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By *gnitemybody OP   Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

opening up your profile again. All the photo's are out of date and I've changed and aged so much in the last few years. I'm buggered if I can be bothered taking any more.

Anyway that aside how do you stay positive about life in general,I feel like sh*t right now?

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Age is inevitable, beauty is timeless

From your avatar you look like a strong, confident woman - remind yourself you are still her xx

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By *gnitemybody OP   Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Age is inevitable, beauty is timeless

From your avatar you look like a strong, confident woman - remind yourself you are still her xx"

That made me want to cry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome back I don't know the answer but sending you hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a friend, rewrite each others profiles over a bottle of wine.

Next time, drink more wine but bring lingerie and a camera to the the party. X

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By *arkSuitedBootedMan
over a year ago

Nottingham City Centre


"opening up your profile again. All the photo's are out of date and I've changed and aged so much in the last few years. I'm buggered if I can be bothered taking any more.

Anyway that aside how do you stay positive about life in general,I feel like sh*t right now?"

It can feel like that at times, best way forward is to have reassurance and you know better than anyone how to do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fake it until I make it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"opening up your profile again. All the photo's are out of date and I've changed and aged so much in the last few years. I'm buggered if I can be bothered taking any more.

Anyway that aside how do you stay positive about life in general,I feel like sh*t right now?"

I'm not an advocate of positivity at all times. Sometimes you do need to step back reasses, adjust and adapt. Doing that and accepting that life changes and we grow older can engender positivity in itself.

How do you feel about growing older? Don't compare yourself to the younger you, she was great but she's moved forward...still great though. If you don't feel like taking any photos at the moment don't but you might be pleasantly surprised.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Find a friend, rewrite each others profiles over a bottle of wine.

Next time, drink more wine but bring lingerie and a camera to the the party. X

"

I like this plan, his sounds like a good plan

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It helps this one to realise anything of the nature of mind comes and goes, neuroscience actual theorises all we experience is mind. Life is eternal, I am that. Not the body, or the ideas ‘I’ think ‘I’ am. X

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By *gnitemybody OP   Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"opening up your profile again. All the photo's are out of date and I've changed and aged so much in the last few years. I'm buggered if I can be bothered taking any more.

Anyway that aside how do you stay positive about life in general,I feel like sh*t right now?

I'm not an advocate of positivity at all times. Sometimes you do need to step back reasses, adjust and adapt. Doing that and accepting that life changes and we grow older can engender positivity in itself.

How do you feel about growing older? Don't compare yourself to the younger you, she was great but she's moved forward...still great though. If you don't feel like taking any photos at the moment don't but you might be pleasantly surprised.

"

It's got nothing to do with my profile really I'm just waffling,I do however hate getting older I think my life is just passing me by rather pointlessly at time's.

You kinda think you have your stuff together by a certain age,but as each year goes by I'm still in the same place.

I'm just feeling a sense of loss over something at the moment,which is making me feel sadder than it should.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"opening up your profile again. All the photo's are out of date and I've changed and aged so much in the last few years. I'm buggered if I can be bothered taking any more.

Anyway that aside how do you stay positive about life in general,I feel like sh*t right now?

I'm not an advocate of positivity at all times. Sometimes you do need to step back reasses, adjust and adapt. Doing that and accepting that life changes and we grow older can engender positivity in itself.

How do you feel about growing older? Don't compare yourself to the younger you, she was great but she's moved forward...still great though. If you don't feel like taking any photos at the moment don't but you might be pleasantly surprised.

It's got nothing to do with my profile really I'm just waffling,I do however hate getting older I think my life is just passing me by rather pointlessly at time's.

You kinda think you have your stuff together by a certain age,but as each year goes by I'm still in the same place.

I'm just feeling a sense of loss over something at the moment,which is making me feel sadder than it should."

Got ya', completely understand.

I'm sorry you feel that way.

Where getting older and life passing you by is concerned I think that's quite a common feeling. I felt/feel a definite sense of loss and sadness for my younger *self* (not saying that's what your sense of loss is about) and my perception of me.

Hope things improve for you

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"Age is inevitable, beauty is timeless

From your avatar you look like a strong, confident woman - remind yourself you are still her xx"

I'll make a note of that one for a chat up line with the next mature woman that I meet off a straight dating site. That should go down well with a few, and possibly get me a result. Any more like that?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Age is inevitable, beauty is timeless

From your avatar you look like a strong, confident woman - remind yourself you are still her xx

I'll make a note of that one for a chat up line with the next mature woman that I meet off a straight dating site. That should go down well with a few, and possibly get me a result. Any more like that?"

Tiny hint. Don't tell women to remind themselves they are still strong and confident as a chat up line unless they directly tell you that they don't feel that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m going to go against the grain and say that you should change your photos. Otherwise when you’re in a position to meet someone, you could start feeling nervous that you haven’t depicted your current true self. And that could end up making you feel worse.

