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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I thought this was swingers site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is and swingers by their very definition tend to be quite sociable people, hence the need for social meets. simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think socials are not part of the scene then...?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

don't do them then

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge


"I thought this was swingers site "

so you female partner doesent have a time every month when she cant play ? so use those days to have a social meet to see if your compatible with people first .

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

i think socials are very much part of the scene, it gives ppl chance to get to know each other

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect "

True. But sometimes it's also part of the thrill to get to know someone or a couple better - specially if you use the social time to find out more about their likes and dislikes, desires, fetishes etc.... Makes the next time all the better...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect "

Even from just a point of security if nothing else.. What happen if you don't feel compatible?

Is the fact you could be introducing yourself to any madman a thrill?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it is and swingers by their very definition tend to be quite sociable people, hence the need for social meets. simples "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect

True. But sometimes it's also part of the thrill to get to know someone or a couple better - specially if you use the social time to find out more about their likes and dislikes, desires, fetishes etc.... Makes the next time all the better...

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Yea I see what you mean, but personally I prefer the thrill of not knowing (:

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect

True. But sometimes it's also part of the thrill to get to know someone or a couple better - specially if you use the social time to find out more about their likes and dislikes, desires, fetishes etc.... Makes the next time all the better...

Yea I see what you mean, but personally I prefer the thrill of not knowing (: "

read teh halloween thread then...this lot are scary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect

True. But sometimes it's also part of the thrill to get to know someone or a couple better - specially if you use the social time to find out more about their likes and dislikes, desires, fetishes etc.... Makes the next time all the better...

Yea I see what you mean, but personally I prefer the thrill of not knowing (:

read teh halloween thread then...this lot are scary "

Just had a quick scan through....... think I might pass on even a social with most of them!!!!!!! Jeeeeez there are some sick minds out there.....!!! Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought this was swingers site "

You'll fuck anyone then? Without checking you fancy them?

Would you expect a woman to meet privately with a strange man without the chance to find out if she feels safe with him?

If you would fuck anyone, good luck, but I won't. And I insist on meeting in public first to see if I feel comfortable with the person, and if they feel comfortable with me.

This may be a swinging site but some people are looking for more than any old stranger to turn up, shoot their load and piss off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect "

I understand this. And we enjoy clubs for this reason. But for meets off the site then a social is a must. it's about chemistry and safety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is a swingers site but here we are chatting on a forum as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect "

No thrill in knowing I might be meeting someone totally different from their profile, that they may be dirty and smelly, feeling fear that I may end up being hurt or forced to do something I don't want to, or at the extreme end of the scale, that I could end up dead.

No way I am arranging to be alone with a strange man without the chance to check him out first.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect "

And that is fine... I can understand that.

If you want people to be accepting of how you like to meet people, try not being so unaccepting of how other people like to do it.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect

No thrill in knowing I might be meeting someone totally different from their profile, that they may be dirty and smelly, feeling fear that I may end up being hurt or forced to do something I don't want to, or at the extreme end of the scale, that I could end up dead.

No way I am arranging to be alone with a strange man without the chance to check him out first."

I would be very worried to find any guy who wouldn't understand this....and I would only ever meet on my terms to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No thrill in knowing I might be meeting someone totally different from their profile, that they may be dirty and smelly, feeling fear that I may end up being hurt or forced to do something I don't want to, or at the extreme end of the scale, that I could end up dead.

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Spot on, KIH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect

No thrill in knowing I might be meeting someone totally different from their profile, that they may be dirty and smelly, feeling fear that I may end up being hurt or forced to do something I don't want to, or at the extreme end of the scale, that I could end up dead.

No way I am arranging to be alone with a strange man without the chance to check him out first.

I would be very worried to find any guy who wouldn't understand this....and I would only ever meet on my terms to be honest."

