FabSwingers.com forum: Feelings on Blue Pill

By *im47uk OP Man
over a year ago

St Helens

As a man of a certain age I find the use of Viagra a great help.

I mentioned this in chat with a lady who I hoped to meet. The response was negative to say the least ranging from I wasn't a real man for using them to was I really turned on by her. She has now blocked me.

Really taken aback, anyone else experienced something similar. How do other women on here feel about men using viagra?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Double standard misandrist

Ignore it. Take what you need/want to get the satisfaction you deserve

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Is there any need to mention to a woman you are using it ?

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By *icklowbiguyMan
over a year ago

Wicklow

"Is there any need to mention to a woman you are using it ? "

She would know due to the flushed red cheeks/face etc.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

She's crazy. Bullet dodged. That would be like saying a woman isn't a real woman if she needed to use lube.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I see it as no different to me taking my medication so I can function.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"She's crazy. Bullet dodged. That would be like saying a woman isn't a real woman if she needed to use lube. "

Exactly. Uneducated and ignorant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There should be no shame or embarrassment around this OP and well done for being open and telling her.

Alcohol can also affect performance so would she have an issue with some one not drinking to make sure everything went well? Same thing for me

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Never been with anyone who has needed it but I honestly don't see why it should be an issue.

Probably best out of that one though.

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings

"She's crazy. Bullet dodged. That would be like saying a woman isn't a real woman if she needed to use lube. "

Totally agree

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By *eadinthecloudsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Really amazed nobody has made a matrix reference yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a man of a certain age I find the use of Viagra a great help.

Really taken aback, anyone else experienced something similar. How do other women on here feel about men using viagra?"

I’ve never used the blue pill, too many sorrows about headaches and stuff. However, I did once try the jelly. That’s good stuff with no side effects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there any need to mention to a woman you are using it ?

She would know due to the flushed red cheeks/face etc."

Not everyone gets that.

Chalk it up to experience OP. Would she have preferred you turn up and have to go ‘it doesn’t usually do this’ etc? I doubt it.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a man of a certain age I find the use of Viagra a great help.

Really taken aback, anyone else experienced something similar. How do other women on here feel about men using viagra?"

Sorry that happened, the comments were absolutely uncalled for however her asking if you were turned on by her says more about her and her mind state than you, sounds like she is insecure in feeling she isn't enough maybe. I am sure you would of explained wht you use them had you been given a chance too. Such a shame

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings

OP I some times take one befor a MFM as I just get nerves I won't be for them. And then can't perform as expected.

Go with it and have fun..

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"As a man of a certain age I find the use of Viagra a great help.

Really taken aback, anyone else experienced something similar. How do other women on here feel about men using viagra?"

If you actually have a medical reason to take it…. They I don’t think anyone should have an issue!

It is a licensed drug, you still need to seen someone before it is prescribed for you.

If you are taking it for vanity reasons, then I think that is where I have issues…. I know of people who have had strokes after taking them!

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"As a man of a certain age I find the use of Viagra a great help.

Really taken aback, anyone else experienced something similar. How do other women on here feel about men using viagra?"

It's a pathetic stigma in this day and age, over something you can't control. Suppose there's some debate about whether it's a thing that you *should* tell a prospective play partner, but I'd suggest not since you wouldn't expect someone to tell you they were on antidepressants - it doesn't affect you but it very much makes them function better. Still though, it was good that you were open regardless, and she was very much in the wrong to react like that.

Not that it's in any way an excuse, but you mention being a man 'of a certain age', so I'd imagine the lady was of a similar age? Old fashioned beliefs are likely to be held by those who are older, but let's hope she can find it in herself to reflect and realise how silly she was in this case.

Good luck to you OP!

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Vanity reasons ? Please explain.

The op asked women for their opinion on their perception of men who use Viagra...not do you have health concerns for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Vanity reasons ? Please explain.

