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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is this just a tall and 8 plus inch guy club? I get zero attention (I know I'm competing with a lot of guys on here) but I mean nobody at all but guys are interested. Something must be wrong right?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

No your gorgeous xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well there's obviously something if I don't get any attention

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I don't know what your approach is but I've made some very good friends here but it took time.

Do you wink, message, play forum games?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well there's obviously something if I don't get any attention"

It’s called thousands of men on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

I’m round. Have an average penis, and a great attitude. I do aright here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Well there's obviously something if I don't get any attention"

Then try emailing people

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Well there's obviously something if I don't get any attention

It’s called thousands of men on fab "

Hundreds of thousands

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Well there's obviously something if I don't get any attention"

Obviously you have been here a short time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No.

I’m round. Have an average penis, and a great attitude. I do aright here. "

You're also 6'3 and I'm 5'8

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women. "

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well there's obviously something if I don't get any attention

Obviously you have been here a short time"

Wouldn't say short. I've been on and off of here for around 4.5 years. Just not had any luck on here

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Is this just a tall and 8 plus inch guy club? I get zero attention (I know I'm competing with a lot of guys on here) but I mean nobody at all but guys are interested. Something must be wrong right?"

Op

It has nothing to do with amount of guys here but your own approach you might be trying to hard or not enough to grab her attention then again go above your own intentions I've chatted with many we might not sexually be attracted but happy to chat if you're not able to even achieve this you my friend must be doing something wrong.be you as well as your approach towards.

Good luck

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


" wrong right?"

Make yer bloody mind up man ffs

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


" wrong right?

Make yer bloody mind up man ffs"

The importance of punctuation and the difference it makes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try clubs and socials?

Possibly re think your approach if it’s not worked for 4 1/2 years

There are hundreds of threads on this subject with a lot of really good advice, might be worth taking a look

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is this just a tall and 8 plus inch guy club? I get zero attention (I know I'm competing with a lot of guys on here) but I mean nobody at all but guys are interested. Something must be wrong right?

Op

It has nothing to do with amount of guys here but your own approach you might be trying to hard or not enough to grab her attention then again go above your own intentions I've chatted with many we might not sexually be attracted but happy to chat if you're not able to even achieve this you my friend must be doing something wrong.be you as well as your approach towards.

Good luck "

I'd like to think that my approach is neutral. Not begging for something but not disinterested. Don't people reach out too and view though? It's only guys that view me. Seems like it's only guys that are into me and as my profile states I'm straight and my profile seems sound

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey OP, hope you're well and Merry Christmas

Personally I love reading a profile so maybe elaborate yours a little and give some insight into what it is you are looking for but also what you can offer. It is hard for single guys on here, but I find the best connections I've had have been through good communication via profiles and messages. If I am to message a guy its after reading his profile and my interest being piqued enough to find out more.

Also try clubs if that's something you would consider, that's how we started out before joining fab xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey OP, hope you're well and Merry Christmas

Personally I love reading a profile so maybe elaborate yours a little and give some insight into what it is you are looking for but also what you can offer. It is hard for single guys on here, but I find the best connections I've had have been through good communication via profiles and messages. If I am to message a guy its after reading his profile and my interest being piqued enough to find out more.

Also try clubs if that's something you would consider, that's how we started out before joining fab xxx "

Merry Christmas to you too.

How can I elaborate on my profile when I have nowhere near the amount of experience with all the guys that are getting into orgies and ffm threesomes? Just seems like I'm doing something wrong.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You talk about wasting time or not wasting time more than you do about yourself. Your profile should be selling you not pointing out the obvious.

Your first pic (earliest) is good…the rest are point and shoot selfies or have the emoji’s on to cover your face. They are hardly getting the mind working.

What have you done differently each time you re-join? As if it’s not worked last time then doing the same will just produce the same results. Are you engaging in the forums, going to socials, clubs?

K

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's less about what you have and want and more about what you have overall to offer. Your time here has been during a period where nobody could meet. There was a logjam of cocks waiting to get free m. Another arrived

Only you can create realistic expectations. And accept that it takes that and a lot of effort, to get established. Most men give up and fail.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Is this just a tall and 8 plus inch guy club? I get zero attention (I know I'm competing with a lot of guys on here) but I mean nobody at all but guys are interested. Something must be wrong right?

Op

It has nothing to do with amount of guys here but your own approach you might be trying to hard or not enough to grab her attention then again go above your own intentions I've chatted with many we might not sexually be attracted but happy to chat if you're not able to even achieve this you my friend must be doing something wrong.be you as well as your approach towards.

Good luck

I'd like to think that my approach is neutral. Not begging for something but not disinterested. Don't people reach out too and view though? It's only guys that view me. Seems like it's only guys that are into me and as my profile states I'm straight and my profile seems sound "

But you've put within your bio you know what you're looking for ? How is anyone else whom maybe be compatible with what you're interested in so expand the bio is your key that people read and look for common interests then obviously photos a cock is just that makes no difference how many pictures it's still the same a cock but to much says that's the only assets that trigger you whereas a smartly dressed person can find very admirable giving that woohoo

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Is this just a tall and 8 plus inch guy club? I get zero attention (I know I'm competing with a lot of guys on here) but I mean nobody at all but guys are interested. Something must be wrong right?

Op

It has nothing to do with amount of guys here but your own approach you might be trying to hard or not enough to grab her attention then again go above your own intentions I've chatted with many we might not sexually be attracted but happy to chat if you're not able to even achieve this you my friend must be doing something wrong.be you as well as your approach towards.

Good luck

I'd like to think that my approach is neutral. Not begging for something but not disinterested. Don't people reach out too and view though? It's only guys that view me. Seems like it's only guys that are into me and as my profile states I'm straight and my profile seems sound

But you've put within your bio you know what you're looking for ? How is anyone else whom maybe be compatible with what you're interested in so expand the bio is your key that people read and look for common interests then obviously photos a cock is just that makes no difference how many pictures it's still the same a cock but to much says that's the only assets that trigger you whereas a smartly dressed person can find very admirable giving that woohoo"

This xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You talk about wasting time or not wasting time more than you do about yourself. Your profile should be selling you not pointing out the obvious.

Your first pic (earliest) is good…the rest are point and shoot selfies or have the emoji’s on to cover your face. They are hardly getting the mind working.

What have you done differently each time you re-join? As if it’s not worked last time then doing the same will just produce the same results. Are you engaging in the forums, going to socials, clubs?

K

"

I thought my pics were good?

I've joined again due to coming out for a relationship. Didn't want it to seem like I was looking for a simple rebound

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is this just a tall and 8 plus inch guy club? I get zero attention (I know I'm competing with a lot of guys on here) but I mean nobody at all but guys are interested. Something must be wrong right?

Op

It has nothing to do with amount of guys here but your own approach you might be trying to hard or not enough to grab her attention then again go above your own intentions I've chatted with many we might not sexually be attracted but happy to chat if you're not able to even achieve this you my friend must be doing something wrong.be you as well as your approach towards.

Good luck

I'd like to think that my approach is neutral. Not begging for something but not disinterested. Don't people reach out too and view though? It's only guys that view me. Seems like it's only guys that are into me and as my profile states I'm straight and my profile seems sound

But you've put within your bio you know what you're looking for ? How is anyone else whom maybe be compatible with what you're interested in so expand the bio is your key that people read and look for common interests then obviously photos a cock is just that makes no difference how many pictures it's still the same a cock but to much says that's the only assets that trigger you whereas a smartly dressed person can find very admirable giving that woohoo"

I thought I had a good mixture. If I'm being honest I'm looking for fun with couples and singles. Mostly singles but the fact I get not views from women of couples does speak right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Gave my profile a quick update

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No.

I’m round. Have an average penis, and a great attitude. I do aright here.

You're also 6'3 and I'm 5'8 "

My height has nothing to do with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No.

I’m round. Have an average penis, and a great attitude. I do aright here.

You're also 6'3 and I'm 5'8

My height has nothing to do with it.

"

Really? Seems like every other profile I look at there is a 6ft limit

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Shit happens to the best of us OP.

I wouldnt describe myself as ugly, I've got a decent package and relatively fit body. I don't get shit on this site but its not cool to complain.

Keep expectations to an absolute minimum and you won't be disappointed. Anything that comes your way is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gave my profile a quick update "

Good luck but I highly recommend going to clubs and socials to meet others in the scene

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Shit happens to the best of us OP.

I wouldnt describe myself as ugly, I've got a decent package and relatively fit body. I don't get shit on this site but its not cool to complain.

Keep expectations to an absolute minimum and you won't be disappointed. Anything that comes your way is a bonus "

I didn't mean this to look like a complaint. It was more of a what is wrong with me?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Is this just a tall and 8 plus inch guy club? I get zero attention (I know I'm competing with a lot of guys on here) but I mean nobody at all but guys are interested. Something must be wrong right?

Op

It has nothing to do with amount of guys here but your own approach you might be trying to hard or not enough to grab her attention then again go above your own intentions I've chatted with many we might not sexually be attracted but happy to chat if you're not able to even achieve this you my friend must be doing something wrong.be you as well as your approach towards.

Good luck

I'd like to think that my approach is neutral. Not begging for something but not disinterested. Don't people reach out too and view though? It's only guys that view me. Seems like it's only guys that are into me and as my profile states I'm straight and my profile seems sound

But you've put within your bio you know what you're looking for ? How is anyone else whom maybe be compatible with what you're interested in so expand the bio is your key that people read and look for common interests then obviously photos a cock is just that makes no difference how many pictures it's still the same a cock but to much says that's the only assets that trigger you whereas a smartly dressed person can find very admirable giving that woohoo

I thought I had a good mixture. If I'm being honest I'm looking for fun with couples and singles. Mostly singles but the fact I get not views from women of couples does speak right?"