Agreed. I'm more at risk than the bloke, so they can do it my way, and understand they need to make me feel comfortable and secure, or they can take a hike.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I thought this was swingers site "

I don't see why you are questioning the purpose of the site because a percentage of the users like to meet socially first...

the ones who want to..... don't meet them

the ones who don't.... meet and shag

it ain't rocket science

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet soical 1st befor i offer anyone back to play when on my own.if with my oher half im not botherd lol

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Sometimes, I just really don't understand these types of threads! Why would a man think, that a single female, would want to just meet anyone and get down to business? I mean, you could be anyone! As my profile states, I am a fussy biatch and if I am not attracted to you I'm not going to do anything further, if it's just the thrill you are seeking, it sounds to me as if you think this site is to be used as if you were meeting a prostitute, without having to pay! Just my opinion of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only people we've met who didn't want a social first turned out to be pretty unsociable anyway

QED

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect "

That's all very well until you get some nutter who turns out to be nothing like described, is abusive, rude, and possibly tries to attack you. - What do you do then? You've put yourself in a small confined space with them... And if you meet at your place, they then know your address where you possibly live with family/kids...

We do social meets first to make sure that people are who they say they are and that we all get on without any pressure to play (Just in case they don't like us/we don't like them, ect).

If you're not happy with people who make choices to guarantee their comfort and safety, don't meet them. - Simple. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes, I just really don't understand these types of threads! Why would a man think, that a single female, would want to just meet anyone and get down to business? I mean, you could be anyone! As my profile states, I am a fussy biatch and if I am not attracted to you I'm not going to do anything further, if it's just the thrill you are seeking, it sounds to me as if you think this site is to be used as if you were meeting a prostitute, without having to pay! Just my opinion of course "

Damn I was going to message you asking for a quickie in the bus stop next time I'm in Aberdeen

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"No thrill in knowing I might be meeting someone totally different from their profile, that they may be dirty and smelly, feeling fear that I may end up being hurt or forced to do something I don't want to, or at the extreme end of the scale, that I could end up dead."

Hit the nail on the head there, my love. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was under the impression that socialising was all part of the swinging scene. Having to be discreet in my activities finding ppl who are likeminded,for me, is a big deal as its not as if I can discuss my activites with my normal friends n family xx

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect "
I totally get that, I really do. And who knows maybe one day I might stray from my motto of meeting socially first - who knows. I guess for me it is about not wanting to set up expectations and then, if chemistry is not there, having to say no. Maybe I am a coward in that respect but I prefer to say "social on first occasion".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meet could lead to sexy fun meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social meet could lead to sexy fun meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do understand the thrill and excitement of meeting a person or persons for the first time and getting straight down to the fun without little chat. However, us humans as well as being sexual creatures are socialable beings too and some persons are less confident than others so we must appreciate that many people need to ascertain another persons trust worthyness, chemistry, etc.

I'm sure most of us here have met a couple or a single and find that they extremely nervous and are physically shaking.

I'm sure some of you will agree and disagree with above.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

As far as im concerned every meet starts out as a social meet,no-one is obliged to do anything if they're not happy/comfortable/attracted to each other regardless of what may have been discussed before the meet

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I do social lunch meets most days with straight lads wanting cock for the first thing..

Saves me a fortune doing the weekly shop.

Some dirty talk over a 3 course lunch and a flash of cock in the loos.. They go home happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect

True. But sometimes it's also part of the thrill to get to know someone or a couple better - specially if you use the social time to find out more about their likes and dislikes, desires, fetishes etc.... Makes the next time all the better...

Yea I see what you mean, but personally I prefer the thrill of not knowing (:

read teh halloween thread then...this lot are scary "

is hiding under the bed now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the whole idea of the current set up for socials a bit bland to be honest. Surely they'd be far more interesting if the process was revesed and everybody met up and fucked in a hotel first, then went to pub, got pissed and told everybody else what they really thought of them?

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eh, no, I prefer to know the person to establish if we tickle each other's fancy before we get down to some sexy fun.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Isnt chams a social place ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isnt chams a social place ??"

I thought so but apparently some see it more like a buffet. They see something they want and grab it!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"Isnt chams a social place ??

I thought so but apparently some see it more like a buffet. They see something they want and grab it!

