FabSwingers.com forum: How important is looks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I find this a tricky subject for many so would be interesting to see what people think. Me personally I think there has to be an initial first attraction but I think it’s more about how they engage the mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite simply. Very.

I have to be attracted to someone to want to have sex with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah but it’s not the most important thing is it ? Someone can be not your usual type but if they get your mind going then it makes them become more attractive I feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if your the type to shag a barbers floor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be an attraction that doesn't necessarily mean stunning looks, it can be personality also for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find this a tricky subject for many so would be interesting to see what people think. Me personally I think there has to be an initial first attraction but I think it’s more about how they engage the mind "

its the absolute most important step, i wont talk to someone if im not attracted.

personality comes second. if the personality sucks, i move on, rinse and repeat till i find a happy balance or someone who ticks most/all boxes.

i cant sleep with someone im not attracted to no matter how engaging they are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There has to be an attraction that doesn't necessarily mean stunning looks, it can be personality also for me."

I agree. I’ve met people in the past that I’ve not been attracted to at the beginning but once got to know each other I felt myself becoming attracted to them. I get that there has to be a sexual attraction but I think sometimes that grows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah but it’s not the most important thing is it ? Someone can be not your usual type but if they get your mind going then it makes them become more attractive I feel "

I can like someone as a person without being sexually attracted to them but if we are talking about getting jiggy, then there has to be physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look for height.. But nothing else

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

There has to be something that catches my eye in how they look initially but it's when we meet and their personality comes across, that's when I'm more attracted to them x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I look for height.. But nothing else "

What height is your preference?

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

You could say - How important are grammar? Two sides of the same coin.

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

For me looks is not important at all

I hate to say tho there are a few people on here that disagree and they are the ones that can’t find anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a sexual attaction at the very least before the chat to see if we are on the same level as to get on and have fun ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There has to be something that catches my eye in how they look initially but it's when we meet and their personality comes across, that's when I'm more attracted to them x"

Yh absolutely. Your first impression is how they look or how well present themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s very, very important

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Somebody can be really attractive without being pretty/handsome.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You could say - How important are grammar? Two sides of the same coin. "

Do you not find that quite shallow though? Some people are dyslexic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me looks is not important at all

I hate to say tho there are a few people on here that disagree and they are the ones that can’t find anyone "

think you'll find that those who know what they like are more suscessful than those who will shag anything as the latter is a massive turnoff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally the personality is more important for me if the person is bubbly and fun person to be with and be around

This is just my personal opinion and can’t be used against me in deed or thought

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Being a munter I prefer if they don’t go for looks first, second or even third

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So what is the first thing that you look for ?

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

If I have to put a paper bag over their head, suffice to say I’m not attracted to them.

Looks are, to a degree, important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look for height.. But nothing else

What height is your preference? "

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Well very in all honesty, I have to be physically attracted to someone unless we're just having a social

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Looks are pretty important, there has to be that initial attraction after all.

LvM

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By *lex199169Man
over a year ago

tamworth

"I look for height.. But nothing else "

How high

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Massive. I need to think your fit. (Aka hot/sexy/pretty etc) the key word right there is ‘I’ - me.

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By *lex199169Man
over a year ago

tamworth

There has to be something there definitely. That being said it different for everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Height seems to be a important thing to a lot of people on here. Us short arses have no chance lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be attracted to someone physically and mentally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding someone sexually attractive is important. I frequently find men attractive who aren't good-looking by society's standards though. But looks are not the most important thing for me. How we connect with each other is. The energy between us. Whether he is trustworthy. And kinky.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Looks only get you so far with me I’m much more interested in your mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't know them very important but if I know them and wr form a connection then not that important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks definitely play an initial part but without a connection it soon becomes pointless and I lose interest

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By *lex199169Man
over a year ago

tamworth

"Looks only get you so far with me I’m much more interested in your mind

Just looked at you pictures and my minds gone all squishy

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"Looks only get you so far with me I’m much more interested in your mind

Just looked at you pictures and my minds gone all squishy

aww I like squishy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look for height.. But nothing else

How high

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

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By *VDPMan
over a year ago

Nottingham City Centre

Bro people buy shitty cars because they look nice. I hope this helps

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"I look for height.. But nothing else

How high

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

Sorry, I am taller.

