FabSwingers.com forum: Why am I not having much success with the ladies

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I think you have to specifically ask for profile advice before we can give it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong"
join the very long cue my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong"

....how long have you got? I charge by the hour.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

How about having a look at some the other hundreds of threads on this very subject?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expect nothing and you'll be good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

....how long have you got? I charge by the hour."
any criticism appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

....how long have you got? I charge by the hour."

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong"

You've been here 5 minutes in fab time and covid is making things harder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

You've been here 5 minutes in fab time and covid is making things harder "

That's not a symptom I'm aware of

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

....how long have you got? I charge by the hour. any criticism appreciated "

Fair. Men outnumber women in here like 1000 to 1

So you gotta really put your best foot forward

Honestly ask yourself

Is 2 flaccid penis pics and “my gf doesn’t know I’m on here” really the best you got?

If you was a woman getting 500 messages a day, would you pick you?

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong"

Nor do I

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

You've been here 5 minutes in fab time and covid is making things harder

That's not a symptom I'm aware of

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me either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have patients my friend. Rome wasn’t built in a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

....how long have you got? I charge by the hour."

I was being silly....but.

Improve your pics.

Change your carpet.

Get involved on the forum to show a bit of personality.

Do not bombard women with messages. (No reply means no interest).

And don't take any shite. Nobody likes a walk over.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

You've been here 5 minutes in fab time and covid is making things harder

That's not a symptom I'm aware of

You always make me harder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong"

Like anything else in life no right or wrong answer!

If what you are doing is not giving you the result You want then!!!

YOU have to try something different until you find what works for you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

....how long have you got? I charge by the hour.

I was being silly....but.

Improve your pics.

Change your carpet.

Get involved on the forum to show a bit of personality.

Do not bombard women with messages. (No reply means no interest).

And don't take any shite. Nobody likes a walk over.

Change your carpet

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Women are like visitors from outer space hiding in your garage, leave a trail of Reese’s Pieces across the backyard into the kitchen towards a nice plate of cake and a glass of wine and you will get your reward.

(Note: if you have a speak and spell handy you are golden)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Expect nothing and you'll be good."

What she said, don’t go hunting for it, fab isn’t a site for shooting fish in a barrel. Be yourself and it might just find you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

....how long have you got? I charge by the hour.

I was being silly....but.

Improve your pics.

Change your carpet.

Get involved on the forum to show a bit of personality.

Do not bombard women with messages. (No reply means no interest).

And don't take any shite. Nobody likes a walk over.

Change your carpet

This made me laugh too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

....how long have you got? I charge by the hour.

I was being silly....but.

Improve your pics.

Change your carpet.

Get involved on the forum to show a bit of personality.

Do not bombard women with messages. (No reply means no interest).

And don't take any shite. Nobody likes a walk over.

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thank you,I’ll take all of that on board xx

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong"

Awful profile.

Does your gf know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

....how long have you got? I charge by the hour.

I was being silly....but.

Improve your pics.

Change your carpet.

Get involved on the forum to show a bit of personality.

Do not bombard women with messages. (No reply means no interest).

And don't take any shite. Nobody likes a walk over.

Change your carpet

This made me laugh too

Aye ..I mean c'mon to fuck. Looks like Dexter has been in there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

....how long have you got? I charge by the hour.

I was being silly....but.

Improve your pics.

Change your carpet.

Get involved on the forum to show a bit of personality.

Do not bombard women with messages. (No reply means no interest).

And don't take any shite. Nobody likes a walk over.

Change your carpet

This made me laugh too

Best advice ever

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

Awful profile.

Does your gf know?"
that irrelevant, there both males and females on here who partners dont no ,

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

We can't tell what you're doing "wrong", OP. Partly because we don't know what you're doing and partly because all the ladies on here are different and will have different opinions as to what the right and wrong things are.

Just keep on keeping on, get involved in the forum, have no expectations and don't treat fab as more important than it is.

Hope that helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here over a year and only now getting to possibly meet someone

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By *iftyishMan
over a year ago

South Coast

Tell you what mate you've attracted some gorgeous ladies in your post. That's a bonus on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The usual response is, have you been to a club?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We can't tell what you're doing "wrong", OP. Partly because we don't know what you're doing and partly because all the ladies on here are different and will have different opinions as to what the right and wrong things are.