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LMAO seems so

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I thought this was swingers site "

Yes, and some of us are here to meet people who's company we enjoy, not just to stick our dangly bits in whoever we can catch at the right angle..

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I thought this was swingers site

Yes, and some of us are here to meet people who's company we enjoy, not just to stick our dangly bits in whoever we can catch at the right angle.."
unless you can swivel 360 degrees....

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY


"I thought this was swingers site "

yes it is a swingers site

but to us swinging is more than just a quick shag , we like to meet and make friends on here too,

we have noticed that it is mainly single guys who keep on that people don't meet, what they mean is they don't meet them.

may be you would be better off on a "fishy" site if its only a shag your looking for,

but lots on here are looking for a lot more and are happy with the site and the way others are using it

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY


"Sometimes, I just really don't understand these types of threads! Why would a man think, that a single female, would want to just meet anyone and get down to business? I mean, you could be anyone! As my profile states, I am a fussy biatch and if I am not attracted to you I'm not going to do anything further, if it's just the thrill you are seeking, it sounds to me as if you think this site is to be used as if you were meeting a prostitute, without having to pay! Just my opinion of course "

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect "

See now, instead of what you wrote, I read there "I'll just shag anything that moves"

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

A coffee meet in a public place is not a date.

It's a way to check that each other are as described. I have met guys who used fake and out of date pics. Guys who are recently divorced/separated and who have sobbed about it. And guys with poor hygiene and social skills.

Then there are the aggressive ones

And lastly, the ones I simply don't fancy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question to the OP: What if you arranged to meet with a lady for sex and 'she' turned out to be a 'he'?

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect

And that is fine... I can understand that.

If you want people to be accepting of how you like to meet people, try not being so unaccepting of how other people like to do it."

Think I just found the swinging mantra for all newbies, especially those coming into the forums!

All hail Polo the wise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question to the OP: What if you arranged to meet with a lady for sex and 'she' turned out to be a 'he'? "

i heard of some old desperate fella marrying a lady like that hahaha

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I thought this was swingers site

Yes, and some of us are here to meet people who's company we enjoy, not just to stick our dangly bits in whoever we can catch at the right angle..unless you can swivel 360 degrees.... "

Do I hear a challenge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought this was swingers site "

It is. Now I have met blind so to speak. But not often. Sometimes I love the thrill of not knowing but have also then had someone turn up and not look anything like their photos.

So now I tend to go to a club or adult cinema. I don't actually need to fancy someone for a quick play but if I'm going to kiss them I do. And so therefore need a social.

I've got two guys I've met 5 times socially now and we will play eventually.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had 3 social meets on this place with 2 leading to ummmm errrr further developments the same night (with last night being the most recent..mmmm!)and a meeting arranged with the 3rd after a year and half!! lol

I like the thrill of not knowing if it will lead to anything further as, lets be honest, we all attend these with a small degree of hope If not then so long as a laugh is had!

And on all 3 socials a blast and giggle was had but I can see how, if you're a single shy or not-so-confident guy, how this could be rather daunting.

That said, especially when thinking of single females, if a social/public meet is requested it should always be respected surely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect

Even from just a point of security if nothing else.. What happen if you don't feel compatible?

Is the fact you could be introducing yourself to any madman a thrill?"

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I was just revisiting this one and thought that actually I/ we have met people socially with the initial intention of taking thing further perhaps but then got to know them and liked them so much as friends that the idea of playing would be almost a hinderance if that makes sense?

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I was just revisiting this one and thought that actually I/ we have met people socially with the initial intention of taking thing further perhaps but then got to know them and liked them so much as friends that the idea of playing would be almost a hinderance if that makes sense? "

See that's something that seems common that i've never understood. it's the same with relationships of any kind with someone you know too well. Maybe it's because I only see sex as deeply intimate with your partner but having sex with a close friend wouldn't bother me. I don't think it would take anything away from the experience at the least and at the most I'm undecided if it could make it better. Perhaps not, but at least neutral.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I was just revisiting this one and thought that actually I/ we have met people socially with the initial intention of taking thing further perhaps but then got to know them and liked them so much as friends that the idea of playing would be almost a hinderance if that makes sense?

