FabSwingers.com forum: My mother is being held captive......

By *moothshaft OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

.....by her weak bladder.

She used to come over to see us quite regularly, but hardly goes anywhere now, only for a basic shop, because she needs a wee a couple of times an hour.

She's now spending a second Xmas day alone, although she says it doesn't bother her, but it bothers me as she's 84 and I want her with me.

Does anyone here have a similar problem? Can a weak bladder be seen to medically?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

".....by her weak bladder.

She used to come over to see us quite regularly, but hardly goes anywhere now, only for a basic shop, because she needs a wee a couple of times an hour.

She's now spending a second Xmas day alone, although she says it doesn't bother her, but it bothers me as she's 84 and I want her with me.

Does anyone here have a similar problem? Can a weak bladder be seen to medically? "

Is she diabetic, its a symptom....

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one way to find out, and that’s to get her to a GP. They sounds horrible for her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, she needs to see her gp to find out why, depending on the reason things can be done, good luck OP

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By *moothshaft OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

".....by her weak bladder.

She used to come over to see us quite regularly, but hardly goes anywhere now, only for a basic shop, because she needs a wee a couple of times an hour.

She's now spending a second Xmas day alone, although she says it doesn't bother her, but it bothers me as she's 84 and I want her with me.

Does anyone here have a similar problem? Can a weak bladder be seen to medically?

Is she diabetic, its a symptom....

Winston"

No Winston, don't think so anyway.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Could be caused by a prolapse, or a sensitive bladder problem.

Does she drink a lot of tea?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Is she showing any signs of confusion too? As others have said, she needs to see her GP.

No one wants to wear incontinence pads but they really can help in allowing you freedom to go out again.

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By *moothshaft OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Thanks ladies, yes I've tried to talk her into going to docs, but it's just "oh I'll do it one day"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she drink a lot of caffeine? It can irritate the bladder or is she on water tablets by any chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks ladies, yes I've tried to talk her into going to docs, but it's just "oh I'll do it one day"

xx"

Totally get this as my partners mother is the same. Maybe you could frame it to say "It's probably nothing to worry about and you could be suffering needlessly when all it could something that could be easy sorted". Good luck

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

"but it bothers me as she's 84 and I want her with me.

Does anyone here have a similar problem? Can a weak bladder be seen to medically? "

A weak bladder shouldnt really stop you even at that from having her there.

As ive already had to deal with a grandma that way with an upstairs toilet.

The alternative is a toilet seat thats if you dont mind getting one.

I can assure you its nothing to be ashamed of or its clean up.

Nowadays its alot easier to create a privacy room for the elderly when visiting you or staying with you.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

There's definitely treatment for bladder problems. Most of the commenest causes have been mentioned - pelvic organ prolapse (exceptionally common in older women), undiagnosed diabetes, excessive caffeine consumption. It could also be caused by other types of mineral imbalance in the blood (sodium, potassium etc) so she should definitely consult a doctor.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

You can can incontinence knickers if she’s overly concerned. They are very discreet.

Might she have an undiagnosed water infection? Albeit doubtful if she’s had it awhile.

Do her GP’s have an online consultation system that you can fill in for her and they can have her called back and speak on the phone about it.

It’s important she drinks her normal fluids and doesn’t try and cut back to lessen the chances of her accidentally wetting herself, that could lead to dehydration.

Gently push for her to speak with her GP is the way to go.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It can be extremely debilitating and exhausting. Urinary infections are so common in the elderly that it's the first thing I tell paramedics to check for with my mum. It could be that or any of the other things mentioned.

Is she embarrassed to go to the doctor about this? My mum has had four children and various gynaecological operations but I had to persuade her to talk to a nurse about urinary problems when she was in a care home. When she did I could see she was really embarrassed. Also does she have the vocabulary to talk to a doctor, I realised my mum didn't know how to refer to parts of her body or even how to phrase her query.

I also know from being with my mum that being in someone else's home or car with an unreliable bladder causes huge stress and embarrassment.

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By *moothshaft OP Man
over a year ago

Coventry

Thank you so much, to all of you, you've enlightened me to a couple of things I hadn't thought of!

I shall push her to the doc's!

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