Just keep on keeping on, get involved in the forum, have no expectations and don't treat fab as more important than it is.

Hope that helps."
it does,thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

You've been here 5 minutes in fab time and covid is making things harder

That's not a symptom I'm aware of

You always make me harder

Are you comparing me to covid

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

You've been here 5 minutes in fab time and covid is making things harder

That's not a symptom I'm aware of

Actually, more likely to be the opposite in that department

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

You're 55 years old,cant accommodate, been on 3 months,poor profile and pics yet had a meet already. Some would say that's a success on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The usual response is, have you been to a club?"

Have you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The usual response is, have you been to a club?

Have you?"

Well OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The usual response is, have you been to a club?

Have you?"
not confident enough to go to a club

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

More men than women o/p. As is the norm with most online meeting sites. Just join in with forum/cam room chat. Hope you get lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The usual response is, have you been to a club?

Have you?

Well OP?"

To be fair he said he's not having fun "on here" ...so maybe clubs don't interest him.

(Throwing you a lifeline here OP!)

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

You've been here 5 minutes in fab time and covid is making things harder

That's not a symptom I'm aware of

You always make me harder

Are you comparing me to covid

No that would do the opposite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The usual response is, have you been to a club?

Have you? not confident enough to go to a club"

Fair enough. Take on board all the advice everyone else have gave you and maybe work on your confidence. People will pick up on a lack of confidence in your messages and how you word them.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

You've been here 5 minutes in fab time and covid is making things harder

That's not a symptom I'm aware of

Actually, more likely to be the opposite in that department

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"Women are like visitors from outer space hiding in your garage, leave a trail of Reese’s Pieces across the backyard into the kitchen towards a nice plate of cake and a glass of wine and you will get your reward.

(Note: if you have a speak and spell handy you are golden) "

Cake

...someone said the magic word??

Offer more cake, that lures us in like flies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice guys taken on board

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

Awful profile.

Does your gf know? that irrelevant, there both males and females on here who partners dont no , "

Still doesn't make it right. Cheating puts many people off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're just after a quick link I'd recommend POF, if a girl's after the same thing they usually message first and get right to the point

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

Awful profile.

Does your gf know? that irrelevant, there both males and females on here who partners dont no ,

Still doesn't make it right. Cheating puts many people off."

I wouldnt want to meet a cheater, I don't care how good looking they're either because I'd feel bad for the partner

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Photos are hideous. Sorry!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask your girlfriend why she thinks your not having any luck....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

....how long have you got? I charge by the hour.

I was being silly....but.

Improve your pics.

Change your carpet.

Get involved on the forum to show a bit of personality.

Do not bombard women with messages. (No reply means no interest).

And don't take any shite. Nobody likes a walk over.

change your carpet

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Ask your girlfriend why she thinks your not having any luck...."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tight foreskins don't sell

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By *dy-ukTV/TS
over a year ago

Alcester

"Ask your girlfriend why she thinks your not having any luck...."

Maybe she's on here too, with a different carpet, having the time of her life

BF doesn't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK your profile is bad.

Really bad.

You're cheating on your partner.

You've done litterally nothing to make yourself appealing in anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See other threads on this, this question gets asked often and there is a lot of great information from the forum users

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"Ask your girlfriend why she thinks your not having any luck....

Maybe she's on here too, with a different carpet, having the time of her life

BF doesn't know

Hopefully she is!

Wouldn't that be funny!

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Look at me thread

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"Look at me thread"

And certainly hasn't worked out as the OP intended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have patients my friend. Rome wasn’t built in a day. "

No it was built at night

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong"

What were your expectations ?

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

My advice is to rewrite your profile to something humorous. You won't have any more luck but at least you'll make yourself smile!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women, not girls.

There’s nothing in your profile to pull women in, the picture is like thousands of others, and the profile bio is meh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Look at me thread

And certainly hasn't worked out as the OP intended."
actually has,asked for constructive criticism and got it mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look at me thread

And certainly hasn't worked out as the OP intended.actually has,asked for constructive criticism and got it mostly "

Getting the advice is one thing, going and acting on it is the next step.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 veris, so stop wasting people's time

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Photos are hideous. Sorry! "

A comment like that is to be expected by you tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to put some effort in

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'll bounce that question back to you, why do you think you're not having much success with the ladies?

