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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How much do you think is social media to blame regarding the body image or how conscious we are about ourselves and how we present to the world?

I’ve detoxed a lot from the classic social media platforms like Instagram, where it is a constant bombing of images of stunning people , doing amazing things while you wonder why you are sitting at home, looking like a bag of potato and they are in Bali, looking like perfect 11/10!

Even tho we all know how social media is constructed and well studied.

Do you think as a whole, people are becoming extremely self absorbed? Obsessed with the looks? (I’m gonna admit my guilt of kinda obsessing over my looks and focusing on things I don’t like about myself)

Anyway, discuss people!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, comparison is the thief of joy.

It’s very easy to set up your social media to make it a lovely place.

There’s settings that allow you to follow/see what you like, so my sm accounts are full of beautiful pictures that make me smile and fill me with joy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there's certainly an epidemic of people looking down and in rather than up and out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t say it’s totally to blame, there’s always been narcissistic people. Social media has just help to create many more of them, and given them a platform to display it for the world to see.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

It's proven that excessive presence on social media can have a harmful psychological impact on just about everyone, especially younger, more impressionable people.

I'm very fortunate to not have any (unless you count fab ) and have no desire to change this. I'm also fortunate my children don't pay it much attention either.

There's a reason CEO's of the major tech companies restrict the online time of their kids. They must know something most don't

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me, comparison is the thief of joy.

It’s very easy to set up your social media to make it a lovely place.

There’s settings that allow you to follow/see what you like, so my sm accounts are full of beautiful pictures that make me smile and fill me with joy. "

Comparison is the thief of joy but it seems like it affects a lot of people that way . Remember when all the social media influencers were going to Dubai during lockdown 2 , saying they were going for work (sponsoring a fucking a cup of tea) and managing to get round the restrictions?

There was an uproar about it

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By *ryandseeMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

There is nothing worse than people who think are god's gift. Especially when masquerading as confidence. There are posers and narcissists in abundance everywhere these days but most people will take that with a pinch of salt. The only worry as you say is when someone starts making unhealthy comparisons or assumptions that might affect their mental health which sadly is not uncommon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, comparison is the thief of joy.

It’s very easy to set up your social media to make it a lovely place.

There’s settings that allow you to follow/see what you like, so my sm accounts are full of beautiful pictures that make me smile and fill me with joy.

Comparison is the thief of joy but it seems like it affects a lot of people that way . Remember when all the social media influencers were going to Dubai during lockdown 2 , saying they were going for work (sponsoring a fucking a cup of tea) and managing to get round the restrictions?

There was an uproar about it "

No, because I don’t follow any influencers.

They don’t bring my joy, ponies and art and beautiful views bring my joy

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Its always been.out there. We have always judges people by how they look and who they are.

Social media isn't to blame but it does expose it in ways that is uncomfortable for us to acknowledge.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I don't think they are becoming more self absorbed, I think that have had a taste of exhibitionist and they like it, yes it can fuel into a spiral of addiction and all of the negative emotions and practices that come with that, but thats where education and support can help.

Many times as a young woman I used to see the club babes strutting their stuff on stage and I would look on in adoration as I wanted that spotlight. It wasn't until I put myself in that spotlight that I realised that attention isn't all that and I was happy as I am

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

All filtered fakers I’m afraid x

Love yourself x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

1. Narcissim

2. Mental Health

3. Lack of guiding morals

5. Envy

6. Vitriol

7. Lack of character

8. Inability to make decisions .....

9. Fear of being original or standing out

10.Mind control..........

Too many to mention.

Social Media is too good a tool for capitalists to dispose of. Human beings are dispensable. Tech changes faster than the human brain and the consequences of over dosing on social media is played out in every corner of society.... if you move away from the superficiality long enough to observe your reality you can see the results.

I don't want to lose social media though. Do you ? So what can be done to enable people to re-engage with what is naturally nourishing for them ? - In ever aspect of human existence ?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I see narcissism as something totally different.