The op asked women for their opinion on their perception of men who use Viagra...not do you have health concerns for him. "

You should only take it if you medically need it. There are enough posts on here that go ‘I don’t need it but I was going to a club so wanted to go all night’ etc

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By *im47uk OP Man
over a year ago

St Helens

Just to say it is medically prescribed.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Vanity reasons ? Please explain.

The op asked women for their opinion on their perception of men who use Viagra...not do you have health concerns for him. "

It’s a drug that is taken from medical reasons… why do you think it comes in different dose sizes! Because a doctor is going to weigh up the risks vs the rewards and PRESCRIBE the right dosage

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Just to say it is medically prescribed."

In which case that’s a her issue, not you.. if she is that lacking of understanding then she is not someone I would play with anyway ( or want to)

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By *im47uk OP Man
over a year ago

St Helens

Lol should have thought of that when I posted

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Who is to say that the mental health issues linked to ED is not a legitimate excuse ?

I have a friend who had psychological ED and used Viagra as a "corner man" as he put it. He took a little bit of a pill and that bolstered him. It worked fir him.

I took his advice and took a quarter pill before attending a club a couple of times. It didn't work. I couldn't overcome my issues with being watched or the impersoanality of certain situations.

As for health...

The vasodilatory effects allow arteries and veins to open more and increase blood flow everywhere.

I am not sure how this would form clots which cause strokes?

It is likely that poor food and other health choices made caused issues due to oxidative stress.

A study showed that "By itself, Viagra did not induce platelet aggregation. But the drug did cause clumping when other chemicals, which are released by the body when a blood vessel is damaged, were added."

So, yes it can create an increased risk of incident but only if you have already damaged your arteries through life choices.

Funnily enough, those poor choices can often lead to real biological reasons for erectile dysfunction and lead to Viagra being prescribed by doctors.

Go figure.

https://www.upi.com/Science_News/2003/01/09/Viagra-can-cause-blood-clots-heart-attack/41531042133428/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's outrageous. Ignore her. Nothing wrong with it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

apparently you need to be turned on anyway for viagra to work

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By *im47uk OP Man
over a year ago

St Helens

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's crazy. Bullet dodged. That would be like saying a woman isn't a real woman if she needed to use lube. "

Exactly this

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Wrong way round from my experience OP...

A while ago mind, but I was flattered that a guy I was seeing wanted to do what he could to make sure we had as much fun as possible...

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By *im47uk OP Man
over a year ago

St Helens

"Wrong way round from my experience OP...

A while ago mind, but I was flattered that a guy I was seeing wanted to do what he could to make sure we had as much fun as possible...

That has been my thinking in the past. Always preferred a longer session and to make sure I satisfy a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surly must be happy from both parties?? She gets more satisfied and he can go for longer and rounds ? Winner winner chicken dinner ! X

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

So many misconceptions about viagra.

You need to be aroused for it to work, so her theory that you don’t find her attractive is misguided. As for being less of a man, the main stigma associated with ED, once you get past it and own it you can start to live your life.

There are several medical issues that can cause ED, psychological as well as physiological, that to discount the issue as just not being manly enough shows their ignorance.

I don’t give a fuck that I need to use ED aids. I can still ensure the people I play with have fun as well as enjoying myself.

If someone decided not to meet me because of that, I would be thankful as I wouldn’t want to meet them.

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By *im47uk OP Man
over a year ago

St Helens

"So many misconceptions about viagra.

There are several medical issues that can cause ED, psychological as well as physiological, that to discount the issue as just not being manly enough shows their ignorance.

I don’t give a fuck that I need to use ED aids. I can still ensure the people I play with have fun as well as enjoying myself.

If someone decided not to meet me because of that, I would be thankful as I wouldn’t want to meet them."

Thanks for saying that

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most people are not compatible, so the presenting issue may be just a facet of broader lack of compatibility. Expect the high levels of this and ignore the ignorance that others may show

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Prior to my heart issues cropping up two years ago I was using Viagra, this was obtained using a prescription from my GP for 4 tablets per month. When I mentioned this at my first appointment with the heart consultant I was told in no uncertain way not to use them again as they were not compatable with the medication he was about to prescribe, this was later confirmed by my G.P.

