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" the only time would be is if it's a thread/game where they directly ask for pms on a subject. It would be nice to be acknowledged then, ..." That also disappoints me. Of course I know that when people say "I'm in" they weren't speaking to me directly, but if you join a game you should expect messages from other players! Seems it would be polite to answer and different from the usual rules and etiquette that apply to an unsolicited message. Gbat | |||
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"I don't treat them differently. But I do think you are more likely to understand their sense of humour and ways more. Which may seem a bit ambiguous from a stranger but is normal for the forumite. " If it’s someone you know well, then I agree, but if it’s someone you’ve maybe exchanged a few words with, it’s trickier. | |||
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"Kind of. It's hard to explain. I'll admit that sometimes I'm a bit erm... less on board with it if it's a very graphic sex message and it's off the back of a thread that's very much not about sex. I tend to be a bit shorter in my replies then because I think they should read the mood a bit more. Generally I'm more likely to reply to forum users because they're not just seeing me as a human fleshlight. Probably a bit more familiar because I've read their posts a few times. I don't expect other forum users to respond differently to me - the only time would be is if it's a thread/game where they directly ask for pms on a subject. It would be nice to be acknowledged then, especially if they say about being ignored or whatnot subsequently. " First paragraph, yes! Agree with the rest too though. | |||
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"Do you deal with them differently to messages from ‘others’ for want of a better term. Do you feel like you should be nicer to people you’ve passed the time of day with before?" No fuck them some of the big idiots are in the forum. | |||
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"I don't treat them differently. But I do think you are more likely to understand their sense of humour and ways more. Which may seem a bit ambiguous from a stranger but is normal for the forumite. If it’s someone you know well, then I agree, but if it’s someone you’ve maybe exchanged a few words with, it’s trickier." Definitely, I mean if someone is rude they are rude regardless and are treated the same way. I know I've said something on the forum which came out completely wrong (a few times), but because they know I sometimes struggle with words asked for clarification. This probably wouldn't happen if I wasn't on the forum often. | |||
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"I don't feel I should be nicer. That could very easily come at a personal cost and I ain't down for that " This is where I struggle at times. | |||
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"Do you deal with them differently to messages from ‘others’ for want of a better term. Do you feel like you should be nicer to people you’ve passed the time of day with before? No fuck them some of the big idiots are in the forum. " . True at times | |||
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"I wouldn't be getting messages from forum users as I stay in the arse end of nowhere, but I would treat every message with the same attention and importance that the person who sent it deserves. Anyone sending you a message has taken the time to send it to you. I reply nicely to the random "fancy a blow job" messages from men - it's nothing to be nice to people, even if they are chancing their mit a bit." Some people get thousands though (not me, filters are tighter than a nuns arse generally) | |||
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"Yes. I do treat forumites less sexually than I would normally on fab messages, but then on the forum its been mostly social chatting so the friend zone is pretty close " It’s the opposite I have trouble with. | |||
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"I wouldn't be getting messages from forum users as I stay in the arse end of nowhere, but I would treat every message with the same attention and importance that the person who sent it deserves. Anyone sending you a message has taken the time to send it to you. I reply nicely to the random "fancy a blow job" messages from men - it's nothing to be nice to people, even if they are chancing their mit a bit. Some people get thousands though (not me, filters are tighter than a nuns arse generally)" Haha, I was coming to that from a man's perspective - we generally don't have to worry about the quantity side of our inbox. | |||
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"Do you deal with them differently to messages from ‘others’ for want of a better term. Do you feel like you should be nicer to people you’ve passed the time of day with before?" Just because they contribute to threads does not automatically give them preferential status, so to speak. In some cases, reading comments has had a negative impact on my view on certain people unfortunately. All that glitters is not gold, blah blah blah. However, reading comments does make me much more curious about those profiles too...and there are lots of lovely people on here who I wouldn't necessarily know about or make contact with, had it not been for their contributions. | |||
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"I only really talk to people who post on the forum or who lurk and message me off a thread. Mainly because I have that sense of I know who they are even if we haven’t met if that makes sense… For myself it just makes the conversation easier in other words. I very rarely would message anyone who isn’t on the forum and the messages I have got off people that don’t use the forum are the free now to fuck the Mrs at 1am from 200 miles away Personally I do find messages from people that use the forum different to those who don’t - Just my experience and opinion though…" Roads are emptier that time of night | |||