Yes, narcs are self centred but on a whole different level.

Lie, manipulate, abuse (and I mean really deeply abuse) for kicks and power.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I think social media is ruining body image and swiping based apps is inflating egos

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

There is a lot of narcissism about, but I don’t think what you have described is narcissism.

It seems to be the latest fashion to use this term.

Often erroneously.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"There is nothing worse than people who think are god's gift. Especially when masquerading as confidence. There are posers and narcissists in abundance everywhere these days but most people will take that with a pinch of salt. The only worry as you say is when someone starts making unhealthy comparisons or assumptions that might affect their mental health which sadly is not uncommon. "

Agree totally.

Existence in a false reality takes over for many who are then 'too scared' to present who they really are in a face to face situation.... unenhanced, unfiltered reality ..... In effect they no longer exist outside of social media and spend more time masquerading as the persona they built for themselves.... they become trapped.

There are profiles here that evidence that very strongly. Good photos, embellished stories, adopted personnas - often hide inadequate quivering individuals who are not functioning well.

Is Social Media preferable to drugs or reality ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, comparison is the thief of joy."

I like that, I may steal it

People have been told for quite a while now that they are the most important thing and to focus on themselves. You're worth the absolute best and nothing else will do. Combine that with the must have culture, a Mercedes model was the most popular car on lease in the UK, then entitlement is not far behind. Social media is how they let everyone know how great they are and the wonderful life they're living, not necessarily portraying the whole truth.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I see narcissism as something totally different.

Yes, narcs are self centred but on a whole different level.

Lie, manipulate, abuse (and I mean really deeply abuse) for kicks and power."

Narcissim gets used for 'big head' or 'mean twat' now or even for 'she dumped me' or 'he loves himself'

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Have you ever been out doing something fun and notice people not even enjoying it, they’re just capturing it for their social media? Women seem to be most guilty of this

Because a life you portray on social media has become more important than your actual life. Capture everything for the gram. I’ve seen people viewing most of their life through their camera.

I really try to avoid that. Love the moment. Live the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't believe everything you see or read on social media is my advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have facepest until I saw the negative affects of social media on myself, others and society as a whole. deleted it a couple of years ago, don’t use any other social media or watch the news and my mind is so much healthier for it..

Im not saying it doesn’t have its positives, but for me personally the negatives outweigh the positives and therefore I’m disinclined to use it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Don't believe everything you see or read on social media is my advice "

Should I believe that ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Have you ever been out doing something fun and notice people not even enjoying it, they’re just capturing it for their social media? Women seem to be most guilty of this

Because a life you portray on social media has become more important than your actual life. Capture everything for the gram. I’ve seen people viewing most of their life through their camera.

I really try to avoid that. Love the moment. Live the moment"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't believe everything you see or read on social media is my advice

Should I believe that ?"

Entirely up to you

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I used to think it was, and I suspect it is for many young adults. But as I've grown in confidence I use it to nuture myself.

I follow those who make me feel good about myself or I can relate to. I follow museums and galleries because they capture my imagination.

I think maybe it's far too easy to blame social media. When to be honest I felt crappy about my self image before it was the think. Thanks 90's her_oin chic. So it's always been there. Social media is what you make of it. I've used it to find people I have things in common with I would have in my daily life.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I see narcissism as something totally different.

Yes, narcs are self centred but on a whole different level.

Lie, manipulate, abuse (and I mean really deeply abuse) for kicks and power.

Narcissim gets used for 'big head' or 'mean twat' now or even for 'she dumped me' or 'he loves himself' "

"Go on, kill yourself, at least then you'll have managed to do something properly for once in your life, I bet you can't can ya, fucking useless pussy prove me wrong, prove yourself wrong, show the world you can do something right"

That was my living hell.

And every day for years I believed that would be my only way out, my only option. That or survive an attack so brutal someone would finally listen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever been out doing something fun and notice people not even enjoying it, they’re just capturing it for their social media? Women seem to be most guilty of this

Because a life you portray on social media has become more important than your actual life. Capture everything for the gram. I’ve seen people viewing most of their life through their camera.

