simple, common courtesy and respect, is a big part of it.

If that's not a red flag, then if they have the wrong expectations, there's little point too.

I look at the profile first always. I often run away fast, if it screams not compatible.

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By *agicM53XMan
over a year ago

Orpington

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

Why don't men stop being dicks with their messages? That would also solve the problem..."

Yes, but if you do block messages, you are acting for yourself and taking charge of the situation, solving the issues without relying on the behaviour of men... I think he makes a valid point, rather than expecting anything from anyone (even if it is just human decency and respect), you just make your own choices and create the environment you want to be in.

Not that I am disagreeing with you...I wish men wouldn't message women at all

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

Why do people assume that women are complaining about how many messages they get whenever there is a post like this?

I hardly get any messages, because I'm not what a lot of men are looking for, my (single) profile is 6 miles long and I think it scares people off, but I'm still crap at replying to them. And the thread was asking why that is.

No complaint. Just a thing

Posh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was open to the idea of meeting guys from here I hardly ever found anyone I was attracted to when I searched myself within however many miles but I’d get messages from guys I was attracted to that were in a different areas to those I was searching. Still within decent travelling distances but they were men I wouldn’t have found myself on a search, so I can understand why women don’t want to block all men because it could stop a diamond getting through that perhaps they wouldn’t find on their own search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dick pics flooding their profile

Dick pic avatar

Dick pic first message

Graphic action shot avatar

Action shot in first message

Silhouette head

Status update red flags

Graphic first message

“Hi”

“How are you?”

“WUU2” or any other teenage slang

Too young/too old.

Too local.

To name but a few reasons I don’t reply……

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

But then people wouldn’t be able to moan and everyone loves a moan

I’ve hidden my profile because I don’t want messages, I don’t want anything from here so pointless dangling my carrot and having a profile which can be messaged.

Im sure I’ll get slaughtered for saying it but

They like the ego boost

They hand no idea of how to actually message first

The idea of rejection terrifies them

It’s very easy to sit back and get picked then moan about your messages

It takes effort to be proactive

Women are great at multi tasking - we can do BOTH. Receive and send messages.

Hmm… maybe as a guy my mind is wired differently. I’d prefer to just message who I like the look of vs sorting through 100s of messages a day, 99% of which aren’t of any use to me

That’s a fair answer, random messages from the forums are nice.

I wasn’t active in the forums when in a couple and as I said, it took us 3 days to figure out “fuck this” and just block single guys, then find ones we liked.

Granted though, maybe there’s a blank profile that wouldn’t catch your eye, but their 1st message with pics would blow your socks off?

Just a curiosity. I see most women get 200-500 messages a day. They probably only open like 5% of them. Seems like a perfect fix, but obviously not that perfect "

To be honest, wadding through your messages is probably less profiles to look through than the search results.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dick pics flooding their profile

Dick pic avatar

Dick pic first message

Graphic action shot avatar

Action shot in first message

Silhouette head

Status update red flags

Graphic first message

“Hi”

“How are you?”

“WUU2” or any other teenage slang

Too young/too old.

Too local.

To name but a few reasons I don’t reply……"

Wow. Love your two piece. You’re lush.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

"If it is read and no reply then I get the message but it is tricky if a message is not read.

Does that mean she is not interested or just unaware about what sparkling banter and fabulous sex we could have?"

I've found that I receive more unsavoury replies if I read and delete messages, rather than unread and delete

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

"If it is read and no reply then I get the message but it is tricky if a message is not read.

Does that mean she is not interested or just unaware about what sparkling banter and fabulous sex we could have?

Take it as a compliment. Maybe she thinks you are too hot and out of her league and you wouldn't actually meet her. "

The frequency at which this happens makes me doubt that!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"When I was open to the idea of meeting guys from here I hardly ever found anyone I was attracted to when I searched myself within however many miles but I’d get messages from guys I was attracted to that were in a different areas to those I was searching. Still within decent travelling distances but they were men I wouldn’t have found myself on a search, so I can understand why women don’t want to block all men because it could stop a diamond getting through that perhaps they wouldn’t find on their own search. "

Literally. I end up limiting the search to 10 miles otherwise I only get people who are currently online if I put in how far I was willing to travel. I still block single men because I can't be arsed with the inbox admin but there's just too many of them on here with virtually blank profiles to make the search option any use. It might help if there was more filters like a minimum word count on a profile or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

Why don't men stop being dicks with their messages? That would also solve the problem...

Not that I am disagreeing with you...I wish men wouldn't message women at all

Wouldn't it be interesting If men didn't message and women had to do the ground work, be interesting to see women's opening messages to guys. Especially after the first 100 haha

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

"If it is read and no reply then I get the message but it is tricky if a message is not read.

Does that mean she is not interested or just unaware about what sparkling banter and fabulous sex we could have?

I've found that I receive more unsavoury replies if I read and delete messages, rather than unread and delete"

Sorry to hear that. I think I find it easier to think someone read my message and considered that we were not a match rather than a mass delete losing the needle in the haystack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people think I’m having a moan, then that’s their perception.

Thanks for coming to my Ted talk

You weren’t having a moan, you were having an opinion and asking what others thoughts were - that’s what the forum is here for, open discussions.

Xx"

Well said

totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some my best friends have come from clumbsy attempts at flirting on here, setting filters would ruined that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don’t more women just block single guys and message the ones they like the look of?

On a couples profile it took us about 3 days to figure out it’s the better way to do things

Woman complain about dick pics, bad messages, the volume of messages

Genuinely curious? It solves basically every problem you have on here

Why don't men stop being dicks with their messages? That would also solve the problem...

Not that I am disagreeing with you...I wish men wouldn't message women at all

Wouldn't it be interesting If men didn't message and women had to do the ground work, be interesting to see women's opening messages to guys. Especially after the first 100 haha

Absolutely, let's see the quality of messages after every ignore or delete....It must be disheartening

It's easy to complain but the complaints are from one perspective, nobody ever asks why the message content is poor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't respond to one line messages, or ones where the guys clearly haven't bothered to read my profile. I.e. copy and paste messages that they have sent to couples saying things like Hello "both" of you! I am a single females profile!