Ok my advice up to you take on board the forums are jam packed with many guys whom asked similar as yourself so even doing a forum Search and reading through all the helpful advice others have given.

What do you see when you read other people bio that you are interested in that you are missing within your bio remember be creative be you because this can also go wrong if you try to be someone or something that doesn't fit around you browse the pictures gallery for ideas some inspiration and if your face worries you crop detail counts for everything

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Gave my profile a quick update

Good luck but I highly recommend going to clubs and socials to meet others in the scene "

I was gonna go to la chambre before if shut down. There the one in Leeds but as a single guy I don't want a load of bi guys trying there luck as bi nights are the main thing for singles right? Unless you're a fem obviously

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


" wrong right?

Make yer bloody mind up man ffs

The importance of punctuation and the difference it makes "

We should join the Grammar Nazis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gave my profile a quick update "

That's better OP xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is this just a tall and 8 plus inch guy club? I get zero attention (I know I'm competing with a lot of guys on here) but I mean nobody at all but guys are interested. Something must be wrong right?

Op

It has nothing to do with amount of guys here but your own approach you might be trying to hard or not enough to grab her attention then again go above your own intentions I've chatted with many we might not sexually be attracted but happy to chat if you're not able to even achieve this you my friend must be doing something wrong.be you as well as your approach towards.

Good luck

I'd like to think that my approach is neutral. Not begging for something but not disinterested. Don't people reach out too and view though? It's only guys that view me. Seems like it's only guys that are into me and as my profile states I'm straight and my profile seems sound

But you've put within your bio you know what you're looking for ? How is anyone else whom maybe be compatible with what you're interested in so expand the bio is your key that people read and look for common interests then obviously photos a cock is just that makes no difference how many pictures it's still the same a cock but to much says that's the only assets that trigger you whereas a smartly dressed person can find very admirable giving that woohoo

I thought I had a good mixture. If I'm being honest I'm looking for fun with couples and singles. Mostly singles but the fact I get not views from women of couples does speak right?

Ok my advice up to you take on board the forums are jam packed with many guys whom asked similar as yourself so even doing a forum Search and reading through all the helpful advice others have given.

What do you see when you read other people bio that you are interested in that you are missing within your bio remember be creative be you because this can also go wrong if you try to be someone or something that doesn't fit around you browse the pictures gallery for ideas some inspiration and if your face worries you crop detail counts for everything "

My face doesn't worry me. Just don't want some guy walking up to me in public as I get loads of messages from guys on fab. This is meant to be a discreet. I have face pics in request as is stated on my profile. Don't really know what to put as my heading to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gave my profile a quick update

Good luck but I highly recommend going to clubs and socials to meet others in the scene

I was gonna go to la chambre before if shut down. There the one in Leeds but as a single guy I don't want a load of bi guys trying there luck as bi nights are the main thing for singles right? Unless you're a fem obviously"

I went to LC often that’s how I found out about fab…

There is Quest and Pandora’s in Leeds, Bi nights aren’t the main thing for singles. Friday’s are usually singles night and it’s a mixture. Go like you are off on a night out if anything happens it’s a bonus if not well hopefully you’ll have made some friends and can take it from there…

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Gave my profile a quick update

That's better OP xxx"

You think? I've had similar profile bios but it's not got any attention

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Gave my profile a quick update

Good luck but I highly recommend going to clubs and socials to meet others in the scene

I was gonna go to la chambre before if shut down. There the one in Leeds but as a single guy I don't want a load of bi guys trying there luck as bi nights are the main thing for singles right? Unless you're a fem obviously

I went to LC often that’s how I found out about fab…

There is Quest and Pandora’s in Leeds, Bi nights aren’t the main thing for singles. Friday’s are usually singles night and it’s a mixture. Go like you are off on a night out if anything happens it’s a bonus if not well hopefully you’ll have made some friends and can take it from there… "

Yeah I get you there. That's how I treat every night out anyway so wouldn't be any difference I guess. Just feel like I would be the odd one out in a swinger's club bar.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I’m 6’1” and no one’s interested in me, your height isn’t an issue OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m 6’1” and no one’s interested in me, your height isn’t an issue OP. "

Fair. Just see a lot of 6ft plus on people's profiles so if puts me off messaging them as I'm obviously not what people are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chill your beans, these are difficult times. But you are on the forums and showing your personality.

Engage as you are, always be yourself and let the magic happen Sir.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


" wrong right?

Make yer bloody mind up man ffs

The importance of punctuation and the difference it makes

We should join the Grammar Nazis "

I usually don't say anything, always on best behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

Socials socials socials. Get your name down for a social. Attend it without the intention of riding rings around ya. Make connections by working the floor and by that I mean introduce yourself and get talking to as many people as possible.

An extract from the Bman79 book of fab

You can thank me later

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Socials socials socials. Get your name down for a social. Attend it without the intention of riding rings around ya. Make connections by working the floor and by that I mean introduce yourself and get talking to as many people as possible.

An extract from the Bman79 book of fab

You can thank me later "

Done that on a previous profile and if didn't do much. All be it I only went to 1 social as that is all that was around me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach."

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Your photos could be better. Emojis seem childish and no need for them. Just crop your head off

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"Is this just a tall and 8 plus inch guy club? I get zero attention (I know I'm competing with a lot of guys on here) but I mean nobody at all but guys are interested. Something must be wrong right?"

Winston is less than 6 feet tall and less than 8 inches and has a Dad bod, also considerably older than you.

150+ meets on his single male profile.

It's not height, what you're packing, your age or physique that count.

Attitude and effort are everything.

Lady Astor

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

It must have come to your attention that the ole rona is being pretty fucking nifty of late. That's obviously gonna be a concern for a huge amount of people.

I'll come back to the bit where you state what you're looking for: ok, couples or single fems. Any particular type? By saying you know what you're looking for it makes it sound quite specific, well we as readers are word readers not mind readers so that means chuff all to us.

You're still only a wee nipper to many many folk, so that'll rule you out to quite a lot.

Have a watch of my vids. They might help a little. I think the earliest and most recent are the ones that aren't relevant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is this just a tall and 8 plus inch guy club? I get zero attention (I know I'm competing with a lot of guys on here) but I mean nobody at all but guys are interested. Something must be wrong right?

Winston is less than 6 feet tall and less than 8 inches and has a Dad bod, also considerably older than you.

150+ meets on his single male profile.

It's not height, what you're packing, your age or physique that count.

Attitude and effort are everything.

Lady Astor"

Guess I'm not much of a ladies man then. Maybe I should be getting tips off of him then haha

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint


"Socials socials socials. Get your name down for a social. Attend it without the intention of riding rings around ya. Make connections by working the floor and by that I mean introduce yourself and get talking to as many people as possible.

An extract from the Bman79 book of fab

You can thank me later

Done that on a previous profile and if didn't do much. All be it I only went to 1 social as that is all that was around me "

One social. Simply won’t cut it. Your a single guy and you need to attend as many as possible. Not as easy now with all the restrictions atm but when it opens up fully. Get out and meet people face to face very rarely will a single girl nowadays go and meet a guy in his own house /or hotel without meeting him before hand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your photos could be better. Emojis seem childish and no need for them. Just crop your head off"

Really? I thought they showed a bit of character... I'm only 26 after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?"

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Socials socials socials. Get your name down for a social. Attend it without the intention of riding rings around ya. Make connections by working the floor and by that I mean introduce yourself and get talking to as many people as possible.

An extract from the Bman79 book of fab

You can thank me later

Done that on a previous profile and if didn't do much. All be it I only went to 1 social as that is all that was around me "

1 social is naff all.

Quite simply, if you want more results, make more effort. You gotta go to the people not expect them to land on your bellend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Socials socials socials. Get your name down for a social. Attend it without the intention of riding rings around ya. Make connections by working the floor and by that I mean introduce yourself and get talking to as many people as possible.

An extract from the Bman79 book of fab

You can thank me later

Done that on a previous profile and if didn't do much. All be it I only went to 1 social as that is all that was around me

1 social is naff all.

Quite simply, if you want more results, make more effort. You gotta go to the people not expect them to land on your bellend "

I mean... I would have gone to a lot more but none were around me and COVID happend so it put a stall on it

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Socials socials socials. Get your name down for a social. Attend it without the intention of riding rings around ya. Make connections by working the floor and by that I mean introduce yourself and get talking to as many people as possible.

An extract from the Bman79 book of fab

You can thank me later

Done that on a previous profile and if didn't do much. All be it I only went to 1 social as that is all that was around me

1 social is naff all.

Quite simply, if you want more results, make more effort. You gotta go to the people not expect them to land on your bellend "

Land on it? That sounds painful

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

I’ll probably echo what others have said, but your profile seems very confrontational. Not very enticing. You want to limit the sex chat in the profile. Tell us about you as a person. Pay attention to grammar. Read your profile aloud to see if it scans and if it needs tweaking. The beauty of it is you can edit and change things up. Same with pics. Try editing with colour and take inspiration from others pics!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time "

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"Is this just a tall and 8 plus inch guy club? I get zero attention (I know I'm competing with a lot of guys on here) but I mean nobody at all but guys are interested. Something must be wrong right?

Winston is less than 6 feet tall and less than 8 inches and has a Dad bod, also considerably older than you.

150+ meets on his single male profile.

It's not height, what you're packing, your age or physique that count.

Attitude and effort are everything.

Lady Astor

Guess I'm not much of a ladies man then. Maybe I should be getting tips off of him then haha "

He'll tell you the same as most posters here.

Patience.

Lower expectations.

Expand your social network.

Don't look for sex, look for connections and friendships.

Good photos.

Good biog.

Attitude and effort.

Lady Astor

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ll probably echo what others have said, but your profile seems very confrontational. Not very enticing. You want to limit the sex chat in the profile. Tell us about you as a person. Pay attention to grammar. Read your profile aloud to see if it scans and if it needs tweaking. The beauty of it is you can edit and change things up. Same with pics. Try editing with colour and take inspiration from others pics!

