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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That becoming an adult.. owning your own home would result in you Never Having Free Time and Privacy ever again!

So.., more for us full time single parents… did you ever imagine you would have so little free time!

My kids are teens.. it’s supposed to be easier.. but fuck me. They Are Always At Home!! At least when they were little they went to bed at 7pm!

Teen one.. has her boyfriend round.. they decamp to her room and I give them space…

Teen 2, homebird loves for us to sit & watch films…

I love my kids dearly but ffs…I would love to have time in my own house to kinda do fun stuff that grown ups do!

Lighthearted as I know parenting is a privilege but sometimes….,

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

If you did fun stuff in your living, I bet they'd disappear pretty damn quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preaching to the choir my dear, and mine I have no one to babysit for

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

(Blows raspberry)

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Does my avatar look like I've become an adult?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Do what we did and have children nearly 15 yrs apart in age. Absolutely zero time in private

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

you will get privacy again, give it ten years or so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was alone in the house for nearly a couple of years, kids nearly every weekend and holidays. However my son has recently moved in permanent, which is great… but!! The bugger never goes out!!! I don’t understand it, when I was his age my parents couldn’t keep me in!!

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

One of many reasons we're not planning to have kids

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, I hear you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually, that's not quite true for me.

However , you can guarantee I want to take a phone call and every bugger wants me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do what we did and have children nearly 15 yrs apart in age. Absolutely zero time in private "

I trump you on that.., kids age 13-22 I spent literally 15 yrs at the school gates!

At one point I had 4 separate nativities//carol services! :l

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I completely feel you!

My youngest moved back after the breakup of a long term relationship. His daughter, my granddaughter has a home here for half of the week.

My eldest is always around...he likes us to catch a film.

My daughter and her family...one son, my grandson and they are here often. I have an open door.

My little house was once tidy and quiet.

Now it is chaos and full of life.

I have no space of my own and if I want some I have to plan it and kick the youngest out for the night.

I may have no space but I do have a caring family who would do anything for me.

I do though look forward to having my house back, soon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One of many reasons we're not planning to have kids

LvM"

The sensible ones!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually, that's not quite true for me.

However , you can guarantee I want to take a phone call and every bugger wants me "

Or go for a shower

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Actually, that's not quite true for me.

However , you can guarantee I want to take a phone call and every bugger wants me "

Yep any phone call is usually overheard by the masses regardless how late at night!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Four teens here and not only is there is there always one or more around, they eat ALL the food.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I completely feel you!

My youngest moved back after the breakup of a long term relationship. His daughter, my granddaughter has a home here for half of the week.

My eldest is always around...he likes us to catch a film.

My daughter and her family...one son, my grandson and they are here often. I have an open door.

My little house was once tidy and quiet.

Now it is chaos and full of life.

I have no space of my own and if I want some I have to plan it and kick the youngest out for the night.

I may have no space but I do have a caring family who would do anything for me.

I do though look forward to having my house back, soon.

"

Yeah but you can kick them out for the evening if needed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Four teens here and not only is there is there always one or more around, they eat ALL the food. "

Don't get me started on empty packets put back in the cupboard...

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Do what we did and have children nearly 15 yrs apart in age. Absolutely zero time in private

I trump you on that.., kids age 13-22 I spent literally 15 yrs at the school gates!

At one point I had 4 separate nativities//carol services! :l "

Our 19yo son is nocturnal and since he's moved home, it's back to stuffing pillows over one's face at critical moments

Fuck knows if he recognises the sound of a belt hitting flesh too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Four teens here and not only is there is there always one or more around, they eat ALL the food. "

I did have four at home at one point & the food consumption was huge!!

Down to 2 now thankfully!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do what we did and have children nearly 15 yrs apart in age. Absolutely zero time in private

I trump you on that.., kids age 13-22 I spent literally 15 yrs at the school gates!