I don't mind tilting my head though

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By *lex199169Man
over a year ago

tamworth

"Looks only get you so far with me I’m much more interested in your mind

Just looked at you pictures and my minds gone all squishy

aww I like squishy

Errrr mmmm dribble errr dribble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be a certain amount of physical attraction but at the same time sexyness is more so in the mind

The brain is the most sexiest organ of all

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Looks are subjective thankfully or we’d all fancy the same person

. There’s something in the way someone looks that might draw my eye but attraction beyond initial “phwoaaar” would quickly fade for me if there wasn’t more. So I’d say it’s important to a degree but not the everything.

V x

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Looks are vital...initially. Doesnt have to be classic beauty, but sexiness is good.

However, being "Hot" does not make you sexy. There is one top 10 regular who looks great, but when you see the videos, well, my interest wanes.

A sparkle in the eye, a naughty smile on kissable lips. They indicate a sexy soul and make me want to know more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look for height.. But nothing else

How high

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

When you don’t wear heels?

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"I look for height.. But nothing else

How high

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

Damn it do I have to wear heels weirdo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look for height.. But nothing else

How high

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

Sorry, I am taller.

I don't mind tilting my head though

... My DD is the perfect height!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look for height.. But nothing else

How high

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

When you don’t wear heels? "

In the shower

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I look for height.. But nothing else

How high

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

Deja vu

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look for height.. But nothing else

How high

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

Damn it do I have to wear heels weirdo

No you need to be barefooted ready to spring out at the critical moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look for height.. But nothing else

How high

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

Deja vu

LvM"

I know

Sliding doors!

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"I look for height.. But nothing else

How high

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

Damn it do I have to wear heels weirdo

No you need to be barefooted ready to spring out at the critical moment

Good job we are the same height then you best be barefooted too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Essential.

It's a jump start to my imagination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look for height.. But nothing else

How high

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

Damn it do I have to wear heels weirdo

No you need to be barefooted ready to spring out at the critical moment

Good job we are the same height then you best be barefooted too

Weirdo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look for height.. But nothing else "

So Lurch would be in with a chance?

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

"There has to be an attraction that doesn't necessarily mean stunning looks, it can be personality also for me."

This for sure x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look for height.. But nothing else

So Lurch would be in with a chance?"

Well that depends if he has intelligence +wit... The Q was how important are looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely has to be some physical attraction..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s always physical attraction to begin with. I am attracted to the personality & intelligence, which is what keeps me interested

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

"I look for height.. But nothing else

How high

At least 5.9/5.10..so that we are eye height when i wear heels

Damn it do I have to wear heels weirdo

No you need to be barefooted ready to spring out at the critical moment

Good job we are the same height then you best be barefooted too

Weirdo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lady’s not gonna sit on your face if it looks like a melted welly…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what you are looking for. For fwb or just hookups, looks are foremost.

For long term relationships, looks still matter but only a little bit. Good chemistry is more important there.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

As 2 b looks Initially cos that's wot draws u 2 that person .then wen u get 2 meet u hope there personality is just as nice x

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

I can see where I’m going wrong now

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I have to fancy his face.. and I have weird taste so there’s no predicting which face will float my boat.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Very important as is

Personality

Humour

Chemistry

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

For us it is extremely important that we find the people we play with attractive. It’s always a combination of looks and personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to find someone good looking, so looks are very important to start with. However, if their personality is dire, the attraction to their looks soon disappears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lady’s not gonna sit on your face if it looks like a melted welly… "

In fairness if she's sat on your face it probably doesn't matter what it looks like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lady’s not gonna sit on your face if it looks like a melted welly…

In fairness if she's sat on your face it probably doesn't matter what it looks like

You have a point

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

Looks are generally unimportant but a person who maintains a healthy body will always be more attractive to me.

I don’t mean a Greek god or goddess, just someone who does the best with what they have been given.

It shows the person has a level of self discipline and a level of self esteem and appreciation of how others will view them.

How long your legs are, how nuch your ears stick out, how big your nose is, is of no consequence.

How you treat others and if you present yourself as a clean and respectful person then you are getting it spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, having that spark or chemistry is more important than looks. But there has to be a degree of physical attraction obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An individual can have the best personality going but if they aren’t appealing to the eye of the beholder it’s not going anywhere . Thats just the way it rolls.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Extremely.

But, I might find people attractive, who other people won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are our book covers...

Luckily I'm good looking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Extremely.

