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"I found Bumble to be the best, Lady has to message first and if you do build up a rapport a date is easily arranged. No longer on them as I’m now in a relationship but it’s the one I’d recommend. Agree with everyone else, don’t pay just use the free ones but ensure you create a good profile. "I tried bumble and its pretty good but I find most of the ladies on I've chatted to don't feel comfortable meeting for a coffee, even after chatting for a while which I find strange or maybe it's just me really | |||
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"I've tried the free sites and paid into a couple too. I've got a 100% zero success rate. Nobody i like ever messages back, ive never been on a date with someone I've met online, it's mentally challenging. So I don't bother, complete waste of time in my experience. Good luck though chap "I must admit I have had zero success but I always thought is because I never paid into it.. I guess I should have saved the £89 and go to bubbles for a much needed massage | |||
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"For the first time I just paid into a dating site in hopes of finding that special someone... I know it's early days but there is not many that are near me and one actually looks scary and looks like she doing devil worship in her profile photo.. Not saying she looks bad but I wouldn't be surprised if she hasn't got her ex in the basement "Which one if you don’t mind me asking? Pof have been trying to get me to pay for year’s | |||
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"Plenty of fish is ok most are on for one thing like this site lol " I find that site full of fakes to be honest | |||
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"I found Bumble to be the best, Lady has to message first and if you do build up a rapport a date is easily arranged. No longer on them as I’m now in a relationship but it’s the one I’d recommend. Agree with everyone else, don’t pay just use the free ones but ensure you create a good profile.
I tried bumble and its pretty good but I find most of the ladies on I've chatted to don't feel comfortable meeting for a coffee, even after chatting for a while which I find strange or maybe it's just me really "Maybe your age range as mines probably older. I tend to find it’s mother’s with older children so they have more spare time. Also due to some of my hobbies are quite a range from running, motorbikes and political or just the arts, films etc…I tend to get the sporty mums and the sofa mums | |||
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"For the first time I just paid into a dating site in hopes of finding that special someone... I know it's early days but there is not many that are near me and one actually looks scary and looks like she doing devil worship in her profile photo.. Not saying she looks bad but I wouldn't be surprised if she hasn't got her ex in the basement
Which one if you don’t mind me asking? Pof have been trying to get me to pay for year’s "eharmony...i shouldn't say to much yet has its very early days and I was poking fun of the situation more then anything else so not going to give up just yet.. Well got 12 months of finding woman who look sinister | |||
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"As an experiment I recently joined Our Time, which is specifically for over 50s. It's clear that they 'borrow' profiles from other sites, presumably from the same ownership as there are women looking for men under 50. So far I've had 950 profile views, 11 'likes' and zero messages. I'm discovering that a) you must have a dog or be a dog lover, b) you must drink wine, c) you must be 'family orientated', d) you must go on multiple foreign holidays to stand any chance at all. Oh, and generally be younger than the woman. "Well that rules me out I will have a snake soon, I am 45, don't drink wine.. I do go on foreign holidays but I wouldn't say multiple as I have to work | |||
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"I found Bumble to be the best, Lady has to message first and if you do build up a rapport a date is easily arranged. No longer on them as I’m now in a relationship but it’s the one I’d recommend. Agree with everyone else, don’t pay just use the free ones but ensure you create a good profile.
I tried bumble and its pretty good but I find most of the ladies on I've chatted to don't feel comfortable meeting for a coffee, even after chatting for a while which I find strange or maybe it's just me really
Maybe your age range as mines probably older. I tend to find it’s mother’s with older children so they have more spare time. Also due to some of my hobbies are quite a range from running, motorbikes and political or just the arts, films etc…I tend to get the sporty mums and the sofa mums "Yeah I get a lot of the older sporty women too as similar interests as me but.. ah well, just not my time yet I suppose | |||
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"Strange that most of the comments above saying never pay for dating sites are all.site supporters here...so pay? I know this isn't a dating site but..? Tinder isn't free. Yes it - and the rest - are free to join but on the whole you have to pay to read messages and reply. Personal experience...I've seen a lot of profiles on traditional dating sites of people off here. " It's cheap to pay to be a site supporter and I pay because I like to be able to perv videos and that's the only reason | |||
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"I found Bumble to be the best, Lady has to message first and if you do build up a rapport a date is easily arranged. No longer on them as I’m now in a relationship but it’s the one I’d recommend. Agree with everyone else, don’t pay just use the free ones but ensure you create a good profile.