At one point I had 4 separate nativities//carol services! :l

Our 19yo son is nocturnal and since he's moved home, it's back to stuffing pillows over one's face at critical moments

Fuck knows if he recognises the sound of a belt hitting flesh too "

My walls are paper thin.. plus I’m not in an established relationship..makes life tricky!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Four teens here and not only is there is there always one or more around, they eat ALL the food.

Don't get me started on empty packets put back in the cupboard... "

The smallest amount of squash left in a bottle is my sons expertise…

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Crikey - you'll everyone wanting a vasectomy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Four teens here and not only is there is there always one or more around, they eat ALL the food.

Don't get me started on empty packets put back in the cupboard... "

The rage!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Four teens here and not only is there is there always one or more around, they eat ALL the food.

I did have four at home at one point & the food consumption was huge!!

Down to 2 now thankfully!"

I love them dearly but sometimes I want to scream.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Four teens here and not only is there is there always one or more around, they eat ALL the food.

Don't get me started on empty packets put back in the cupboard...

The rage! "

Its real isn't it ??

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I completely feel you!

My youngest moved back after the breakup of a long term relationship. His daughter, my granddaughter has a home here for half of the week.

My eldest is always around...he likes us to catch a film.

My daughter and her family...one son, my grandson and they are here often. I have an open door.

My little house was once tidy and quiet.

Now it is chaos and full of life.

I have no space of my own and if I want some I have to plan it and kick the youngest out for the night.

I may have no space but I do have a caring family who would do anything for me.

I do though look forward to having my house back, soon.

Yeah but you can kick them out for the evening if needed! "

Yes...my granddaughter is not here till a Sunday so I kick the youngest out for the night and ban the others...it works

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I blame the parents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I blame the parents "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I blame the parents "

Yep… we’re all slatterns

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I blame the parents

Yep… we’re all slatterns "

Including Mr M. ESPECIALLY Mr M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can totally relate! And why do mine have to be such homebodies?! I am literally never shot of the buggers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That becoming an adult.. owning your own home would result in you Never Having Free Time and Privacy ever again!

So.., more for us full time single parents… did you ever imagine you would have so little free time!

My kids are teens.. it’s supposed to be easier.. but fuck me. They Are Always At Home!! At least when they were little they went to bed at 7pm!

Teen one.. has her boyfriend round.. they decamp to her room and I give them space…

Teen 2, homebird loves for us to sit & watch films…

I love my kids dearly but ffs…I would love to have time in my own house to kinda do fun stuff that grown ups do!

Lighthearted as I know parenting is a privilege but sometimes…., "
ah the old issues of being a parent. You will 100% miss them though when they all leave the nest. In the meantime you have to options

1) bribe them with money to go out and not return till day after.

2) send them there dads for weekend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can totally relate! And why do mine have to be such homebodies?! I am literally never shot of the buggers "

I was never at home as a teen.. I wanted to be the furthest away from my parents as I could be.

We’ve taken parenting to a new level.. the buggers like is too much!

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Haha! Yep, I get this.

Though this coming year I'll be getting a place of my own and only seeing the kids every other week.

It'll be great having my own space, but I'll miss the little fuckers like crazy at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

… and they kid you about how long they’ll be out so you get all giddy with the things you’re doing … ahem … then their key jangles in the lock soooo much earlier than you thought it would and you look at each other like shiiiiit

And yes they eat EVERYTHING and ours are old enough to drink everything too lol

Love them too but omg for a bit of empty house time

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Haha! Yep, I get this.

Though this coming year I'll be getting a place of my own and only seeing the kids every other week.

It'll be great having my own space, but I'll miss the little fuckers like crazy at the same time. "

Yeah every other week… you still get a week to yourself though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha! Yep, I get this.

Though this coming year I'll be getting a place of my own and only seeing the kids every other week.

It'll be great having my own space, but I'll miss the little fuckers like crazy at the same time. "

It’s chaos when both mine are here and I’m pulling my hair out. But as soon as they go back to their mums I sit there and miss them like mad… it’s like a weird reversed Stockholm syndrome!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"That becoming an adult.. owning your own home would result in you Never Having Free Time and Privacy ever again!