"

Confrontational? How so? Sex chat in the profile? Could you elaborate on that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op its not a good place if your a man unless you are prepaird to put the work in theres proberly close to 100 men per one women on fab and thats growing daily but what makes it worse is that hardly anyone is playing anyway to to the times we are in at the mo..

thee best way for a guy to move forward on this scene at the moment is clubs ... most of the guys we know and meet have come from clubs ... also op you ask for advise from the smallest part of fab and thats the forums nothing wrong with that but it wont get you far with the 95% who dont use it .... go to a club spend some time around swingers in a face to face enviroment and learn what others want and if thats something you can offer...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is this just a tall and 8 plus inch guy club? I get zero attention (I know I'm competing with a lot of guys on here) but I mean nobody at all but guys are interested. Something must be wrong right?

Winston is less than 6 feet tall and less than 8 inches and has a Dad bod, also considerably older than you.

150+ meets on his single male profile.

It's not height, what you're packing, your age or physique that count.

Attitude and effort are everything.

Lady Astor

Guess I'm not much of a ladies man then. Maybe I should be getting tips off of him then haha

He'll tell you the same as most posters here.

Patience.

Lower expectations.

Expand your social network.

Don't look for sex, look for connections and friendships.

Good photos.

Good biog.

Attitude and effort.

Lady Astor "

Been on here for around 4 years to no avail. Been on the forums in the past and people have talked me through making a good profile then said if was great so don't see what the issue is. Seems very toxic masculinity speak but don't mean to come over as that

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Socials socials socials. Get your name down for a social. Attend it without the intention of riding rings around ya. Make connections by working the floor and by that I mean introduce yourself and get talking to as many people as possible.

An extract from the Bman79 book of fab

You can thank me later

Done that on a previous profile and if didn't do much. All be it I only went to 1 social as that is all that was around me

1 social is naff all.

Quite simply, if you want more results, make more effort. You gotta go to the people not expect them to land on your bellend

I mean... I would have gone to a lot more but none were around me and COVID happend so it put a stall on it "

Again "I would have gone to a lot more but nine were around me"

That's what I'm on about when I say effort. I can't drive nor do I have loads of spare cash but I've gone to socials that required effort, like saving up and catching a train. If you want it to happen and you're prepared to put the effort in to make it happen it will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have the same problem... only attention I get on here is male. Admittedly I'm shite at starting a conversation over text but my profile doesn't even get looked at by females hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested "

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"op its not a good place if your a man unless you are prepaird to put the work in theres proberly close to 100 men per one women on fab and thats growing daily but what makes it worse is that hardly anyone is playing anyway to to the times we are in at the mo..

thee best way for a guy to move forward on this scene at the moment is clubs ... most of the guys we know and meet have come from clubs ... also op you ask for advise from the smallest part of fab and thats the forums nothing wrong with that but it wont get you far with the 95% who dont use it .... go to a club spend some time around swingers in a face to face enviroment and learn what others want and if thats something you can offer...

"

I would love to do that. Just don't know how I would fit in a swingers environment. Obviously I'm nervous about it. Thought about Pandora's or something

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I’ll probably echo what others have said, but your profile seems very confrontational. Not very enticing. You want to limit the sex chat in the profile. Tell us about you as a person. Pay attention to grammar. Read your profile aloud to see if it scans and if it needs tweaking. The beauty of it is you can edit and change things up. Same with pics. Try editing with colour and take inspiration from others pics!

Confrontational? How so? Sex chat in the profile? Could you elaborate on that? "

It does seem aggressive.

Mine is aggy coz I don't want to meet people. Yours does read as though you've got attitude.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Have the same problem... only attention I get on here is male. Admittedly I'm shite at starting a conversation over text but my profile doesn't even get looked at by females hahaha"

I've just looked but you'd never know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Socials socials socials. Get your name down for a social. Attend it without the intention of riding rings around ya. Make connections by working the floor and by that I mean introduce yourself and get talking to as many people as possible.

An extract from the Bman79 book of fab

You can thank me later

Done that on a previous profile and if didn't do much. All be it I only went to 1 social as that is all that was around me

1 social is naff all.

Quite simply, if you want more results, make more effort. You gotta go to the people not expect them to land on your bellend

I mean... I would have gone to a lot more but none were around me and COVID happend so it put a stall on it

Again "I would have gone to a lot more but nine were around me"

That's what I'm on about when I say effort. I can't drive nor do I have loads of spare cash but I've gone to socials that required effort, like saving up and catching a train. If you want it to happen and you're prepared to put the effort in to make it happen it will."

I just didn't see the point in going to socials miles from me if I wouldn't be able to meet in that area is all

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Socials socials socials. Get your name down for a social. Attend it without the intention of riding rings around ya. Make connections by working the floor and by that I mean introduce yourself and get talking to as many people as possible.

An extract from the Bman79 book of fab

You can thank me later

Done that on a previous profile and if didn't do much. All be it I only went to 1 social as that is all that was around me

1 social is naff all.

Quite simply, if you want more results, make more effort. You gotta go to the people not expect them to land on your bellend

I mean... I would have gone to a lot more but none were around me and COVID happend so it put a stall on it

Again "I would have gone to a lot more but nine were around me"

That's what I'm on about when I say effort. I can't drive nor do I have loads of spare cash but I've gone to socials that required effort, like saving up and catching a train. If you want it to happen and you're prepared to put the effort in to make it happen it will.

I just didn't see the point in going to socials miles from me if I wouldn't be able to meet in that area is all "

Oh right. So how do you know there wouldn't be someone there who was happy to travel to you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use. "

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ll probably echo what others have said, but your profile seems very confrontational. Not very enticing. You want to limit the sex chat in the profile. Tell us about you as a person. Pay attention to grammar. Read your profile aloud to see if it scans and if it needs tweaking. The beauty of it is you can edit and change things up. Same with pics. Try editing with colour and take inspiration from others pics!

Confrontational? How so? Sex chat in the profile? Could you elaborate on that?

It does seem aggressive.

Mine is aggy coz I don't want to meet people. Yours does read as though you've got attitude."

Aggy really? I just seems like it was to the point and showed a view of what I wanted. Didn't really want to start giving specifics on body types as i probably should as people may seem I'm up tight with unrealistic expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all else fails, draw some tape measure markings on your penis.

It worked for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Socials socials socials. Get your name down for a social. Attend it without the intention of riding rings around ya. Make connections by working the floor and by that I mean introduce yourself and get talking to as many people as possible.

An extract from the Bman79 book of fab

You can thank me later

Done that on a previous profile and if didn't do much. All be it I only went to 1 social as that is all that was around me

1 social is naff all.

Quite simply, if you want more results, make more effort. You gotta go to the people not expect them to land on your bellend

I mean... I would have gone to a lot more but none were around me and COVID happend so it put a stall on it

Again "I would have gone to a lot more but nine were around me"

That's what I'm on about when I say effort. I can't drive nor do I have loads of spare cash but I've gone to socials that required effort, like saving up and catching a train. If you want it to happen and you're prepared to put the effort in to make it happen it will.

I just didn't see the point in going to socials miles from me if I wouldn't be able to meet in that area is all

Oh right. So how do you know there wouldn't be someone there who was happy to travel to you?"

Cause when I can accommodate I'm in student accommodation and I'm sure couples and people 30 plus wouldn't be comfortable meeting there

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

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Are you offering up enough cake? ... that's the way to clinch it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues. "

If you’ve got issues with confidence fab probably isn’t the best place for you. By all accounts most single men have a hard time on here. We get rejected and no replies too but we just move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you offering up enough cake? ... that's the way to clinch it "

Cake? Can't tell if you're taking the piss or using a metaphor haha

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Socials socials socials. Get your name down for a social. Attend it without the intention of riding rings around ya. Make connections by working the floor and by that I mean introduce yourself and get talking to as many people as possible.

An extract from the Bman79 book of fab

You can thank me later

Done that on a previous profile and if didn't do much. All be it I only went to 1 social as that is all that was around me

1 social is naff all.

Quite simply, if you want more results, make more effort. You gotta go to the people not expect them to land on your bellend

I mean... I would have gone to a lot more but none were around me and COVID happend so it put a stall on it

Again "I would have gone to a lot more but nine were around me"

That's what I'm on about when I say effort. I can't drive nor do I have loads of spare cash but I've gone to socials that required effort, like saving up and catching a train. If you want it to happen and you're prepared to put the effort in to make it happen it will.

I just didn't see the point in going to socials miles from me if I wouldn't be able to meet in that area is all

Oh right. So how do you know there wouldn't be someone there who was happy to travel to you?

Cause when I can accommodate I'm in student accommodation and I'm sure couples and people 30 plus wouldn't be comfortable meeting there "

OK cool. So you know yourself there are limitations which will make it more difficult for you to make meets happen. Therefore your potential pool of people is gonna be smaller.

I can't see many people wanting to go to student digs, other than other students on a night out.

So once again, we're back to effort and making the most of what you do have available to you.... and that clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

If you’ve got issues with confidence fab probably isn’t the best place for you. By all accounts most single men have a hard time on here. We get rejected and no replies too but we just move on."

Yeah I just move on to. End of the day I'm not their type so what can I do about it. Nothing. It's just that I don't get the attention of anyone at all that I have an interest in. Some will have a chat with me for maybe 10 messages then just blank me. Can't tell if they're just being nice or bored to be fair.

I feel like my confidence issues came from the constant fact of being blanked and not getting any attention at all. In person it happens to. I get told I'm a great looking guy and won't have any issues with women but little do they know I get zero attention at all haha

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By *dysseusukMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues. "

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Socials socials socials. Get your name down for a social. Attend it without the intention of riding rings around ya. Make connections by working the floor and by that I mean introduce yourself and get talking to as many people as possible.