I tried bumble and its pretty good but I find most of the ladies on I've chatted to don't feel comfortable meeting for a coffee, even after chatting for a while which I find strange or maybe it's just me really
Maybe your age range as mines probably older. I tend to find it’s mother’s with older children so they have more spare time. Also due to some of my hobbies are quite a range from running, motorbikes and political or just the arts, films etc…I tend to get the sporty mums and the sofa mums
Yeah I get a lot of the older sporty women too as similar interests as me but.. ah well, just not my time yet I suppose "Are older sporty mums a good thing or not? I may be in this category  | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x" I am on there now we may cross paths | |||
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"For the first time I just paid into a dating site in hopes of finding that special someone... I know it's early days but there is not many that are near me and one actually looks scary and looks like she doing devil worship in her profile photo.. Not saying she looks bad but I wouldn't be surprised if she hasn't got her ex in the basement "Please, tell us more about this scary-looking devil worshipper in or around Derby. Sounds like my type! | |||
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"For the first time I just paid into a dating site in hopes of finding that special someone... I know it's early days but there is not many that are near me and one actually looks scary and looks like she doing devil worship in her profile photo.. Not saying she looks bad but I wouldn't be surprised if she hasn't got her ex in the basement
Please, tell us more about this scary-looking devil worshipper in or around Derby. Sounds like my type! "She could be an axe murder looking for her next victim | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x" That’s the thing with bumble! I find guys I like the look of, match Ruth them then don’t bother to message! | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x That’s the thing with bumble! I find guys I like the look of, match Ruth them then don’t bother to message! " *with | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x I am on there now we may cross paths "Reckon I’ll be looking a tad closer to home  | |||
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"We met on a paid dating site (Match) 3 years ago. We’re very happy and getting married soon. I did the free sites before but found they were too full of ghosters and fantasists. If you have to pay I believe it shows some serious intent. " I agree with you. There are emotionally unavailable men (and women!) wherever you look, irrespective of dating platform. But I found Match to be the best of a bad bunch. | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x That’s the thing with bumble! I find guys I like the look of, match Ruth them then don’t bother to message! *with" They match, you message them and get nothing back
All I can say is they either are crazy or just forget to look within the 24hr period it gives to reply | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x That’s the thing with bumble! I find guys I like the look of, match Ruth them then don’t bother to message! *with They match, you message them and get nothing back
All I can say is they either are crazy or just forget to look within the 24hr period it gives to reply "No, we match and then I don’t message them. The lady has to make the first move don’t they | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x That’s the thing with bumble! I find guys I like the look of, match Ruth them then don’t bother to message! *with They match, you message them and get nothing back
All I can say is they either are crazy or just forget to look within the 24hr period it gives to reply
No, we match and then I don’t message them. The lady has to make the first move don’t they "Oh I read that completely wrong 
Yes it's up to the lady to message first which I refreshing | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x That’s the thing with bumble! I find guys I like the look of, match Ruth them then don’t bother to message! *with They match, you message them and get nothing back
All I can say is they either are crazy or just forget to look within the 24hr period it gives to reply
No, we match and then I don’t message them. The lady has to make the first move don’t they
Oh I read that completely wrong
Yes it's up to the lady to message first which I refreshing "Is refreshing | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x I am on there now we may cross paths
Reckon I’ll be looking a tad closer to home "Such a shame but I also agree, I did go to Edinburgh in September for the first time and loved it stayed near the castle and did the boat trip on lockness..it was so relaxing there came home to Derby feeling depressed | |||
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"OP do you use the same username on dating sites?" No just my name | |||
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"OP do you use the same username on dating sites? No just my name " Phew | |||
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"Well that rules me out I will have a snake soon, I am 45, don't drink wine.. I do go on foreign holidays but I wouldn't say multiple as I have to work " Oooh, what species? | |||
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"Well that rules me out I will have a snake soon, I am 45, don't drink wine.. I do go on foreign holidays but I wouldn't say multiple as I have to work Oooh, what species?" What me or the snake? Lol I am going to get a corn snake | |||
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"OP do you use the same username on dating sites? No just my name Phew "Yer no spunky would not go down to well with most vanilla dating sites...but then I get more attention if I used spunkymonkey or sexmachine | |||
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"For the first time I just paid into a dating site in hopes of finding that special someone... I know it's early days but there is not many that are near me and one actually looks scary and looks like she doing devil worship in her profile photo.. Not saying she looks bad but I wouldn't be surprised if she hasn't got her ex in the basement
Please, tell us more about this scary-looking devil worshipper in or around Derby. Sounds like my type!