So.., more for us full time single parents… did you ever imagine you would have so little free time!

My kids are teens.. it’s supposed to be easier.. but fuck me. They Are Always At Home!! At least when they were little they went to bed at 7pm!

Teen one.. has her boyfriend round.. they decamp to her room and I give them space…

Teen 2, homebird loves for us to sit & watch films…

I love my kids dearly but ffs…I would love to have time in my own house to kinda do fun stuff that grown ups do!

Lighthearted as I know parenting is a privilege but sometimes…., ah the old issues of being a parent. You will 100% miss them though when they all leave the nest. In the meantime you have to options

1) bribe them with money to go out and not return till day after.

2) send them there dads for weekend "

Under item 2, what do you do when "their dad's" is the same place you are?! Do we send 'em out the front and back in the back?!

Send

Help

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"… and they kid you about how long they’ll be out so you get all giddy with the things you’re doing … ahem … then their key jangles in the lock soooo much earlier than you thought it would and you look at each other like shiiiiit

And yes they eat EVERYTHING and ours are old enough to drink everything too lol

Love them too but omg for a bit of empty house time

x

Ha ha .. it really is like ffs fuck off!! We love you dearly but…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hunk you should’ve swallowed instead

Jokes

I know kids are a blessing and I’m u love em but listening to this I’m glad I don’t have one

Or any that “I know” of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hunk you should’ve swallowed instead

Jokes

I know kids are a blessing and I’m u love em but listening to this I’m glad I don’t have one

Or any that “I know” of "

I think* you should have swallowed

(Had to correct that to make it and sense lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a form of natural contraception!

You are too busy with them to create moee siblings, or even practice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That becoming an adult.. owning your own home would result in you Never Having Free Time and Privacy ever again!

So.., more for us full time single parents… did you ever imagine you would have so little free time!

My kids are teens.. it’s supposed to be easier.. but fuck me. They Are Always At Home!! At least when they were little they went to bed at 7pm!

Teen one.. has her boyfriend round.. they decamp to her room and I give them space…

Teen 2, homebird loves for us to sit & watch films…

I love my kids dearly but ffs…I would love to have time in my own house to kinda do fun stuff that grown ups do!

Lighthearted as I know parenting is a privilege but sometimes…., ah the old issues of being a parent. You will 100% miss them though when they all leave the nest. In the meantime you have to options

1) bribe them with money to go out and not return till day after.

2) send them there dads for weekend

Under item 2, what do you do when "their dad's" is the same place you are?! Do we send 'em out the front and back in the back?!

Send

Help

"
oh yeh I never thought of that , you will have to excuse me for my scatterbrain its late

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

Having finally after 3 decades gotton the house to ourselves, a family man in need moved in....

So no naked walks around the house, knickers on radiators, peace, sexy films with other half in living room, loud sex and the list goes on.

Thankfully we're both on the same page with that his time with us is drawing near.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And then there is home schooling

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

Reasons why we’re not parents #346

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By *innMan
over a year ago

edinburgh


"I can totally relate! And why do mine have to be such homebodies?! I am literally never shot of the buggers

I was never at home as a teen.. I wanted to be the furthest away from my parents as I could be.

We’ve taken parenting to a new level.. the buggers like is too much! "

This is very true I believe that the norm is for kids to stay at home much longer particularly guys.

I know of some parents with 30 year olds still at home - wtf!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours are young so it’s slightly different. We can’t go to the toilet in peace or if we want to plan any late night fun one of them conveniently has a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spend time trying to find quiet spots for 5 minutes peace haha. I’ve tried making adjustments to my routine to make the most of my ‘free time’. And also if you can get someone to babysit, make the most of it!

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think


"I can totally relate! And why do mine have to be such homebodies?! I am literally never shot of the buggers

I was never at home as a teen.. I wanted to be the furthest away from my parents as I could be.