I really try to avoid that. Love the moment. Live the moment"

This...A Christmas works party a couple of years ago everyone just sat on their phones, the second someone held a phone up it was like a signal that brought them all out of the trance and they all posed.

If you looked at the pictures later it looked like a great night, but in reality it was like sitting with zombies

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I see narcissism as something totally different.

Yes, narcs are self centred but on a whole different level.

Lie, manipulate, abuse (and I mean really deeply abuse) for kicks and power.

Narcissim gets used for 'big head' or 'mean twat' now or even for 'she dumped me' or 'he loves himself'

"Go on, kill yourself, at least then you'll have managed to do something properly for once in your life, I bet you can't can ya, fucking useless pussy prove me wrong, prove yourself wrong, show the world you can do something right"

That was my living hell.

And every day for years I believed that would be my only way out, my only option. That or survive an attack so brutal someone would finally listen."

Never play call of duty

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I see narcissism as something totally different.

Yes, narcs are self centred but on a whole different level.

Lie, manipulate, abuse (and I mean really deeply abuse) for kicks and power.

Narcissim gets used for 'big head' or 'mean twat' now or even for 'she dumped me' or 'he loves himself'

"Go on, kill yourself, at least then you'll have managed to do something properly for once in your life, I bet you can't can ya, fucking useless pussy prove me wrong, prove yourself wrong, show the world you can do something right"

That was my living hell.

And every day for years I believed that would be my only way out, my only option. That or survive an attack so brutal someone would finally listen."

x glad you got off the hook x Have a better Christmas and life for it xx

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Have you ever been out doing something fun and notice people not even enjoying it, they’re just capturing it for their social media? Women seem to be most guilty of this

Because a life you portray on social media has become more important than your actual life. Capture everything for the gram. I’ve seen people viewing most of their life through their camera.

I really try to avoid that. Love the moment. Live the moment

This...A Christmas works party a couple of years ago everyone just sat on their phones, the second someone held a phone up it was like a signal that brought them all out of the trance and they all posed.

If you looked at the pictures later it looked like a great night, but in reality it was like sitting with zombies"

So I’ve actually got a theory. Remember before phone if you were stood in a queue, waiting for a bus, at a party, and I felt a little bit like your standing out? You had 2 options. Stand there looking weird, or start chatting to someone.

Now if anyone feels a little off. Maybe they’re stood alone at a party. Instead of engaging, you just pull out your phone.

It’s a little social safety net. “I’m not shy or awkward or scared, I’m on my phone”.

I think it’s ruined social interactions

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Have you ever been out doing something fun and notice people not even enjoying it, they’re just capturing it for their social media? Women seem to be most guilty of this

Because a life you portray on social media has become more important than your actual life. Capture everything for the gram. I’ve seen people viewing most of their life through their camera.

I really try to avoid that. Love the moment. Live the moment

This...A Christmas works party a couple of years ago everyone just sat on their phones, the second someone held a phone up it was like a signal that brought them all out of the trance and they all posed.

If you looked at the pictures later it looked like a great night, but in reality it was like sitting with zombies"

Obvs i'm pre phone gen when we talked, laughed and had to use our own brains, bodies and thoughts..... and include others.... Zombies is perfect. At the risk of offending the sensitive........ Gen Z and to an extent some younger millenials are head fucked and don't know it. They are plugged in and sucked out......

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Have you ever been out doing something fun and notice people not even enjoying it, they’re just capturing it for their social media? Women seem to be most guilty of this

Because a life you portray on social media has become more important than your actual life. Capture everything for the gram. I’ve seen people viewing most of their life through their camera.

I really try to avoid that. Love the moment. Live the moment

This...A Christmas works party a couple of years ago everyone just sat on their phones, the second someone held a phone up it was like a signal that brought them all out of the trance and they all posed.