She could be an axe murder looking for her next victim "If she's hot enough I'll even let her sacrifice me. | |||
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"I've just joined Hinge, guys at least have to write something in the prompts unlike so many tinder profiles which are blank. And they can also do a voice note which is kinda cool " Ooh, another option. Let me know how you get on! | |||
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"I've just joined Hinge, guys at least have to write something in the prompts unlike so many tinder profiles which are blank. And they can also do a voice note which is kinda cool " Hinge is actually great for guys with personality because you can really stand out with a funny/witty prompt on their pictures | |||
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"I've just joined Hinge, guys at least have to write something in the prompts unlike so many tinder profiles which are blank. And they can also do a voice note which is kinda cool Hinge is actually great for guys with personality because you can really stand out with a funny/witty prompt on their pictures " That sounds promising! | |||
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"For the first time I just paid into a dating site in hopes of finding that special someone... I know it's early days but there is not many that are near me and one actually looks scary and looks like she doing devil worship in her profile photo.. Not saying she looks bad but I wouldn't be surprised if she hasn't got her ex in the basement "Bit of a dick move talking shit behind someone's back far enough if she not want but do not need to be a dick. | |||
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"For the first time I just paid into a dating site in hopes of finding that special someone... I know it's early days but there is not many that are near me and one actually looks scary and looks like she doing devil worship in her profile photo.. Not saying she looks bad but I wouldn't be surprised if she hasn't got her ex in the basement
Bit of a dick move talking shit behind someone's back far enough if she not want but do not need to be a dick."I was not being a dick... If you read between the lines I am being sarcastic | |||
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"I've just joined Hinge, guys at least have to write something in the prompts unlike so many tinder profiles which are blank. And they can also do a voice note which is kinda cool Ooh, another option. Let me know how you get on!" Will do x | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x That’s the thing with bumble! I find guys I like the look of, match Ruth them then don’t bother to message! *with" You don’t bother to message them? Orrr…they don’t message you?? Yesssss…I can’t see it being the latter either but just checking x | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x That’s the thing with bumble! I find guys I like the look of, match Ruth them then don’t bother to message! *with You don’t bother to message them? Orrr…they don’t message you?? Yesssss…I can’t see it being the latter either but just checking x" I don’t bother to message. | |||
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"Want to say Liverpoolgirl you look stunning "Thank you, very kind | |||
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"I've just joined Hinge, guys at least have to write something in the prompts unlike so many tinder profiles which are blank. And they can also do a voice note which is kinda cool " I've never heard of that one | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x I am on there now we may cross paths
Reckon I’ll be looking a tad closer to home "And what pray tell do you consider closer to home? | |||
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"Good luck.... I do wish this site had a dating element because I also want to find a relationship but couldn't go back to vanilla!! So adding that element makes dating trickier... I've tried feeld and POF which sway more to non mainstream/typical types of relationships but had no joy. " I think thats a good idea.. I enjoy going to the club near me, but I am not a cheater or a player so if I was to meet a woman on a regular dating site that's the end of the club scene I am not like that. But at least if you meet on here and you both looking for long term relationship. | |||
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"OP do you use the same username on dating sites? No just my name Phew
Yer no spunky would not go down to well with most vanilla dating sites...but then I get more attention if I used spunkymonkey or sexmachine"Are you sure it goes down well on here then? | |||
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"Good luck.... I do wish this site had a dating element because I also want to find a relationship but couldn't go back to vanilla!! So adding that element makes dating trickier... I've tried feeld and POF which sway more to non mainstream/typical types of relationships but had no joy. " I'm not monogamous. I'm not going to change so need to find a man/men who are ok with that. | |||
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"I've tried the free sites and paid into a couple too. I've got a 100% zero success rate. Nobody i like ever messages back, ive never been on a date with someone I've met online, it's mentally challenging. So I don't bother, complete waste of time in my experience. Good luck though chap
I must admit I have had zero success but I always thought is because I never paid into it.. I guess I should have saved the £89 and go to bubbles for a much needed massage "£89!! they saw you coming wooow that seems alot! | |||
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"And some sites require both parties to be paid up members. If only one party pays, then the conversation is not going to happen." True you can't even see who likes you on some sites/apps or you can't message them or read a message... Could end up paying a membership just to read a message that she is not interested | |||