We’ve taken parenting to a new level.. the buggers like is too much!

This is very true I believe that the norm is for kids to stay at home much longer particularly guys.

I know of some parents with 30 year olds still at home - wtf! "

Oh god. My 23 Yr old has just moved back home. Will I ever get some "me time" again? Hotels are going to make a mint out of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is making me giggle, I'm laughing and agreeing to many things being mentioned. I just want to know, why going to the loo is a spectator sport, and where does all the food actually go? I'm convinced they let it out of their trousers pockets like the great escape or something.

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By *enguin1Man
over a year ago

The sticks

I always said Dogs are easier than kids.......they give u unconditional love without the college fees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always said Dogs are easier than kids.......they give u unconditional love without the college fees

"

Kids don’t shit in the garden though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be careful what you wish for. Mine both left home aged nineteen and I'm lucky to see them 3 or 4 times a year...

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

Wait till you get to my age, and the roles get reversed, when you are faced with the dilemma of hiving your old mum or dad into a granny farm to vegetate, or take them home with you, adapt your home to their special needs, give their old lobby a wash down, and change bedding, administer the medication as directed, as well as seeing that they are well fed and watered, etc etc etc, every day of the week, week in, week out, along with running a company from home, to keep a roof overhead to keep the rain out, and a crust of bread on the table at tea time. Take the later option, and then you will really know what it's like to have family commitments, and precious little free time, and play time on your hands! I know that I'm not on my own on this one, and best of luck to all you girls who opted to do the same as me.

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

Empty toilet rolls. Last bit of tooth paste gone.

Washing sky high.

Cant have a bath in peace

Can I have

Can I have a lift

Oh my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always said Dogs are easier than kids.......they give u unconditional love without the college fees

Kids don’t shit in the garden though"

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By *enguin1Man
over a year ago

The sticks


"I always said Dogs are easier than kids.......they give u unconditional love without the college fees

Kids don’t shit in the garden though"

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By *osie xWoman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

The bins go out more often than my teen so I’m in the same boat.

A trip to Chams usually helps, partly because of the obvious but also because it’s a whole period of time with my phone in a locker. Total me time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And this is why i chose not to have kids

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

This is why I have dual lives

Weekdays are family time and weekends are my time to play

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

Two young (ish) kids, a doddery mum and two dogs here.

I’m sure my mum misses her peace and quiet too though.

But yeah, time alone in peace and quiet is a luxury. And sex life? Pah!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The bins go out more often than my teen so I’m in the same boat.

A trip to Chams usually helps, partly because of the obvious but also because it’s a whole period of time with my phone in a locker. Total me time"

I’m with you on that.. Chams is the place I get some free time and it’s way cheaper than a hotel!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is why I have dual lives

Weekdays are family time and weekends are my time to play"

I only get 2 weekends a month and lately it seems disasters befall those & kids need me.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"Haha! Yep, I get this.

Though this coming year I'll be getting a place of my own and only seeing the kids every other week.

It'll be great having my own space, but I'll miss the little fuckers like crazy at the same time.

Yeah every other week… you still get a week to yourself though!"

In the 15 years of having kids, I've only been away for them for a week once. That was the week before this Xmas. Before that I hardly had anytime away as I had no family willing to babysit.

It was definitely odd and will take a while to get used to, but I need to make sure I fill the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is why I have dual lives

Weekdays are family time and weekends are my time to play

I only get 2 weekends a month and lately it seems disasters befall those & kids need me."

I don't get any weekends. Won't stay with their dad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is why I have dual lives

Weekdays are family time and weekends are my time to play

I only get 2 weekends a month and lately it seems disasters befall those & kids need me.

I don't get any weekends. Won't stay with their dad. "

Oh that sucks.. mine don’t like going to their Dads but at least they do actually go 2 weekends a month.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Especially over the Christmas period!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is why I have dual lives

Weekdays are family time and weekends are my time to play

I only get 2 weekends a month and lately it seems disasters befall those & kids need me.