This situation is ongoing so the chance of me ever having penetrative sex again is very remote. At my age I cannot really complain.

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By *im47uk OP Man
over a year ago

St Helens

"Prior to my heart issues cropping up two years ago I was using Viagra, this was obtained using a prescription from my GP for 4 tablets per month. When I mentioned this at my first appointment with the heart consultant I was told in no uncertain way not to use them again as they were not compatable with the medication he was about to prescribe, this was later confirmed by my G.P.

This situation is ongoing so the chance of me ever having penetrative sex again is very remote. At my age I cannot really complain.

Sorry to hear that Geoff

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough

"As a man of a certain age I find the use of Viagra a great help.

Really taken aback, anyone else experienced something similar. How do other women on here feel about men using viagra?"

I’m a regular at swinging clubs, and the vast majority of men over 25 are ALL on viagra!

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By *edonisthenryMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

"As a man of a certain age I find the use of Viagra a great help.

Really taken aback, anyone else experienced something similar. How do other women on here feel about men using viagra?

I’m a regular at swinging clubs, and the vast majority of men over 25 are ALL on viagra! "

What's wrong with Viagara? I'm nearly 60 and 1x 100 mg pill prescribed by my GP allows a hard erection when I want it. I take it for medical reasons and frown upon it taken as a party drug, perhaps by young men without erectile dysfunction. I think we all agree that your lady friend was just plain stupid and her attitude encourages men to feel shame.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

For some women Viagra can make them feel inadequate as they cannot provoke a erection from a man without medical assistance.

Its a sad state of affairs and only adds to the stigma

OP don't think on it and enjoy your sex life any which way you please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This one I think comes down to a one off or someone you want more fun with. One offs - does it matter. More, then share. You might discover she likes you taking it for more pleasure. If she slags you off - run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The little blue pill just gives me a headache

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it, started about 6 years ago, nothing works otherwise. Quite frankly, best thing that happened to me, erections are like I’m 20 again and last all night, and then again most of the next morning!

Only slight drawback I find is, it takes about 30 mins or so to work so spontaneity is difficult.

I wouldn’t tell anyone I take it unless it was developing into a relationship then I think it would be important so that we were on the same page so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This situation is ongoing so the chance of me ever having penetrative sex again is very remote. At my age I cannot really complain.

That's a shame. Better to be alive though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you definitely dodged a bullet bud , you shouldn’t have to be shamed for taking it , if it works it works , end of discussion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use them when in a club or on a fab meet. It's one less thing I need to be worried about. I do it for a number of reasons. Firstly confidence that it won't let me down. 2, longevity. 3 It's not so shriveled when I get out of the pool. 4, I can go again much quicker. There are no downsides to me taking them so I don't need anyone elses opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would men baulk at the idea of lube or the fact they have a coil wire?

I think it's an odd thing to block someone for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry this happened to you OP

I hope from reading the many positive answers on here from us all it has put your mind at ease that the majority of us don't have an issue with it xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This situation is ongoing so the chance of me ever having penetrative sex again is very remote. At my age I cannot really complain.

Have you, or your doctor, ever considered Tadalafil as an alternative?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

This situation is ongoing so the chance of me ever having penetrative sex again is very remote. At my age I cannot really complain.

Can you get an erection for solo play? Where you have plenty of time and can tease yourself unhurried?

Just curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there any need to mention to a woman you are using it ?

She would know due to the flushed red cheeks/face etc."
I get a red flushed face when iv been exercising, now I'm goin to be paranoid thinkin people will think iv been popping viagras

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

If you need it and your health allows it then do what you have to. I personally would like to know beforehand though.