What do you class as success?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll bounce that question back to you, why do you think you're not having much success with the ladies?

What do you class as success? "

Reaching Prestige Master

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the un exclusive club that is the fab male

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

From looking at your profile it lacks effort, shows dishonesty toward your gf, one dick pic and a lack lustre bio

There is little to entice woman and little about yourself or what you desire other that ‘haven’t had sex for a while’ which would imply that you joined here thinking it be easy to get just that.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"From looking at your profile it lacks effort, shows dishonesty toward your gf, one dick pic and a lack lustre bio

I agree.

It's almost like those who are cheating expect everyone else to have as little respect or compassion for their partner as they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

Awful profile.

Does your gf know? that irrelevant, there both males and females on here who partners dont no ,

Still doesn't make it right. Cheating puts many people off."

But at least it's there so people can make an informed choice. He's not lying or pretending to be someone he isn't which is what happens. Maybe is people felt less judged about their relationship status then they'd be less inclined to hide it...

OP stick around the forums, get involved and have a look at different profiles to get ideas. One thing I will say is make sure you reflect out your personality instead of reflecting out what you think others want to see.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Yiu are a single man unless yiu look like a Greek god with a dick to natch or are BBC or have a ton of money you have no chance at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yiu are a single man unless yiu look like a Greek god with a dick to natch or are BBC or have a ton of money you have no chance at all"

Well someone's a little cynical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yiu are a single man unless yiu look like a Greek god with a dick to natch or are BBC or have a ton of money you have no chance at all"

Judging by your veris you must tick all the boxes

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

Awful profile.

Does your gf know? that irrelevant, there both males and females on here who partners dont no ,

Still doesn't make it right. Cheating puts many people off.

It’s not the relationship status people are judging/passing comment on - it’s the lack of knowledge his gf has that he has chosen to look for sex elsewhere - I’m not judging couples who are fully aware of each others play with others - I just don’t condone lying there’s a difference. As a female I will always think how I’d feel if I was told my partner was on a sex site - it’s about reflecting on how all parties feel here, the OP clearly wants more sex but either hasn’t conversed with his partner about it or has abs they haven’t been on the same page, perhaps he doesn’t find her desirable any longer or and most likely there relationship isn’t working so he will chance his arm here for a moment of satisfaction but keep her around for convenience/comfort - that’s the bit I detest!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrongjoin the very long cue my friend"

It that because he plays smooker then??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yiu are a single man unless yiu look like a Greek god with a dick to natch or are BBC or have a ton of money you have no chance at all"

Not true at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

Awful profile.

Does your gf know? that irrelevant, there both males and females on here who partners dont no ,

Still doesn't make it right. Cheating puts many people off.

Yeah I understand that. You can't stop people in relationships using the site but at least if his profile clarifies it then people can make that choice.

Like I say I don't believe anyone should be passing judgements on others regardless. Do what you do and take your measures to protect that but don't vilify others for their choices.

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

Awful profile.

Does your gf know? that irrelevant, there both males and females on here who partners dont no ,

Still doesn't make it right. Cheating puts many people off.

We agree totally.

We see this an awful lot, people deciding that they want fun elsewhere, then denying their partner the freedom of choice as to whether their behaviour is acceptable.

Greedy and pathetic.

People want to play around, then keep their partners as back up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yiu are a single man unless yiu look like a Greek god with a dick to natch or are BBC or have a ton of money you have no chance at all"

That’s not true, for the majority of women I’d say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t seem to be having much luck on here with the girls,any advice as to what I’m doin wrong

Awful profile.

Does your gf know? that irrelevant, there both males and females on here who partners dont no ,

Still doesn't make it right. Cheating puts many people off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for your comments,positive and negative,will take it all onboard

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Why not try a conventional dating site with nice pics but word it that you are not vanilla ?

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Why not try a conventional dating site with nice pics but word it that you are not vanilla ? "

In my online dating experience, five years ago, I met some nice women. When I changed my profile header to ‘ not an Angel but far from a player’ , I started to attract some very sexy women.

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