If you looked at the pictures later it looked like a great night, but in reality it was like sitting with zombies

So I’ve actually got a theory. Remember before phone if you were stood in a queue, waiting for a bus, at a party, and I felt a little bit like your standing out? You had 2 options. Stand there looking weird, or start chatting to someone.

Now if anyone feels a little off. Maybe they’re stood alone at a party. Instead of engaging, you just pull out your phone.

It’s a little social safety net. “I’m not shy or awkward or scared, I’m on my phone”.

I think it’s ruined social interactions "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever been out doing something fun and notice people not even enjoying it, they’re just capturing it for their social media? Women seem to be most guilty of this

Because a life you portray on social media has become more important than your actual life. Capture everything for the gram. I’ve seen people viewing most of their life through their camera.

I really try to avoid that. Love the moment. Live the moment

This...A Christmas works party a couple of years ago everyone just sat on their phones, the second someone held a phone up it was like a signal that brought them all out of the trance and they all posed.

If you looked at the pictures later it looked like a great night, but in reality it was like sitting with zombies

Obvs i'm pre phone gen when we talked, laughed and had to use our own brains, bodies and thoughts..... and include others.... Zombies is perfect. At the risk of offending the sensitive........ Gen Z and to an extent some younger millenials are head fucked and don't know it. They are plugged in and sucked out...... "

The Matrix..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Irony ...... I need to get off this thread and go and do something 'real' instead.

A swim I think. Take my own advice.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I blame the parents myself.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

A large sector of society are responsible for many things but often the use of words rather than images is more destructive.

People seek a reason or an excuse for everything that happens and as widespread as mental health issues are, so many reach out and use them as a shield to deflect criticism.

So many behaviours are dismissed simply because someone suddenly has self diagnosed mental health issues.

Narcissism is self perpetuating and very often those who accuse others of it are more guilty than those they are pointing at.

Social media is just another form of peer pressure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever been out doing something fun and notice people not even enjoying it, they’re just capturing it for their social media? Women seem to be most guilty of this

Because a life you portray on social media has become more important than your actual life. Capture everything for the gram. I’ve seen people viewing most of their life through their camera.

I really try to avoid that. Love the moment. Live the moment

This...A Christmas works party a couple of years ago everyone just sat on their phones, the second someone held a phone up it was like a signal that brought them all out of the trance and they all posed.

If you looked at the pictures later it looked like a great night, but in reality it was like sitting with zombies

So I’ve actually got a theory. Remember before phone if you were stood in a queue, waiting for a bus, at a party, and I felt a little bit like your standing out? You had 2 options. Stand there looking weird, or start chatting to someone.

Now if anyone feels a little off. Maybe they’re stood alone at a party. Instead of engaging, you just pull out your phone.

It’s a little social safety net. “I’m not shy or awkward or scared, I’m on my phone”.

I think it’s ruined social interactions "

I agree, completely ruined social interactions and it's such a shame.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I see narcissism as something totally different.

Yes, narcs are self centred but on a whole different level.

Lie, manipulate, abuse (and I mean really deeply abuse) for kicks and power.

Narcissim gets used for 'big head' or 'mean twat' now or even for 'she dumped me' or 'he loves himself'

"Go on, kill yourself, at least then you'll have managed to do something properly for once in your life, I bet you can't can ya, fucking useless pussy prove me wrong, prove yourself wrong, show the world you can do something right"

That was my living hell.

And every day for years I believed that would be my only way out, my only option. That or survive an attack so brutal someone would finally listen.

x glad you got off the hook x Have a better Christmas and life for it xx "

I suppose the fear is the same.

The fear of rejection, the dependence on the person (they create the dependence by wearing you down)

Hmmm.. so....

Social media IS the narcissist and those who depend on it, who rely on it for validation are the victims. But you only get crumbs of validation, same as with a narc it comes at a personal cost. The rest is telling you you should be better, different, and when you do those things they tell you to you still ain't good enough or did it right.

Constant.

"Put the fork this way up"

You put the fork this way up, just like they told you.