But, I might find people attractive, who other people won't."

yep

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By *lex199169Man
over a year ago

tamworth

We all look for chemistry and a connection otherwise are interactions are soulless however, would we pursue that interaction in the first place if we weren’t appeased with what our eyes saw. There is alway a minimum lever of visual attraction. That being said it’s not always the model looks it’s what we as individuals find attractive. It’s all very personal

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

BOBFOC all the way for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"BOBFOC all the way for me "

Big old boobies free of charge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are important. But I don't think you need to be on trend with your looks or subscribe to some standard to be attractive. I'd rather be myself and happy than Kim Kardashian look a like/aspiring to.. Or whatever is the current celebrity craze/style to copy.

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

After reading the replies in here I need to stop doing face pic Friday

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"There has to be an attraction that doesn't necessarily mean stunning looks, it can be personality also for me."
This. Someone can be stunning but not attractive, and vice versa.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"BOBFOC all the way for me

Big old boobies free of charge

Body off Baywatch Face off Crimewatch

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"BOBFOC all the way for me

Big old boobies free of charge

Body off Baywatch Face off Crimewatch

But yes I’ll take your version as well

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Somewhat important, i can find people attractive but it doesn’t automatically constitute that I’d have sex with them, there needs to be a balance of attraction and personality, you can be a good looking person but have a really ugly attitude, it’s the full package xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s very, very important "

I agree x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully for me some see past my fugly mug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After reading the replies in here I need to stop doing face pic Friday

I got sent "Thursday face pic' despite not being in the thread and my profile clearly saying no face pix!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Somewhat important, i can find people attractive but it doesn’t automatically constitute that I’d have sex with them, there needs to be a balance of attraction and personality, you can be a good looking person but have a really ugly attitude, it’s the full package xx"

Also this! X I think for first impression it is important but then there has to be some sort of chemistry and yes someone can have a totally ugly personality and that’d turn me off!

I met a guy back in the summer, and he was SO stunningly handsome. But his personality was off so, it just didn’t work out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"BOBFOC all the way for me

Big old boobies free of charge

Body off Baywatch Face off Crimewatch

Ohhh this made me laugh, I've not come across it before!

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By *nsatiablebutfussyCouple
over a year ago

Stoke

It can be important but I've slept with people i didn't initially find attractive. There can be something in a way a person holds themselves and their presence that makes them attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"BOBFOC all the way for me

Big old boobies free of charge

Body off Baywatch Face off Crimewatch

Psychopaths walk among us..?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

The most important for me x

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By *udley hotwife86Couple
over a year ago

DUDLEY

Very no matter what anyone says, you have to have that initial spark. That said, everyone's idea of good looks are different. Mr it's natural ginger hair and freckles. Mrs, it's big and slightly toned of that makes sense with nice hair. On short great looks may work short term but comprise lasts longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be something that attracts me and that's not always text book good looks either but it has to be there. If, on getting to know something about them they turn out to have an ugly personality then they become ugly to me. On here it's looks that attract, in real life maybe not so much as you get to know the person. Someone who can make me laugh, chew the fat with me and basically just gets me will hold my attention way longer that a hunk within an empty shell.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Absolutely essential initially ...their personality may or may not hold my interest, but without that initial attraction I'm not likely to engage enough to find out what their personality is like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very important. I need to like your face more than your body. I only sleep with people that I’m attracted to. I would also expect the same. I don’t want someone sleeping with me if they don’t find my attractive. I have no face pics on here, so when people message me anything like “hi gorgeous, beautiful” etc… I just laugh and ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Extremely important. But when people say "looks" many assume they mean the traditional idea of attractiveness.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I do need to have an initial attraction to a face, but people can become more attractive when they're funny and have a good personality.

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns

"I look for height.. But nothing else "

Hi, 6’ 6”!

And not much else, so surely a great match

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Looks are very important to me, if I don't find him attractive from the start then into the friendzone he will go

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

"After reading the replies in here I need to stop doing face pic Friday

I got sent "Thursday face pic' despite not being in the thread and my profile clearly saying no face pix! "

I had to think then if it was me you were talking about! I’m glad it wasn’t. I’ll make a note to never send you a face pic

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

There has to be something about them…but personality and a connection is equally important too. A sexy mind is very sexy

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"There has to be something about them…but personality and a connection is equally important too. A sexy mind is very sexy

This. I usually find they just have an innate sexiness about them that turns my head.

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By *heron212Man
over a year ago

London

I pull no punches in this department.

For what I am doing HERE?

Yes, they are very important.

I am not looking for a relationship on here and if we are just 'playing', then yes, I want someone attractive and physically and hopefully mentally as well.

That means, if I am being propositioned by a couple, then BOTH need to be attractive.

