FabSwingers.com forum: Choice of 1st meet…..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is a simple one….

What’s your ideal first meet?

Is it a social? Is it straight to the ‘fun’?

If it’s a social what would you like to do on it would it be a ‘date’ ?

If it’s straight to the ‘fun’…. Do you set a scene before the meet? Are you a planner or a go with the flow ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social to make sure we are all/both comfortable with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

First meet for me is always a social as I like to know I feel comfortable with whomever it won't go further if I don't feel comfortable with them

Usually a drink somewhere have a chat hopefully a laugh

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Holibobs

If it's someone I am into then a fun activity social first which can turn into whatever we both feel like

If its someone I'm not sure of then normally a meal out as a just a social and I won't wear my best pants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet for sex. Usually we set some basic expectations before hand, but I usually turn up and go with the flow. Xx

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

A,social coffee and chat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A coffee in the middle of the day.

No expectations or alcohol getting in the way then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer to get straight to the sex. We discuss beforehand boundaries and get an idea what everyone wants and then just take it from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social. That’s my perfect first meet.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I do a social if it ends up being more than that's okay. But always a social first because getting on well on here does but always mean you will when you meet in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of choice for me personally a first social meet for me would be somewhere discreet over a coffee and in a public place where the other person would be made to feel more comfortable. I would not have any expectations of getting 'straight to it' because I like to find out about the person properly first and I don't like to do one off's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first to make sure he doesn't smell

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

A social first, somewhere public. Can get to know someone better face to face. No pressure then either.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

When I am meeting, it's always a public social first time.

It's a good way to gage the attraction and I like the social side of this lifestyle.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Always a social

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

I can count the number of 'social' first meets I've had on the fingers of one hand - and still have two left over...

....more than 90% of my first meets have been 'straight to the fun' - sometimes a chat first, but on numerous occasions, not even that...

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'm happy to go with the flow and let the lady decide but ideally I'd like to play on first meet but happy to have a social

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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Usually a social please ad it usually ends up being a drink but if they chose something random to do I'd also be intrigued by that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A social to make sure we are all/both comfortable with each other. "

Is the at a coffee? A pub? A walk in the park?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"First meet for me is always a social as I like to know I feel comfortable with whomever it won't go further if I don't feel comfortable with them

Usually a drink somewhere have a chat hopefully a laugh "

Sounds relaxed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it's someone I am into then a fun activity social first which can turn into whatever we both feel like

If its someone I'm not sure of then normally a meal out as a just a social and I won't wear my best pants"

You wear pants

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I only meet for sex. Usually we set some basic expectations before hand, but I usually turn up and go with the flow. Xx"

Direct I like

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We prefer to get straight to the sex. We discuss beforehand boundaries and get an idea what everyone wants and then just take it from there "

Sounds fair enough… everyone wants something different which is what fab is about

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do a social if it ends up being more than that's okay. But always a social first because getting on well on here does but always mean you will when you meet in person."

True… nothing is guaranteed

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Social

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Social first to make sure he doesn't smell

What smell don’t you like

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A social first, somewhere public. Can get to know someone better face to face. No pressure then either. "

A coffee ? Pub? Walk?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I am meeting, it's always a public social first time.

It's a good way to gage the attraction and I like the social side of this lifestyle. "

What type of social?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always a social"

Pub? Or coffee shop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social coffee and chat in a public place. No contact at all, no hug, no kiss on the cheek.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Absolutely needs to be a social first otherwise how would I know if the fun part is likely to be fun?

If I agreed (I never have and never will) to play on first meet, I feel I am raising an expectation that it is going to happen - I do not want to be in that situation when I then have to go back on my word and say "sorry,you are not my type".

Coffee, drink... even pub lunch or dinner are all ok.

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

A drink or two somewhere public just to make sure the attraction is genuinely there and that nobody is being catfished or is hiding something dreadful. Then assuming that goes OK, back to their place or mine, or some kind of other location as we would have discussed previously. Pretty straight forward, really.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford... (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Don't choose skiing ...especially when one of you can ski and one of you can't... disaster with capital D..!?

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"Social coffee and chat in a public place. No contact at all, no hug, no kiss on the cheek. "

That's a bit odd for me, I have spent long enough living overseas to pretty much always greet someone new with a small hug (more of a shoulder touch really) and a bit of a cheek brisk/air kiss kinda thing. It's pretty much second nature. It never even really occurs to me that someone would find it unusual let alone unpleasant.

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By *leecouple101Couple
over a year ago

North East Lincolnshire

Social first, if the feelings right wouldn't rule out some fun at ours afterwards. We don't pressure anyone.

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

Coffee/drink of some kind and cake is what we have done as our first meets and so far then have all been in pubs.

MJ x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Social coffee and chat in a public place. No contact at all, no hug, no kiss on the cheek. "

Boundaries set

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Always just a coffee/soft drink somewhere first. Max 2 hrs usually.