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"Take a course at a college, most are full of women. Get into the subject and show your passion along the way. At least one woman will show interest in you." Well in the new year I am joining a karate class so who knows | |||
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"Take a course at a college, most are full of women. Get into the subject and show your passion along the way. At least one woman will show interest in you. Well in the new year I am joining a karate class so who knows " good luck!! I hope you dont have that user name on your dating profile lol | |||
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"For the first time I just paid into a dating site in hopes of finding that special someone... I know it's early days but there is not many that are near me and one actually looks scary and looks like she doing devil worship in her profile photo.. Not saying she looks bad but I wouldn't be surprised if she hasn't got her ex in the basement "practising for when you marry her....? | |||
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"I've come to the conclusion that I'm rubbish at online dating. I'm too fussy, must not be pretty enough and I'm far too easily put off people " I think most of us are like that... But beauty is in the eye of the beholder | |||
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"I've come to the conclusion that I'm rubbish at online dating. I'm too fussy, must not be pretty enough and I'm far too easily put off people " Apparently, this is common for ladies. They only swipe right for 20% of the men whereas men do so 60% of the time. This leads to a small percentage of elite level men being pursued by lots of ladies. This leads to the guys being overly confident and being more difficult to pin down...with so many offers around. Which has a negative effect on women's perception of dating. Glad I could shine some sunshine on that for you. | |||
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"I've come to the conclusion that I'm rubbish at online dating. I'm too fussy, must not be pretty enough and I'm far too easily put off people " Well then I am rubbish too! But I suspect we are just allowed to have preferences. | |||
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"I've come to the conclusion that I'm rubbish at online dating. I'm too fussy, must not be pretty enough and I'm far too easily put off people I think most of us are like that... But beauty is in the eye of the beholder " It’s very easy to reject someone online. If you actually got to have a 5 minute conversation with everyone you messaged online you’d find plenty where there was a spark. | |||
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"Take a course at a college, most are full of women. Get into the subject and show your passion along the way. At least one woman will show interest in you." I did night time catering at college: YTS day release and the majority of the class were middle aged dinner ladies. I imagine the demographic, that he is looking for, might not be equally spread out amongst all courses. Plus how many of them arte going to say "I came hear to learn, not to be yearend after." So, that's Mind your Language versus Shirley Valentine. Giving my age away here. | |||
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"Take a course at a college, most are full of women. Get into the subject and show your passion along the way. At least one woman will show interest in you." Back in the day that was the advice given to women, except to join a mechanics class | |||
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"I've come to the conclusion that I'm rubbish at online dating. I'm too fussy, must not be pretty enough and I'm far too easily put off people I think most of us are like that... But beauty is in the eye of the beholder It’s very easy to reject someone online. If you actually got to have a 5 minute conversation with everyone you messaged online you’d find plenty where there was a spark. " Not convinced of this. | |||
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"I've come to the conclusion that I'm rubbish at online dating. I'm too fussy, must not be pretty enough and I'm far too easily put off people I think most of us are like that... But beauty is in the eye of the beholder It’s very easy to reject someone online. If you actually got to have a 5 minute conversation with everyone you messaged online you’d find plenty where there was a spark. Not convinced of this. " me neither, I have deal breakers and if they break them no amounts of chat would change that | |||
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"I've come to the conclusion that I'm rubbish at online dating. I'm too fussy, must not be pretty enough and I'm far too easily put off people Apparently, this is common for ladies. They only swipe right for 20% of the men whereas men do so 60% of the time. This leads to a small percentage of elite level men being pursued by lots of ladies. This leads to the guys being overly confident and being more difficult to pin down...with so many offers around. Which has a negative effect on women's perception of dating. Glad I could shine some sunshine on that for you. " Oh, maybe that's what I'm doing wrong – I swipe right on *way* less than 20% of women, let alone 60%! Guess I'm just too picky. But then, I wouldn't want to match with someone I don't find attractive. | |||
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"OkCupid used to be the least-worst dating app, but then Match.com bought it out, and now it’s just *broken*. It used to present you with a proper results page showing all the people who matched your criteria, and you could sort them by match percentage or distance and so forth. It was so much more efficient and user-friendly than the current swiping model adopted from Tinder. Recently I paid for a couple months' subscription so I could see likes. I didn't get any, so I ended my subscription. Within 24 hours of it expiring, I allegedly got 14 likes in less than a day. Pure bullshit designed to scam the user into buying another subscription. " Same experience for me. I used to love the app as it actually had questions about interests in kink and swinging. It went seriously downhill at some point. I create a new account. I get 20 likes in two days. I pay for the subscription only to find that all 20 were from China/Phillipines etc. There is not a single like after I pay for it. Once the subscription is over, I got 15 likes in a day which I have to pay to see. It's a shame as they had a good thing going. I didn't know it was after Match.com bought it. | |||