"Why did you do it like that? Are you fucking stupid?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see narcissism as something totally different.

Yes, narcs are self centred but on a whole different level.

Lie, manipulate, abuse (and I mean really deeply abuse) for kicks and power.

Narcissim gets used for 'big head' or 'mean twat' now or even for 'she dumped me' or 'he loves himself'

"Go on, kill yourself, at least then you'll have managed to do something properly for once in your life, I bet you can't can ya, fucking useless pussy prove me wrong, prove yourself wrong, show the world you can do something right"

That was my living hell.

And every day for years I believed that would be my only way out, my only option. That or survive an attack so brutal someone would finally listen."

Give yourself a gift this Christmas...don't remember

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Have you ever been out doing something fun and notice people not even enjoying it, they’re just capturing it for their social media? Women seem to be most guilty of this

Because a life you portray on social media has become more important than your actual life. Capture everything for the gram. I’ve seen people viewing most of their life through their camera.

I really try to avoid that. Love the moment. Live the moment

This...A Christmas works party a couple of years ago everyone just sat on their phones, the second someone held a phone up it was like a signal that brought them all out of the trance and they all posed.

If you looked at the pictures later it looked like a great night, but in reality it was like sitting with zombies

Obvs i'm pre phone gen when we talked, laughed and had to use our own brains, bodies and thoughts..... and include others.... Zombies is perfect. At the risk of offending the sensitive........ Gen Z and to an extent some younger millenials are head fucked and don't know it. They are plugged in and sucked out...... "

This and what the previous poster said, the next addiction if it's not already an issue will be 'likes' or whatever the phrase is..

Social media has some amazing positive elements but equally there are some very dark sides too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever been out doing something fun and notice people not even enjoying it, they’re just capturing it for their social media? Women seem to be most guilty of this

Because a life you portray on social media has become more important than your actual life. Capture everything for the gram. I’ve seen people viewing most of their life through their camera.

I really try to avoid that. Love the moment. Live the moment"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever been out doing something fun and notice people not even enjoying it, they’re just capturing it for their social media? Women seem to be most guilty of this

Because a life you portray on social media has become more important than your actual life. Capture everything for the gram. I’ve seen people viewing most of their life through their camera.

I really try to avoid that. Love the moment. Live the moment

This...A Christmas works party a couple of years ago everyone just sat on their phones, the second someone held a phone up it was like a signal that brought them all out of the trance and they all posed.

If you looked at the pictures later it looked like a great night, but in reality it was like sitting with zombies

Obvs i'm pre phone gen when we talked, laughed and had to use our own brains, bodies and thoughts..... and include others.... Zombies is perfect. At the risk of offending the sensitive........ Gen Z and to an extent some younger millenials are head fucked and don't know it. They are plugged in and sucked out...... "

Me too Granny, I am also of that generation and feel that it is rude to sit on your phone when out with others, if that is what you want to do then sit at home and do it.

Absolutely agree about the head fuck, glued to technology and I do believe that the brain structure is being altered by it. Time for digital detoxing for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other than FB, I don’t have any social media. And that’s how it will stay.

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By *onderingpurposeMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Narcissus is a character from Greek mythology so I'd say it's nothing new

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

With the exception of fab, (to which I seem to be bombarded with images of shredded blokes making me feel inadequate) my sm is mostly cats, motorcycle and tools

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see narcissism as something totally different.

Yes, narcs are self centred but on a whole different level.

Lie, manipulate, abuse (and I mean really deeply abuse) for kicks and power.

Narcissim gets used for 'big head' or 'mean twat' now or even for 'she dumped me' or 'he loves himself'

"Go on, kill yourself, at least then you'll have managed to do something properly for once in your life, I bet you can't can ya, fucking useless pussy prove me wrong, prove yourself wrong, show the world you can do something right"

That was my living hell.

And every day for years I believed that would be my only way out, my only option. That or survive an attack so brutal someone would finally listen.

x glad you got off the hook x Have a better Christmas and life for it xx

I suppose the fear is the same.

