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By *ercutio224 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stalybridge

Have just seen this stupid comment typed into a chat room. I thought we were better than that here, I thought we celebrated all sexuality? Are there really men out there who still think this is a legitimate thing to think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let them live however they want, toxic and unnecessary

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Report them hun if you feel it was derogatory. These sort of people need removing and banning from fab

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By *ercutio224 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stalybridge

It really took me by surprise, i was so taken a-back i didn't take the name sadly....

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Aren't the chat rooms recorded anyway? You could just say what room you were in and a rough time??

(If you felt that strongly?)

Gbat

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually

R

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Sounds like someone assuming they would be in with a chance if she wasn't to me and nothing more than that

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually

R"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually

R"

This definitely, not something I'd take to have been offensive.

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By *exy wife and her CuckCouple
over a year ago

Angus


"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually

R"

I agree!

To be honest op it sounds like your getting offended on behalf of someone else who doesn't need it and that boils down to, I hate to say it, but, snowflakery

D

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually

R"

That's how I read it so it's certainly not shaming anyone. It's like saying it's a pity they aren't compatible or its unfortunate we don't match.

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By *ercutio224 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stalybridge

Blimey, to me it just seemed to say that her being gay was a bad thing,a sort of 'I'll cure you' comment. Hey ho..

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"Blimey, to me it just seemed to say that her being gay was a bad thing,a sort of 'I'll cure you' comment. Hey ho.. "

Looks like you were projecting there.

I would take that as a comment of regret for opportunities lost, not homophobia.

Not necessarily tasteful or gentlemanly, but not obviously offensive,

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

[Removed by poster at 30/12/21 23:12:36]

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Next you'll only be able to look by way of a mirror.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually

R

I agree!

To be honest op it sounds like your getting offended on behalf of someone else who doesn't need it and that boils down to, I hate to say it, but, snowflakery

D"

How is someone finding something offensive being a snowflake? I find it funny that people often Feel the need to use such a word just because somebody doesn't see things the same way as them.

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By *exy wife and her CuckCouple
over a year ago

Angus


"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually

R

I agree!

To be honest op it sounds like your getting offended on behalf of someone else who doesn't need it and that boils down to, I hate to say it, but, snowflakery

D

How is someone finding something offensive being a snowflake? I find it funny that people often Feel the need to use such a word just because somebody doesn't see things the same way as them. "

Cool!! Having an opinion and airing it is fantastic eh!?

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Im not sure there was intent as you inferred from the comment OP - im more with the - ‘oooh what a shame your sexuality means we will never end up naked together’. If it was a pattern of comments that combined led to you inferring in the way you did- that’s different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually

R

I agree!

To be honest op it sounds like your getting offended on behalf of someone else who doesn't need it and that boils down to, I hate to say it, but, snowflakery

D

How is someone finding something offensive being a snowflake? I find it funny that people often Feel the need to use such a word just because somebody doesn't see things the same way as them.

Cool!! Having an opinion and airing it is fantastic eh!? "

Yes it is if others can keep insults to themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blimey, to me it just seemed to say that her being gay was a bad thing,a sort of 'I'll cure you' comment. Hey ho..

Looks like you were projecting there.

I would take that as a comment of regret for opportunities lost, not homophobia.

Not necessarily tasteful or gentlemanly, but not obviously offensive,"

This.

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By *ifferentClassMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

It reeks of someone intent on taking offence on behalf of someone else regardless of the context. Harmless enough on here, I guess, but something that causes untold problems for people in wider society these days, leading to accusations of all sorts.

I have a gay friend who often says of other women she fancies, ‘What a pity she is straight.’ She certainly isn’t descrying heterosexuality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it's nice of uou to take a stand OP, though perhaps jumping the shark a bit.

I can tell you from lived experience that straight men (in particular but not exclusively) will say stuff which might be received as offensive when actually no malice was intended.

And I do see guys and think wish you were gay..

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you


"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually

R

I agree!

To be honest op it sounds like your getting offended on behalf of someone else who doesn't need it and that boils down to, I hate to say it, but, snowflakery

D"

Bang on

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By *ercutio224 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stalybridge

Thank you all. Was interested in how people felt about it. I accept other opinions and am comfortable with mine.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually

R"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have just seen this stupid comment typed into a chat room. I thought we were better than that here, I thought we celebrated all sexuality? Are there really men out there who still think this is a legitimate thing to think? "

I agree with you OP. This is an example of how morally bankrupt we have become in the swinging community. We have let any miscreant/vagabond interlope into our rarefied lifestyle….

I believe there is only one way to regain the honor of our community….

You must have a duel with this dispicable character who has sullied our beloved community with his homophobic drivel.

This sound be held at dawn so it doesn’t interfere with anyone’s NYE plans….

Please choose your second wisely and God speed my friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't take offensive if someone said to me "shame he's gay,"

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

It’s not something I’d think omg can’t believe they’ve just said that I’ve seen a lot worse on here and in the chat rooms which seem to go unpunished in the chat rooms

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"Have just seen this stupid comment typed into a chat room. I thought we were better than that here, I thought we celebrated all sexuality? Are there really men out there who still think this is a legitimate thing to think? "

Sounds like the poster is saying “pity (for me) that she is gay”, saying they they fancy the lady in question but realise that they have zero chance because of her sexuality.

I don’t see a massive problem with this. It’s not as thought they are criticising her sexuality. It’s like saying ah bollocks when you realise the hot girl / guy you spot lives 400 miles away: you’re not criticising the place they live, just cursing how far away it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a shame your bi message once when chatting to a women . Was nice actually someone found me attractive but I wasn't for them sexually . No offence meant or taken

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By *immyinreadingMan
over a year ago

henley on thames


"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually

R

I agree!

To be honest op it sounds like your getting offended on behalf of someone else who doesn't need it and that boils down to, I hate to say it, but, snowflakery

D

How is someone finding something offensive being a snowflake? I find it funny that people often Feel the need to use such a word just because somebody doesn't see things the same way as them. "

Snowflake is just another modern term they gets trotted out way too often and is supposed to be devastating. It’s lame.

In this instance I’m scratching my head as to why OP left the comments unchallenged if he felt an strongly about them ... didn’t push back, didn’t report, came on here instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it not the same "shame she's married" or "shame he's straight" I would have just took at as they fancy them but just the wrong sexuallity so they won't be able to meet up sexually

R"

This.

Hardly offensive

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