I don't get any weekends. Won't stay with their dad.

Oh that sucks.. mine don’t like going to their Dads but at least they do actually go 2 weekends a month.

"

I used to have 2 days a week free but they're old enough to choose and I won't force them. It's a sad situation though.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

One of them situations where you're going to miss them when they're gone!

I need my alone time. I'd go crazy without it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At 20 years of age my Daughter has a five year plan to carry on living here

Must be my cooking!

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

No kids, and just me in my house, but still there’s nothing going on here.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"you will get privacy again, give it ten years or so "

We have been saying that for the last 40 years. We have 3 boys all in their mid to late 30s all who drop "home" any time the choose.

Two of them even manage to drop in to our holiday home 260 miles away when we are there.

Privacy finishes with pregnancy!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

This year I sat eating a pasta dish with Ben on Christmas day, with a wry smile on my face. Couldn't be arsed to do the usual fare.

I was reflecting on Christmas's past: my daughters and their husbands, noise and mayhem, way too much food and booze, my day starting at 4am when I put the turkey on, dreaming of the day when they had kids and stayed in their own homes so I could have some me time.

Guess what? I now have what I wanted, me time in abundance. Can't even do the tour of visiting my kids and have them fuss over me because of covid.

Be careful what you wish...

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"At 20 years of age my Daughter has a five year plan to carry on living here

Must be my cooking!"

Scary thought, five more years!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Adulting can be good fun - I now have the money to but all the toys I wanted as a child but we couldn’t afford.

I don’t have to share them with children either, they are mine.... all mine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't have kids if you want privacy. Lol pretty simple really you all chose to have kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't have kids if you want privacy. Lol pretty simple really you all chose to have kids "

I didn't choose to be a single mum with an ex our kids won't see. Cheers

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Wouldn’t be without him.

You learn to live / adapt to the rare times you get alone time, other times I’ve found it’s easier to believe I’m a nun and the urges filed away until I can escape the nunnery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of them situations where you're going to miss them when they're gone!

I need my alone time. I'd go crazy without it. "

I used to think so but ...you just readjust and cope. Find space in little increments rather than full days or weekends.

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By *assie101Woman
over a year ago

Kent

I feel now like I'm living the life I did as a teenager but in reverse. Back then I was trying to find opportunities whenever I could and hide my shenanigans from my parents.

Now. I'm the parent doing the same thing but hiding from my teenagers.

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"I can totally relate! And why do mine have to be such homebodies?! I am literally never shot of the buggers

I was never at home as a teen.. I wanted to be the furthest away from my parents as I could be.

We’ve taken parenting to a new level.. the buggers like is too much!

This is very true I believe that the norm is for kids to stay at home much longer particularly guys.

I know of some parents with 30 year olds still at home - wtf! "

Ha. My brother will be 40 next year and still lives with my parents.

And for those saying that kids don't poo in the garden like dogs, you've clearly never done potty training during the summer. At least the swarming flies give it away as to where to clean up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can totally relate! And why do mine have to be such homebodies?! I am literally never shot of the buggers

I was never at home as a teen.. I wanted to be the furthest away from my parents as I could be.

We’ve taken parenting to a new level.. the buggers like is too much!

This is very true I believe that the norm is for kids to stay at home much longer particularly guys.

I know of some parents with 30 year olds still at home - wtf! "

Jesus Christ. This scares me now. I have 2 boys aged 3 and 7 and it's so hard to get any me-time, the youngest even sleeps with me!! Was hoping it might get easier but this thread has killed all hope

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"I can totally relate! And why do mine have to be such homebodies?! I am literally never shot of the buggers

I was never at home as a teen.. I wanted to be the furthest away from my parents as I could be.

We’ve taken parenting to a new level.. the buggers like is too much!

This is very true I believe that the norm is for kids to stay at home much longer particularly guys.

I know of some parents with 30 year olds still at home - wtf!