An extract from the Bman79 book of fab

You can thank me later

Done that on a previous profile and if didn't do much. All be it I only went to 1 social as that is all that was around me

1 social is naff all.

Quite simply, if you want more results, make more effort. You gotta go to the people not expect them to land on your bellend

I mean... I would have gone to a lot more but none were around me and COVID happend so it put a stall on it

Again "I would have gone to a lot more but nine were around me"

That's what I'm on about when I say effort. I can't drive nor do I have loads of spare cash but I've gone to socials that required effort, like saving up and catching a train. If you want it to happen and you're prepared to put the effort in to make it happen it will.

I just didn't see the point in going to socials miles from me if I wouldn't be able to meet in that area is all

Oh right. So how do you know there wouldn't be someone there who was happy to travel to you?

Cause when I can accommodate I'm in student accommodation and I'm sure couples and people 30 plus wouldn't be comfortable meeting there

OK cool. So you know yourself there are limitations which will make it more difficult for you to make meets happen. Therefore your potential pool of people is gonna be smaller.

I can't see many people wanting to go to student digs, other than other students on a night out.

So once again, we're back to effort and making the most of what you do have available to you.... and that clubs."

Yeah true. Clubs would be a decent idea but it's just the case of I don't wanna go to a club and feel like the outsider. I'm sure that it's just beginners nerves

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site."

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

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By *dysseusukMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

If you’ve got issues with confidence fab probably isn’t the best place for you. By all accounts most single men have a hard time on here. We get rejected and no replies too but we just move on.

Yeah I just move on to. End of the day I'm not their type so what can I do about it. Nothing. It's just that I don't get the attention of anyone at all that I have an interest in. Some will have a chat with me for maybe 10 messages then just blank me. Can't tell if they're just being nice or bored to be fair.

I feel like my confidence issues came from the constant fact of being blanked and not getting any attention at all. In person it happens to. I get told I'm a great looking guy and won't have any issues with women but little do they know I get zero attention at all haha "

It's not that you're being rejected. It's that it's impossible for women and couples to make judgements on who to meet and reply to when they get 100 messages a day and only a few photos and text to base their judgement on. They can't possibly know enough about you. In a club it's totally different. When you meet in person at a club, it's much easier for people to feel a connection or not, and for you with them, and the competition is much less. On here, male profiles are reduced to commodities and standing out is next to impossible - until you start getting verifications which are easier to get from meeting at clubs.

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over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all "

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks"

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

If you’ve got issues with confidence fab probably isn’t the best place for you. By all accounts most single men have a hard time on here. We get rejected and no replies too but we just move on.

Yeah I just move on to. End of the day I'm not their type so what can I do about it. Nothing. It's just that I don't get the attention of anyone at all that I have an interest in. Some will have a chat with me for maybe 10 messages then just blank me. Can't tell if they're just being nice or bored to be fair.

I feel like my confidence issues came from the constant fact of being blanked and not getting any attention at all. In person it happens to. I get told I'm a great looking guy and won't have any issues with women but little do they know I get zero attention at all haha

It's not that you're being rejected. It's that it's impossible for women and couples to make judgements on who to meet and reply to when they get 100 messages a day and only a few photos and text to base their judgement on. They can't possibly know enough about you. In a club it's totally different. When you meet in person at a club, it's much easier for people to feel a connection or not, and for you with them, and the competition is much less. On here, male profiles are reduced to commodities and standing out is next to impossible - until you start getting verifications which are easier to get from meeting at clubs."

That's true. On here it's more like tinder than actually looking at people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall"

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

"

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested "

We met before tinder so we’ve never been on it. Stop comparing and work out what you have to offer. Work with what you do have and forget about what you think you lack. There’s nothing more unattractive than negativity so try and be more positive.

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested "

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor"

This 100%^^^

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor"

Yeah I understand all of that. I felt that my profile showed me well if I'm honest. I'm not trying to make excuses as to why I can't. I feel like if I had a house with a hot tub in the back I'd still get nothing haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor

This 100%^^^"

Would you say there is anything with my profile for someone to reach out then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor

This 100%^^^

Would you say there is anything with my profile for someone to reach out then?"

There’s negative language in there but most couples and single women can meet without ever sending a first message. As others have said you need to be putting more effort in. Women are in the minority on here so you need to stand out. Couples can be harder because you need to impress two people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor

This 100%^^^

Would you say there is anything with my profile for someone to reach out then?

There’s negative language in there but most couples and single women can meet without ever sending a first message. As others have said you need to be putting more effort in. Women are in the minority on here so you need to stand out. Couples can be harder because you need to impress two people."

Negative language? How so? I thought it was to the point and genuine.

This seems to be a thing I see a lot. Women fuck who they want men fuck who they can haha. I understand that women and couples don't need to message anyone as they they 1000s of messages a week. But how can someone be seen if they are constantly burried in messages?

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"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor

This 100%^^^

Would you say there is anything with my profile for someone to reach out then?

There’s negative language in there but most couples and single women can meet without ever sending a first message. As others have said you need to be putting more effort in. Women are in the minority on here so you need to stand out. Couples can be harder because you need to impress two people.

Negative language? How so? I thought it was to the point and genuine.

This seems to be a thing I see a lot. Women fuck who they want men fuck who they can haha. I understand that women and couples don't need to message anyone as they they 1000s of messages a week. But how can someone be seen if they are constantly burried in messages?"

Words and phrases like not, haven’t, wasting time. You can be seen by being different to the others. How you do that is up to you. Ask engaging questions. Make people want to reply.

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over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor

This 100%^^^

Would you say there is anything with my profile for someone to reach out then?

There’s negative language in there but most couples and single women can meet without ever sending a first message. As others have said you need to be putting more effort in. Women are in the minority on here so you need to stand out. Couples can be harder because you need to impress two people.

Negative language? How so? I thought it was to the point and genuine.

This seems to be a thing I see a lot. Women fuck who they want men fuck who they can haha. I understand that women and couples don't need to message anyone as they they 1000s of messages a week. But how can someone be seen if they are constantly burried in messages?

Words and phrases like not, haven’t, wasting time. You can be seen by being different to the others. How you do that is up to you. Ask engaging questions. Make people want to reply."

I've seen many profiles like mine. Both male and female. They seem to do just fine with plenty of verifications and pics and vids of them having fun. Female and couples profiles don't really count as next to nobody reads them from what I can tell from people's status and from the messages from guys I've had I can tell people don't really read male profiles either.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor

This 100%^^^

Would you say there is anything with my profile for someone to reach out then?

There’s negative language in there but most couples and single women can meet without ever sending a first message. As others have said you need to be putting more effort in. Women are in the minority on here so you need to stand out. Couples can be harder because you need to impress two people.

Negative language? How so? I thought it was to the point and genuine.

This seems to be a thing I see a lot. Women fuck who they want men fuck who they can haha. I understand that women and couples don't need to message anyone as they they 1000s of messages a week. But how can someone be seen if they are constantly burried in messages?

Words and phrases like not, haven’t, wasting time. You can be seen by being different to the others. How you do that is up to you. Ask engaging questions. Make people want to reply.

I've seen many profiles like mine. Both male and female. They seem to do just fine with plenty of verifications and pics and vids of them having fun. Female and couples profiles don't really count as next to nobody reads them from what I can tell from people's status and from the messages from guys I've had I can tell people don't really read male profiles either. "

It doesn't seem to matter what anyone says you're on the defensive and negative.

So, by that reckoning the thing that needs to change is your mindset.

I wholeheartedly agree with all I'm reading is "can't" when it comes to anything that could possibly be a hurdle, and not taking accountability for the things you can control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to say but all I’m seeing is a bunch of moany stuff saying why you can’t, why you won’t, etc.

People are offering advice and you keep coming up with arguments for why that wouldn’t work for you.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I've seen many profiles like mine"

Have you? So you're happy being just another profile then?

They've got verifications. Well then I'd say they don't rely on their profile for interaction and use it to keep up with swinging events, where they go and meet other people attending those events and viola! Verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ya just need to suck it up buttercup

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor

This 100%^^^

Would you say there is anything with my profile for someone to reach out then?

There’s negative language in there but most couples and single women can meet without ever sending a first message. As others have said you need to be putting more effort in. Women are in the minority on here so you need to stand out. Couples can be harder because you need to impress two people.

Negative language? How so? I thought it was to the point and genuine.

This seems to be a thing I see a lot. Women fuck who they want men fuck who they can haha. I understand that women and couples don't need to message anyone as they they 1000s of messages a week. But how can someone be seen if they are constantly burried in messages?

Words and phrases like not, haven’t, wasting time. You can be seen by being different to the others. How you do that is up to you. Ask engaging questions. Make people want to reply.

I've seen many profiles like mine. Both male and female. They seem to do just fine with plenty of verifications and pics and vids of them having fun. Female and couples profiles don't really count as next to nobody reads them from what I can tell from people's status and from the messages from guys I've had I can tell people don't really read male profiles either.

It doesn't seem to matter what anyone says you're on the defensive and negative.

So, by that reckoning the thing that needs to change is your mindset.

I wholeheartedly agree with all I'm reading is "can't" when it comes to anything that could possibly be a hurdle, and not taking accountability for the things you can control."

I don't mean to be. I just think that I've got a decent profile that states what I want and what I can offer. Yes it shows my type which may show a bit of negatively, but every other fems of couples profile says just as much if I'm honest. I've been told go show what I want and what I can offer which I've done then get told that it's negative and showing me as me. Don't understand it.

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over a year ago


""I've seen many profiles like mine"

Have you? So you're happy being just another profile then?

They've got verifications. Well then I'd say they don't rely on their profile for interaction and use it to keep up with swinging events, where they go and meet other people attending those events and viola! Verifications."