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" I probably do make an effort to reply to any I get from people on the forums, most of the new friends I've made recently are from here." Yeah I agree with this - it’s not a green light to get in my knickers though. If I’m interested in someone that way I would let them know. Otherwise I’m happy to chat to people from the forums. By that I mean anyone that posts in threads not the lurkers that just use the direct message option. | |||
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"I'm more likely to engage in messages with a "forumite" as rightly or wrongly I think they are more on our level, more into the game of swi going rather than just looking for a quick fuck. There also seems to be more of an effort made. Although that's not always the case and there are the ones who just loiter for an opportunity to message someone and that annoys me. If I've replied on the forum then ask before you pm me or it'll just get deleted. " This really annoys me, why pm instead of answering on the thread. | |||
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"I'm more likely to engage in messages with a "forumite" as rightly or wrongly I think they are more on our level, more into the game of swi going rather than just looking for a quick fuck. There also seems to be more of an effort made. Although that's not always the case and there are the ones who just loiter for an opportunity to message someone and that annoys me. If I've replied on the forum then ask before you pm me or it'll just get deleted. This really annoys me, why pm instead of answering on the thread. " This is what I don’t like either. Feel like they use it as a way in to try and get a convo going. I don’t like chatting privately, feels too intimate for something that I haven’t requested or initiated myself. It’s weird. Can’t describe it properly why I don’t like it. | |||
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"I'm more likely to engage in messages with a "forumite" as rightly or wrongly I think they are more on our level, more into the game of swi going rather than just looking for a quick fuck. There also seems to be more of an effort made. Although that's not always the case and there are the ones who just loiter for an opportunity to message someone and that annoys me. If I've replied on the forum then ask before you pm me or it'll just get deleted. This really annoys me, why pm instead of answering on the thread. This is what I don’t like either. Feel like they use it as a way in to try and get a convo going. I don’t like chatting privately, feels too intimate for something that I haven’t requested or initiated myself. It’s weird. Can’t describe it properly why I don’t like it. " It’s invasive, uninvited contact. That’s how I see it anyway, mainly if it’s graphic or trying to get into my knickers, off the back of a thread. | |||
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"Do you deal with them differently to messages from ‘others’ for want of a better term. Do you feel like you should be nicer to people you’ve passed the time of day with before?" It all depends on the content, and tone, of the opening message I receive from someone, regardless of whether I’ve chatted to them in a forum thread or not | |||
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"I'm more likely to engage in messages with a "forumite" as rightly or wrongly I think they are more on our level, more into the game of swi going rather than just looking for a quick fuck. There also seems to be more of an effort made. Although that's not always the case and there are the ones who just loiter for an opportunity to message someone and that annoys me. If I've replied on the forum then ask before you pm me or it'll just get deleted. This really annoys me, why pm instead of answering on the thread. This is what I don’t like either. Feel like they use it as a way in to try and get a convo going. I don’t like chatting privately, feels too intimate for something that I haven’t requested or initiated myself. It’s weird. Can’t describe it properly why I don’t like it. It’s invasive, uninvited contact. That’s how I see it anyway, mainly if it’s graphic or trying to get into my knickers, off the back of a thread. " Quite often the advice given to single guys is to get chatting and known on the forums. If the chat doesn't move off the forums, then I don't see how it's meant to help them meet people | |||
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"I'm more likely to engage in messages with a "forumite" as rightly or wrongly I think they are more on our level, more into the game of swi going rather than just looking for a quick fuck. There also seems to be more of an effort made. Although that's not always the case and there are the ones who just loiter for an opportunity to message someone and that annoys me. If I've replied on the forum then ask before you pm me or it'll just get deleted. This really annoys me, why pm instead of answering on the thread. This is what I don’t like either. Feel like they use it as a way in to try and get a convo going. I don’t like chatting privately, feels too intimate for something that I haven’t requested or initiated myself. It’s weird. Can’t describe it properly why I don’t like it. It’s invasive, uninvited contact. That’s how I see it anyway, mainly if it’s graphic or trying to get into my knickers, off the back of a thread. Quite often the advice given to single guys is to get chatting and known on the forums. If the chat doesn't move off the forums, then I don't see how it's meant to help them meet people " If it’s respectful and invited then it’s fine. | |||
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"Yes Yes Any expansion on that Granny?" Okay. I'll brew a coffee first. | |||