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" Same experience for me. I used to love the app as it actually had questions about interests in kink and swinging. It went seriously downhill at some point. I create a new account. I get 20 likes in two days. I pay for the subscription only to find that all 20 were from China/Phillipines etc. There is not a single like after I pay for it. Once the subscription is over, I got 15 likes in a day which I have to pay to see. It's a shame as they had a good thing going. I didn't know it was after Match.com bought it. " I had similar with Tinder, dozen or so likes within days of joining so I paid and all the likes were between 1,000 and 4,000 miles away! Hardly had any likes the month I was there. Even the search option as bad. Put 30miles radius and it was coming up with profiles in Manchester...I'm in South Wiltshire! Cancelled subscription a straight away the likes started again. | |||
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" Same experience for me. I used to love the app as it actually had questions about interests in kink and swinging. It went seriously downhill at some point. I create a new account. I get 20 likes in two days. I pay for the subscription only to find that all 20 were from China/Phillipines etc. There is not a single like after I pay for it. Once the subscription is over, I got 15 likes in a day which I have to pay to see. It's a shame as they had a good thing going. I didn't know it was after Match.com bought it. I had similar with Tinder, dozen or so likes within days of joining so I paid and all the likes were between 1,000 and 4,000 miles away! Hardly had any likes the month I was there. Even the search option as bad. Put 30miles radius and it was coming up with profiles in Manchester...I'm in South Wiltshire! Cancelled subscription a straight away the likes started again. " They do feel like a scam | |||
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" Same experience for me. I used to love the app as it actually had questions about interests in kink and swinging. It went seriously downhill at some point. I create a new account. I get 20 likes in two days. I pay for the subscription only to find that all 20 were from China/Phillipines etc. There is not a single like after I pay for it. Once the subscription is over, I got 15 likes in a day which I have to pay to see. It's a shame as they had a good thing going. I didn't know it was after Match.com bought it. I had similar with Tinder, dozen or so likes within days of joining so I paid and all the likes were between 1,000 and 4,000 miles away! Hardly had any likes the month I was there. Even the search option as bad. Put 30miles radius and it was coming up with profiles in Manchester...I'm in South Wiltshire! Cancelled subscription a straight away the likes started again. They do feel like a scam " Capitalism in action. Big businesses have spotted that horny and / or lonely men can be rinsed for money. I kind of regret having participated, but I guess I had to give it a try. | |||
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"I am on tying bumble but again says 4 woman liked me but I got to pay to see who they are...but I am sure you have to let them contact you so why would I need to see who they are if they contact me first " They can contact you only if you also swipe right on them and there is a match. | |||
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"For the first time I just paid into a dating site in hopes of finding that special someone... I know it's early days but there is not many that are near me and one actually looks scary and looks like she doing devil worship in her profile photo.. Not saying she looks bad but I wouldn't be surprised if she hasn't got her ex in the basement "Sounds like my kind of woman | |||
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"I am on tying bumble but again says 4 woman liked me but I got to pay to see who they are...but I am sure you have to let them contact you so why would I need to see who they are if they contact me first " It's a matter of swiping until you match on them.... or not cos maybe you don't like them. Don't get suckered into paying. Also most sites will give you an offer of half price if you don't sign up immediately if you did want to trial paying | |||
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"I am on tying bumble but again says 4 woman liked me but I got to pay to see who they are...but I am sure you have to let them contact you so why would I need to see who they are if they contact me first " If you match, then you’ll see them and they’ll have 24 hours to message you. Then you have 24 hours in which to reply. If this doesn’t happen you unmatch. | |||
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"Bumble's easy to figure out. Just adjust the age sliders and check your Likes until you narrow down their age. Then a few swipes and they should pop up. It's easy to work out the pixelated image. You might have to scroll down to see any other photos as it's not always their main one it shows all pixelated. Been on most of them for a couple of years now. There's no better way to destroy any delusions about yourself than on them. I am dirt." That's pretty much been what I've taken away from it too. It was one thing suspecting I'm probably worthless, but it's entirely another having it rubbed in my face day after day after day for years on end. | |||