Jesus Christ. This scares me now. I have 2 boys aged 3 and 7 and it's so hard to get any me-time, the youngest even sleeps with me!! Was hoping it might get easier but this thread has killed all hope "

This thread is frightening the shit out of me as well. I plan on working hard enough to just give him a flat when he turns 18 and he can bugger off then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel now like I'm living the life I did as a teenager but in reverse. Back then I was trying to find opportunities whenever I could and hide my shenanigans from my parents.

Now. I'm the parent doing the same thing but hiding from my teenagers. "

This.. it’s exactly how it is!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Ha ha I was only thinking this yesterday.... It was much easier when my son was little and I could send him to Grandma's for the weekend! Currently home from uni for a month.... So that's all my fun out the window.

I do love him really and am very proud of him.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I feel now like I'm living the life I did as a teenager but in reverse. Back then I was trying to find opportunities whenever I could and hide my shenanigans from my parents.

Now. I'm the parent doing the same thing but hiding from my teenagers.

This.. it’s exactly how it is!

"

My wife and I have to keep the noise down... It's tough!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"… and they kid you about how long they’ll be out so you get all giddy with the things you’re doing … ahem … then their key jangles in the lock soooo much earlier than you thought it would and you look at each other like shiiiiit

And yes they eat EVERYTHING and ours are old enough to drink everything too lol

Love them too but omg for a bit of empty house time

x

"

Omg yes... The key in the door! Strikes fear into your heart.

I had a lovely time planned while mine was at work, only to get a call saying he was coming home as it had only been staff training. Luckily we were still in the pub at that point. So had to change locations!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Don't have kids if you want privacy. Lol pretty simple really you all chose to have kids "

Wow...

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland


"Ha ha I was only thinking this yesterday.... It was much easier when my son was little and I could send him to Grandma's for the weekend! Currently home from uni for a month.... So that's all my fun out the window.

I do love him really and am very proud of him. "

You can love him from afar

Thats our plan

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"Ha ha I was only thinking this yesterday.... It was much easier when my son was little and I could send him to Grandma's for the weekend! Currently home from uni for a month.... So that's all my fun out the window.

I do love him really and am very proud of him.

You can love him from afar

Thats our plan"

Make sure they go far enough away not to want to come home every birthday/half term/holiday

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I wish mine were all little again! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My children tuck me into bed at night now, so that can carry on being nocturnal and never sleeping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel now like I'm living the life I did as a teenager but in reverse. Back then I was trying to find opportunities whenever I could and hide my shenanigans from my parents.

Now. I'm the parent doing the same thing but hiding from my teenagers. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MIL is a kinship carer so we always say she can't do for one of her children and not the other

Don't worry - we wouldn't be without the kids. One reason we don't really do many meets. It takes alot of planning to have them both looked after and a house/dog sitter if we go away. I'm seeing this as an opportunity to get to know people, research and learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"[adulthood Removed by poster at 30/12/21 12:08:04]"

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

The so called joys of parenthood

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

They are hard work...

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Both of mine are in their late 30's (one with three teens) one in London, one in Bristol with busy, happy and fulfilling lives and currently, I'm last on their list. I can't lie, it smarts a bit.

Roots and wings though, roots and wings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This year I sat eating a pasta dish with Ben on Christmas day, with a wry smile on my face. Couldn't be arsed to do the usual fare.

I was reflecting on Christmas's past: my daughters and their husbands, noise and mayhem, way too much food and booze, my day starting at 4am when I put the turkey on, dreaming of the day when they had kids and stayed in their own homes so I could have some me time.

Guess what? I now have what I wanted, me time in abundance. Can't even do the tour of visiting my kids and have them fuss over me because of covid.

Be careful what you wish... "

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"I feel now like I'm living the life I did as a teenager but in reverse. Back then I was trying to find opportunities whenever I could and hide my shenanigans from my parents.

Now. I'm the parent doing the same thing but hiding from my teenagers. "
give it time and they'll be feeding you and changing you.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

As you get older it does get easier. It really helped me with advice from Mum and Dad when I got my own place and started 'adulting'.