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"I'm more likely to engage in messages with a "forumite" as rightly or wrongly I think they are more on our level, more into the game of swi going rather than just looking for a quick fuck. There also seems to be more of an effort made. Although that's not always the case and there are the ones who just loiter for an opportunity to message someone and that annoys me. If I've replied on the forum then ask before you pm me or it'll just get deleted. This really annoys me, why pm instead of answering on the thread. This is what I don’t like either. Feel like they use it as a way in to try and get a convo going. I don’t like chatting privately, feels too intimate for something that I haven’t requested or initiated myself. It’s weird. Can’t describe it properly why I don’t like it. It’s invasive, uninvited contact. That’s how I see it anyway, mainly if it’s graphic or trying to get into my knickers, off the back of a thread. Quite often the advice given to single guys is to get chatting and known on the forums. If the chat doesn't move off the forums, then I don't see how it's meant to help them meet people " I’ve met two solo ladies and one couple as a direct result of using the forums, but most of the time, people are too far from me | |||
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"Do you deal with them differently to messages from ‘others’ for want of a better term. Do you feel like you should be nicer to people you’ve passed the time of day with before?" Do you deal "differently" with posters on the actual forum? It's interesting that three people initially responded to your first post in the thread and you directly answered two of them, but not the third. I know you can't respond individually to every single poster but as the number was small at that point I wonder why you answered the first two people but not me, the third person? I felt a bit left out, but I'm a big boy and I will get over it!! Gbat | |||
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"Do you deal with them differently to messages from ‘others’ for want of a better term. Do you feel like you should be nicer to people you’ve passed the time of day with before? No fuck them some of the big idiots are in the forum. " agree | |||
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"It depends on the reason for the message and the message's content. Which applies to anyone messaging me. So, no I don't treat them differently. I particularly don't like sex orientated messages from forum thread creators, simply because you posted on their thread. Or from lurkers on a thread " I must admit, I block OPs before commenting if its something like "How do I make more woman ride my dick" if I think they're using it as a ploy to herd a bunch of women and then be able to message some of them | |||
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"Do you deal with them differently to messages from ‘others’ for want of a better term. Do you feel like you should be nicer to people you’ve passed the time of day with before? Do you deal "differently" with posters on the actual forum? It's interesting that three people initially responded to your first post in the thread and you directly answered two of them, but not the third. I know you can't respond individually to every single poster but as the number was small at that point I wonder why you answered the first two people but not me, the third person? I felt a bit left out, but I'm a big boy and I will get over it!! Gbat " It’s not personal, I probably got distracted by something shiny | |||
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" It’s not personal, I probably got distracted by something shiny " Cheers, Happy New Year. Gbat | |||
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"Do you deal with them differently to messages from ‘others’ for want of a better term. Do you feel like you should be nicer to people you’ve passed the time of day with before? Do you deal "differently" with posters on the actual forum? It's interesting that three people initially responded to your first post in the thread and you directly answered two of them, but not the third. I know you can't respond individually to every single poster but as the number was small at that point I wonder why you answered the first two people but not me, the third person? I felt a bit left out, but I'm a big boy and I will get over it!! Gbat It’s not personal, I probably got distracted by something shiny " . Sorry Gbat, I think it was my shiny new armour that blinded and distracted her for a while. Seriously though, sometimes, if you step out from a thread for a while, it's difficult to catch up. I'm in awe of the regular thread starters who dare to do it. I've done it a few times and it's pretty exhausting. | |||
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"I treat the messages differently from strangers in a few ways. If it is someone I see regularly in the forum I tend to think ...oooooooo what do you want? I read their message and reply. I get messaged for a host of reasons. If it's from someone who has read a post in the forum that i've written and they use that post to message sommat 'pervy' to me I ignore it and delete it. I used to reply to 'others' but just to tell them I don't chat via the message system but these days as my profile is hidden I only get messages via the forum or from people who have messaged me before. I do speak to forumites more openly than I would speak to 'others'. More politely too and with more tolerance. " This is where I would like to be, and nearly am. Thank you | |||
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"Do you deal with them differently to messages from ‘others’ for want of a better term. Do you feel like you should be nicer to people you’ve passed the time of day with before? Do you deal "differently" with posters on the actual forum? It's interesting that three people initially responded to your first post in the thread and you directly answered two of them, but not the third. I know you can't respond individually to every single poster but as the number was small at that point I wonder why you answered the first two people but not me, the third person? I felt a bit left out, but I'm a big boy and I will get over it!! Gbat " That’s a great point Gbat. It isn’t just in messages where puerile respond differently. This is where the sense of cliques comes from when it’s out in the open for all to see | |||