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By *hades of FunMan
over a year ago

Hitchin

I pretty much always take a little blue pill .. I just find it enhances performance which benefits all parties! I see it as a private thing so have never mentioned it although I certainly wouldn't deny taking one. I would suggest just carry on with what you're doing but don't volunteer the information unless specifically asked .. you can then decide what answer to provide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This situation is ongoing so the chance of me ever having penetrative sex again is very remote. At my age I cannot really complain.

Have you, or your doctor, ever considered Tadalafil as an alternative?"

You can also get injections, which I believe is used a lot in the porn industry - Caverject or Trimix. They work differently from the pills so may be still available to you, or of course a pump followed by a ring??? Try everything before you give up, for your own sanity!!!!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I am wondering, OP whether the fact you disclosed it to her was the turn-off to her (rather than you taking it) and that she thought of it as a sign of making apologies ahead of likely unsatisfactory sex (in HER mind) . A rather immature and silly way to look at it but some people are rather blinkered in their views.

I know many guys who take that or Cialis and I would not think any less of them for doing so. I think, as somebody else said, you dodged a bullet here.

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By *im47uk OP Man
over a year ago

St Helens

"I am wondering, OP whether the fact you disclosed it to her was the turn-off to her (rather than you taking it) and that she thought of it as a sign of making apologies ahead of likely unsatisfactory sex (in HER mind) . A rather immature and silly way to look at it but some people are rather blinkered in their views.

I know many guys who take that or Cialis and I would not think any less of them for doing so. I think, as somebody else said, you dodged a bullet here.

Thanks Aphrodite feeling more and more like I dodged a bullet and less like I was wrong for being truthful.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

This situation is ongoing so the chance of me ever having penetrative sex again is very remote. At my age I cannot really complain.

That's a shame. Better to be alive though.

My thoughts exactly, my grandkids need me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey op,

So not too long ago i was having issues due to a AD medication i was on. I found the blue pill terrible, and tried 'kamagra oral jelly' quite honestly its fantastic and doesnt just send you hard for hours on end.

I found i could go for all night but it didnt stay solid after the deed was done, give it afew mins and i could be hard again to go again, no flushes ect. It helped me no end when i needed it.

I didnt tell my lover i was using it as didnt want a negative reaction.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"She's crazy. Bullet dodged. That would be like saying a woman isn't a real woman if she needed to use lube. "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't used Viagra, but may well do one day.

Also you don't always need a broom handle stiffie. My fwb likes it slightly floppy and waits for it to grow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had sex with someone that had the coil in. But every time I went in. I could feel it. Kinda put me off tbh

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By *Booboo-Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'm coming off AD tablets which have been a massive help for me for a couple of years. I'm not ashamed of them and will tell anyone about them.

One of the major side effects is that it massively reduces your sex drive and ED. Even after that, if you do finally manage to rally the troops it's very difficult to ejaculate.

Since I've been coming off the medication I feel like a horny teenager and getting random erections all the time, but it's a bit sporadic.

I've got a few potential meets coming up and so I'll probably pop a blue pill to make sure.

Am I worried what the person will think? Nope! If they've got an issue with it then that's their problem, not mine.

I see it as a tool to do a job.

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By *Booboo-Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Hey op,

I found i could go for all night but it didnt stay solid after the deed was done, give it afew mins and i could be hard again to go again, no flushes ect. It helped me no end when i needed it.

I didnt tell my lover i was using it as didnt want a negative reaction.

Noted!

* Goes off to google

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Sounds like her own insecurity to me. Personally I have no issues with it and men can often have an erection even when not hugely excited so it's hardly the best measure. You can tell someone's enthusiasm in other ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey op,

I found i could go for all night but it didnt stay solid after the deed was done, give it afew mins and i could be hard again to go again, no flushes ect. It helped me no end when i needed it.

I didnt tell my lover i was using it as didnt want a negative reaction.

It’s also illegal in the UK

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By *hisisntpofMan
over a year ago

bristol

If its for you take it on ,and happy days

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