Café/pub/walk in the park.

If I like them, a kiss. If they can't kiss, nothing else will happen at a later date.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Social coffee and chat in a public place. No contact at all, no hug, no kiss on the cheek.

Boundaries set "

Actually, I agree it sounds like a good idea to have these boundaries, or any other boundaries as long as they are made clear before the meet. Some people do not expect to be touched/ kissed etc while for others it is a non sexual and therefore acceptable thing as was stated above.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely needs to be a social first otherwise how would I know if the fun part is likely to be fun?

Coffee, drink... even pub lunch or dinner are all ok.

What you choosing off the menu

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't choose skiing ...especially when one of you can ski and one of you can't... disaster with capital D..!?

Injuries? Or no chance to chat ha

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Coffee or cocktails first for sure, no pressure and then you can go with the flow if there's chemistry

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Coffee/drink of some kind and cake is what we have done as our first meets and so far then have all been in pubs.

MJ x"

Ooocake mmmm

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By *oveGiving44Man
over a year ago

Bristol

It'd be a coffee that turns into a 2+ hour chat that then leads to some fun.

It's only happened twice in my life but I loved it both times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always just a coffee/soft drink somewhere first. Max 2 hrs usually.

Café/pub/walk in the park.

If I like them, a kiss. If they can't kiss, nothing else will happen at a later date."

Seems fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social coffee and chat in a public place. No contact at all, no hug, no kiss on the cheek.

Thankfully covid has put a stop to the unrequested hugs.

A shoulder touch would be fine. Or a friendly tap with a broom handle.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Daytime coffee. Has to be a mental connection.

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By *namoratomanMan
over a year ago

Herefordshire

I would suggest somewhere for a social where the lady would feel safe; this could be coffee or drink in a shop or pub. Once we’re both happy then it could possibly be moving onto the playing stage. This might be on the initial meeting or a following one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seems the world of fab enjoys a coffee…. Think I might open some swinger friendly coffee shops

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"Social coffee and chat in a public place. No contact at all, no hug, no kiss on the cheek.

Thankfully covid has put a stop to the unrequested hugs.

A shoulder touch would be fine. Or a friendly tap with a broom handle.

A tickle with a long-handled ostrich-feather duster?

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

A lighthearted social everytime, anything from an impromptu coffee to a fun day out. For me everything starts as friends and if it goes further then its more than I expected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social

I just want to talk to them over a cuppa or pint to see if there's any sort of initial attraction between us all.

For me I want some sort of spark before any sort of play as this just adds to the pleasure of any future meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social in a public place with disabled toilets. If we click straight away then I have no issue going into the disabled toilet and banging until we cum.

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"A social in a public place with disabled toilets. If we click straight away then I have no issue going into the disabled toilet and banging until we cum.

Hottttt

Is it bad that I'm almost even more turned on by the thought of some poor person in a wheelchair having to hold it in until we decide we're finished?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first. Usually a coffee shop but would do a walk in the park too. A drink in a bar seems a bit too formal.

If we get along and both fancy each other, I'd hope for a cheeky kiss. If that's bad it would go no further. If it's good then I'd want to arrange fun for a 2nd meet.

If it's really good and situations/times/logistics allowed I would not rule out more.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Always social. Got to make sure there is chemistry.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Always a social

Pub? Or coffee shop? "

Pub for a few drinks

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"Social

I just want to talk to them over a cuppa or pint to see if there's any sort of initial attraction between us all.

For me I want some sort of spark before any sort of play as this just adds to the pleasure of any future meets

Or a nice walk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social at a bar or even a club, get a conversation going and a drink and then if going well, off to a hotel, theirs or a room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social first to make sure he doesn't smell

What smell don’t you like

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bad breath

and b.o

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social

I just want to talk to them over a cuppa or pint to see if there's any sort of initial attraction between us all.

For me I want some sort of spark before any sort of play as this just adds to the pleasure of any future meets

Or a nice walk

One of the best I've had

When the weather's better we must repeat it

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

For me always a social, normally coffee or a drink somewhere to check he's not going to take one look at me and run off screaming (rather awkward if he does that and we're in his home!).

Normally somewhere quiet enough to chat but busy enough to not feel too badly overheard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A walk, chat, coffee. Chance to get to know someone, privacy for a kiss or a little more. Followed by a drink elsewhere, then a hotel.

That for the majority of guys I know, there is the odd one I'd just go straight to the hotel room with.

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"Social

I just want to talk to them over a cuppa or pint to see if there's any sort of initial attraction between us all.

For me I want some sort of spark before any sort of play as this just adds to the pleasure of any future meets

Or a nice walk

One of the best I've had

When the weather's better we must repeat it

Good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always suggested coffee shop (of the woman's choice) for no obligation socials, just to see if we click.

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

Just a social for me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of all the meets I’ve had from Fabs, almost none have been from a social first.