See that's something that seems common that i've never understood. it's the same with relationships of any kind with someone you know too well. Maybe it's because I only see sex as deeply intimate with your partner but having sex with a close friend wouldn't bother me. I don't think it would take anything away from the experience at the least and at the most I'm undecided if it could make it better. Perhaps not, but at least neutral."

Maybe it is more to do with the people that I am thinking of, maybe the sexual attraction is slim by comparison to the social one. I have not problem playing and being friends with somebody either. It probably was, in this case, the "specifics" about the people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all types should respect how ppl play, whether swingers,bedknotchers whatever.I'm just adaptable to what I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont be scared of social meets, sometimes they are just a test to see if u are really what you say you are

lets be real,

the chances are that if they are into you and you meet and have a social,

unless they have planned specifically to be social only, then if its there when you meet you probs are still going to have fun afterwards, its just how some people do it

after all it s out most of the doyles and timewasters, shows you genuinly are interested in them and they also get to meet to see if the chemistry there, if your profile and everything is honest and the banter/chemistry seems good before you meet then chances are you will meet and it wont be a social meet for long, in my expierence anyways.

some people like the security of knowing they got the option of walking away without it being awkward, it dont that its a wasted trip

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I was just revisiting this one and thought that actually I/ we have met people socially with the initial intention of taking thing further perhaps but then got to know them and liked them so much as friends that the idea of playing would be almost a hinderance if that makes sense?

See that's something that seems common that i've never understood. it's the same with relationships of any kind with someone you know too well. Maybe it's because I only see sex as deeply intimate with your partner but having sex with a close friend wouldn't bother me. I don't think it would take anything away from the experience at the least and at the most I'm undecided if it could make it better. Perhaps not, but at least neutral.

Maybe it is more to do with the people that I am thinking of, maybe the sexual attraction is slim by comparison to the social one. I have not problem playing and being friends with somebody either. It probably was, in this case, the "specifics" about the people."

Well that's fair enough. Not everyone is attractive in that way, whatever the reason. On this subject though, would anyone else be put off a sexual relationship with someone due to feelings of too close a friendship? Might put this as a new thread actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love the thrill of getting ready for a meet...there's something very exciting about knowing you're meeting people with the express intention of having sex with them-that never goes away but we always at least like to have a glass of wine and a chat with people to see if we have any chemistry...we have only ever once gone through with playing with someone we felt a sense of obligation to because he'd travelled so far to meet us and it was awful...so while we understand the thrill we never let it get in the way of our sensibility any more

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

We think just about all meets start as a social as we never go anywhere with an absolute guarantee of having sex. After a chat and a few drinks it may end up that way and quite often does but surely you have to be social before being sexual. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We think just about all meets start as a social as we never go anywhere with an absolute guarantee of having sex. After a chat and a few drinks it may end up that way and quite often does but surely you have to be social before being sexual. xxx "

I think its whats a definition of social...I rarely do meets outwith the play area(obviously not in starbucks etc)...and even if its in my home or theirs..if its not gonna go sexually..thats fine...getting awkward about not having an attraction enough to fuck???- in my book...thats something I think some should just grow up on.For safet reasons yes some prefer it...but having a coffee meet that goes well doesnt say itll be a safe sexual meet later.Again, how ppl choose their prospective meets is more important than the where and when part of it.

anyone fancy a pint...and a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect "

Yeah, I love turning up blind and finding an axe murderer waiting for me; or an old man who has wowed you by using his son's photos and saying they are him.

Give me a social meet every time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think part of the thrill is not knowing what to expect

Yeah, I love turning up blind and finding an axe murderer waiting for me; or an old man who has wowed you by using his son's photos and saying they are him.

Give me a social meet every time!"

or he comes and axe murders ya after a fine coffee meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also..I have friends I'll tell where I'm going..I know the sites and our types of meets are supposed to be discreet, but everyone should have someone the know that they can trust n tell them where they are heading to, especially if its with strangers.

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