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"As I've said before, a message that shows that, without a shadow of a doubt they 100% have: 1) Read my profile 2) Match what my profile says I am looking for " ^ this | |||
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"As I've said before, a message that shows that, without a shadow of a doubt they 100% have: 1) Read my profile 2) Match what my profile says I am looking for " Totally agree.x | |||
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"As I've said before, a message that shows that, without a shadow of a doubt they 100% have: 1) Read my profile 2) Match what my profile says I am looking for " Not necessarily type of guy … but what they write. How they word their message, if they give you all the details etc in the first message or if they say hi little chat then wait to progress from there if you respond. | |||
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"As I've said before, a message that shows that, without a shadow of a doubt they 100% have: 1) Read my profile 2) Match what my profile says I am looking for ^ this " Again, if they tick your ‘type of man (single, hair, tattoos, height etc) is not what I’m saying…. What I’m asking is what should they put in their message…. Do you want their life story straight away or just a little about themselves to intrigue you in | |||
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"I like my messages to come from hot guys. " Like the directness | |||
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"I like my messages to come from hot guys. " Yeah tbf if I don’t fancy you it doesn’t really matter what you wrote in a message. | |||
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"I like my messages to come from hot guys. Yeah tbf if I don’t fancy you it doesn’t really matter what you wrote in a message. " So a face pic will be the decider… so just go with that ? | |||
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"As I've said before, a message that shows that, without a shadow of a doubt they 100% have: 1) Read my profile 2) Match what my profile says I am looking for Not necessarily type of guy … but what they write. How they word their message, if they give you all the details etc in the first message or if they say hi little chat then wait to progress from there if you respond. " If they haven't read the profile and/or do not match they can offer me £ million but I'll still ignore. I'm not giving you your opening lines. If you don't know how to talk to people yourself you will struggle anyway. | |||
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"I like my messages to come from hot guys. Yeah tbf if I don’t fancy you it doesn’t really matter what you wrote in a message. So a face pic will be the decider… so just go with that ? " Face pic definitely helps. But a nice body goes down well too. | |||
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"It’s not if the guy necessarily fits what you’re asking for" Then he has no business messaging me. OP you are misunderstanding what women/couples want. | |||
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"I like my messages to come from hot guys. Yeah tbf if I don’t fancy you it doesn’t really matter what you wrote in a message. So a face pic will be the decider… so just go with that ? Face pic definitely helps. But a nice body goes down well too. " I second the hot naked body | |||
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"As I've said before, a message that shows that, without a shadow of a doubt they 100% have: 1) Read my profile 2) Match what my profile says I am looking for " Nail on head | |||
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"Honestly, there is no one answer. It depends entirely on my mood at the time. Assuming that they tick even some of my boxes (which really is hard enough because my boxes are pesky and move anyway), a "Hi" can be enough if I'm in the mood to chat. And sometimes I want a bit more. This is the big problem with asking about what kind of initial messages we like..... a lot of us either can't put our finger on it or change out minds too much to be able to answer. Women are pesky " And there it is…. There’s no right answer so it’s a roulette | |||
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"As I've said before, a message that shows that, without a shadow of a doubt they 100% have: 1) Read my profile 2) Match what my profile says I am looking for ^this " | |||
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"As I've said before, a message that shows that, without a shadow of a doubt they 100% have: 1) Read my profile 2) Match what my profile says I am looking for Not necessarily type of guy … but what they write. How they word their message, if they give you all the details etc in the first message or if they say hi little chat then wait to progress from there if you respond. If they haven't read the profile and/or do not match they can offer me £ million but I'll still ignore. I'm not giving you your opening lines. If you don't know how to talk to people yourself you will struggle anyway." Haha I’m not asking for opening lines…. I’m asking peoples opinions…. Because some reply to a short message where as others ask for more detail… it was a simple pole not an ‘in’ | |||
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"Messages written in English, not in lazy text speak. My all time best is still "U FK NOW". Also, as has been mentioned, a message which shows they've read my profile. It clearly states "NO BEARDS OR FACIAL HAIR". Yet I constantly get messages from members of ZZ TOP and bearded monthly. Then THEY get upset when I don't reply! Go figure. " Lol at ZZ Top | |||