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" That's pretty much been what I've taken away from it too. It was one thing suspecting I'm probably worthless, but it's entirely another having it rubbed in my face day after day after day for years on end. " Feeling the same only I went and paid for it | |||
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" That's pretty much been what I've taken away from it too. It was one thing suspecting I'm probably worthless, but it's entirely another having it rubbed in my face day after day after day for years on end. Feeling the same only I went and paid for it " So did I. OKC, Tinder, Bumble... feel like a complete mug. No substitute for getting out and meeting people in person. Unfortunately... pandemic. Ugh. | |||
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"I personally feel all the free ones are full of fakes, or people just looking for hook ups. My way of thinking is if they are willing to pay for a site then they are more serious about actually wanting to date. But that's just my humble opinion " If there's a site full of people just looking for hookups, I've never been able to find it. They're all swamped in monogamous people looking for The One™. | |||
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" That's pretty much been what I've taken away from it too. It was one thing suspecting I'm probably worthless, but it's entirely another having it rubbed in my face day after day after day for years on end. Feeling the same only I went and paid for it " Ah lads. Stick at it you are not worthless. | |||
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"I personally feel all the free ones are full of fakes, or people just looking for hook ups. My way of thinking is if they are willing to pay for a site then they are more serious about actually wanting to date. But that's just my humble opinion If there's a site full of people just looking for hookups, I've never been able to find it. They're all swamped in monogamous people looking for The One™. " The one that mentions fish is the worst | |||
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"I personally feel all the free ones are full of fakes, or people just looking for hook ups. My way of thinking is if they are willing to pay for a site then they are more serious about actually wanting to date. But that's just my humble opinion If there's a site full of people just looking for hookups, I've never been able to find it. They're all swamped in monogamous people looking for The One™. The one that mentions fish is the worst " Do you mean it's the worst because people are looking for hookups, or the worst because people are looking for The One™? | |||
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"I personally feel all the free ones are full of fakes, or people just looking for hook ups. My way of thinking is if they are willing to pay for a site then they are more serious about actually wanting to date. But that's just my humble opinion If there's a site full of people just looking for hookups, I've never been able to find it. They're all swamped in monogamous people looking for The One™. The one that mentions fish is the worst Do you mean it's the worst because people are looking for hookups, or the worst because people are looking for The One™? " There looking for hook ups | |||
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"I personally feel all the free ones are full of fakes, or people just looking for hook ups. My way of thinking is if they are willing to pay for a site then they are more serious about actually wanting to date. But that's just my humble opinion If there's a site full of people just looking for hookups, I've never been able to find it. They're all swamped in monogamous people looking for The One™. The one that mentions fish is the worst Do you mean it's the worst because people are looking for hookups, or the worst because people are looking for The One™? There looking for hook ups " Sounds like I should give it a try, then! | |||
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"I personally feel all the free ones are full of fakes, or people just looking for hook ups. My way of thinking is if they are willing to pay for a site then they are more serious about actually wanting to date. But that's just my humble opinion If there's a site full of people just looking for hookups, I've never been able to find it. They're all swamped in monogamous people looking for The One™. The one that mentions fish is the worst Do you mean it's the worst because people are looking for hookups, or the worst because people are looking for The One™? There looking for hook ups Sounds like I should give it a try, then! " Don't. They're all mingers. It has the worst ones. Badoo is pretty bad as well. If you want to completely lose faith in humanity then look at 20-somethings on Tinder. Just filters and wannabe instagrammers. | |||
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"I personally feel all the free ones are full of fakes, or people just looking for hook ups. My way of thinking is if they are willing to pay for a site then they are more serious about actually wanting to date. But that's just my humble opinion If there's a site full of people just looking for hookups, I've never been able to find it. They're all swamped in monogamous people looking for The One™. The one that mentions fish is the worst Do you mean it's the worst because people are looking for hookups, or the worst because people are looking for The One™? There looking for hook ups Sounds like I should give it a try, then! " | |||
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"I plan to try Bumble for the first time in the New Year. Not sure how I feel about making the first move - as that’s not really me - but it won’t hurt to get out of my comfort zone! Good luck to all those looking x That’s the thing with bumble! I find guys I like the look of, match with them then don’t bother to message! " This is not just limited to ladies in Fab then, them not messaging first? Heartening | |||
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