Guess they've found the magic trick to the whole dating and casual sex scene. Can't say I've ever been able to master it. And that's not for a lack of trying haha. Some people have it and some don't I guess.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

OP I bet you can pull when out???

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


""I've seen many profiles like mine"

Have you? So you're happy being just another profile then?

They've got verifications. Well then I'd say they don't rely on their profile for interaction and use it to keep up with swinging events, where they go and meet other people attending those events and viola! Verifications.

Guess they've found the magic trick to the whole dating and casual sex scene. Can't say I've ever been able to master it. And that's not for a lack of trying haha. Some people have it and some don't I guess."

Willingness to make effort. That's what they have. They're not gods gift, they're not magic.

If you can't see the wood for the trees no amount of us repeating ourselves is gonna help. You're hearing to reply, not hearing to listen.

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

This place really isn't about things "being fair". You'll see profiles which say "no dick pics" but their verifications are all guys with dick pics. Someone says they don't want to shag the entire site, yet they have 12 verifications in the last week. People are funny like that.

Everyone goes through this. The site looks like a veritable smorgasbord of willing totty. In reality it's a massive sausagefest. Women get literally hundreds of replies. There's a small group at the top who do all the parties and the forum and who know each other, and then there's a great amorphous mass of minnows hoping to catch someone's attention.

If you're after getting laid, this site really isn't the place. It'll work for some and totally bomb for others. Not worth getting yourself worked up over it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I bet you can pull when out???"

What makes you say that?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"OP I bet you can pull when out???

What makes you say that? "

Can you????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


""I've seen many profiles like mine"

Have you? So you're happy being just another profile then?

They've got verifications. Well then I'd say they don't rely on their profile for interaction and use it to keep up with swinging events, where they go and meet other people attending those events and viola! Verifications.

Guess they've found the magic trick to the whole dating and casual sex scene. Can't say I've ever been able to master it. And that's not for a lack of trying haha. Some people have it and some don't I guess.

Willingness to make effort. That's what they have. They're not gods gift, they're not magic.

If you can't see the wood for the trees no amount of us repeating ourselves is gonna help. You're hearing to reply, not hearing to listen."

Wood for the trees? Never heard that. What do you mean by that?

I'm definitely listening and I've made changes to my profile to reflect that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I bet you can pull when out???

What makes you say that?

Can you????"

Haven't pulled on a night out ever. That's just something that I don't do online of in person haha

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"OP I bet you can pull when out???

What makes you say that?

Can you????

Haven't pulled on a night out ever. That's just something that I don't do online of in person haha "

oh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cake and Baked goods are often a winner or bribe for the forums. It’s how I get by

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I bet you can pull when out???

What makes you say that?

Can you????

Haven't pulled on a night out ever. That's just something that I don't do online of in person haha

oh "

What's up(

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"OP I bet you can pull when out???

What makes you say that?

Can you????

Haven't pulled on a night out ever. That's just something that I don't do online of in person haha

oh

What's up( "

Nowt you seem attractive that's all

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over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor

This 100%^^^

Would you say there is anything with my profile for someone to reach out then?

There’s negative language in there but most couples and single women can meet without ever sending a first message. As others have said you need to be putting more effort in. Women are in the minority on here so you need to stand out. Couples can be harder because you need to impress two people.

Negative language? How so? I thought it was to the point and genuine.

This seems to be a thing I see a lot. Women fuck who they want men fuck who they can haha. I understand that women and couples don't need to message anyone as they they 1000s of messages a week. But how can someone be seen if they are constantly burried in messages?

Words and phrases like not, haven’t, wasting time. You can be seen by being different to the others. How you do that is up to you. Ask engaging questions. Make people want to reply.

I've seen many profiles like mine. Both male and female. They seem to do just fine with plenty of verifications and pics and vids of them having fun. Female and couples profiles don't really count as next to nobody reads them from what I can tell from people's status and from the messages from guys I've had I can tell people don't really read male profiles either. "

Again your comparing rather than taking on board what I’m saying. There’s no magic formula. Different people want different things but your profile and first message are basically a sales pitch. Would you buy what you’re selling?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I bet you can pull when out???

What makes you say that?

Can you????

Haven't pulled on a night out ever. That's just something that I don't do online of in person haha

oh

What's up(

Nowt you seem attractive that's all"

Thanks. Shame more people don't see that haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor

This 100%^^^

Would you say there is anything with my profile for someone to reach out then?

There’s negative language in there but most couples and single women can meet without ever sending a first message. As others have said you need to be putting more effort in. Women are in the minority on here so you need to stand out. Couples can be harder because you need to impress two people.

Negative language? How so? I thought it was to the point and genuine.

This seems to be a thing I see a lot. Women fuck who they want men fuck who they can haha. I understand that women and couples don't need to message anyone as they they 1000s of messages a week. But how can someone be seen if they are constantly burried in messages?

Words and phrases like not, haven’t, wasting time. You can be seen by being different to the others. How you do that is up to you. Ask engaging questions. Make people want to reply.

I've seen many profiles like mine. Both male and female. They seem to do just fine with plenty of verifications and pics and vids of them having fun. Female and couples profiles don't really count as next to nobody reads them from what I can tell from people's status and from the messages from guys I've had I can tell people don't really read male profiles either.

Again your comparing rather than taking on board what I’m saying. There’s no magic formula. Different people want different things but your profile and first message are basically a sales pitch. Would you buy what you’re selling?"

Depends what I'm looking for really. If I'd fit what the person was looking for and fit criteria then I'd drop them a message completing their profile and mentioning something from it or their status and completing their pics/Vids in the hope for reply

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"OP I bet you can pull when out???

What makes you say that?

Can you????

Haven't pulled on a night out ever. That's just something that I don't do online of in person haha

oh

What's up(

Nowt you seem attractive that's all

Thanks. Shame more people don't see that haha "

Your first post I posted after you

Anyway good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve never met anyone over 6’ or with an above average penis. If it’s not working for you maybe try a different approach.

Really? That's all I seem to see on people's pics and verifications. It's very rare that I will see someone that doesn't have a 9 inch dick and 6ft plus in all fairness. Maybe it's just my area who knows?

It’s more about the person than what they have for us. It’s a myth that all women like massive cocks. Some do, some don’t. Some like tall men some don’t. Go to a club and you’ll see for yourself that it’s not only Greek gods having a good time

I know it's not only the most popular and the most hung that get the fun in clubs. Just seems that way on here as that's all I see on coupes and singles Vids and pics. And as I don't hold myself as hung or good looking just seem like they wouldn't be interested

That might be where you’re going wrong. I’m no Tom Hardy (I’m 5’6”, average penis size with a dad bod) but I’m confident and very happy with what I have to offer. You might not think it but a lack of confidence will show in your messages and with the language you use.

Yeah I get that. I've never been the best of texters either so that probs plays against me. Just seems like I fall in to that part of my generation where I feel like I don't fit anyone and obviously people see straight through confidence issues.

I feel for you, but you're coming across as so negative and down on yourself, which is going to be a bit turn off. But the biggest mistake is that you're treating this like a sex dating site - it's not. Sure people can arrange meets but that's not the main purpose. This is a lifestyle site, where you can learn about the community, explore your own interests, chat in the forums about the lifestyle with other community members and enjoy the videos, pics etc. In 15 years on the site, I've only met a handful of people directly from the site. Mostly i meet at clubs and parties, then chat to them and stay in touch through the site. the site works much better for men when they use it isn this way rather than as a sex dating site.

I don't see this as a sex site to be fair. Sure people are on here looking for sex but I know it's not the only thing. Yeah sure the sex would be good as I get none in my life. Just seems like it comes really easy for some is all

You seem to worry too much about what others are doing and less about yourself. If you feel others are doing better maybe think about what they are doing differently. I can guarantee not all of them are hung and tall

Lately I have caught myself comparing myself to other people. Just seems like I'm in a constant competition with people in life. This site is technically a broke down version of tinder in my opinion. I may be totally wrong but its just what I seem to see on here. People seem to be verified by people who have been verified by other people. But it does also seem like nobody around me is ever interested

It's not a competition.

All I'm reading is why you can't.

Attitude. Think about what you can do. Do the things within your control.

Decent photos. Decent biog. Go to socials. If there aren't any you can get to, organise one yourself. Go to clubs.

You and you alone are a master of you're own destiny here.

Lady Astor

This 100%^^^

Would you say there is anything with my profile for someone to reach out then?

There’s negative language in there but most couples and single women can meet without ever sending a first message. As others have said you need to be putting more effort in. Women are in the minority on here so you need to stand out. Couples can be harder because you need to impress two people.

Negative language? How so? I thought it was to the point and genuine.

This seems to be a thing I see a lot. Women fuck who they want men fuck who they can haha. I understand that women and couples don't need to message anyone as they they 1000s of messages a week. But how can someone be seen if they are constantly burried in messages?

Words and phrases like not, haven’t, wasting time. You can be seen by being different to the others. How you do that is up to you. Ask engaging questions. Make people want to reply.

I've seen many profiles like mine. Both male and female. They seem to do just fine with plenty of verifications and pics and vids of them having fun. Female and couples profiles don't really count as next to nobody reads them from what I can tell from people's status and from the messages from guys I've had I can tell people don't really read male profiles either.

Again your comparing rather than taking on board what I’m saying. There’s no magic formula. Different people want different things but your profile and first message are basically a sales pitch. Would you buy what you’re selling?"

You’re* I’ve had a few Christmas drinks so my grammar may not be perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha "

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you"

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?"

Why are you putting obstacles in everyone's way

Yes its normal

Define normal

You could be mates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?"

Why wouldn’t it be?

What better way to be introduced to the folk there, than by someone who’s a regular.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?

Why are you putting obstacles in everyone's way

Yes its normal

Define normal

You could be mates"

Just seemed like it would give the wrong idea if 2 guys turned up to a swingers club is all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?

Why wouldn’t it be?