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"I like my messages to come from hot guys. Yeah tbf if I don’t fancy you it doesn’t really matter what you wrote in a message. So a face pic will be the decider… so just go with that ? Face pic definitely helps. But a nice body goes down well too. " Makes sense…. | |||
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"But of course I’m only speaking for me. So not really helpful for messaging anyone else. " Oh I’m aware there isn’t a one fits all…. I’m just being curious | |||
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"It’s not if the guy necessarily fits what you’re asking for Then he has no business messaging me. OP you are misunderstanding what women/couples want." I think you are misunderstanding what I was getting at… ah well maybe I didn’t get across my question properly …. | |||
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"That they’ve read my profile and don’t just ignore the parts they don’t match. I also like to know a bit about them and why they’re interested in me. " Thank you…. My point came across it seems as to what I was asking | |||
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"I like to see a bit of personality in a message and politeness goes a long way!" Good to know | |||
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"If they look hot and they message I don't care what they put " Like your honesty ha | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … " Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer. | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer." Great response .. thanks for the tips | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer." Spot on! The majority of the ones I get are of the "Can I tell you about my fantasy" "Love your profile" "Can we chat". What am I supposed to do with those? | |||
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"I appreciate a well-written message, with a bit of time and effort put in. I like when it refers to something in my profile, rather than a generic message sent out to loads of people! Good spelling, grammar and humour. A face pic too. And I’m all yours " Seems straight forward enough ha | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer. Spot on! The majority of the ones I get are of the "Can I tell you about my fantasy" "Love your profile" "Can we chat". What am I supposed to do with those?" Or “I’d love to eat your ass”… I don’t even know how to respond to that | |||
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"As I've said before, a message that shows that, without a shadow of a doubt they 100% have: 1) Read my profile 2) Match what my profile says I am looking for " This and to not immediately assume because of number 2 I'm going to be waiting with my knickers round my ankles | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer. Spot on! The majority of the ones I get are of the "Can I tell you about my fantasy" "Love your profile" "Can we chat". What am I supposed to do with those? Or “I’d love to eat your ass”… I don’t even know how to respond to that " Well if it's a first message I'd block him! | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer. Spot on! The majority of the ones I get are of the "Can I tell you about my fantasy" "Love your profile" "Can we chat". What am I supposed to do with those? Or “I’d love to eat your ass”… I don’t even know how to respond to that " Really? That’s an opening line? | |||
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"As I've said before, a message that shows that, without a shadow of a doubt they 100% have: 1) Read my profile 2) Match what my profile says I am looking for This and to not immediately assume because of number 2 I'm going to be waiting with my knickers round my ankles " Noted | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer. Spot on! The majority of the ones I get are of the "Can I tell you about my fantasy" "Love your profile" "Can we chat". What am I supposed to do with those? Or “I’d love to eat your ass”… I don’t even know how to respond to that Well if it's a first message I'd block him! " We do | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer. Spot on! The majority of the ones I get are of the "Can I tell you about my fantasy" "Love your profile" "Can we chat". What am I supposed to do with those? Or “I’d love to eat your ass”… I don’t even know how to respond to that Really? That’s an opening line? " That’s one of the better opening lines we receive | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer. Spot on! The majority of the ones I get are of the "Can I tell you about my fantasy" "Love your profile" "Can we chat". What am I supposed to do with those? Or “I’d love to eat your ass”… I don’t even know how to respond to that Really? That’s an opening line? That’s one of the better opening lines we receive " Delightful | |||
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"I personally like, 1) a few tasteful pics, face & body. 2) a well written message that gives me something to respond to, ie, equal effort in conversation. 3) maybe one genuine compliment. " Makes sense I guess …. A mixture | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer. Spot on! The majority of the ones I get are of the "Can I tell you about my fantasy" "Love your profile" "Can we chat". What am I supposed to do with those? Or “I’d love to eat your ass”… I don’t even know how to respond to that Really? That’s an opening line? That’s one of the better opening lines we receive Delightful " Within minutes of that we just received a “suck and go” message | |||