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By *assie101Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"I feel now like I'm living the life I did as a teenager but in reverse. Back then I was trying to find opportunities whenever I could and hide my shenanigans from my parents.

Now. I'm the parent doing the same thing but hiding from my teenagers. give it time and they'll be feeding you and changing you.

"

I hope you are right. At the moment they are more like the don't carers more than carers

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Maybe it's why my grandad had a shed

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"I feel now like I'm living the life I did as a teenager but in reverse. Back then I was trying to find opportunities whenever I could and hide my shenanigans from my parents.

Now. I'm the parent doing the same thing but hiding from my teenagers. give it time and they'll be feeding you and changing you.

I hope you are right. At the moment they are more like the don't carers more than carers "

it might be their last opportunity to get revenge or rewarded for sending them to The Trunchbol or Merry Poppins as their formative years exposure levels are gauged.

And if you've had a pre-school child minder, you've no chance packed away in a nursing home. They're gonna say f*** The money, just as they wished you had as the little darling wished you had back in the day.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Don't have kids if you want privacy. Lol pretty simple really you all chose to have kids "

Not true, B was on the pill with all three and never missed taking it ontime

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

Agree op were in the same boat both work we have a house a dog and 3 kids all between 6 and 11 we dont have much free time at all and we struggle for sitters too.... but when we do we like to have a blow out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just glad they are worth it! I completely understand why so many people don't want kids though because you do give up so much of your freedom and privacy. But I wouldn't change it for the world and I'm looking forward to the next one even if I am dreading having even less time for myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I worked with a guy who said he and his wife told their children they need to leave home at eighteen for uni. He added, "none of that uni and living at home thing. Go away to uni and have the full experience".

Said they wanted to have their house back for just them and would gladly help pay to rent somewhere if need be but never leaving home wasn't an option.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"Don't have kids if you want privacy. Lol pretty simple really you all chose to have kids

I didn't choose to be a single mum with an ex our kids won't see. Cheers "

Snap, three tines a year he sees them and I get some me time

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I had 3 girls , up until age 14-15 I basically put my life on hold! They had friends stay regularly and I was constantly the taxi but they never had a boyfriend upstairs , they knew the rules they want to do that it’s time to get their own place ! All moved out by 18/19 to study or travel.

I have one back here with me now while she’s studying , but she pays her way and works long hours running a bar so I get plenty of privacy !

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

Perhaps from a different point of view . No kids of my own. Been married twice. First wife had daughter. We spilt after five years. As she decided , no more children . Second wife due to age could not conceive . My biggest regret . Not having a child / children of own. Yes seen friends and like others have said in previous posts . Can be problem? I would swap places for that .

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I've got the opposite problem, I care for my elderly mum who lives upstairs and never goes out apart from choir practise once a week that keeps her busy for three hours. So I pretty much never have the house to myself. Although fortunately she stays in her area most of the time and rarely is seen outside of meal times, and also listens to music on headphones most of the time so I suppose it could be worse but I never feel like I have complete privacy if I want to have noisy sex with a random, for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you get older it does get easier. It really helped me with advice from Mum and Dad when I got my own place and started 'adulting'."

As we’ve grown older and the family matured often reflected on how little schools prepare for adulthood. The Rs and science etc are all well covered - but unless things have changed there’s not a great deal on the practical that help; how much kids cost to raise, planning, contingency and unforeseen, how tax consequences, how tax system works, avoiding dept and saving and investing etc. So many tips that some are fortunate to receive from parents, but should really be imparted to all through education.

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By *attoo Lover.Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Im with you.. Spent 5 years without a single kids free day...

At least when thew were at school i could take a day off my hectic work schedule but now living at home, uni and collage and an 8yo. Covid has mafe it so much harder being single and being able to have fun.

Soldier on.....