What better way to be introduced to the folk there, than by someone who’s a regular. "

Guess so. Just feel like people assume on here if you've met a guy for a social.

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By *tead88Man
over a year ago

nine elms

Nah man it’s an awful place, I’ve been told to fuck off, die, get prettier, disappear etc. stick with it you’ll do grand xx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?

Why are you putting obstacles in everyone's way

Yes its normal

Define normal

You could be mates

Just seemed like it would give the wrong idea if 2 guys turned up to a swingers club is all "

Nooo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?

Why are you putting obstacles in everyone's way

Yes its normal

Define normal

You could be mates

Just seemed like it would give the wrong idea if 2 guys turned up to a swingers club is all

Nooo "

Fair. Seems like I read in to it too much then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?

Why wouldn’t it be?

What better way to be introduced to the folk there, than by someone who’s a regular.

Guess so. Just feel like people assume on here if you've met a guy for a social. "

Why give a fuck about others opinions about who you go somewhere with?

It’s none of their business.

You want to experience fab/clubs, etc. People are giving you the tools to do so. What more do you want? They can’t do it for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?

Why are you putting obstacles in everyone's way

Yes its normal

Define normal

You could be mates

Just seemed like it would give the wrong idea if 2 guys turned up to a swingers club is all

Nooo

Fair. Seems like I read in to it too much then "

Tbh if you message people, like you post on here.. I'm not surprised you don't get any replies etc. You're so down on yourself, nothing anyone or anything says, will cheer you up. You don't seem like much fun to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?

Why wouldn’t it be?

What better way to be introduced to the folk there, than by someone who’s a regular.

Guess so. Just feel like people assume on here if you've met a guy for a social.

Why give a fuck about others opinions about who you go somewhere with?

It’s none of their business.

You want to experience fab/clubs, etc. People are giving you the tools to do so. What more do you want? They can’t do it for you. "

Yeah guess you're right. If someone is gonna assume something that's their issue but that's the world we live in today though haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah man it’s an awful place, I’ve been told to fuck off, die, get prettier, disappear etc. stick with it you’ll do grand xx"

Dude, as a relatively straight *cough Legend. You’re a handsome gent! Crack on!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?

Why are you putting obstacles in everyone's way

Yes its normal

Define normal

You could be mates

Just seemed like it would give the wrong idea if 2 guys turned up to a swingers club is all

Nooo

Fair. Seems like I read in to it too much then

Tbh if you message people, like you post on here.. I'm not surprised you don't get any replies etc. You're so down on yourself, nothing anyone or anything says, will cheer you up. You don't seem like much fun to me. "

Don't message people like this. I try to keep it focused on their profile with a complement on the fem as I'm not interested in the male (not attracted to males afterall). Some have their profile viewing turned on and some don't. Just assume they look at my profile pics and just pass me by as I don't get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right... I’ve read the whole thread!

Firstly... stop being negative about yourself, it’s not attractive! No-one wants to meet a moaning minnie,

Secondly... block single guys from messaging you!

Then look at your profile and see what your offering... there are women on here that will take whatever they can, if that’s for you then go for it.

If not then do be specific. Show your personality in your bio, crack a joke or just write it when you’re in a happy silly mood.

When I first came in here 6 years ago, I was fatter and just wanted sex. I got that.., now I can be quite specific in what I’m looking for, not being funny but I use my personal profile for sex meets and I can get it easily, the men I’ve met have had to endure chats, pic swaps etc and I make them fully aware that I’m tall, quite wobbly, not a filter beauty and I don’t put up with shit... I still get lots of offers!

If you can’t go up to speak to someone on a night out then you will struggle on here.

Get to socials, clubs etc and get your name on the forums in a fun happy way.

Don’t lower your standards, maybe lower your expectations if you’re just looking for a shag, YOU need to decide what you want from here,

Don’t compare yourself to others.... we’re all different!

Pixie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?

Why wouldn’t it be?

What better way to be introduced to the folk there, than by someone who’s a regular.

Guess so. Just feel like people assume on here if you've met a guy for a social.

Why give a fuck about others opinions about who you go somewhere with?

It’s none of their business.

You want to experience fab/clubs, etc. People are giving you the tools to do so. What more do you want? They can’t do it for you.

Yeah guess you're right. If someone is gonna assume something that's their issue but that's the world we live in today though haha "

Again, it doesn’t matter what world we live in.

Make the most of the person you are and you can enjoy fab to its fullest.

I can say that, because I embrace who and what I am as person. I accept that I won’t appeal to the masses, but there’s people out there whose interest I will pique.

There’s no point bemoaning things you have no control over.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Right... I’ve read the whole thread!

Firstly... stop being negative about yourself, it’s not attractive! No-one wants to meet a moaning minnie,

Secondly... block single guys from messaging you!

Then look at your profile and see what your offering... there are women on here that will take whatever they can, if that’s for you then go for it.

If not then do be specific. Show your personality in your bio, crack a joke or just write it when you’re in a happy silly mood.

When I first came in here 6 years ago, I was fatter and just wanted sex. I got that.., now I can be quite specific in what I’m looking for, not being funny but I use my personal profile for sex meets and I can get it easily, the men I’ve met have had to endure chats, pic swaps etc and I make them fully aware that I’m tall, quite wobbly, not a filter beauty and I don’t put up with shit... I still get lots of offers!

If you can’t go up to speak to someone on a night out then you will struggle on here.

Get to socials, clubs etc and get your name on the forums in a fun happy way.

Don’t lower your standards, maybe lower your expectations if you’re just looking for a shag, YOU need to decide what you want from here,

Don’t compare yourself to others.... we’re all different!

Pixie x "

Not to put your comment down but your pov comes from a fem in a male dominated app and doesn't really show much for the competition there is on here. Haven't come across the any guys a goal type of profile on here at all. And for a fem on here she could have 30 guy GB within the first 2hrs of being on the site. So if a fem is gonna come on here and look for sex then she is. Try create a male profile for a month. Not the Zach Efron looking guy with a 10 inch dick but your average Joe. You'll see a huge difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right... I’ve read the whole thread!

Firstly... stop being negative about yourself, it’s not attractive! No-one wants to meet a moaning minnie,

Secondly... block single guys from messaging you!

Then look at your profile and see what your offering... there are women on here that will take whatever they can, if that’s for you then go for it.

If not then do be specific. Show your personality in your bio, crack a joke or just write it when you’re in a happy silly mood.

When I first came in here 6 years ago, I was fatter and just wanted sex. I got that.., now I can be quite specific in what I’m looking for, not being funny but I use my personal profile for sex meets and I can get it easily, the men I’ve met have had to endure chats, pic swaps etc and I make them fully aware that I’m tall, quite wobbly, not a filter beauty and I don’t put up with shit... I still get lots of offers!

If you can’t go up to speak to someone on a night out then you will struggle on here.

Get to socials, clubs etc and get your name on the forums in a fun happy way.

Don’t lower your standards, maybe lower your expectations if you’re just looking for a shag, YOU need to decide what you want from here,

Don’t compare yourself to others.... we’re all different!

Pixie x

Not to put your comment down but your pov comes from a fem in a male dominated app and doesn't really show much for the competition there is on here. Haven't come across the any guys a goal type of profile on here at all. And for a fem on here she could have 30 guy GB within the first 2hrs of being on the site. So if a fem is gonna come on here and look for sex then she is. Try create a male profile for a month. Not the Zach Efron looking guy with a 10 inch dick but your average Joe. You'll see a huge difference."

So I’ve offered you advice, given you a females point of view as to why we can be more specific (because that’s what your demographic is) and then more advice and you’ve just focused on the negative.

Can’t find a shrug shoulders emoji *shrugs shoulders

I’d invite you to one of our social events but it’s not local to you...

Pixie x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Right... I’ve read the whole thread!

Firstly... stop being negative about yourself, it’s not attractive! No-one wants to meet a moaning minnie,

Secondly... block single guys from messaging you!

Then look at your profile and see what your offering... there are women on here that will take whatever they can, if that’s for you then go for it.

If not then do be specific. Show your personality in your bio, crack a joke or just write it when you’re in a happy silly mood.

When I first came in here 6 years ago, I was fatter and just wanted sex. I got that.., now I can be quite specific in what I’m looking for, not being funny but I use my personal profile for sex meets and I can get it easily, the men I’ve met have had to endure chats, pic swaps etc and I make them fully aware that I’m tall, quite wobbly, not a filter beauty and I don’t put up with shit... I still get lots of offers!

If you can’t go up to speak to someone on a night out then you will struggle on here.

Get to socials, clubs etc and get your name on the forums in a fun happy way.

Don’t lower your standards, maybe lower your expectations if you’re just looking for a shag, YOU need to decide what you want from here,

Don’t compare yourself to others.... we’re all different!

Pixie x

Not to put your comment down but your pov comes from a fem in a male dominated app and doesn't really show much for the competition there is on here. Haven't come across the any guys a goal type of profile on here at all. And for a fem on here she could have 30 guy GB within the first 2hrs of being on the site. So if a fem is gonna come on here and look for sex then she is. Try create a male profile for a month. Not the Zach Efron looking guy with a 10 inch dick but your average Joe. You'll see a huge difference.

So I’ve offered you advice, given you a females point of view as to why we can be more specific (because that’s what your demographic is) and then more advice and you’ve just focused on the negative.

Can’t find a shrug shoulders emoji *shrugs shoulders

I’d invite you to one of our social events but it’s not local to you...

Pixie x

"

Didn't see much advice in there except for write a good profile and not be to down on yourself. It's hard for me to get to places as I don't drive and I doubt people want to pick me up. If I drove then yeah sure I'd venture out more than a radius. Train and hotel stay isn't really within a student budget. I'm sure you can understand that. I'd love to be able to get more out of this site. I'm paying site supporter after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right... I’ve read the whole thread!