The fear of rejection, the dependence on the person (they create the dependence by wearing you down)

Hmmm.. so....

Social media IS the narcissist and those who depend on it, who rely on it for validation are the victims. But you only get crumbs of validation, same as with a narc it comes at a personal cost. The rest is telling you you should be better, different, and when you do those things they tell you to you still ain't good enough or did it right.

Constant.

"Put the fork this way up"

You put the fork this way up, just like they told you.

"Why did you do it like that? Are you fucking stupid?""

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the super model industry to blame

It alway has been

Even before the rise off the internet

some examples

Super models have two keep within a eight limit or they gone

Casino servers are implode as models who wait tables

Just so they can sack them if they put on wight

The whole fashion industry as a whole is to blame

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you ever been out doing something fun and notice people not even enjoying it, they’re just capturing it for their social media? Women seem to be most guilty of this

Because a life you portray on social media has become more important than your actual life. Capture everything for the gram. I’ve seen people viewing most of their life through their camera.

I really try to avoid that. Love the moment. Live the moment"

I agree, that’s why I hardly take any pics when going places any longer. There’s just no enjoyment when all you focus about is

“Take content so you can put it online and show how awesome my life is”

I limit my time on Instagram to not even 5 mins a day and I realise when it’s becoming too toxic. I go days without looking and feel better for it

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Narcissus is a character from Greek mythology so I'd say it's nothing new"

Thank you so much xxx

How come no one else mentioned this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont participate in social media on a personal front, my car was all over it apparently after a show in summer but i have no interest in it. My accountants wife does run a business strategy & crypto investment page on my behalf i do afew videos once a week and she takes photos in some seminars i do but i dont get envolved personally as mentally i couldnt handle 'trolls' or abuse if i got it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think society as a whole is to blame. The gender bias in toys, clothing, jobs etc. Social media doesn't help everyone but I think it's mostly what you take from SM. Pre teens and teenagers will probably see it as they need to look like those on there. Whereas alot of adults know that in reality, things are different. I look at peoples photos and often think "oh, I bet that was fucking stressful traveling and any bad luck along the way" rather than "Oh, I wish I was there, its so beautiful, they're so beautiful!".

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

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"How much do you think is social media to blame regarding the body image or how conscious we are about ourselves and how we present to the world?

I’ve detoxed a lot from the classic social media platforms like Instagram, where it is a constant bombing of images of stunning people , doing amazing things while you wonder why you are sitting at home, looking like a bag of potato and they are in Bali, looking like perfect 11/10!

Even tho we all know how social media is constructed and well studied.

Do you think as a whole, people are becoming extremely self absorbed? Obsessed with the looks? (I’m gonna admit my guilt of kinda obsessing over my looks and focusing on things I don’t like about myself)

Anyway, discuss people!! X "

Very much agree with your assessment got friends like this who think being 'social media famous' means shit in real life to a few maybe but majority it means nothing esp when people meet the person without the filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social media reflects you. My feed is mostly fill of climbers, explorers wildlife and landscapes. If your feed is full of models in Bali its because that's what you choose to look at. Social media doesn't make people narcissistic or shallow though it absolutely gives a platform for these types of people. I think the biggest reason for what appears to be an epidemic of image obsessed shallow narcissism is the ease of modern life, we have so much more free time and money than any other generation in history and have been raised to believe we can have anything, be anything we want.

One thing social media has done is widen our pool of desire. Keeping up with the Joneses used to mean your neighbours, the parents of your children's friends, the people living in the posh end of town. Now it's a celebrity in California who displays her house, car, inflated lips/tits/ass and oh so perfect life on Insta.

On the other hand social media has meant that as well as seeing someone's filtered face and fake boobs we are also able to be aware of the human rights abuses in China and Myanmar, the plight of those living with the early stages of climate change, the retreating Amazon etc etc. Once again, your values shape what you see, not the other way around.

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