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Perhaps from a different point of view . No kids of my own. Been married twice. First wife had daughter. We spilt after five years. As she decided , no more children . Second wife due to age could not conceive . My biggest regret . Not having a child / children of own. Yes seen friends and like others have said in previous posts . Can be problem? I would swap places for that . "

The OP did make it clear her "complaint" was intended to be taken light heartedly and sure she does understand that for people such as yourself, you might have liked the chance to have no child-free days.

We hope you have managed to find peace and satisfaction out of life, despite the fact that children haven't featured for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son is 27, he moved out for a while than went back to college so moved home. He wants to move out but he doesn't want to share with anyone and would be looking at 900euro a month up for rent , can't afford it.

Was only thinking today, I've never had sex with anyone while he has lived with me fml

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"As you get older it does get easier. It really helped me with advice from Mum and Dad when I got my own place and started 'adulting'.

As we’ve grown older and the family matured often reflected on how little schools prepare for adulthood. The Rs and science etc are all well covered - but unless things have changed there’s not a great deal on the practical that help; how much kids cost to raise, planning, contingency and unforeseen, how tax consequences, how tax system works, avoiding dept and saving and investing etc. So many tips that some are fortunate to receive from parents, but should really be imparted to all through education. "

Would you really want some clueless straight out of uni teacher ,trying to teach your kids about life? What do they know? That’s the parents job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you get older it does get easier. It really helped me with advice from Mum and Dad when I got my own place and started 'adulting'.

As we’ve grown older and the family matured often reflected on how little schools prepare for adulthood. The Rs and science etc are all well covered - but unless things have changed there’s not a great deal on the practical that help; how much kids cost to raise, planning, contingency and unforeseen, how tax consequences, how tax system works, avoiding dept and saving and investing etc. So many tips that some are fortunate to receive from parents, but should really be imparted to all through education.

Would you really want some clueless straight out of uni teacher ,trying to teach your kids about life? What do they know? That’s the parents job "

I agree it is the parents job. But not all parents are equipped with the knowledge themselves, or even if they are; might not have the time or inclination to teach it. And not all teachers are “fresh out of uni” - though I must say the ones that I’ve dealt with who are in their probationary period are very dedicated and more than capable of teaching such a curriculum which may have been prepared with the experience of more mature academics to develop the materials and content, much the same as any subject.

(The do teach this stuff in a lot of private schools btw)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't have kids if you want privacy. Lol pretty simple really you all chose to have kids

I didn't choose to be a single mum with an ex our kids won't see. Cheers

Snap, three tines a year he sees them and I get some me time"

I don't even get that! Mine fucked off to the far side of the world. He seen them at Christmas for the first time in 2 and a half years. I also didn't choose or ever want to become a single mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had kids but having two ageing parents is equally time consuming and exhausting

I leave home at 7am and return home at around 11pm, 7 days a week, apart from Saturday afternoons when my sister visits

That is my 'respite'

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By *s Lola Wand - SocketWoman
over a year ago

leicester


"That becoming an adult.. owning your own home would result in you Never Having Free Time and Privacy ever again!

So.., more for us full time single parents… did you ever imagine you would have so little free time!

My kids are teens.. it’s supposed to be easier.. but fuck me. They Are Always At Home!! At least when they were little they went to bed at 7pm!

Teen one.. has her boyfriend round.. they decamp to her room and I give them space…

Teen 2, homebird loves for us to sit & watch films…

I love my kids dearly but ffs…I would love to have time in my own house to kinda do fun stuff that grown ups do!

Lighthearted as I know parenting is a privilege but sometimes…., "

I hear ya ! It drives me insane the lack of privacy , personal space and silence . we need a private bolt hole flat where you know the toilet will always be clean , the bed made and no interruptions !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel now like I'm living the life I did as a teenager but in reverse. Back then I was trying to find opportunities whenever I could and hide my shenanigans from my parents.

Now. I'm the parent doing the same thing but hiding from my teenagers. "

This

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Here's the thing with kids. You think as they get older you can stop worrying about them. But you never do, it's just the things they give you to worry about change with time.

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