Firstly... stop being negative about yourself, it’s not attractive! No-one wants to meet a moaning minnie,

Secondly... block single guys from messaging you!

Then look at your profile and see what your offering... there are women on here that will take whatever they can, if that’s for you then go for it.

If not then do be specific. Show your personality in your bio, crack a joke or just write it when you’re in a happy silly mood.

When I first came in here 6 years ago, I was fatter and just wanted sex. I got that.., now I can be quite specific in what I’m looking for, not being funny but I use my personal profile for sex meets and I can get it easily, the men I’ve met have had to endure chats, pic swaps etc and I make them fully aware that I’m tall, quite wobbly, not a filter beauty and I don’t put up with shit... I still get lots of offers!

If you can’t go up to speak to someone on a night out then you will struggle on here.

Get to socials, clubs etc and get your name on the forums in a fun happy way.

Don’t lower your standards, maybe lower your expectations if you’re just looking for a shag, YOU need to decide what you want from here,

Don’t compare yourself to others.... we’re all different!

Pixie x

Not to put your comment down but your pov comes from a fem in a male dominated app and doesn't really show much for the competition there is on here. Haven't come across the any guys a goal type of profile on here at all. And for a fem on here she could have 30 guy GB within the first 2hrs of being on the site. So if a fem is gonna come on here and look for sex then she is. Try create a male profile for a month. Not the Zach Efron looking guy with a 10 inch dick but your average Joe. You'll see a huge difference.

So I’ve offered you advice, given you a females point of view as to why we can be more specific (because that’s what your demographic is) and then more advice and you’ve just focused on the negative.

Can’t find a shrug shoulders emoji *shrugs shoulders

I’d invite you to one of our social events but it’s not local to you...

Pixie x

Didn't see much advice in there except for write a good profile and not be to down on yourself. It's hard for me to get to places as I don't drive and I doubt people want to pick me up. If I drove then yeah sure I'd venture out more than a radius. Train and hotel stay isn't really within a student budget. I'm sure you can understand that. I'd love to be able to get more out of this site. I'm paying site supporter after all"

Ok

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud "

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I was merrily tipsy when I started reading this mind-numbing thread and now I'm sober as a judge.

OP: For goodness sake please take onboard some of the advice and guidance given to you; don't interpret it as diatribe.

The socials offer the ideal opportunity to make friends, new connections and see Fab in a different perspective.

Take up the kind offer from Pixie and attend one of her socials. You've got nothing to lose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was merrily tipsy when I started reading this mind-numbing thread and now I'm sober as a judge.

OP: For goodness sake please take onboard some of the advice and guidance given to you; don't interpret it as diatribe.

The socials offer the ideal opportunity to make friends, new connections and see Fab in a different perspective.

Take up the kind offer from Pixie and attend one of her socials. You've got nothing to lose.

"

I'd like to attend but as I stated to her it's not ideal for me as I'd have to get the train and a hotel. And on a student budget it's not ideal

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?"

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"I was merrily tipsy when I started reading this mind-numbing thread and now I'm sober as a judge.

OP: For goodness sake please take onboard some of the advice and guidance given to you; don't interpret it as diatribe.

The socials offer the ideal opportunity to make friends, new connections and see Fab in a different perspective.

Take up the kind offer from Pixie and attend one of her socials. You've got nothing to lose.

I'd like to attend but as I stated to her it's not ideal for me as I'd have to get the train and a hotel. And on a student budget it's not ideal "

OP, you’re in a pretty big place (Sheffield), have you tried looking to see if there are any socials in your area?… think yourself relatively lucky. My nearest social is over an hours drive away.. nearest club is over 2 hours away… and yet I make an effort to visit when I can.

When I’m not trying to get to socials I’m friendly, polite and engage on the forums and try and be positive and at times humorous, this seems to get me some attention from some great people…. Maybe try doing the same?

What you shouldn’t do is ask for advice, then reject any of the advice you’re given… unless you put work in, this site won’t work for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc "

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?"

THIS is why you are failing….

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing…. "

How's that? I know it's not gonna be a quick message and off to bed like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try clubs and socials?

Possibly re think your approach if it’s not worked for 4 1/2 years

There are hundreds of threads on this subject with a lot of really good advice, might be worth taking a look "

Agreed, joined fab, nothing at first went to a social within first month and that gets you known. Be polite, confident and respectful and you'll start meeting people.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing…. "

Oh boy... First thing first.. that mentality definitely needs to go. If that is your mindset, then you are setting yourself up to fail for sure.

You are correct that this isn't a dating site but it's almost the same process where finding chemistry is considered important and it works both ways

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

How's that? I know it's not gonna be a quick message and off to bed like "

Because you’re treating this site like it’s dial a shag… You’re completely disregarding the advice given to you about making yourself seem more interesting and attractive to others on here.

There are literally THOUSANDS of guys on here so you need to stand out, and thinking that the site is all about “have a convo meet up and shag” shows you’re just another guy looking to get his dick wet with minimal effort

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

Oh boy... First thing first.. that mentality definitely needs to go. If that is your mindset, then you are setting yourself up to fail for sure.

You are correct that this isn't a dating site but it's almost the same process where finding chemistry is considered important and it works both ways "

Really? Like yeah you're gonna talk and feel someone out but it's not like you're gonna be comparing life stories. Probs a bit of flirty banter and a chat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

How's that? I know it's not gonna be a quick message and off to bed like

Because you’re treating this site like it’s dial a shag… You’re completely disregarding the advice given to you about making yourself seem more interesting and attractive to others on here.

There are literally THOUSANDS of guys on here so you need to stand out, and thinking that the site is all about “have a convo meet up and shag” shows you’re just another guy looking to get his dick wet with minimal effort "

Wouldn't say I'm just looking to get my dick wet. Like yeah the sex would be nice but as there are so many guys on here the messages get buried under 100s. Odds are you're probs gonna get lost in a mass delete unless they actually open your message. Then more often than not it gets ignored anyway

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

Oh boy... First thing first.. that mentality definitely needs to go. If that is your mindset, then you are setting yourself up to fail for sure.

You are correct that this isn't a dating site but it's almost the same process where finding chemistry is considered important and it works both ways

Really? Like yeah you're gonna talk and feel someone out but it's not like you're gonna be comparing life stories. Probs a bit of flirty banter and a chat "

You’re not listening to good advice here…. You’re destined to fail

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

How's that? I know it's not gonna be a quick message and off to bed like

Because you’re treating this site like it’s dial a shag… You’re completely disregarding the advice given to you about making yourself seem more interesting and attractive to others on here.

There are literally THOUSANDS of guys on here so you need to stand out, and thinking that the site is all about “have a convo meet up and shag” shows you’re just another guy looking to get his dick wet with minimal effort

Wouldn't say I'm just looking to get my dick wet. Like yeah the sex would be nice but as there are so many guys on here the messages get buried under 100s. Odds are you're probs gonna get lost in a mass delete unless they actually open your message. Then more often than not it gets ignored anyway "

So what gets your message opened?… Polite, respectful messages, telling a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for, include a pic of yourself (face not cock)…. But first you need to change your attitude

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

Oh boy... First thing first.. that mentality definitely needs to go. If that is your mindset, then you are setting yourself up to fail for sure.

You are correct that this isn't a dating site but it's almost the same process where finding chemistry is considered important and it works both ways

Really? Like yeah you're gonna talk and feel someone out but it's not like you're gonna be comparing life stories. Probs a bit of flirty banter and a chat

You’re not listening to good advice here…. You’re destined to fail"

How so? I've been told to treat the site like a dating site. But from what I can grasp it's more like a first meet kinda thing instead of a let's talk about the rest of our life conversation right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

How's that? I know it's not gonna be a quick message and off to bed like

Because you’re treating this site like it’s dial a shag… You’re completely disregarding the advice given to you about making yourself seem more interesting and attractive to others on here.

There are literally THOUSANDS of guys on here so you need to stand out, and thinking that the site is all about “have a convo meet up and shag” shows you’re just another guy looking to get his dick wet with minimal effort

Wouldn't say I'm just looking to get my dick wet. Like yeah the sex would be nice but as there are so many guys on here the messages get buried under 100s. Odds are you're probs gonna get lost in a mass delete unless they actually open your message. Then more often than not it gets ignored anyway

So what gets your message opened?… Polite, respectful messages, telling a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for, include a pic of yourself (face not cock)…. But first you need to change your attitude "

Just writing a message that isn't fancy a shag I guess. But then the second I get looked at they ignore me every time. Just makes me think something is wrong with me tbf

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

Oh boy... First thing first.. that mentality definitely needs to go. If that is your mindset, then you are setting yourself up to fail for sure.

You are correct that this isn't a dating site but it's almost the same process where finding chemistry is considered important and it works both ways

Really? Like yeah you're gonna talk and feel someone out but it's not like you're gonna be comparing life stories. Probs a bit of flirty banter and a chat

You’re not listening to good advice here…. You’re destined to fail

How so? I've been told to treat the site like a dating site. But from what I can grasp it's more like a first meet kinda thing instead of a let's talk about the rest of our life conversation right?"

You’re not listening.

You’re saying you’re not getting success… people are telling you why… but you’re saying you see it differently…

Who do you think is right? The people using the site successfully or you who isn’t?

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

How's that? I know it's not gonna be a quick message and off to bed like

Because you’re treating this site like it’s dial a shag… You’re completely disregarding the advice given to you about making yourself seem more interesting and attractive to others on here.