If you have no intention of meeting, that’s different I suppose.

Be proud of who you are - from what I can see of your profile pic, you have a banging body! And I’m sure you haven’t changed that much.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put some recent pics up, you are the way you are, and you shouldn't feel negative about that. Time only travels in one direction unfortunately. Best make the most of it while you can. Because the alternative is just darkness.

Merry Christmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, firstly, it's OK to feel low some days as it happens to everyone so have compassion and be kind towards yourself.

Is there something that brings you some joy or makes you smile? Eg, listening to your favourite music, wearing your favourite perfume? Sights and sounds can change your thinking and release serotonin which is a feel good chemical produced by your brain.

I've got a few other tips which I'll send you privately. In essence, your mind is not who you are, thoughts can be very negative but the key is to change your thinking.

Positive vibes from me and the other lovely people on here who've texted youxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"opening up your profile again. All the photo's are out of date and I've changed and aged so much in the last few years. I'm buggered if I can be bothered taking any more.

Anyway that aside how do you stay positive about life in general,I feel like sh*t right now?"

I aim really really low. A nice piece of toast- it's a win for the day.

If I feel shit I wallow in it. It will pass. Can't enjoy the good stuff if it's all good. Need light and dark.

Hope you feel better. Hope this isn't about a man. You are absolutely 'enough'.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"opening up your profile again. All the photo's are out of date and I've changed and aged so much in the last few years. I'm buggered if I can be bothered taking any more.

Anyway that aside how do you stay positive about life in general,I feel like sh*t right now?

I aim really really low. A nice piece of toast- it's a win for the day.

If I feel shit I wallow in it. It will pass. Can't enjoy the good stuff if it's all good. Need light and dark.

Hope you feel better. Hope this isn't about a man. You are absolutely 'enough'. "

You are so right Mrs O.

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By *gnitemybody OP   Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I’m going to go against the grain and say that you should change your photos. Otherwise when you’re in a position to meet someone, you could start feeling nervous that you haven’t depicted your current true self. And that could end up making you feel worse.

If you have no intention of meeting, that’s different I suppose.

Be proud of who you are - from what I can see of your profile pic, you have a banging body! And I’m sure you haven’t changed that much.

Good luck x"

Yes if I was to ever meet again which to be fair I probably won't I'd certainly change all my profile,thankyou for the compliment x

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"Age is inevitable, beauty is timeless

From your avatar you look like a strong, confident woman - remind yourself you are still her xx

I'll make a note of that one for a chat up line with the next mature woman that I meet off a straight dating site. That should go down well with a few, and possibly get me a result. Any more like that?

Tiny hint. Don't tell women to remind themselves they are still strong and confident as a chat up line unless they directly tell you that they don't feel that way. "

Thank you for the hint and all advice gratefully received. I might do some mad things now and again, but I'm not daft, it would be said in the context of a confidence booster for someone who was currently at a low ebb regarding their opinion of themselve. just for the record though, you look absolutely fabulous. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"opening up your profile again. All the photo's are out of date and I've changed and aged so much in the last few years. I'm buggered if I can be bothered taking any more.

Anyway that aside how do you stay positive about life in general,I feel like sh*t right now?"

By reminding myself that I have full control of the direction I’m heading. That there will be hard days ahead but with enough hard work and by putting in the miles I will be rewarded in the long term. Life isn’t about short term gratification

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"That made me want to cry "

Which suggests you either have or are experiencing depression.

Talk to people, friends, family your GP.

It's a difficult situation to be in but there is aways hope

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Age is inevitable, beauty is timeless

From your avatar you look like a strong, confident woman - remind yourself you are still her xx

I'll make a note of that one for a chat up line with the next mature woman that I meet off a straight dating site. That should go down well with a few, and possibly get me a result. Any more like that?

Tiny hint. Don't tell women to remind themselves they are still strong and confident as a chat up line unless they directly tell you that they don't feel that way.

Thank you for the hint and all advice gratefully received. I might do some mad things now and again, but I'm not daft, it would be said in the context of a confidence booster for someone who was currently at a low ebb regarding their opinion of themselve. just for the record though, you look absolutely fabulous. Xx"

Thanks . In an Edina, Patsy or Saffy kind of way?

I don't use dating sites are there a lot of people with obvious confidence issues on them?

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By *gnitemybody OP   Woman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"That made me want to cry

Which suggests you either have or are experiencing depression.

Talk to people, friends, family your GP.

It's a difficult situation to be in but there is aways hope "

I think I've had it to some degree since having fertility treatment,it's just a deep sadness which is apart of me now. This is not about that though,but maybe disappointments trigger it without me being consciously aware and make them out to be bigger than they should be.

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