If a 'hot wife' contacts me, then they'd better be hot or I am not interested.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

For women it's how your face looks on sites such as this and definately 'dating' apps. Men, not so much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does depend what you're looking for and what you need in order to have sex with people? For me I need an emotional connection of some kind. I am "demi sexual" apparently. So looks don't matter as much as that connection. Yes I know some people would say I'm on the wrong site...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be an attraction, but that’s the overall look, not just facially. Hot is hot, regardless of how goofing looking someone is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its very, the most important thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction opens the door, personality and how you are as a person decides whether they walk straight back out that door or not.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Would say 50% important

Good looks with a rubbish attitude turns a 10 into a -1 for me

Good looks & a friendly, happy, down to earth attitude equals a 'keeper'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While I have a type I prefer like everyone else, I do go more on how people interact and how nice they are as a person, far more than looks.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

When I looked a bit like Val Kilmer (one for the teenagers) I’d say my looks helped my terrible personality.

Now I look nothing like an 80’s sex symbol my personality has improved significantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While looks undoubtedly get my attention, I'm far more likely to play with someone I don't consider to be necessarily good-looking but whose personality I like than the other way around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol only pretty or good looking people say looks don’t matter, if your a fugly cunt like the rest of us

your well aware they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Attraction opens the door, personality and how you are as a person decides whether they walk straight back out that door or not. "

This is nicely put and accurate I’d say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The scene is all about looks.

Any initial chance of getting a meeting is decided more so by your photos than whatever bullshit you might of wrote on your bio.

Anyone who says otherwise is talking complete bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The scene is all about looks.

Any initial chance of getting a meeting is decided more so by your photos than whatever bullshit you might of wrote on your bio.

Anyone who says otherwise is talking complete bollocks."

We are not all the same...

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

It's a tricky one. I think at first there is am initial attraction by the way they look. But fond when they start talking that attraction immediately goes.

Subsequently it can work that some one yiu are not initially attracted to can turn out to be some you become attracted to later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not all the same..."

Those with a text book gym fit or runway height swimsuit model body will always turn heads first over the flabby Dad bodied or short and dumpy fat chick.

It’s that initial wow factor is what grabs the attention and makes people think about chatting them up….. thankfully though them pretty people do more often or not turn out to have no real substance as they always have got by on their beautiful looks that they never have had to work on having any personality….. but when you are dealing with the shallow world of online dating profiles, that snap decision is made on the strength of a single photograph.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

There has to be some attraction but their personality is much more important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not all the same...

Those with a text book gym fit or runway height swimsuit model body will always turn heads first over the flabby Dad bodied or short and dumpy fat chick.

As I said we are not all the same and you speak for yourself. You don't speak for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say that looks are rarely important to me.

Personality and how the conversation goes has always been what tends to attract me when I'm looking for something more regular.

A great cock attracts me when I just want to get fucked

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

We are not all the same...

Those with a text book gym fit or runway height swimsuit model body will always turn heads first over the flabby Dad bodied or short and dumpy fat chick.

Everyone gets an opinion, but I have to say, I don’t agree with yours. There are some huge sweeping statements in there.

No attractive doctors? No attractive scientists? Politicians? Heads of industry? Senior cops? Senior Firefighters? Academics? They never earned those positions as they got by on their looks? Is that what you really think?

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone gets an opinion, but I have to say, I don’t agree with yours. There are some huge sweeping statements in there.

Gbat "

You might have missed what I’m saying….

The initial attraction for most people is made on a whim judged on physical appearance…. Hence why a platform such as Tinder is so brutal with people dismissed on a nanosecond swipe rather than to ask about peoples occupations or educational backgrounds….. why do people look as things like homes and cars as status symbols?

You can say these things don’t matter but you know it’s way better impression to made at a high class restaurant than to have a meal from a kebab van!

And for the record, ALL politicians are ugly…. Having a job that consists of lying makes for horrible people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can honestly say that looks are rarely important to me.

Personality and how the conversation goes has always been what tends to attract me when I'm looking for something more regular.

A great cock attracts me when I just want to get fucked

I think this may be Ginge's way of telling me I'm not very good looking!

Max

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Experience says MOST of the time it matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It plays a part, but I get more turned on by a woman who is confident and knows what she's doing is sexy

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"The scene is all about looks.

Any initial chance of getting a meeting is decided more so by your photos than whatever bullshit you might of wrote on your bio.

Anyone who says otherwise is talking complete bollocks."