Most have been via chatting first them meeting to go to a club or being invited to a ladies home.

Some of these home meetings have even had the door answered in lingerie and getting straight to the main event with little in the way of any conversation. That might sound horny as hell but then once I saw the same lady at a few clubs later, I came to realise that she talked shit about people and wasn’t a very nice person!

With some hindsight, maybe it would of been better if there was a social meeting before to sus out the potential nutcases or to show that I’m not an axe murderer but at the time I was a bit of a thrill seeker that was caught up with being so horny to really think about anything other than getting laid. Personal safety wasn’t really much of a concern which is pretty damn stupid when I look back at it.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Straight to the fun

I make it clear from the beginning my first meets are only ever 30 minute quickies

I'm here for fucking not friendship

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Definitely a social

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Always a social with no expectations. Could be a drink/coffee and chat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clay pigeon shooting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer a social first. Would leave the possibility open for potential fun after the social if everyone's feeling it.

We like to go with the flow because less pressure seems to make for way more fun. Having the scene planned seems to put us off a bit

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Always a social first in a relaxed pub usually..We have to make sure all 4 of us are attracted and into each other ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first, then can he t to know eachother and see if there’s chemistry. Simple science, that without any sort of spark the sex isn’t going to be great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men are from mars,women are from venus.

Definitely Social first just to show that not all man from mars are monsters lol.

So on my first meet up with someone I would what them to feel relaxed and enjoy are time so if anything else happens it will be more intense. If you both get on better the sexy time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be a social first, people are so different in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men are from mars,women are from venus.

Definitely Social first just to show that not all man from mars are monsters lol.

So on my first meet up with someone I would what them to feel relaxed and enjoy are time so if anything else happens it will be more intense. If you both get on better the sexy time

I couldn't agree more before Xmas I turned up at a ladies house expecting just a coffee and a chat and when I walked in I was told go up stairs and get undressed ....now the 20 year old me would have jumped right in the 46 year old me needs some sort of connection/spark call it what you want ...needless to say I left apologising for wasting her time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men are from mars,women are from venus.

Definitely Social first just to show that not all man from mars are monsters lol.

So on my first meet up with someone I would what them to feel relaxed and enjoy are time so if anything else happens it will be more intense. If you both get on better the sexy time

Wow a better man than most buddy.

I think when you first join this lovely fab world that's how you think its going to happen, walk in straight upstairs balls deep and run. But it's now connection/spark is needed feeling both feeling confident and happy, and when it's over been able to have a cuppa and a piece of cake after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social for me. Preferably a quick coffee or a tipple in my favourite bar. And then if there’s chemistry, we can swiftly move to a longer ‘proper’ meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A social for me. Preferably a quick coffee or a tipple in my favourite bar. And then if there’s chemistry, we can swiftly move to a longer ‘proper’ meet."

On the same day? Or arrange another?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrange another usually, but fairly soon after the first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men are from mars,women are from venus.

Definitely Social first just to show that not all man from mars are monsters lol.

So on my first meet up with someone I would what them to feel relaxed and enjoy are time so if anything else happens it will be more intense. If you both get on better the sexy time

Wow a better man than most buddy.

Thanks and just think if the idiots weren't on this site it would be an easier and more pleasurable pastime for all involved ladies,guys and couples ....we can only dream

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Social. Hands off. In public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"men are from mars,women are from venus.

Definitely Social first just to show that not all man from mars are monsters lol.

So on my first meet up with someone I would what them to feel relaxed and enjoy are time so if anything else happens it will be more intense. If you both get on better the sexy time

Wow a better man than most buddy.

Thanks and just think if the idiots weren't on this site it would be an easier and more pleasurable pastime for all involved ladies,guys and couples ....we can only dream

Honestly buddy I couldn't have said that better myself 100% with you on this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social. Have played on first meet a couples of times but only because we have been chatting for a good while and it felt right

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"This is a simple one….

What’s your ideal first meet?

Is it a social? Is it straight to the ‘fun’?

If it’s a social what would you like to do on it would it be a ‘date’ ?

If it’s straight to the ‘fun’…. Do you set a scene before the meet? Are you a planner or a go with the flow ?

A social.

No pressure meet. It's like meeting friends in a pub, no having to try to escape or back peddle.

We've never really had a bad meet, sometimes no play but always a lovely, enjoyable, laughter filled night in the pub.

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By *tokeman4str8funMan
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

Interesting one this.

I think both mutually agree to the same meet scenario.

Social first to get a feel of things, and at that time could lead to more anyway.

Ive seen ppl status saying 'come to mine and fuck me asap'.

Seen profiles that want a social meet first entirely, and others have to be meet verified.

Also, safety and how it feels should matter.

Why I like a few messages on here, were both in the same mindset and then set it up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Arrange another usually, but fairly soon after the first

Sounds fair

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