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"As I've said before, a message that shows that, without a shadow of a doubt they 100% have: 1) Read my profile 2) Match what my profile says I am looking for " This, with a face pic. | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer. Spot on! The majority of the ones I get are of the "Can I tell you about my fantasy" "Love your profile" "Can we chat". What am I supposed to do with those? Or “I’d love to eat your ass”… I don’t even know how to respond to that Really? That’s an opening line? That’s one of the better opening lines we receive Delightful Within minutes of that we just received a “suck and go” message " And of course you agreed to it | |||
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"I always write a specific message to the profile I'm messaging, don't always get a response but least I know I have read their profile and messaged appropriately as long as I fit their criteria of course. " Sounds good | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer. Spot on! The majority of the ones I get are of the "Can I tell you about my fantasy" "Love your profile" "Can we chat". What am I supposed to do with those? Or “I’d love to eat your ass”… I don’t even know how to respond to that Really? That’s an opening line? That’s one of the better opening lines we receive Delightful Within minutes of that we just received a “suck and go” message And of course you agreed to it " We’re at his house now | |||
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"What do you like when it comes to getting messages ? Do you like a guy to be direct? Do you like them to tell you about their experiences? Do you want to k ow about them in the first message? Keep it short and then go from there? What’s people’s preference …. Couples & females let us know … Just a couple of sentences. We don’t want a life story just something to show they’ve read our profile, a little about themselves and maybe a question that give us something to reply to. Avoid questions that can just have a yes/no answer or statements that don’t require an answer. Spot on! The majority of the ones I get are of the "Can I tell you about my fantasy" "Love your profile" "Can we chat". What am I supposed to do with those? Or “I’d love to eat your ass”… I don’t even know how to respond to that Really? That’s an opening line? That’s one of the better opening lines we receive Delightful Within minutes of that we just received a “suck and go” message And of course you agreed to it We’re at his house now " Lucky guy …. ‘Takes self away to write great opening messages ‘…. | |||
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"There’s no winning formula but what doesn’t work is one liners, FaF, in your area today, cock pics attached, no pics or nothing in their profile, types. If the message intrigues then we’ll open the profile and look at pics and what they’ve written. It all goes hand in hand…first impressions count. K" It seems what should be the ‘givens’ are the go too… appreciate you take on it | |||
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"Messages which are obviously generic cut and paste. Minimum effort but expecting maximum results. " Zz too beard request incoming :p | |||
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"Had a very tempting one this morning! Someone offering to clean my oven with a twist! It is a job I hate! x" What’s the twist? | |||
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"To say hi, what part of your profile they thought they'd matched with and questions they may have....something that actually requires a response and if there's banter too xT " Not asking too much there | |||
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"Everyone is different but for us personally a message should be with pics that are recent and they have read your profile first. Just a polite intro and genuine and honest from the start." This for sure | |||
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"Write to me like I'm a person, an individual that you like the look of. Not a set of holes with "nice tits". Humour is good." Oh god, can't agree more with this! I'll also add I don't do graphic sex talk, so anything of that sort will turn me straight off. | |||
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"I like my messages to come from hot guys. " Hot guys who can read | |||
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"Don't copy and paste ( that includes men who start the message with our names, but have clearly copy and pasted the rest) READ OUR PROFILE See if you are what we are looking for. READ OUR PROFILE See if we are actively looking for meets at that time. READ OUR PROFILE Don't automatically assume which one of us you are talking to. READ OUR PROFILE A brief introduction about yourself and see where we go from there. Oh and READ OUR PROFILE." Seems straight forward enough | |||
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"I like my messages to come from hot guys. Hot guys who can read " How hot is hot? And read ? Like red lorry or war & peace? | |||
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"I like my messages to come from hot guys. Hot guys who can read " I can read | |||
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"To be honest, unless it's regarding a forum game, it doesn't really matter unless I find the sender attractive because I'm not even going to read it. If I do read it then it depends entirely on my mood, but a message that makes me laugh will generally get a reply. I don't ever really want to hear how gorgeous I am because I don't for one second believe that at least 95% of men on here aren't just throwing the same lines out to every woman and couple they message, and I take all compliments on here with a huge pinch of salt (how do you know I'm beautiful? I could have a face like a bag of spanners!) " Well if the spanners are snap-on then they are beautiful :p | |||
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