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"I must admit, I block OPs before commenting if its something like "How do I make more woman ride my dick" if I think they're using it as a ploy to herd a bunch of women and then be able to message some of them " Good use of the block I block those that post particularly nasty things so they cannot message me and pretend to be a nice guy | |||
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"From somebody who’s only recently started using the forums, Iv noticed there are around 20 or so people/couples that are regular in this forum and seem to “know” one another.." Many of us have met each other at socials | |||
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"Seriously though, sometimes, if you step out from a thread for a while, it's difficult to catch up. I'm in awe of the regular thread starters who dare to do it. I've done it a few times and it's pretty exhausting." Yeah, it's all good. Equilibrium restored. Gbat | |||
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"Yes. I tend to open messages from forum people if I recognise the name, invariably I ignore everyone else." This. | |||
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"From somebody who’s only recently started using the forums, Iv noticed there are around 20 or so people/couples that are regular in this forum and seem to “know” one another.. Many of us have met each other at socials " Yeah of course.. inevitable due to the nature of the site!! personally I don’t have the balls to go to a social | |||
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" That’s a great point Gbat. It isn’t just in messages where people respond differently. This is where the sense of cliques comes from when it’s out in the open for all to see" Yes, I see that too. But I'm more than happy with Hippychick's response. Gbat | |||
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"I must admit, I block OPs before commenting if its something like "How do I make more woman ride my dick" if I think they're using it as a ploy to herd a bunch of women and then be able to message some of them " How?!?!? How for the love of God how?!? How do I make more woman ride my dick? | |||
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"Nope, everyone is treated on their own merit, I know some forumites like to think they are royalty but certainly not in my world " Should I be addressing them as m’lady and m’lord?? | |||
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"Kind of. It's hard to explain. I'll admit that sometimes I'm a bit erm... less on board with it if it's a very graphic sex message and it's off the back of a thread that's very much not about sex. I tend to be a bit shorter in my replies then because I think they should read the mood a bit more. Generally I'm more likely to reply to forum users because they're not just seeing me as a human fleshlight. Probably a bit more familiar because I've read their posts a few times. I don't expect other forum users to respond differently to me - the only time would be is if it's a thread/game where they directly ask for pms on a subject. It would be nice to be acknowledged then, especially if they say about being ignored or whatnot subsequently. " I did that the other week, sorry. A coffee thread and you said yes but I was having a shit day and thought no-one had. | |||
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"Personally I don't respond differently to anyone but I have found that others do approach me differently. People I have engaged with in the forums are usually more respectful. Even some of those that I've never spoken to directly have messaged in relation to something or other and I like the way they don't waste time with introductions but just start a conversation. It's much easier to respond that way. In regards to messages received from people I don't know or have never seen in the forums it has been a mixed bag. Quite a few of those tend to play fabtag. That's when they send a message blowing smoke or full of amazing compliments and when I don't respond in a similar fashion they disappear just as fast after just the one message. Or those who message to say they don't know how they've never seen my profile before and ask where I've been hiding? I've been hiding in plain site where I was the last time they sent exactly the same message. Forumites almost know what to expect when they message so there is less chance of them being disappointed " I’m not sure I dare message you | |||
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"I'm more likely to engage in messages with a "forumite" as rightly or wrongly I think they are more on our level, more into the game of swi going rather than just looking for a quick fuck. There also seems to be more of an effort made. Although that's not always the case and there are the ones who just loiter for an opportunity to message someone and that annoys me. If I've replied on the forum then ask before you pm me or it'll just get deleted. This really annoys me, why pm instead of answering on the thread. This is what I don’t like either. Feel like they use it as a way in to try and get a convo going. I don’t like chatting privately, feels too intimate for something that I haven’t requested or initiated myself. It’s weird. Can’t describe it properly why I don’t like it. It’s invasive, uninvited contact. That’s how I see it anyway, mainly if it’s graphic or trying to get into my knickers, off the back of a thread. Quite often the advice given to single guys is to get chatting and known on the forums. If the chat doesn't move off the forums, then I don't see how it's meant to help them meet people If it’s respectful and invited then it’s fine." Exactly ladies x x keep it on the forum unless Invited x x | |||
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