There are literally THOUSANDS of guys on here so you need to stand out, and thinking that the site is all about “have a convo meet up and shag” shows you’re just another guy looking to get his dick wet with minimal effort

Wouldn't say I'm just looking to get my dick wet. Like yeah the sex would be nice but as there are so many guys on here the messages get buried under 100s. Odds are you're probs gonna get lost in a mass delete unless they actually open your message. Then more often than not it gets ignored anyway

So what gets your message opened?… Polite, respectful messages, telling a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for, include a pic of yourself (face not cock)…. But first you need to change your attitude

Just writing a message that isn't fancy a shag I guess. But then the second I get looked at they ignore me every time. Just makes me think something is wrong with me tbf "

Which is why attending socials and interacting on forums (as you’ve been told) helps you get noticed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

Oh boy... First thing first.. that mentality definitely needs to go. If that is your mindset, then you are setting yourself up to fail for sure.

You are correct that this isn't a dating site but it's almost the same process where finding chemistry is considered important and it works both ways

Really? Like yeah you're gonna talk and feel someone out but it's not like you're gonna be comparing life stories. Probs a bit of flirty banter and a chat

You’re not listening to good advice here…. You’re destined to fail

How so? I've been told to treat the site like a dating site. But from what I can grasp it's more like a first meet kinda thing instead of a let's talk about the rest of our life conversation right?

You’re not listening.

You’re saying you’re not getting success… people are telling you why… but you’re saying you see it differently…

Who do you think is right? The people using the site successfully or you who isn’t?"

I agreed with that. It's just me trying to understand it for someone to either agree or disagree. As you can tell I am literally the worst at the whole dating game. I'd have to by the console to play the game is how bad I am with it all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

How's that? I know it's not gonna be a quick message and off to bed like

Because you’re treating this site like it’s dial a shag… You’re completely disregarding the advice given to you about making yourself seem more interesting and attractive to others on here.

There are literally THOUSANDS of guys on here so you need to stand out, and thinking that the site is all about “have a convo meet up and shag” shows you’re just another guy looking to get his dick wet with minimal effort

Wouldn't say I'm just looking to get my dick wet. Like yeah the sex would be nice but as there are so many guys on here the messages get buried under 100s. Odds are you're probs gonna get lost in a mass delete unless they actually open your message. Then more often than not it gets ignored anyway

So what gets your message opened?… Polite, respectful messages, telling a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for, include a pic of yourself (face not cock)…. But first you need to change your attitude

Just writing a message that isn't fancy a shag I guess. But then the second I get looked at they ignore me every time. Just makes me think something is wrong with me tbf

Which is why attending socials and interacting on forums (as you’ve been told) helps you get noticed"

I never disputed this. And I agreed it would be good but as I stated. I don't drive and travel and hotels aren't in a student budget

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

How's that? I know it's not gonna be a quick message and off to bed like

Because you’re treating this site like it’s dial a shag… You’re completely disregarding the advice given to you about making yourself seem more interesting and attractive to others on here.

There are literally THOUSANDS of guys on here so you need to stand out, and thinking that the site is all about “have a convo meet up and shag” shows you’re just another guy looking to get his dick wet with minimal effort

Wouldn't say I'm just looking to get my dick wet. Like yeah the sex would be nice but as there are so many guys on here the messages get buried under 100s. Odds are you're probs gonna get lost in a mass delete unless they actually open your message. Then more often than not it gets ignored anyway

So what gets your message opened?… Polite, respectful messages, telling a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for, include a pic of yourself (face not cock)…. But first you need to change your attitude

Just writing a message that isn't fancy a shag I guess. But then the second I get looked at they ignore me every time. Just makes me think something is wrong with me tbf

Which is why attending socials and interacting on forums (as you’ve been told) helps you get noticed

I never disputed this. And I agreed it would be good but as I stated. I don't drive and travel and hotels aren't in a student budget "

Have you actually looked or asked if there are any near you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

How's that? I know it's not gonna be a quick message and off to bed like

Because you’re treating this site like it’s dial a shag… You’re completely disregarding the advice given to you about making yourself seem more interesting and attractive to others on here.

There are literally THOUSANDS of guys on here so you need to stand out, and thinking that the site is all about “have a convo meet up and shag” shows you’re just another guy looking to get his dick wet with minimal effort

Wouldn't say I'm just looking to get my dick wet. Like yeah the sex would be nice but as there are so many guys on here the messages get buried under 100s. Odds are you're probs gonna get lost in a mass delete unless they actually open your message. Then more often than not it gets ignored anyway

So what gets your message opened?… Polite, respectful messages, telling a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for, include a pic of yourself (face not cock)…. But first you need to change your attitude

Just writing a message that isn't fancy a shag I guess. But then the second I get looked at they ignore me every time. Just makes me think something is wrong with me tbf

Which is why attending socials and interacting on forums (as you’ve been told) helps you get noticed

I never disputed this. And I agreed it would be good but as I stated. I don't drive and travel and hotels aren't in a student budget

Have you actually looked or asked if there are any near you?"

Yes nothing going on and the one at the end of October I tried to get in to but it filled up for single guys as there's a limit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?

Why are you putting obstacles in everyone's way

Yes its normal

Define normal

You could be mates

Just seemed like it would give the wrong idea if 2 guys turned up to a swingers club is all

Nooo

Fair. Seems like I read in to it too much then

Tbh if you message people, like you post on here.. I'm not surprised you don't get any replies etc. You're so down on yourself, nothing anyone or anything says, will cheer you up. You don't seem like much fun to me.

Don't message people like this. I try to keep it focused on their profile with a complement on the fem as I'm not interested in the male (not attracted to males afterall). Some have their profile viewing turned on and some don't. Just assume they look at my profile pics and just pass me by as I don't get a reply "

Haha mate you deffo looked into it too much, but don’t worry about it. Was just gna take you so you would be comfortable with ur first time, as I genuinely feel ur frustration. But you need to relax mate, it’ll come if you be urself and not so argumentative.

I know they say angry sex is the best, but you got to have a connection with them first lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile, youre a decent looking guy. Your bio may need tweaking a little to show your personality a bit more. Its ok but you focus quite a lot on the sexuality side of things but nothing that tells me about you as a person really that makes you stand out.

The fact you're looking for a ffm experience may put couples off as as you're emphasising on wanting to try a 3sum with 2 women so perhaps change that slightly.

As others has suggested, clubs or social gatherings are your best bet on expanding your network really. Get chatting, socialising. Dont expect to play straight away as that rarely happens but turn up, get chatting and just soak in the atmosphere. Good luck bud

I did call the ffm a pipe dream. Everyone's gotta have a fantasy right? And I did say that I've had threesomes before. Which suggests 2 guys if I'm calling a 2 girl a pipe dream right?

Don't even know where to start with the personality side of things cause calling myself a bit quiet from the beginning with not a lot of confidence is a sure turn off right?

Yes true but read your sentence and it'd more your emphasising the ffm. Most men would have the same dream scenario really so no real need to add that to your bio lol just say you want to explore a 3sum dynamic more with the right people or something like that then people can interpret it as they want, then clarify if those ask if in conversation.

I'm sure you have other qualities also. We all have our flaws but focusing on the negatives won't do you any favours. It could be interests that you're into eg. Recreational activities, music etc etc

But this isn't a dating site. It's not like we're gonna be going on dates and places with eachother right? It's more like we have a convo meet up and shag right?

THIS is why you are failing….

How's that? I know it's not gonna be a quick message and off to bed like

Because you’re treating this site like it’s dial a shag… You’re completely disregarding the advice given to you about making yourself seem more interesting and attractive to others on here.

There are literally THOUSANDS of guys on here so you need to stand out, and thinking that the site is all about “have a convo meet up and shag” shows you’re just another guy looking to get his dick wet with minimal effort

Wouldn't say I'm just looking to get my dick wet. Like yeah the sex would be nice but as there are so many guys on here the messages get buried under 100s. Odds are you're probs gonna get lost in a mass delete unless they actually open your message. Then more often than not it gets ignored anyway

So what gets your message opened?… Polite, respectful messages, telling a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for, include a pic of yourself (face not cock)…. But first you need to change your attitude

Just writing a message that isn't fancy a shag I guess. But then the second I get looked at they ignore me every time. Just makes me think something is wrong with me tbf

Which is why attending socials and interacting on forums (as you’ve been told) helps you get noticed

I never disputed this. And I agreed it would be good but as I stated. I don't drive and travel and hotels aren't in a student budget

Have you actually looked or asked if there are any near you?

Yes nothing going on and the one at the end of October I tried to get in to but it filled up for single guys as there's a limit. "

Just read this whole thread, I can say I’m deffo ready for bed now

But yeah, some good advice on here, might have to use them myself

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By *ovetofuck7Man
over a year ago

north lanarkshire

I've had 6 messages from men and 2 from woman in a month or so.

Your not alone mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had 6 messages from men and 2 from woman in a month or so.

Your not alone mate "

Ah mate it’s peak init, but that’s life so keep ur head u, good times are coming

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"Nothing 'wrong '. Just a tonne of guys and very few women.

I get that. But not even one woman of couple interested? I get zero messages from them or even winks

Haha mate I’m in the same boat, but don’t let it get to you. Just have fun on here and get to know people, you’ll enjoy urself much more trust me

And here’s some extra advice - you do know there’s other ways of getting a girls attention than being on this site, like for example go outside

Lol jokes, just enjoy urself mate you’ll deffo find someone

P.S ladies I might aswell do some self promoting on here, so if ur interested pm me

Hard to have fun on here when nobody will talk to you haha

Mate head out to a social. If you don’t know any come to Leeds Quest or Pandoras. I’ll come with you

2 guys going to a swinger's club together? That normal?"

Absolutely it's normal.

Lady Astor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You keep referencing ‘student budget’. What do you do when you want something? You save up for it right?

If you truly want to go to a social, you’ll find a away to fund it.

You’ll never get anywhere here if you continue with your current attitude of shooting down the advice/opinions of people who are having the success with fab that you’re seeking.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

No mate, nothing wrong just join in with forum/cam chat and treat fab like a social club. You might get lucky!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I add OP... our socials are 2-8pm.

We have people coming from your area plus the event times means you can get a train home, no need for a hotel

Pixie

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Great thread everyone

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