I disagree completely because any meets I've had on here have been based on communication, mutual interests and mutual respect.

Of course looks play a part but it's amazing how many people with amazing profile pics turn ugly as soon as they open their mouths or start to type so I've never ever based my decision to meet someone on pics alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never judge a book!

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"The scene is all about looks.

Any initial chance of getting a meeting is decided more so by your photos than whatever bullshit you might of wrote on your bio.

Anyone who says otherwise is talking complete bollocks.

I disagree completely because any meets I've had on here have been based on communication, mutual interests and mutual respect.

There’s truth in what you say, but for us it’s still looks first and foremost. All the other factors must align, but if we don’t fancy them (and they us!) then we’ll never find out about everything else, because if there’s no mutual attraction then there’s no interest in meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initial attraction is obviously very important but attraction isn’t alway based on looks. It could be mannerisms, the way they carry themselves, confidence and many other things.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

If someone can be fitted in a latex catsuit and a latex hood.

Looks don't matter at all.

I get horny around latex clad figures. All I'll see is eyes and a mouth. And perhaps a cock, vagina and asshole.

The rest is hidden in this wondrous material...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are."

Indeed - but if they have all those things but you find them physically unattractive, are they someone you want to have sex with?

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By *eo_72Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

It’s important but more so is the sexual spark

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By *ustyshowoffCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

For us looks are less important than personality

Jxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The scene is all about looks.

Any initial chance of getting a meeting is decided more so by your photos than whatever bullshit you might of wrote on your bio.

Anyone who says otherwise is talking complete bollocks.

I disagree completely because any meets I've had on here have been based on communication, mutual interests and mutual respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are.

Indeed - but if they have all those things but you find them physically unattractive, are they someone you want to have sex with?"

If they have all that I won't find them unattractive

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are.

Indeed - but if they have all those things but you find them physically unattractive, are they someone you want to have sex with?

If they have all that I won't find them unattractive"

Possibly, but that doesn’t answer the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction all the way for me, obvious once the connection is made you hope the convo flows and the personality attraction builds but defo the first attraction is physical

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It is important, but not the only import factor. How we get on with people is also key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are.

Indeed - but if they have all those things but you find them physically unattractive, are they someone you want to have sex with?

If they have all that I won't find them unattractive

Possibly, but that doesn’t answer the question."

Attraction = sex, enough of an answer for you?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are.

Indeed - but if they have all those things but you find them physically unattractive, are they someone you want to have sex with?

If they have all that I won't find them unattractive

Possibly, but that doesn’t answer the question.

Attraction = sex, enough of an answer for you?"

Think that had already been well established before this thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personality, intelligence and connection for me, if someone doesn't have those then it doesn't matter how good looking they are.

Indeed - but if they have all those things but you find them physically unattractive, are they someone you want to have sex with?

If they have all that I won't find them unattractive

Possibly, but that doesn’t answer the question.

Attraction = sex, enough of an answer for you?

Think that had already been well established before this thread!

So why ask the question then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s important but more so is the sexual spark "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For meets they're absolutely vital, I need to like and enjoy the company and personality of the person too but if there's no attraction they'll be no meet!

For group play it's less so as I like my husband to stay up near my head so I can kiss him or suck him, and then other guys can just take turns fucking me at the other end, I don't have to interact with them as much. But I still prefer them to be in my preferred age range and not unattractive.

Female glory holes and blindfolded is another story, anyone can have a go, but I've not tried that yet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very.

I have to be attracted to someone physically as well as mentally.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Very, if I'm having sex with someone it's because I find them physically attractive, not just because I like their jokes and the way their mind works. If I'm getting into an actual relationship then obviously the latter is important too but I still have to fancy them, and that physical attraction has to remain in the relationship as well or I lose interest.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's an essential element for me. Other aspects of them can cancel or increase it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a nice face. They don't need to be ripped, gym fit and hot as hell. I like a dad bod, I don't mind hairy guys etc. Body language and mannerisms play a big part for me though.

People can grow on me though as personality is a big factor.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I just like to be attracted to someone facially, body not so fussed about. Face and personality for me x

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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago

where the world takes me

When I was younger physical looks were everything, as I got older I realised sex, sexuality and attraction start in the mind.

I’ve been in a relationship with a stunning woman who could’ve done modelling and the sex was boring.

But I’ve also been with traditionally “leas attractive women” and the sex was mind blowing.

Why? Because the second had confidence and an innate sexuality that meant they were ten times more attractive and sexy.

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